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Title: White Party
Post by: Jillian-TG on December 07, 2025, 12:31:45 PM
Post by: Jillian-TG on December 07, 2025, 12:31:45 PM
Just finished up another cruise with my wife and it was a breakthrough week for us. I dressed daily in plain androgynous looking woman's clothing (shorts, t shirts, nude hose etc). Had on light makeup often.
We have been married for almost 30 years and my gender fluidity / CD / trans (I don't even know what to call it anymore) has always been an issue. But slowly but surely she's showing more acceptance. She usually doesn't participate when I dress as a woman. She's ok with me dressing but usually keeps her distance. This past week I asked if I could go to the themed white party as a woman... this was full transformation with wig and full makeup and not the stealth stuff I was doing all week. Usually she would say no. Surprise surprise she agreed.
I was nervous as heck but the evening went well. The ship was already decorated for the holiday season and fellow passenger kindly took a picture of us.
Last month we did a Halloween themed cruise and I went as Wonder Woman but this was different. It's one thing to dress up over Halloween but entirely different from a regular party. I got a few "double looks" and negative stink eye from some guests at the white party but ignored them at the party. Most passengers were cool.
This past week on the cruise we've had some deep conversations and it feels like we have made real progress. So much so that I am more comfortable referring to myself as trans than a CD when talking to her. And she hasn't freaked out.
The massive breakthrough? She has agreed that we can take a cruise next year as a full girls trip where I can go fulltime as a woman with her. I'm literally thinking it must be a dream but this past week we have never laughed so much or had such a good time. And I told her it's because she's seeing the "real" me.
I'm very grateful for her and how things are progressing. I've told her that I want to come out of the closet and live more authentically but I will be patient and won't move faster than her comfort levels.
We have been married for almost 30 years and my gender fluidity / CD / trans (I don't even know what to call it anymore) has always been an issue. But slowly but surely she's showing more acceptance. She usually doesn't participate when I dress as a woman. She's ok with me dressing but usually keeps her distance. This past week I asked if I could go to the themed white party as a woman... this was full transformation with wig and full makeup and not the stealth stuff I was doing all week. Usually she would say no. Surprise surprise she agreed.
I was nervous as heck but the evening went well. The ship was already decorated for the holiday season and fellow passenger kindly took a picture of us.
Last month we did a Halloween themed cruise and I went as Wonder Woman but this was different. It's one thing to dress up over Halloween but entirely different from a regular party. I got a few "double looks" and negative stink eye from some guests at the white party but ignored them at the party. Most passengers were cool.
This past week on the cruise we've had some deep conversations and it feels like we have made real progress. So much so that I am more comfortable referring to myself as trans than a CD when talking to her. And she hasn't freaked out.
The massive breakthrough? She has agreed that we can take a cruise next year as a full girls trip where I can go fulltime as a woman with her. I'm literally thinking it must be a dream but this past week we have never laughed so much or had such a good time. And I told her it's because she's seeing the "real" me.
I'm very grateful for her and how things are progressing. I've told her that I want to come out of the closet and live more authentically but I will be patient and won't move faster than her comfort levels.
Title: Re: White Party
Post by: Pema on December 07, 2025, 12:53:09 PM
Post by: Pema on December 07, 2025, 12:53:09 PM
Jillian, this is wonderful to read. Thank you so much for sharing it and congratulations on this opening up to the authentic life you deserve.
Title: Re: White Party
Post by: tgirlamg on December 07, 2025, 01:05:14 PM
Post by: tgirlamg on December 07, 2025, 01:05:14 PM
Jillian!... Well done little sister!... Looking Gorgeous!
Onward!
Ashley 💕
Onward!
Ashley 💕
Title: Re: White Party
Post by: Lori Dee on December 07, 2025, 01:17:26 PM
Post by: Lori Dee on December 07, 2025, 01:17:26 PM
Quote from: Jillian-TG on December 07, 2025, 12:31:45 PMAnd I told her it's because she's seeing the "real" me.
I'm very grateful for her and how things are progressing. I've told her that I want to come out of the closet and live more authentically but I will be patient and won't move faster than her comfort levels.
This is the key to success. You look great!
By not pressuring her, but letting her know it is important to you opens that line of communication. And as you noticed, both of you are happier and laughing more because it is easier to relax and be yourself.
Congrats!
Title: Re: White Party
Post by: Charlotte_Ringwood on December 07, 2025, 02:35:57 PM
Post by: Charlotte_Ringwood on December 07, 2025, 02:35:57 PM
So great to see that you could relax and be yourself. Must have felt amazing for sure. You look very elegant and beautiful.
Here's to even more amazing outings!
Here's to even more amazing outings!
Title: Re: White Party
Post by: Jillian-TG on December 07, 2025, 07:12:36 PM
Post by: Jillian-TG on December 07, 2025, 07:12:36 PM
Thank you for all the kind comments.
We've both been commenting how much we laughed and acted silly this past week. That's remarkable considering we are approaching our 30th wedding anniversary next month. I think she's finally connected the dots that the real me isnt someone cosplaying being a man. The real me is feminine and girly but that also doesn't define me. Labels aside, I'm just a nicer person when I can drop the act and lower my guard. My wife finally saw that this past week. I'm not saying she has accepted that I am trans (she hasn't) but she said she's willing to try to better understand me. We agreed that we need a week together where I am fulltime as a woman so she can decide how it feels for her. We are aiming to do that cruise the end of March. We actually have another one prior to that next month January (yes we cruise too often lol) but that's our 30th anniversary cruise. I'm smart enough to know that she doesn't want me dressing 24/7 on that special event cruise.
Anyways I need to be patient and not make her feel pressured. I'm grateful for any progress because she is a special woman.
We've both been commenting how much we laughed and acted silly this past week. That's remarkable considering we are approaching our 30th wedding anniversary next month. I think she's finally connected the dots that the real me isnt someone cosplaying being a man. The real me is feminine and girly but that also doesn't define me. Labels aside, I'm just a nicer person when I can drop the act and lower my guard. My wife finally saw that this past week. I'm not saying she has accepted that I am trans (she hasn't) but she said she's willing to try to better understand me. We agreed that we need a week together where I am fulltime as a woman so she can decide how it feels for her. We are aiming to do that cruise the end of March. We actually have another one prior to that next month January (yes we cruise too often lol) but that's our 30th anniversary cruise. I'm smart enough to know that she doesn't want me dressing 24/7 on that special event cruise.
Anyways I need to be patient and not make her feel pressured. I'm grateful for any progress because she is a special woman.