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Title: a guide for my Ex...
Post by: mickib on June 01, 2025, 08:25:07 AM
Post by: mickib on June 01, 2025, 08:25:07 AM
I am friends with my Ex. I am divorced. I still love her..deeply.
She thinks I'm gay. and doesn't understand the differences really, or she does..but doesn't want to acknowledge it. In the past she was, anti almost TERFish.
She doesn't understand how I went from the guy she married...to now.
I have told her... people change, evolve, are dynamic, and what I wrestled with didn't come to the surface fully till I had that epiphany, that moment of. this explains everything.
she knows much about my past so she has some context, not all of it. but some
I was thinking maybe I buy her a book on the topic but not sure which would be be
I looked at "the trans partner handbook", and "Shes not the man I married" but I don't know. I really want her to not only understand, but accept and support me. I think she doesn't really support me yet, though we are friends. even going to Ikea today, together.
or maybe there is a movie, or documentary or something I can casually share with her? Though I think a book is probably the way to go.
What I'm seeking is something that maybe helps her understand me better, help her understand that its ok for me to be me.
ya know? anyone have a recommendation, did a similar thing?
She thinks I'm gay. and doesn't understand the differences really, or she does..but doesn't want to acknowledge it. In the past she was, anti almost TERFish.
She doesn't understand how I went from the guy she married...to now.
I have told her... people change, evolve, are dynamic, and what I wrestled with didn't come to the surface fully till I had that epiphany, that moment of. this explains everything.
she knows much about my past so she has some context, not all of it. but some
I was thinking maybe I buy her a book on the topic but not sure which would be be
I looked at "the trans partner handbook", and "Shes not the man I married" but I don't know. I really want her to not only understand, but accept and support me. I think she doesn't really support me yet, though we are friends. even going to Ikea today, together.
or maybe there is a movie, or documentary or something I can casually share with her? Though I think a book is probably the way to go.
What I'm seeking is something that maybe helps her understand me better, help her understand that its ok for me to be me.
ya know? anyone have a recommendation, did a similar thing?
Title: Re: a guide for my Ex...
Post by: Maid Marion on June 01, 2025, 08:46:47 AM
Post by: Maid Marion on June 01, 2025, 08:46:47 AM
You may be of the age when crossdressers were the butt of jokes like Corporal Klinger on M.A.S.H.
The book industry has fallen on hard times, with only Romance Novels making money.
There are authors who can write new novels every year as well as customers who buy a new novel every year.
The book industry has fallen on hard times, with only Romance Novels making money.
There are authors who can write new novels every year as well as customers who buy a new novel every year.
Title: Re: a guide for my Ex...
Post by: Lori Dee on June 01, 2025, 08:56:59 AM
Post by: Lori Dee on June 01, 2025, 08:56:59 AM
Quote from: mickib on June 01, 2025, 08:25:07 AMWhat I'm seeking is something that maybe helps her understand me better, help her understand that its ok for me to be me.
Our Founder, Susan Larson, wrote an in-depth guide to understand gender identity. I would start there.
Understanding Gender Identity
https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247148.msg2262144.html#msg2262144
Title: Re: a guide for my Ex...
Post by: tgirlamg on June 01, 2025, 09:08:12 AM
Post by: tgirlamg on June 01, 2025, 09:08:12 AM
Hey Sister,
This is a bit more clinical than a novel or movie but, this paper is excellent...
https://www.avitale.com/essays/a-developmental-review
Many of us who come to our journey in later years, find many aspects our life described uncannily well throughout the paper when Dr Vitale speaks about "Group 3" individuals...
Onward Brave Sister!
Ashley 💕
This is a bit more clinical than a novel or movie but, this paper is excellent...
https://www.avitale.com/essays/a-developmental-review
Many of us who come to our journey in later years, find many aspects our life described uncannily well throughout the paper when Dr Vitale speaks about "Group 3" individuals...
Onward Brave Sister!
Ashley 💕