Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everyone,

I am Cerys and I'm in the UK. Like many I have been dressing since I was a young teen so about 35 years, and more seriously dressing for about 13 years or so.

I do have a home life and family. My partner recently 'discovered' Cerys, and while relatively understanding we have work to do. She has persuaded me to get counselling which I have just started.

I find actually vocalising the idea that I am Cerys is starting to help me immensely. At the same time I am scared for the future. All this has added up to me coming here in the hope of finding some potential answers, and even if I purely get relief from simply talking things through, then that will be a massive boost. As many of you will know, living a secret life in your mind is incredibly difficult.

Anyway, hello, nice to be here
Cerys x

Hiee Cerys,

Welcome to Susan's Place! 🩷


~ Lilis 🌷

Hi, Cerys, and welcome.

Please feel free to talk it out as much as you want. There's a lot to process, both internally and with loved ones. We are here to listen.

Thank you Pema,

It's very daunting, and a lot to balance / navigate. I'm extremely nervous. I have another counselling session this time next week, I think the questions may start to flow.

Cerys

Hello Cerys,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

Thank you for that wonderful introduction.

We strive to make this a safe place to find information and share your thoughts and comments. No matter who you are, you are always welcome at Susan's Place.

You are correct that there is a lot to process. Not just internally, but in our relationships with the outside world. You are among friends here. Perhaps as you read other members' blogs and their stories, you will find that we all have things in common. What is unique to us is how we handle the obstacles that come our way. This will depend on our individual goals, circumstances, and personalities.

I am happy to hear that you have started counseling. That will help you to get the answers you seek, as well as having someone with whom you can discuss this very personal part of your life. When you are comfortable doing so, I would also encourage inviting your significant other to come with you to a counseling session. That gives them a chance to understand what you are going through and even get answers to their own questions about this.

This site is loaded with information from the real-life experiences of people who have been through what you are just beginning.

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@CerysS
@Sarah B
@Northern Star Girl

@CerysS
Dear Cerys:
I am so very happy that you found us and have decided to register as a member here
on the Susan's Place Forum.    A warm WELCOME to you.
You have found a "safe haven" to share your thoughts and experiences regarding your
life endeavors and transition plans.

Here on the Forum we have many, many like-minded members that are following similar paths to your own.

There are 2 places here on the Forum that I want you to go to help you explore your new-found life journey.

The Forum Board Significant Others talk  is a place for support
of the family (parents, siblings and/or children) and intimate partners of trans* people.
Please respect that this is an area for SO (Significant Others) only.
  Click Link ---> https://www.susans.org/index.php/board,26.0.html

The other board I would like you to spend some time on will allow you to follow the transition
journeys of our other like-minded Members.  Member Blogs
              Click Link ---> https://www.susans.org/index.php/board,326.0.html

If you have any questions about the Susan's Place site and the Forums, please
feel free to contact me via my Direct Email at alaskandanielle@yahoo.com

Once again, WELCOME to Susan's Place!
Warm Regards, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
          The Forum Administrator

                cc: @Devlyn  @Lori Dee  @Sarah B  @Jessica_Rose  @Mariah

Lori Dee, thank you, what a warm welcome!

That's some great advice, and I hope my partner is receptive when the time comes. She has much further to go than me in some ways, I've been preparing for decades, she's only had a few weeks, so I'm treading cautiously!

Northern Star Girl, also thank you!

I'm actually a little overwhelmed by these interactions, I will check out what you suggest. I wish I'd found this place years ago.

I'm off for a small emotional moment now 🥹

Thanks again!
Cerys

Hi Cerys,

Welcome to Susan's Place, and thank you for such an open introduction. Naming yourself—saying "I am Cerys"—often brings real relief, because the secret no longer lives only in your mind. Holding that truth inside for decades is exhausting; speaking it aloud can ease the weight and, at the same time, stir understandable nerves about what possibilities the future might hold—especially when you love your partner and want to protect your home life.

It's encouraging that your partner is relatively understanding and that you've begun counselling. A counsellor with experience in gender issues—the right counsellor for you—can give you space to sort through feelings, fears, and options at a pace that feels safe. Many of us find it helpful to focus first on easing distress and building honest communication rather than trying to decide everything at once. Some people prefer to do individual work for a while before inviting a partner into sessions; others find a joint session helpful sooner. Either way, you get to choose what feels supportive.

You'll find many people here who recognize the path you're on, including members in the UK. Use this space to talk things through, ask questions, and breathe. Whether you're seeking practical perspective, emotional support, or simply a place where you can be Cerys openly, this community is here for you.

There's no timetable you must meet and no single "right" outcome to chase. You control the pace and the privacy of what you share. Your journey is yours, and you're welcome here in exploration as you find what brings you peace.

I'm glad you're with us, Cerys. You are not alone.
— Susan