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Today I had quite a bad headache at work and was really slow and grumpy. I work as a professor and one of my closest colleagues is a psychologist. I have not come out in my work, but everything will come in time 😀

So, we were working together and we were not understanding each other, and she just burst off saying...you are such a man today!, I prefer working with you when you are more...and femenine was in her mouth, but, she backed in the last moment, looked at me and said...as you normally are.

I have to say that I enjoyed it and made me smile. 😀 ...and made my day.

I do believe that she might be on to me or know something. She is a profiler in psychology and reads people very easily, but, with her, I don't care.

So, I thought I would open this new topic, so that we can share the moments that made you happy and proud of who you are.

Wish we could enjoy with our own happy moments.

Yesterday, at my gynecologist appointment, I was discussing why I need a surgery recommendation letter from her. I said that with the current political climate, immigration raids being targeted at "sanctuary cities", it is not safe to have anatomy that does not match all of my official documents.

One of the raids that started the protests in California was at a Home Depot store where they rounded up Day Laborers - some of whom are U.S. citizens. What if I were at a Home Depot just shopping, and an agent decided that I looked "suspicious" and included me in their roundup? Sure, all of my state and federal IDs list me as female, but a strip search would make that difficult to prove that the documents are legitimate.

My doctor looked at me and said, "You don't look suspicious."
I asked why, "because I'm white?"
She said, "No, because you look feminine."

I wasn't wearing makeup, just jeans, a t-shirt, and earrings.

That just helped me remember that how we see ourselves is not the way others see us.  🙂

Quote from: Anne_lifetrip on June 24, 2025, 09:01:22 AMToday I had quite a bad headache at work and was really slow and grumpy. I work as a professor and one of my closest colleagues is a psychologist. I have not come out in my work, but everything will come in time 😀

So, we were working together and we were not understanding each other, and she just burst off saying...you are such a man today!, I prefer working with you when you are more...and femenine was in her mouth, but, she backed in the last moment, looked at me and said...as you normally are.

I have to say that I enjoyed it and made me smile. 😀 ...and made my day.

I do believe that she might be on to me or know something. She is a profiler in psychology and reads people very easily, but, with her, I don't care.

So, I thought I would open this new topic, so that we can share the moments that made you happy and proud of who you are.

Wish we could enjoy with our own happy moments.

It's so important to have positive reinforcement. Very happy for you. 🙂

So, hello girls...no one else has had any positive moment that would like to share? 😉

So another one of mine...in a trip I recently did, I was thrilled because I was called ma'am by a waitress when she came to the table and saw me from the back, with my pony tail growing by the day...when she turned and saw me from the front (I was dressed neutrally) she blushed and apologized...she didn't know there is nothing to apologize for... and that made me smile 🙂

As I hace read in the forums, this is a classic, but never gets old and, at least, it made it to my happy memories.

I came out to one of the ladies in my pickleball group recently. She just looked at me and said " I knew there was something I liked about you!" That made me feel completely at ease!

Hello all,

Wow...that must have been a lovely moment

Quote from: Camille58S on July 01, 2025, 09:05:16 PM" I knew there was something I liked about you!"

I will share this most recent moment that I am living with my daughter who is starting to develop her breasts. Her mother is not so present, busy, and I spend a lot of time with her, so I am really enjoying doing her hair (and she does mine too sometimes).

Now that her breasts are starting to develop and she sees the need of her first bra to cover her sensitive area (not so much bra, I do not know how it is called in English), I am being there and it is great fun showing her how to put it on and taking it off and her struggles, which were mine not so long ago.

We have shared painting our nails too (also with my son) and we all share those moments...and they give me my space with them and sharing something mine too. My daughter, well, she looks out to me when asking more girly questions and seeing her develop, also makes me be closer to her.

So, lets see if someone else wants to share some of their happy moments with all of us.
In the meantime, love u all and look out for your best and happiest version of yourself.

      @Anne_lifetrip
Dear Anne:

What you shared is an amazing "happy moment" story about your relationship with your young
daughter as she is in her journey of puberty and with her body changes. Also the personal time
with your young son painting all of yours, and your son's and your daughter's nails together. 
          Wonderful family time.

These are great memories for you and your children....thank you for posting about your happy moments.

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

Quote from: Anne_lifetrip on July 11, 2025, 08:29:17 AMHello all,

Wow...that must have been a lovely moment 

I will share this most recent moment that I am living with my daughter who is starting to develop her breasts. Her mother is not so present, busy, and I spend a lot of time with her, so I am really enjoying doing her hair (and she does mine too sometimes).

Now that her breasts are starting to develop and she sees the need of her first bra to cover her sensitive area (not so much bra, I do not know how it is called in English), I am being there and it is great fun showing her how to put it on and taking it off and her struggles, which were mine not so long ago.

We have shared painting our nails too (also with my son) and we all share those moments...and they give me my space with them and sharing something mine too. My daughter, well, she looks out to me when asking more girly questions and seeing her develop, also makes me be closer to her.

So, lets see if someone else wants to share some of their happy moments with all of us.
In the meantime, love u all and look out for your best and happiest version of yourself.

Since moving to Colorado, I have only been misgendered once, and that was by a panhandler who couldn't see me. I was gassing up the U-Haul truck and he said, "Excuse me, sir, can you give me two dollars?" As he came around the front of the truck, he saw me, apologized, and corrected his mistake, calling me "lady".

Our Maintenance man kept calling me "sweetie". He is a Vietnam Veteran, then worked for the Sheriff's Department, and is now retired. I have also been called "Miss" and "ma'am" more than a few times.

What is important about this is that I was not wearing makeup, wig, or anything overly feminine. I was in the process of moving, so I was more sweaty wearing work jeans and a T-shirt, earrings, and a necklace my Bestie gave me. In some cases, I hadn't even shaved that day.

It is so good to be in a place that is friendly and accepting for a change.

Quote from: Lori Dee on July 12, 2025, 11:48:55 AMSince moving to Colorado, I have only been misgendered once, and that was by a panhandler who couldn't see me. I was gassing up the U-Haul truck and he said, "Excuse me, sir, can you give me two dollars?" As he came around the front of the truck, he saw me, apologized, and corrected his mistake, calling me "lady".

Our Maintenance man kept calling me "sweetie". He is a Vietnam Veteran, then worked for the Sheriff's Department, and is now retired. I have also been called "Miss" and "ma'am" more than a few times.

What is important about this is that I was not wearing makeup, wig, or anything overly feminine. I was in the process of moving, so I was more sweaty wearing work jeans and a T-shirt, earrings, and a necklace my Bestie gave me. In some cases, I hadn't even shaved that day.

It is so good to be in a place that is friendly and accepting for a change.

I am so happy for you Lori.

Chrissy

Once I was asked for money to buy a part for truck that someone said needed repair.
I offered to go to the parts store and pay for it with a credit card, and he refused and walked up to another person to ask for the money.
He had a sure thing to get the part but passed it up.  Did he really need the part?

He likely did not need the part but was wanting general spending money.

I offer the same for those that say they are hungry but no one has accepted my offers to go to an eatery or mission to get fed. 

Are they mostly liars trying to get your money?  Maybe.  Perhaps they calculated that they have to stay where they are at to ask numerous people for their donations and not spend time eating.
One just does not know.  But if they say they are hungry and will not go to eat, I wonder if they told me the truth.

Chrissy

About ten years ago I was having coffee with a female work colleague. As we chatted she suddenly said to me "....you should have been a girl. You would make a lovely girl."
I will never forget the words. It was the one and only time that I was validated by someone else. My heart lit up and nearly burst. I was dying to tell her everything, but I could not. I didn't have the courage. She never said it again.
Anyway, the years have passed and I have retired from work but I still smile inside and outside every time I think of her and those lovely words.

Ciara ❤️

Quote from: Ciara on July 20, 2025, 01:12:12 PMI still smile inside and outside every time I think of her and those lovely words.

It was a lovely situation Ciara (lovely name, by the way)...one that has made it to your dearest memories.

That is the spirit of this topic...I am sure other sister have more.

I have just had to change my glasses, and I wanted to change my more manly glass style to a more femenine...little steps take you a long way.

So, I had already checked out some femenine style glasses that I liked.
There were two girls in the store...so they showed me the male side and I was just like, already had those, used that model...but, I have seen these online, do you have them?.
The first thing she asked was...are they for you?  ??? and I said, yes, but I want to change my appearance...so she showed me the different options for that female model, and then took me to the male side again to find something that would match the style.
So, I showed her my second choice...also, female...she looked at me again, looked at her colleague and I believe it was like a "click", she understood what I wanted. We then went to the female models and tried different versions.
No more going back to the male side. And I have just bought my first pair of glasses which will make me look more femenine. I am very happy.

A small step for this woman, but a huge leap in confidence and comfort at the reaction of the girls in the shop.

Anne 💖

Quote from: Anne_lifetrip on August 03, 2025, 12:24:18 PMAnd I have just bought my first pair of glasses which will make me look more femenine. I am very happy.

That is awesome!

I was getting my glasses through the VA, and they have a VERY limited selection. They are free, so I can't complain. I found the color and style that I liked, they took some measurements, and placed the order. A couple of weeks later, they arrived in the mail. They were perfect except they didn't fit right. I have a wide nose bridge, and even adjusting the nose pads to maximum, they were still uncomfortable.

At my next appointment, I asked for a written prescription and went to a local optometrist who has a lab in-store. The store is like a small warehouse with hundreds of styles. I found what I like, but since I was paying out-of-pocket, I went with the second-best choice. The fit is great, but Lordy, they are heavy.

So, my next appointment, coming up this year, I will be spending a lot more, but my goal is to get exactly what I want. My prescription only changes every few years, so I hope they will last a long time... and I can actually wear them!  ;D

I had a glasses incident this spring. I wanted some prescription sunglasses and chose a style I liked. "But those are a feminine style, sir" the assistant said. I was a bit lost for words, said there was nothing else I liked, put them back on the rack and left the store.

But I did want them. I went back to the same store a week later and made sure the previous assistant was busy before making the same choice as before. I was served by a man this time who commented that they were a unisex style. I'm very pleased with them.

I was getting my eyebrows done this morning, and while I was waiting for the color to dry, a lady that I'd never seen before walked up and said " you have the prettiest legs! I mean really, I'd kill for legs like that!" I have to admit, I was a little thrown at first, but managed to say " thank you. That's very kind of you to say." Made my day!