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Title: New here！
Post by: Li Youmei on September 06, 2025, 11:55:10 PM
Post by: Li Youmei on September 06, 2025, 11:55:10 PM
Hi everyone, my name's Li Youmei, but you can just call me Youmei. I'm from China, so please forgive my broken English. Let me talking about my life experience. My parents divorced when I was little, and I grew up with my mom. Maybe because of that, I always wanted to be a girl.
When I was 28, I went to Thailand for the first time and had a surgery to remove my eges, so my body wouldn't produce male hormones anymore. After that, on my doctor's advice, I started a year of HRT — finasteride and estradiol. About six months into hormones, I began living full-time in women's clothes.
After a year on HRT, I decided to go for SRS. With the help of a medical agent, I somehow managed to pass the psych evaluation and got a surgery date. So, at 29 years and 8 months, I had my SRS in Thailand. It's irreversible — I lost my ability to have children, and I got a female organ that looks like one, but isn't really the same. Still, I changed the gender marker on my ID to "F," which lets me use women's bathrooms, public baths, etc. But inside, I don't feel like a woman — I feel like a man who just wants to have a female body.
Since I can't change my academic records in China, I went back to school: two years for an adult bachelor's, then another year for a master's. By then, I was 33. I used to live in Beijing, but later I moved to Shenzhen. I found a job as a shop assistant in a clothing store. The work is tiring but the pay is okay, and I can wear nice makeup every day and look pretty. Nobody here knows about my past.
I never tried to look for love. I know it would be too hard, and I don't do hard things. My sex drive isn't strong — I sometimes masturbate, but reaching orgasm takes a long time and I don't really enjoy it. One year passed, and now I'm 35. My life feels kind of plain and repetitive.
Any tips on how I can spice up my life a bit?
When I was 28, I went to Thailand for the first time and had a surgery to remove my eges, so my body wouldn't produce male hormones anymore. After that, on my doctor's advice, I started a year of HRT — finasteride and estradiol. About six months into hormones, I began living full-time in women's clothes.
After a year on HRT, I decided to go for SRS. With the help of a medical agent, I somehow managed to pass the psych evaluation and got a surgery date. So, at 29 years and 8 months, I had my SRS in Thailand. It's irreversible — I lost my ability to have children, and I got a female organ that looks like one, but isn't really the same. Still, I changed the gender marker on my ID to "F," which lets me use women's bathrooms, public baths, etc. But inside, I don't feel like a woman — I feel like a man who just wants to have a female body.
Since I can't change my academic records in China, I went back to school: two years for an adult bachelor's, then another year for a master's. By then, I was 33. I used to live in Beijing, but later I moved to Shenzhen. I found a job as a shop assistant in a clothing store. The work is tiring but the pay is okay, and I can wear nice makeup every day and look pretty. Nobody here knows about my past.
I never tried to look for love. I know it would be too hard, and I don't do hard things. My sex drive isn't strong — I sometimes masturbate, but reaching orgasm takes a long time and I don't really enjoy it. One year passed, and now I'm 35. My life feels kind of plain and repetitive.
Any tips on how I can spice up my life a bit?
Title: Re: New here！
Post by: Lori Dee on September 07, 2025, 12:04:03 AM
Post by: Lori Dee on September 07, 2025, 12:04:03 AM
Hello Youmei,
I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!
Thank you for that wonderful introduction.
We strive to make this a safe place to find information and share your thoughts and comments. No matter who you are, you are always welcome at Susan's Place.
It sounds like you have done well in becoming who you feel that you truly are. Living full-time as a female and working in a job that allows you to dress and wear makeup must be very nice. As you read through the stories of other members, perhaps you will find something that will give you some ideas about what is next. Many of our members have found new careers or even started their own businesses. Some are involved in local support groups or charities. There are always people who could use your help.
When you click on the HOME button, you will see a page listing all of the various sub-forums by category and topic. Each sub-forum has a description of what that forum is about, as well as any guidelines for posting.
Please keep in mind when posting that this is an ALL-AGES PUBLIC Forum and the internet never forgets. Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.
I will add links below that are important for new and returning members. Pay special attention to the links in RED.
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I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!
Thank you for that wonderful introduction.
We strive to make this a safe place to find information and share your thoughts and comments. No matter who you are, you are always welcome at Susan's Place.
It sounds like you have done well in becoming who you feel that you truly are. Living full-time as a female and working in a job that allows you to dress and wear makeup must be very nice. As you read through the stories of other members, perhaps you will find something that will give you some ideas about what is next. Many of our members have found new careers or even started their own businesses. Some are involved in local support groups or charities. There are always people who could use your help.
When you click on the HOME button, you will see a page listing all of the various sub-forums by category and topic. Each sub-forum has a description of what that forum is about, as well as any guidelines for posting.
Please keep in mind when posting that this is an ALL-AGES PUBLIC Forum and the internet never forgets. Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.
I will add links below that are important for new and returning members. Pay special attention to the links in RED.
Until then, if you have any questions about the Susan's Place site and the Forums, please feel free to contact me at LoriDee605@outlook.com
Once again, welcome to Susan's Place!
~ Lori Dee
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Title: Re: New here！
Post by: Maid Marion on September 07, 2025, 12:12:07 AM
Post by: Maid Marion on September 07, 2025, 12:12:07 AM
Hi Youmei,
Welcome! Yes, the problem is that you have to work so hard as a shop assistant. It gets boring doing nothing but work all day but you are too tired at the end of the day to do anything else!
Marion
Welcome! Yes, the problem is that you have to work so hard as a shop assistant. It gets boring doing nothing but work all day but you are too tired at the end of the day to do anything else!
Marion
Title: Re: New here！
Post by: Sarah B on September 08, 2025, 09:10:12 PM
Post by: Sarah B on September 08, 2025, 09:10:12 PM
Hi Youmei
My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!
I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.
Thank you for sharing so openly. Your English is already good, so please do not worry about it. I am a native English speaker and I am still learning to speak proper English. About the word you used earlier, I believe when you said, "eges" you really meant "testes".
Your journey feels very close to mine. I moved across Australia then lived in Sydney for about 17 years. I started living as female right away. I took hormones for two years then had surgery when I was 32. You are right that the surgery is irreversible. I certainly lost the ability to have children and that still hurts me.
About your body, you are also right that your vagina is not a natal one. For day to day life the look and comfort can matter most. When a woman has a hysterectomy there are deep changes to reproductive capacity too, so the social and emotional parts of our paths can feel similar even if the medical details differ.
There is nothing anyone can do about chromosomes today. If safe and proven technology existed I would certainly avail myself of treatment. I am female and always will be in who I am and in how you express yourself you come across as deeply female too.
I also understand when you say you do not feel like a woman. Thoughts like that are normal. I have had a version of that feeling on rare days. I still live my life as female and that is what matters most for my peace and for how I move through the world.
I changed my records as soon as I changed my life around. I have not had problems with documents or daily use of services. Nobody knows about my past either. Only my family and a couple of doctors know and I prefer it that way. Life goes on regardless of what we have done. I went to university, I had a boyfriend and I enjoyed parts of life that I had missed out on earlier in my life. You can claim that space too.
For spicing up one's life, try a few gentle steps. Join a social club that matches an interest you have. Go to movies with friends. Take up a hobby where you meet similar people, like a walking group or a photography class or a language exchange. Looking for love can be hard and settling down with someone special can be hard, yet it is often worth it in the end. It is better to open your heart and give love a chance than to look back with regret for never trying.
About pleasure, what you describe is normal. The body can take time to warm up and respond. If you wish, appropriate toys and good lubrication can make arousal and orgasm easier. Explore at your own pace. It is encouraging that your body is functioning in similar ways many women experience.
You sound thoughtful, resilient and caring. You have already built a stable life in a new city. Add small new experiences, meet some new people and let yourself enjoy those times. I am cheering for you, Youmei.
Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads. I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members.
In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.
Please keep in mind when posting that this is an ALL AGES PUBLIC Forum and the internet never forgets. Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.
Take care and all the best for the future.
Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!
Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
@Devlyn @Jessica_Rose @Mariah @Northern Star Girl @Lori Dee
@ Li Youmei
My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!
I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.
Thank you for sharing so openly. Your English is already good, so please do not worry about it. I am a native English speaker and I am still learning to speak proper English. About the word you used earlier, I believe when you said, "eges" you really meant "testes".
Your journey feels very close to mine. I moved across Australia then lived in Sydney for about 17 years. I started living as female right away. I took hormones for two years then had surgery when I was 32. You are right that the surgery is irreversible. I certainly lost the ability to have children and that still hurts me.
About your body, you are also right that your vagina is not a natal one. For day to day life the look and comfort can matter most. When a woman has a hysterectomy there are deep changes to reproductive capacity too, so the social and emotional parts of our paths can feel similar even if the medical details differ.
There is nothing anyone can do about chromosomes today. If safe and proven technology existed I would certainly avail myself of treatment. I am female and always will be in who I am and in how you express yourself you come across as deeply female too.
I also understand when you say you do not feel like a woman. Thoughts like that are normal. I have had a version of that feeling on rare days. I still live my life as female and that is what matters most for my peace and for how I move through the world.
I changed my records as soon as I changed my life around. I have not had problems with documents or daily use of services. Nobody knows about my past either. Only my family and a couple of doctors know and I prefer it that way. Life goes on regardless of what we have done. I went to university, I had a boyfriend and I enjoyed parts of life that I had missed out on earlier in my life. You can claim that space too.
For spicing up one's life, try a few gentle steps. Join a social club that matches an interest you have. Go to movies with friends. Take up a hobby where you meet similar people, like a walking group or a photography class or a language exchange. Looking for love can be hard and settling down with someone special can be hard, yet it is often worth it in the end. It is better to open your heart and give love a chance than to look back with regret for never trying.
About pleasure, what you describe is normal. The body can take time to warm up and respond. If you wish, appropriate toys and good lubrication can make arousal and orgasm easier. Explore at your own pace. It is encouraging that your body is functioning in similar ways many women experience.
You sound thoughtful, resilient and caring. You have already built a stable life in a new city. Add small new experiences, meet some new people and let yourself enjoy those times. I am cheering for you, Youmei.
Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads. I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members.
In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.
Please keep in mind when posting that this is an ALL AGES PUBLIC Forum and the internet never forgets. Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.
Take care and all the best for the future.
Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!
Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
@Devlyn @Jessica_Rose @Mariah @Northern Star Girl @Lori Dee
@ Li Youmei