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Hi everyone. Basically the thought I am talking about is if you could just have a magic wand to change your genitals to that of your "correct gender?"
I remember especially in my childhood I had thoughts like these. Unfortunately the closest we can get is actually getting it done surgically!

Quite often. But only if the magic wand could 'unsend' the magic. I'm genderfluid (which I believe can be translated as gender confused)

Wait...

There's a magic wand for that? Sign Me Up!

(I think if there was it would cost ten times what surgery costs.)  ;D

I wish I was born a CIS female and raised as female.

But I have not wished for a magic wand or pill.


Chrissy

When I was young enough to believe in magic, I had no idea that girls and boys were different.  By the time I figured that out, I was too old to believe in magic.

I did daydream a lot about being a girl, whatever that meant.  If you had offered me a magic wand that would do the job, I would have taken it.  But I had to made do with a magic scalpel.

I remember  putting  money  in a wishing  well as a kid on the 60s but it never  made  me a girl!  Had a David  Nixon magic set never  thought to use the wand!

When I was 15 I sent off for female hormones.

My father intercepted the package which isn't surprising since it carried an Amsterdam postmark  :D  He went ballistic and signed me up to join the army and be 'a real man.' I managed to get out after a year and go and live my life as best I could, far far away from his control.

In the following 35 years before I fulfilled my wish I had children and I cannot imagine a world in which they did not exist. Despite a lot of pain they have been utterly wonderful.

But, and it's a big but, if there were an alternate universe in which my children could still 'be' then I wish to the core of my being, and with every fibre of existence, that a magic wand could return me to age 15 when I would tell my father to f-off and live my life how I know it was meant to be.

So that's the magic wand I'd like.

xx

Quote from: CosmicJoke on April 13, 2025, 02:59:11 PM...if you could just have a magic wand to change your genitals to that of your "correct gender?"

Nope.

As a child the idea of suddenly becoming a girl came to mind occasionally (possibly triggered by the story of Tip becoming Ozma in The Marvelous Land of Oz), but I could only imagine that it would make my situation in my world -- the way people would treat me -- even worse than it already was.  It would become unbearable.  I'd have to run away and hide or kill myself.  As it was, I frequently felt like being dead would be an improvement.

Even now, looking back, I don't think I would have been better off if I'd been born a girl.  I have a sister (born when I was 9), and although her difficulties were different from mine, I have a feeling I would have felt just as oppressed.  The world we grew up in had such narrow ideas of what it was okay to be or do or want.  Fortunately, I at my deepest level rejected everything and just hunkered down and suffered the beatings until I could get the @#$% out.

One advantage of rejecting everything except what I decided on my own to accept was that I never internalized all that oppressive manure.  I can pick and choose what to make of my self -- I was never what society expects a man to be, nor do I feel any obligation to take on any of the BS that society foists on girls and women.

I didn't transition to becom A Woman, I transitioned to become myself.

Despite the struggles against the dysphoria, the body dysmorphia, the depression, guilt, shame.....I've had a wonderful life with a beautiful, loving wife, family, friends, careers that I would not change.

But, if there was a wand that would let me swap out some parts right now? I'd be waving that thing like the conductor of a philharmonic orchestra!!!  :D

Quote from: Asche on April 15, 2025, 11:40:03 AMI didn't transition to become A Woman, I transitioned to become myself.

THIS.

Like Asche, the world I grew up in was much different from today. I can only imagine if my abusers had thought of me as female what I would have been subjected to. I am grateful that I did not have to experience that. Our past experiences are lessons that we learn. What we learn from them helps us in future experiences throughout our lifetimes. My gender didn't change; only my understanding of who I am changed... for the better.

I would have to say no, but would hope that one day they can point to something medically that is different so that i can understand me.

Yes in a heartbeat

I have my correct genitals: a penis.

POSSIBLE TRIGGERS

I had a thought yesterday.  While my parents are beyond the veil, I'm still mad with them occasionally.  Frustrated because I can't say, "See?  This is ME!" Especially to my stepmother, who raised me from 3 years old.  A firm believer in "spare the rod spoil the child."  The beatings continued, but morale didn't improve.  See my historical messages for the story.

Quote from: Asche on April 15, 2025, 11:40:03 AM... As it was, I frequently felt like being dead would be an improvement.

Even now, looking back, I don't think I would have been better off if I'd been born a girl.  I have a sister ... and although her difficulties were different from mine, I have a feeling I would have felt just as oppressed.  The world we grew up in had such narrow ideas of what it was okay to be or do or want ... and suffered the beatings until I could get the @#$% out ... nor do I feel any obligation to take on any of the BS that society foists on girls and women.

I'm not in this to become anything in particular.  I'm in this to be myself.

Quote from: D'Amalie on April 21, 2025, 11:49:58 AMI'm not in this to become anything in particular.  I'm in this to be myself.

This. Exactly!

How can the majority not understand, "I'm not in this to become anything in particular.  I'm in this to be myself."

We aren't hurting any one!  Leave us be to work and live and raise our families.

Quote from: D'Amalie on April 21, 2025, 12:00:22 PMHow can the majority not understand, "I'm not in this to become anything in particular.  I'm in this to be myself."

Maybe they don't understand because they are too busy trying to be someone they are not. Many people are strongly influenced by the opinions of others (peer pressure), and will do whatever to fit in with the crowd.

We see this every year during Halloween and Christmas. One house on a street goes all out with its holiday decorations. Then others put out a few. And each year, the houses on the street become more and more enthusiastic with their decorating. Those who do not are looked upon differently. What's wrong with THOSE people? Why don't they get into the spirit of things?

Joe buys a new car, and George needs one too. The old "keeping up with the Joneses" Syndrome. Sheep just follow the herd.

How do I know this? Because I was one. I did whatever I could to blend in, to never draw attention to myself, keep my head down, and all just to prevent being attacked (again). We all do it in one way or another. Advertisers capitalize on it. Buy this because this is what these celebrities use! In the early days of the internet, the term "Influencer" did not exist.

Quote from: Lori Dee on April 21, 2025, 12:17:31 PMHow do I know this? Because I was one. I did whatever I could to blend in, to never draw attention to myself, keep my head down, and all just to prevent being attacked (again). We all do it in one way or another. Advertisers capitalize on it. Buy this because this is what these celebrities use! In the early days of the internet, the term "Influencer" did not exist.

Thank you!  So many of us can relate to your words.

Quote from: Jessica 33 on April 21, 2025, 10:55:21 AMYes in a heartbeat

Hey Jessica! I just wanted to give you a warm welcome to the community.

I noticed you added me as a buddy and liked one of my posts, that was really cool, and it made me smile.

I'm glad you're here!

If you ever feel like sharing more about yourself or your journey, please know this is a safe and supportive space.

No pressure at all, just whenever you're ready.

New members often post a little introduction in the Introduction Forum (https://www.susans.org/index.php/board,8.0.html), if that ever feels like something you'd like to do.

Thanks again for the add.


~ Lilis 💗

Quote from: Lilis on April 26, 2025, 02:59:17 AMHey Jessica! I just wanted to give you a warm welcome to the community.

I noticed you added me as a buddy and liked one of my posts, that was really cool, and it made me smile.

I'm glad you're here!

If you ever feel like sharing more about yourself or your journey, please know this is a safe and supportive space.

No pressure at all, just whenever you're ready.

New members often post a little introduction in the Introduction Forum (https://www.susans.org/index.php/board,8.0.html), if that ever feels like something you'd like to do.

Thanks again for the add.


~ Lilis 💗

Thanks Lillis
Just joining the forum has helped me a lot.

Quote from: Jessica 33 on April 26, 2025, 04:51:03 AMThanks Lillis
Just joining the forum has helped me a lot.

You're very welcome, Jessica.

I agree, there's something magical about this Place. It's such a special resource and community for all of us on our journeys.

See you around in the forums.

Quote from: CosmicJoke on April 13, 2025, 02:59:11 PMHi everyone. Basically the thought I am talking about is if you could just have a magic wand to change your genitals to that of your "correct gender?"

Now let me try to bring this conversation back on topic.  ;D

Yes, without hesitation!


~ Lilis 💗

I've been visiting the forum for years.This time I've stuck around.I wish I knew 30 years ago what I know now. In my teens I desperately wanted to transition. Buried myself in drink and work, late 20s the same. I wish I had transitioned and lived a truer life.
The egg is starting

Quote from: CosmicJoke on April 13, 2025, 02:59:11 PMBasically the thought I am talking about is if you could just have a magic wand to change your genitals to that of your "correct gender?"

From what the research tells us, the majority of binary trans people have had this thought and quite a lot of non-binary people too. I've definitely had it, tempered by a growing awareness over the years that there doesn't seem to be a well defined gender for me. For me, the magic wand was accepting that I could be happy being me as long as I got off my own case and accepted I was me.

That took quite a bit of doing :-)

Quote from: D'Amalie on April 21, 2025, 12:00:22 PMHow can the majority not understand, "I'm not in this to become anything in particular.  I'm in this to be myself."

If we take all the years most of us do to come to terms with trans, imagine how long it takes an outsider when they don't have to live with all the feelings we do?

I can understand why cis people struggle. That's not to say I condone it when their struggle manifests as portraying themselves, the majority, as the victims of a minority such as ourselves. That, I have no tolerance for any more than I do for racism or homophobia.

Quote from: TanyaG on April 27, 2025, 06:01:27 AMaccepting that I could be happy being me as long as I got off my own case and accepted I was me.

It certainly did take a while!  The contentment came from me though.  But I add that it wouldn't have been possible with out the LGBTQ movements!  At least that brought our minority into the mainstream....kinda.