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Title: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: lady amarant on January 20, 2008, 01:54:55 AM
Post by: lady amarant on January 20, 2008, 01:54:55 AM
Cobbled together from a couple of messages to a friend. I felt I should share it with everybody, 'cause it holds true for all of us:
You know, we don't know each other, don't have shared history or a relationship or anything. We didn't grow up or grow old together, and in most cases, we'll never meet face to face.
But, and this might sound silly, but there ya go, in many ways I feel much closer to people I've only ever known online, than I do to best friends and family. When you think about it, we DO have shared history. Our stories are the same. Oh, they differ in the details of age and people involved and stuff, but the stuff that really matters - the alienation, the sadness, the loneliness, the anger, all the rest of it - that's something we uniquely share, something that nobody else can really even relate to.
Even when friends and family do support us, it's never really enough. And I know that must sound selfish, and ungratefull, but let me explain with something my best friend said to me the other night. I'll just paraphrase so I don't mangle ze Eengleesh too badly here:
"Ill stand by you through this, but you know, it's something so far outside what I can comprehend that that might not be worth much. I'm always going to see you as (my given name... which I don't really like using) and I honestly don't know that I'd be able to accept Simone."
One of the things I appreciate about him is that he is always brutally honest, and his take on relationships leaves no room for sugar-coating. But what he said is probably true for everybody else I've told. Some of them will think I'm crazy, some that I'm a case to be pitied or something along those lines - they don't mean to be patronizing or anything, but they just can't relate.
So thanks all for taking the time to share your stories, advice, or just by lending an ear, metaphorically speaking ;)
Love,
Simone
You know, we don't know each other, don't have shared history or a relationship or anything. We didn't grow up or grow old together, and in most cases, we'll never meet face to face.
But, and this might sound silly, but there ya go, in many ways I feel much closer to people I've only ever known online, than I do to best friends and family. When you think about it, we DO have shared history. Our stories are the same. Oh, they differ in the details of age and people involved and stuff, but the stuff that really matters - the alienation, the sadness, the loneliness, the anger, all the rest of it - that's something we uniquely share, something that nobody else can really even relate to.
Even when friends and family do support us, it's never really enough. And I know that must sound selfish, and ungratefull, but let me explain with something my best friend said to me the other night. I'll just paraphrase so I don't mangle ze Eengleesh too badly here:
"Ill stand by you through this, but you know, it's something so far outside what I can comprehend that that might not be worth much. I'm always going to see you as (my given name... which I don't really like using) and I honestly don't know that I'd be able to accept Simone."
One of the things I appreciate about him is that he is always brutally honest, and his take on relationships leaves no room for sugar-coating. But what he said is probably true for everybody else I've told. Some of them will think I'm crazy, some that I'm a case to be pitied or something along those lines - they don't mean to be patronizing or anything, but they just can't relate.
So thanks all for taking the time to share your stories, advice, or just by lending an ear, metaphorically speaking ;)
Love,
Simone
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: Wing Walker on January 20, 2008, 02:35:33 AM
Post by: Wing Walker on January 20, 2008, 02:35:33 AM
Thank you, Simone, for the mutual caring, interest, sharing, and friendship. I, too, have met people here who have become very special to me. I will be there for them in as much as my ability allows.
With hugs,
Wing Walker
With hugs,
Wing Walker
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: Sarah on January 20, 2008, 04:30:39 AM
Post by: Sarah on January 20, 2008, 04:30:39 AM
Hey!
Sure!
Good post!
:icon_kiss:
Hugs!
Sara
Sure!
Good post!
:icon_kiss:
Hugs!
Sara
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: Sheila on January 20, 2008, 10:58:55 AM
Post by: Sheila on January 20, 2008, 10:58:55 AM
Simone,
Very nice post. This is why I keep coming back to Susan's and the other board that I post on. I feel a kinship with all. I may not know any of you and you may not know me, but we all have something in common. It is something that is world changing for all of us. I may not know how to express myself very well, but I do the best I can. I will always tell the truth as I know it. My life may help others out and as you post about your transition you may be helping someone who is just starting or help someone who has transitioned and forgot about somethings.
Well, anyway, thank you for the post.
Sheila
Very nice post. This is why I keep coming back to Susan's and the other board that I post on. I feel a kinship with all. I may not know any of you and you may not know me, but we all have something in common. It is something that is world changing for all of us. I may not know how to express myself very well, but I do the best I can. I will always tell the truth as I know it. My life may help others out and as you post about your transition you may be helping someone who is just starting or help someone who has transitioned and forgot about somethings.
Well, anyway, thank you for the post.
Sheila
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: gothique11 on January 20, 2008, 11:12:34 PM
Post by: gothique11 on January 20, 2008, 11:12:34 PM
agreed, nice post.
--natalie
--natalie
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: funnygrl on January 20, 2008, 11:15:07 PM
Post by: funnygrl on January 20, 2008, 11:15:07 PM
definately, an excellent post!!! right on Simone.
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 21, 2008, 12:30:34 AM
Post by: RebeccaFog on January 21, 2008, 12:30:34 AM
Thanks for pointing out the best part of being one of us: having each other.
Rebis
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: bethzerosix on January 21, 2008, 12:43:19 AM
Post by: bethzerosix on January 21, 2008, 12:43:19 AM
great post lady amarant. i feel the same way. i am relatively new here but i feel very deeply connected to everyone here. this is the first place that i have found in my life where other people have gone through similar trials and tribulations and understand the inner turmoil that i face.
love to all, beth ^-^
love to all, beth ^-^
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: VeryGnawty on January 21, 2008, 09:30:08 AM
Post by: VeryGnawty on January 21, 2008, 09:30:08 AM
I am definitely closer to online personas than (most) of the people I know in real life. This is mainly because I can discuss things like gender, occult, paranormal, metaphysics, or science with at least someone of some intelligence.
When trying to relate these issues with people in real life, they usually make a face like this: ???
When trying to relate these issues with people in real life, they usually make a face like this: ???
Title: Re: A Note to Everybody at Susan's:
Post by: Laura91 on January 21, 2008, 09:50:08 AM
Post by: Laura91 on January 21, 2008, 09:50:08 AM
Quote from: VeryGnawty on January 21, 2008, 09:30:08 AM
I am definitely closer to online personas than (most) of the people I know in real life. This is mainly because I can discuss things like gender, occult, paranormal, metaphysics, or science with at least someone of some intelligence.
When trying to relate these issues with people in real life, they usually make a face like this: ???
That is the case with me too.