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I saw a reel on Instagram yesterday from a transgender woman saying how she always looked up to and admired women. I felt like this way before I ever realized I was transgender. I always felt weird for feeling that way. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

I've always admired women, too, and even thought of them as role models. But I never felt weird about it. It just seemed sort of...clear to me.

Quote from: Alana Ashleigh on November 08, 2025, 05:27:39 PMI saw a reel on Instagram yesterday from a transgender woman saying how she always looked up to and admired women. I felt like this way before I ever realized I was transgender. I always felt weird for feeling that way. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

I don't know if it's so much "admiration" for me but more of an envy. I always felt that way very strongly and it only got worse to be honest.

I have always felt this way.

I respect their caring, nurturing demeanor. When I finally started seeing women doctors, they just seemed to be more understanding. I could explain something, and they got it right away, because they listened. In arguments with women, including my mother, they had a way of calmly explaining why they felt the way they did, and it made sense to me.

They were better at communication than the guys were, and I think I was jealous of that. But even their bodies just seemed to be a better design, with their "plumbing" internal and out of sight. They seem to be more emotionally mature in general, although there are many men who are on par in that respect.

Looking back, most of the supervisors I've had over the years have been women.  More thoughtful when making their decisions, never rushing to react, but taking the time to listen and understand before acting.

In all honesty I look up to almost anyone, as I've found most people  offer some inspiration or perspective in this life that I can use to grow.

Really the people I most admire have strong emotional sensitivity, appreciation and exist in all genders.

However I have always found women to be more approachable for me personally and feels so safe. I try to project a similar approachable and safe expression and willingness to accept anyone in need of comfort or genuine advice.

Quote from: Alana Ashleigh on November 08, 2025, 05:27:39 PMI saw a reel on Instagram yesterday from a transgender woman saying how she always looked up to and admired women. I felt like this way before I ever realized I was transgender. I always felt weird for feeling that way. Does anyone else ever feel this way?

Honestly, no. I had a lot of really bad experiences when I was a kid with girls around me. I was very passive and a lot of the bullying I got came about through the young women around me. A few were quite possibly psychopathic. But I don't think that was due to them being female. More that they were just unhinged. I hope they grew out of it.

It sounds aspirational, what you're talking about, Alana. Which is entirely understandable. When you look up to and admire someone, a part of you aspires to be like them. They're role models, so to speak. So I get that entirely. And for trans people it's entirely understandable to feel that way.

I just kind of... didn't. I found myself in spite of it, not because of it. I have never been what you'd call conventional. Which is a good or bad thing depending how you look at it.

You certainly shouldn't feel weird for feeling that way. I would venture a great many people also do. :)

I very much respect and admire women - they have a beautiful balance between strength and softness. On the surface it's easy to think that it's impossible to be feminine and strong yet women do it all the time. It's to be admired.