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Hello.

I have been here a long time and I just now was thinking it may be good to have my own blog to share about my transitioning.  I am unsure what to share or emphasize or where to start, so I guess I will simply begin.


I was fortunate when discussing transitioning with my doc. 
At that point I already had gender counseling for over a year.
I wanted proper medical supervision of my medical (pharmaceutical) transition as well as with continuing my social transition, and I was very happy that this all worked out.

I remember giving my doc my therapist's letter for starting my MTF HRT.  It has all worked out well.  Since then I have had regular blood tests, physicals, mammograms, and therapy sessions (now, as needed.)  Prior to the HRT I used food sources of estrogen for over five years.  I had some positive results.

Although I have had issues at work as my appearance changed over time, now I have a wonderfully understanding work situation, and I am grateful.  I am pleased I can work not only appearing as a modestly but femininely dressed woman, I am treated as a woman.

I think over time, as I was slowly changing my appearance as I could without, then with MTF HRT, there was wondering what was going on with Chris.  After I received my HRT start letter and my doctor was helpful, the HRT comforted me and I noticed some small changes.  Over time I found my breasts enlarged, mostly in what I think were three growth spurts.

My work blazers began fill out to my body changes nicely.  It was so nice to look down and not see flatness any longer.  Over time I wore more feminine clothes without as much concern although I am not body beautiful.  Sure I can get noticed in not the best of ways some days but that is part of transitioning.  It is nice when other women give me compliments on my average middle age conservative appearance too, that is refreshing. 

I can have a noticeable breasts to waist curve, depending on what I wear; but, my hips just do not seem to have widened much at all.  I have noticed more fat and rounded thighs but not a nice rounded bottom that I wished I had, along with wider hips.  I wished my breast to waist ratio was wider too.

I prefer wearing my own hair, which at times goes from a blunt cut one length Bob to a pretty pixie and then back again to more of a Bob style.  When I wish to have a long hair look I wear a nice wig.  I enjoy using hair adornments.  It is much harder to look masculine with a Bob cut, but with the Pixie, well, lots of guys seem to wear that hairstyle; however, on a woman it does look feminine. I enjoy going to a hair stylist for a feminine cut.  She has been so nice. 

I try to have my face look nice, paying most attention to foundation, my eyes, and lipstick.  For sure I go light with cosmetics.

I used to crossdress but I eventually realized that I am transgender.  With my therapist, I came to accept myself as okay.

Hugs to all,

Chrissy

About time you started a blog!!!!Sounds like you had a good "journey" and are now living as you should.

Finally, The Story of Chrissy! Welcome to your new blog, and thanks for sharing your beginnings with us.

You have been here longer than many of us, encouraging others in their journeys. It is wonderful that we get to share in yours now.

This is your home, so decorate it as you see fit. Yes, we focus on our transition journeys, but there is more to life than just being transgender, gay, non-binary, or whatever. We have other interests, hobbies, challenges, and some even have jobs. This is your space to discuss any topics that you are comfortable sharing about.

Thanks again for starting this blog!

Big Hugs!

Thank you for starting this, Chrissy. It's interesting and helpful for us newer folks to have this perspective of the people who've been around here for a long while.

My one comment is that this:

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 14, 2025, 10:00:41 AMalthough I am not body beautiful.

is just one person's opinion. That person is the one who's opinion counts, but it's still only an opinion. Beauty takes infinitely many forms.

  @ChrissyRyan 

Dear Chrissy:

You have been a registered member here on the Forum for almost 8 years... I am so very
happy to see that you now have started your own Blog thread here on the Forum.

You can consider your Blog thread as your HOME here on the Forum where your readers and
followers can  find you to leave their comments and to share with you. 

Also your Blog thread is your shared personal journal that you can use to write down your thoughts
and comments as you navigate your journey and your life endeavors.

I have some older Blog threads here from several years ago that I still go back to
read what I had shared...  great memories of my trials and tribulations as I documented
my own journey. 

I also keep a personal "old school" pen & paper journal for my eyes only... complete with
colorful doodling and snapshot pictures. 
On a cold and rainy night I can be found in my comfy chair in front of my warm fireplace
reading over some of my past writings... sometimes with tears in my eyes and sometimes
with a smile on my face.

As you feel free to share your story you can find comfort in knowing that when you
share your heartache, trials, difficulties and unpleasant experiences that test your
resilience and strength... that you have like-minded members and friends here that will
be at your side to offer their shoulders for you to lean on, and their ears to listen.
On the other hand, when you share your successes, accomplishments,and happy moments we will
rejoice with you and help you to celebrate those good times in your journey.

I look forward to following your "The Story of Chrissy" Blog thread and I also am
eagerly looking for your future postings around the various threads on the Forum.

My warmest HUGS ... and happy Blogging and Journaling
Danielle [Northern Star Girl] 😃
      The Forum Administrator

Thank you to each of you for your nice comments. 

Have a wonderful weekend!


Chrissy

💕 Hi Chrissy!

Your own blog!... How wonderful! Well done sister!!!

Onward!!!

Ashley 💕

Dear Chrissy,

Wow, I've seen you start so many thread on this forum.  It never occurred to me that you didn't have a blog of your own.  There's so much about you scattered amongst so many un-related posts.  I'm looking forward to seeing how your blog develops.

I do have a question for you, if you don't mind.  You said you used food sources for estrogen sources 5 years prior to starting HRT, but you never said how long ago you started HRT.  Please don't feel obligated to answer, I'm just a little curious.

Warm Regards,
Paulie.

YAY CHRISSY!!!

I am so glad that you started your own blog.  It sounds like you are living your dream and finding the joy you deserve. I am looking forward to hearing more about your journey as it unfolds!

Hi Chrissy

It is really nice to see you tell your story.  I am sorry I have not got around to replying to you sooner on this momentous occasion.

After reading your first blog story I noticed the care you took with your doctor and therapist and with proper medical supervision shows how much you value your health and it is great to see how that steady approach has helped you and how settled you now feel at work.  Your honest reflections on body changes and on finding your own style speak to a growing comfort in your skin and your journey toward self acceptance takes real courage.

Thank you for sharing all of this.  After being here for so long and offering kindness and encouragement to so many others, it is lovely to now hear more of your own path.  I am really looking forward to reading more as your blog grows.

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
@ChrissyRyan

Thank you ladies for all your kind words.


Chrissy

When it comes down to it, going full time takes courage, at least for me.
I spent some weeks away from home being my newer self, and that became easier each time.

Transitioning is not easy.  Yes, it is easier for some.  There are hardships. 

It is working out for me now and I really enjoy being me.  I dislike having to present as a male any longer for anything and I hope I can stick to my guns and not do it ever.  We shall see.  Sometimes I just see a good reason to do so.  You might also.  But it is not what I wish to do.

I feel natural as a woman.  I have been in MTF HRT for about five years and my body may not change much from this point on.  But that is okay.  I have had some changes that I like.

Do have a really nice day everyone, I hope you do.

Chrissy

Merry Christmas, Chrissy!

I, too, sometimes go out in "guy-mode" because it is necessary. When I am prospecting, especially alone, I do it for a few reasons:

My men's clothing is more durable for mining operations and doesn't require a lot of fashion sense.

If someone sees me, they do not think I am a woman alone in the woods. I do not need help, nor am I a potential target.

I am usually very busy, so I don't have time for flirtation or small talk with someone who might want to chat me up.

Being in guy mode discourages that. I am not comfortable presenting like that, but I am usually too busy to think about it. I can always reward myself later with a bubble bath.

😁

Quote from: Lori Dee on December 24, 2025, 10:50:14 AMMerry Christmas, Chrissy!

I, too, sometimes go out in "guy-mode" because it is necessary. When I am prospecting, especially alone, I do it for a few reasons:

My men's clothing is more durable for mining operations and doesn't require a lot of fashion sense.

If someone sees me, they do not think I am a woman alone in the woods. I do not need help, nor am I a potential target.

I am usually very busy, so I don't have time for flirtation or small talk with someone who might want to chat me up.

Being in guy mode discourages that. I am not comfortable presenting like that, but I am usually too busy to think about it. I can always reward myself later with a bubble bath.

😁

This makes great sense.

Merry Christmas Lori Dee!


Chrissy

Happy xmas x

I am staying home this evening instead of going to a party.
I really did not feel all that welcome.  I am skipping the requested androgynous look for that get together.

But there will be other parties.

Have a nice evening everyone!


Chrissy

I took a nice lavender bath this afternoon.  Those are so relaxing and I like the nice scent.

You should try one if you have not had this pleasure.


Chrissy

I also gave myself a manicure (not professional, just self done) and my nails are a pretty lavender today.  I guess I have a lavender theme today.  Even my cashmere cardigan is lavender!

Chrissy



Gosh, this is my 17,000th post.  There would likely be 50,000 more if there was no server crash here,as  many messages were wiped out for so many people.

Perhaps I "talk" too much!

I usually do not wear a long wig but today I wanted to.  I also have a bow in the back.  I do not wear the bows when going to work with long hair as it is more of a younger look.  But I like it and I am at home today.  Long hair gives you some different possibilities for looks.  I often change up from draping my hair some on both sides down the front and then more in the back.  Or just on one side down the front.  Here's a cheer to hair adornments! 

Chrissy

Hi Chrissy

When you provide insight into your life, like the above post and other thought provoking questions in other threads, the above post yields the following for me:

I dislike having to present as a male any longer for anything + It is not what I wish to do + I feel natural as a woman = You are a female, so go live your life as a female.

Chrissy, reading about your few weeks away really resonates with me.  I know how you feel.  Just like my two Christmas holidays, one for a couple of days the other for over a week, I was happy and content with not a worry in the world.  Honestly I could not get enough of it.

Those times showed me what felt right deep down and why going back would be so hard.  When you say you enjoy being you now and that presenting as male is no longer what you wish to do, it sounds like you have found where you belong.  I hope you can stick to your guns and keep living in the way that feels natural to you.  I wish with all my heart that you can find the peace you so richly deserve.

Oh!  You also have a really nice day too.

Sarah
xoxo
PS  I can see that you have had a nice day!

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Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
@ChrissyRyan

Merry Christmas to all!


Chrissy

Quote from: Sarah B on December 24, 2025, 02:48:40 PMHi Chrissy

When you provide insight into your life, like the above post and other thought provoking questions in other threads, the above post yields the following for me:

I dislike having to present as a male any longer for anything + It is not what I wish to do + I feel natural as a woman = You are a female, so go live your life as a female.

Chrissy, reading about your few weeks away really resonates with me.  I know how you feel.  Just like my two Christmas holidays, one for a couple of days the other for over a week, I was happy and content with not a worry in the world.  Honestly I could not get enough of it.

Those times showed me what felt right deep down and why going back would be so hard.  When you say you enjoy being you now and that presenting as male is no longer what you wish to do, it sounds like you have found where you belong.  I hope you can stick to your guns and keep living in the way that feels natural to you.  I wish with all my heart that you can find the peace you so richly deserve.

Oh!  You also have a really nice day too.

Sarah
xoxo
PS  I can see that you have had a nice day!

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❤️🎁🎊🎉🎉🎉💕💕🎉🎉🎉🎊🎁❤️

Merry Christmas and a

Happy New Year

Chrissy

❤️🎁🎊🎉🎉🎉💕💕🎉🎉🎉🎊🎁❤️

I wish all your dreams come true.

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Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
@ChrissyRyan

Sarah, 


You are so sweet!

Hugs!


Chrissy

Chrissy, I'm glad to see you have your own blog now. I'm looking forward to reading it. 😎

Quote from: Alana Ashleigh on December 24, 2025, 04:15:07 PMChrissy, I'm glad to see you have your own blog now. I'm looking forward to reading it. 😎

Alana,

I am sure most of my posts would be rather uninteresting to most people!  I hope you will find the posts that turn out to be exceptions though!  Thank you for your kind thoughts.


Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 24, 2025, 02:36:05 PMPerhaps I "talk" too much!

Definitely NOT.

You bring us all sunshine and cheer. When you go quiet, we start to worry if the End of the World is near.

😁

Hi everyone!

I hope each of you had a nice Christmas and are enjoying this holiday time.

I also hope you are getting good weather.  I know some parts of both coasts of the USA have or will have bad weather.


Chrissy

For me, a perfect Christmas season needs to have COLD and SNOW ...
... and their is plenty of that here.

It was 73 degrees here on Christmas Eve. I heard a lawnmower running.

You can have the cold and snow, Danielle!

Hopefully, our people on the East and West coasts will be okay.

It almost hit 50 here in Chicago today. I was running errands and had my hoodie off. 

You sent the cold this way-------------

It's a lovely 41 here...had to convert as I work on degC!

We don't get much below 0c anymore as winters are getting warmer every year. Don't know if global warming or something else.

Quote from: davina61 on December 27, 2025, 03:34:28 AMYou sent the cold this way-------------

Davina,

I think the cold will go away for you soon!

Chrissy

Today my outdoor thermometer reads minus -39 degrees (F)  =    -39.5 C
 
It is now lightly snowing.

Short winter days and very long winter nights:
Sunrise:  11:05am    (in about an hour from now)
Sunset:    2:39pm

It will be warming up later today with a "high" that
is forecast to be  minus -34 degrees (F)  =    -37 C

It's so great to see your blog here, Chrissy, and to learn a little bit about you! Thanks for sharing.

It's in the high 30s (F) in the Mid-Atlantic region of the U.S. today. I was just outside, working on our little "endless" swimming pool, which will be heated up to 88º in time for an early evening swim. Temps in the mid to high 50s are on the way for Monday.

Quote from: Courtney G on December 27, 2025, 02:03:03 PMIt's so great to see your blog here, Chrissy, and to learn a little bit about you! Thanks for sharing.

It's in the high 30s (F) in the Mid-Atlantic region of the U.S. today. I was just outside, working on our little "endless" swimming pool, which will be heated up to 88º in time for an early evening swim. Temps in the mid to high 50s are on the way for Monday.

Thank you for your nice words Courtney.

Chrissy

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on December 27, 2025, 01:02:06 PMToday my outdoor thermometer reads minus -39 degrees (F)  =    -39.5 C
 
It is now lightly snowing.

Short winter days and very long winter nights:
Sunrise:  11:05am    (in about an hour from now)
Sunset:    2:39pm

It will be warming up later today with a "high" that
is forecast to be  minus -34 degrees (F)  =    -37 C

I thought us Chicago girls were tough to survive winter here. -39f. Omg, that's cold.

Happy New Year, Chrissy!

Quote from: Dances With Trees on January 01, 2026, 07:45:41 AMHappy New Year, Chrissy!

Thank you.  Happy new year to you too!


Chrissy

I hope all of you have a pleasant year.

It would be nice if your transitioning goes very well.

I hope your relationships are most understanding.  Be kind no matter what, sometimes compromises are really a good thing for all involved.   Genuine caring goes a long way.

Be all that you can be!

Hugs,

Chrissy

I had a pleasant lunch today.  It is nice to eat out with a friend.

I was good, I only had an appetizer.  It was a big one though.  Yum.


Chrissy

No matter how many friends we may have, it's always nice to have a meal with a friend. Catching up on each other's lives helps us all stay connected. With all that's going on in the world today, a casual conversation with a friend can be a nice break.

Happy New Year, Christine!

Love always -- Jess

The first time I got feminine eyeglasses the optical technician had a slightly odd smile on her face.  Some guy who wants to look like a female she must have thought.  Well of course, as I came in looking much like a guy, so that was somewhat expected.  I did get good service.

But they were nice to wear.  That was like ten years ago. 

Do you remember the first time you went in to get eyeglasses that have a female style?

Now I come in as a woman and do not get that reaction.  Again, one would hope so!


Chrissy

I received a reminder from a radiology center to setup an appointment for my annual mammogram.  Be sure to do this as often as your physician wants you to get one.  I have had dense breast tissue and had to go back but all turned out well. 

I always get a small pink ribbon to wear the rest of the day when I am at the check-in counter.


Chrissy

I try to choose light frames with a unisex style (similar to Lori's). But I know the look you're talking about and saw it on the pharmacist's face when I stopped in for my monthly HRT prescription.

Mine was at the VA. They all knew about my transition (it is in my medical records). I couldn't find a frame to fit my face, and one of the ladies helped me find some that fit.

Now, I don't care what style they are as long as they fit and are comfortable. The frame I tried on and selected was a brown color. These are the rose chrome that I like. I don't know who selected the color, but I love it. I noticed that in some light, they are rose colored metal, but in others, they look more purplish. I still like them.

Lori,

I am glad you like your eyeglasses.  I have tried many frames, inexpensive to a bit more than I really wanted to spend, and some tinting.  Some metal, some plastic, some unisex, some female, some seemingly very bendable even!  I have not got any manly looking glasses though in about six years.  I also have not bought any of those "smart glasses." 

Chrissy

I loved getting my first feminine frames! I got my name changed on my records at the store on the same day, so the lovely staff member that served me knew I was trans. We chatted makeup tips, how she loved my name choice and  then helped me choose glasses. I got the cat eye style ones of course!

To be honest most people I've come across in these situations have been lovely. Most of them love my open bubbly personality, chatting away and just seeing a trans person grow.

Regarding mammogram I think the NHS here says after 5 years on hrt to start. Now I'm female on my medical records I expect I'll get an invite sometime.

Just noticed you finally made a blog, Chrissy. Therefore I am obligated to poke my nose in and give you a big hug. <3

Quote from: Charlotte_Ringwood on January 10, 2026, 05:05:14 PMRegarding mammogram I think the NHS here says after 5 years on hrt to start. Now I'm female on my medical records I expect I'll get an invite sometime.

I had my first one before I started HRT. The VA wanted to check to make sure I didn't already have something that estradiol would exacerbate. Then I had one every year until 2023. My Primary said I could switch to every two years. I had one in 2025, even though all is good and nothing has changed, now they want one every year again. They need to keep an eye on us old folks.

Quote from: Sephirah on January 10, 2026, 05:11:11 PMJust noticed you finally made a blog, Chrissy. Therefore I am obligated to poke my nose in and give you a big hug. <3

Thanks Lauren.

I will not have much of interest to say here but sometimes I might.  Who knows when though. 
I am kind of boring, unlike you or Lori Dee or Sarah or about most everyone else here.

Chrissy

Chrissy!

You are most definitely NOT boring.

I love the way you see the world. I wish everyone could see it the way you do. You have a way of making even little things that might annoy us seem temporary, and that the future ahead of us is bright.

You just stay private about your personal life, and there is nothing wrong with that. Sarah is the same way, and so are many of us. Maybe you could share some of your interests. What do you like to do when you are not at work? It doesn't have to be exciting or complex. Simple things are important too.

My best friend in South Dakota enjoys making crafts. They are nothing special, just small trinkets made out of everyday items. She enjoys coloring. She doesn't have artistic skills to draw, but she is very good at coloring. I have a picture she did hanging on my living room wall.

What about games, or movies, or TV shows? I bet there are many things that you enjoy that others enjoy too. But this is your space, so you use it as you want to, not what anyone else does with theirs. Just don't ever think that you are boring, because you are not.

Just keep letting us know that life is good. Remind us to have a kind and gentle manner. Because we all need that kind of reminder from time to time.

Any thing but boring my dear, I look forward to the word association and try to be random! Life is life, tell it how it is even if its just normal daily stuff coz that what everyday life is all about.

Each day we should work towards becoming more loving, more kind, just, and pay attention to our relationships. Besides most importantly honoring God each day, we have things that need to get done, each with various levels of importance and urgency (those two characteristics, importance and urgency, are NOT the same). 

Transcending those tasks is our relationships.  People are important.  Life is too short to not cherish them.  You do not have to be romantically or sexually involved to show love.  In fact, there are various types of love.  Agape love is sometimes difficult to embrace when you feel slighted or hurt, yet it is what God gives us unconditionally.  So always try to show love. 

Real love comes from a mindset of wanting to do what is best for others, it comes from the heart, as well as your mind, because you have to want to, you have to purposefully demonstrate love in thought and in your actions. 

Unfortunately many in the world hurt others, their actions are far from love.  Treat others in all the good ways you would want them to treat you.  This does not mean everyone will think and do everything the way you do it, and agree with you about all things, far from it. 

However, try to remember that no act of kindness is too small.  Be grateful.

Maybe today you can make someone's day, and bring a smile to her or his face.  Make it so.


Hugs,

Chrissy

This is a beautiful thought, Chrissy!

Thank you for sharing it with us.

Hugs! and love!

I was thinking on how people can easily take some things for granted.

When you enjoy a wholesome meal, there are many with not enough nourishment.
When you have a roof over your head, there are many who are homeless, not by choice.
When you have clean, good clothes to wear, some people do not have that.
When you are in good health, there are many who have health issues.
When you have a job or otherwise can afford your expenses, many struggle to make ends meet.
When you are of sound mind and can think clearly, others are experiencing significant mental issues.
When you have friends and are not lonely, there are many who are lonely.
When you believe in the Lord and have salvation, there are still many who are lost and have not been saved.

We should always be thankful and grateful.  We should always be good, kind, have compassion for others, and be thoughtful.  Let us all make that so.


Chrissy

I am, good health is top of my list. Thankful for my 3 kids and their children, I have a nice flat and also get to do my hobby . The universe will provide if you let it.

I'm thankful for all I have got and have made for sure. I vowed to be independent after losing my home twice due to reliance on others.I just wish I was sound of mind. At least I'm functional even if quite a tortured soul. I'm mostly glad  I can keep my boyfriend and 3 cats with food and a roof over their heads. That's what makes the work struggle worth it. They are my world and want to keep them safe and happy.

Chrissy, sorry for being so late to your blog! I agree with everyone here, you are not boring!  You proved that with your recent entries:

"Each day we should work towards becoming more loving, more kind, just, and pay attention to our relationships."

and

"I was thinking on how people can easily take some things for granted."

You share your wonderful heart with all of us, and that is never boring!!!

Big hug,

Emma

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on January 16, 2026, 10:07:02 PMWe should always be thankful and grateful.  We should always be good, kind, have compassion for others, and be thoughtful. 

Chrissy,

What you wrote is so true. It was something my parents taught me to believe. I try and live it every day.

Ellen

Thanks, Chrissy, for such beautiful and loving thoughts.

Quote from: Emma1017 on January 17, 2026, 07:54:22 AMChrissy, sorry for being so late to your blog! I agree with everyone here, you are not boring!  You proved that with your recent entries:

"Each day we should work towards becoming more loving, more kind, just, and pay attention to our relationships."

and

"I was thinking on how people can easily take some things for granted."

You share your wonderful heart with all of us, and that is never boring!!!

Big hug,

Emma

Thank you Emma!


Chrissy

I did a lot of cleaning this week.  Did some more today after a walk.  Everything looks nice.

I am glad it's all done.  Took a shower and my hair is drying.  I think I might watch a travel show.

Chrissy

Having a clean home is very satisfying. It can appear to be a daunting task initially, if only because it seems to be a never-ending chore. Although it requires dedication and time, the results are usually worth the cost.

Enjoy your show, Christine. You earned it.

Love always -- Jess

You can always pop over and clean my flat!! I do try and keep it tidy but some days I am too tired to do things like dusting.

The cleaning is something that makes for a more pleasant environment.
I usually clothes wash something about each day and dishes every other day. Bathrooms each week for sure and whenever needed.  Sweeping and mopping and countertops as needed, at least each week.     
I wash and air dry my bras once a week.

Dusting is done as needed, I do reach out to the ceiling corners and all along where the ceiling and walls meet to keep them cleaner. 

I would not say it is fun work but work that should be done.

Have a nice Sunday everyone!


Chrissy

@ChrissyRyan

Dear Chrissy:
Wishing YOU a very Happy February 5th Birthday
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On your birthday, check your profile for a special gift...

    Again, wishing you well and enjoy your special day.

Warm Regards and HUGS,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
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Happy Birthday, Chrissy!

We love you!

A very happy birthday my dear XXX

Happy Birthday Chrissy. Have a belta of a day!

Happy Birthday Christine!

Love always -- Jess

Happy birthday too

Charlotte x

Thank you all for your birthday posts.


Chrissy

 
Sorry, I was late to the party.  I hope it was a great day.

Emma,


It was nice day.  Thank you.


Chrissy

I had the day off yesterday.  Today we went out as a group for lunch for my birthday.  Before that we had cupcakes.  It was all very nice. 



Chrissy

Just "cupcakes"?

C'mon Chrissy. We need details! What flavor? Frosted? Sprinkles?

Don't hold out on us.

Hugs!

They were yellow cake cupcakes, frosted and tasty.

There were also some large blueberry muffins.

I had one of each.


Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 07, 2026, 03:42:44 AMThey were yellow cake cupcakes, frosted and tasty.

There were also some large blueberry muffins.

I had one of each.


Chrissy

I do love yellow cake and blueberry muffins. Sounds yummy.

They were tasty. 

I am going shopping in a bit then maybe get some lunch when out.

Have a wonderful day everyone!


Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 07, 2026, 11:20:06 AMI am going shopping in a bit then maybe get some lunch when out.

Have a wonderful day everyone!


Chrissy

Hope you have a wonderful day too and just as importantly enjoy a tasty lunch!

Charlotte 😻

These were very big and heavy blueberry muffins.  Tasty.

Quote from: Charlotte_Ringwood on February 07, 2026, 11:23:29 AMHope you have a wonderful day too and just as importantly enjoy a tasty lunch!

Charlotte 😻

It was a nice lunch.  We all went to a local steakhouse that is open for lunch on Fridays.  I got a small steak, a filet, and it was really, really good.  They were all nice and I also received some gift cards and a birthday card signed by all. 

That sounds like a perfect Birthday Lunch, Chrissy!

It's been ages since I had a good filet. I might need to make that happen soon.

Wishing you a belated happy birthday, Chrissy!

It was a good week.  I hope it was a good one for you too.

Hugs,


Chrissy

Happy Birthday Chrissy.

Thanks again to everyone who expressed birthday wishes.

Chrissy

Smile!


That brightened your face I am sure and maybe someone else's!   Smiling is good!


Chrissy

@ChrissyRyan
Dear Chrissy: 
I will gladly be very appreciative of any compliments that are given to me.

Regarding your question about being told that "You look very feminine today, I do not find that to be a problem especially if it is coming from a friend that is aware of my transition journey.

My feeling is that a smart girl is always thankful for a compliment and I will smile and say "thank you"

HUGS, Danielle

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 09, 2026, 09:58:23 AMSmile!

That brightened your face I am sure and maybe someone else's!   Smiling is good!

Chrissy,

So true. It reminds me of the saying a local LA kids show always said "Smile and the world smiles with you, frown and you frown alone"

Words to live by

Ellen

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 07, 2026, 05:25:57 PMIt was a nice lunch.  We all went to a local steakhouse that is open for lunch on Fridays.  I got a small steak, a filet, and it was really, really good.  They were all nice and I also received some gift cards and a birthday card signed by all. 

I started to spend some of the gift card money received at my birthday lunch.  So far, it has been utilitarian purchases, a new big skillet and new towels at one store.  No new clothes or shoes!

Chrissy

I am thinking of taking a vacation.  Where are some places you like to go to, and why?

Chrissy

The island of Madeira. Beautiful lush gardens and flowers everywhere. Add to that lovely food and a very peaceful vibe.

Mountains, forest. Gold.
I thought you knew that!

This summer, my neighbor and I are thinking about driving down to Taos, New Mexico.
We plan to visit the Earthship Community there.

https://taos.org/explore/landmarks/taos-earthships/

Happy Valentine's Day!


Chrissy

Happy Valentine's Day, Chrissy!

I hope you all will have a wonderful day. 

I received beautiful roses last night from my Sweetie, she is so thoughtful.

Happy Valentine's Day, Chrissy!

Quote from: Dances With Trees on February 14, 2026, 11:16:43 AMHappy Valentine's Day, Chrissy!

Thank you!

Chrissy

Happy Valentine's Day, Chrissy. I hope it's a lovely day for you and yours.

I had an early morning workout at the gym.

I do not use the shower and changing rooms. I just arrive, use the exercise facilities, and leave.  Unless I had lower surgery I would not use those facilities.  Until surgery I will change and shower at home, which is what I would likely do any way. 

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 16, 2026, 09:12:09 AMI had an early morning workout at the gym.

I do not use the shower and changing rooms. I just arrive, use the exercise facilities, and leave.  Unless I had lower surgery I would not use those facilities.  Until surgery I will change and shower at home, which is what I would likely do any way. 

I feel the same with these things Chrissy, though shouldn't be that way. Starting to get more brave using bathrooms, but changing areas just seems more scary.

Wishing you lots of love.

Charlotte 😻

In the USA we have a holiday today.  Many are off work, some do work.  If you have the day off, enjoy your day.  If you are working, I hope your day goes well.

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 16, 2026, 09:12:09 AMI do not use the shower and changing rooms. I just arrive, use the exercise facilities, and leave.  Unless I had lower surgery I would not use those facilities.  Until surgery I will change and shower at home, which is what I would likely do any way. 

It was the same with me. Until, I had my GCS I never used public showers or changing rooms. I used public restrooms and clothing store dressing rooms that had doors. I believe that is the sensible approach.

Ellen

I am going for a walk later.  Do you like to walk or hike?  I find it nice to be outdoors and enjoy all the wonderful parts of nature.

I do not do many "exciting things" but I do enjoy these little things like taking in all birds, trees, streams, wildlife that you can see when being out on a trail.  I am waiting to enjoy the butterflies later this year.

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 16, 2026, 10:13:34 AMI am going for a walk later.  Do you like to walk or hike?  I find it nice to be outdoors and enjoy all the wonderful parts of nature.

I do not do many "exciting things" but I do enjoy these little things like taking in all birds, trees, streams, wildlife that you can see when being out on a trail.  I am waiting to enjoy the butterflies later this year.

Chrissy

I'm waiting for it to warm up and still be daylight when I get home from work. Then my bf and I regularly walk up the canal and a nature reserve that's a few minutes from my home. We love spring seeing the newly hatched ducklings and moorhens every day. Each visit we see different wildlife and flowers.

The evenings as the sun sets are special as the birds sing to each other and the atmosphere is really beautiful.  My mental health improves so much during the spring and summer months.

Do you have lots of nice places to walk near to you?

C😻

I just got invited to play Scrabble.  I was not planning to go out today as I have the day off.
I suggested they come over and they will, after stopping at KFC for some chicken and sides for us all.  Should be a fun few hours!


Chrissy
 

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on February 16, 2026, 10:13:34 AMI am going for a walk later.  Do you like to walk or hike?  I find it nice to be outdoors and enjoy all the wonderful parts of nature.

I do not do many "exciting things" but I do enjoy these little things like taking in all birds, trees, streams, wildlife that you can see when being out on a trail.  I am waiting to enjoy the butterflies later this year.

Chrissy

Yeah, I love the outdoors I go for walks regularly and visit our local nature reserves. I'm lucky to live in Northumberland, Englands least populated county and get to enjoy deserted beaches or remote wilderness and hills where you can't see sign of human civilisation for miles. It's good for the soul!

I also live within an hour (ish) of both the Lake District and Scotland so I usually holiday in one of those locations. The lakes are daytripable (is that a word?) for me too so it's a regular haunt.

Ooooh I love a good KFC!mmmmmm

The Scrabble game was good, it was a nice time.  The chicken tenders were good too.

I love a good Scrabble game.... 
    ...strengthens our vocabulary and spelling acumen

No good for me, dyslexic and Scrabble not a good mix!!

I am going to play Scrabble again today.  I will stop by a bakery and see if there is a yummy looking cake to take for a dessert break.  Cakes are getting more expensive it seems each year.  I can make cakes from a cake mix box but I did not plan my time well for today.

We might go shopping later but that may be better on another day. 

Have you ever played any of those special edition Monopoly games?  These would be like a California edition or something that makes the game more than simply a fancy edition of the base game.


Chrissy

Yeah, I have dogoply. I bought years ago as a birthday gift for my late wife. She was a very big dog lover. We took it with us on a number of car vacations.

Ellen

My son and my wife are super competitive in Scrabble, so I leave them to it.  They are also big Wordle fans. I am a big computer game nerd. 

I am with you, Chrissy. We just went to the bakery for scones and fresh bread.  We have another round of snow coming tomorrow, 6-12 inches.  Hot chocolate and marshmallows are all set, too.

Back from the Scrabble game.

I took a two layer carrot cake.  It was more than enough.  I left it with the hosts.
I do not need the extra calories.  Yummy though.

Chrissy

I hope you each have been doing well.
I do not have much to share right now.

It is nice to live each day, without much of a hassle of being trans.
Yet, it is not a perfect situation.  Being trans does not exactly fit in well with society.
However I need to be me and I am very thankful I have a peaceful situation that seems to be stable. I simply want to always just blend in.

I wish each of you to have a nice life.  Transitioning is not easy.  If you cannot because of life situations, try to make the best of life. 

No matter what, appreciate what you have, treat people with love, and be a good person.

Hugs,

Chrissy

I'm very pleased to hear that you have peace despite what's happening out there I'm some places. But I find that most people really are friendly and helpful. Got to ignore the vocal minority of haters and keep in heart those that appreciate us.

Thanks as always for your kind words to us all. There is no a reason to treat people badly, it's much nicer to be kind. It feels nice to be kind and appreciate each other as fellow humans with similar desires and dreams.

Charlotte 😻

Thank you, Chrissy!

As the song goes, "Don't worry. Be Happy."

@ChrissyRyan
Dear Chrissy:
Very beautifully stated.

The good advice that you shared is priceless....
"Transitioning is not easy.  If you cannot because of life situations, try to make the best of life."

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
  The Forum Admin

QuoteI hope you each have been doing well.
I do not have much to share right now.

It is nice to live each day, without much of a hassle of being trans.
Yet, it is not a perfect situation.  Being trans does not exactly fit in well with society.
However I need to be me and I am very thankful I have a peaceful situation that seems to be stable. I simply want to always just blend in.

I wish each of you to have a nice life.  Transitioning is not easy.  If you cannot because of life situations, try to make the best of life. 

No matter what, appreciate what you have, treat people with love, and be a good person.

Hugs,

Chrissy

I have the morning off.  I will have my mammogram scan this morning. 

Have a nice day!


Chrissy

My mammogram results were good.  No need for any follow up this year.

Mammograms are not fun, but they are a good idea. I'm glad yours came back negative.

Love always -- Jess

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 06, 2026, 07:13:18 PMMy mammogram results were good.  No need for any follow up this year.

That is good news, Chrissy! Keep the ta-tas healthy. 😁

They no longer feel like they were pancaked and they are back to firm apples!
Well a bit squishy to the touch, so let us say, oranges!

Will they become like grapefruit?  Probably not!  Good thing, as grapefruits can be sort of heavy to hold.

I am grateful for what I have.

As I mentioned in a response in another topic, it is nice getting some attention and niceties done for you as a woman.  It is nice for a door to be held for you, as an example.  So I am noticed and perceived as a woman in these cases for sure.

I am not attracted sexually to males and I do not wish to be romantically involved with one.

I do not think I am particularly attractive except that my sweetie, she thinks I am attractive.

To add to this already mentioned I can add these thoughts:

It does really "feel good" to be treated as a woman, thus being recognized as one.  I very much enjoy this.  I hope it never ends as I age.  It is gratifying.

I am getting some hints recently that maybe I am getting some attention that I do not want.  Not bad I guess but I am not interested in men. In a way, this is somewhat affirming but it is not desired relationship wise. 

Chrissy

As I'm not out yet I haven't experienced that personally but I can totaly see that as being afirming. I would hope though, that it has nothing to do with being viewed as sexually attractive. In boy mode I hold the door for any woman regardless of age, size or attractiveness. It would be nice if, when the roles are reversed, people would afford me the same courtesy.

I'm not sure how I would react to sexualy motivated attention, I have zero experience with that in either gender role, at least not to my knowledge!

@ChrissyRyan
Dear Chrissy:
I am glad to read your good news regarding your mammogram results.

HUGS, Danielle[Northern Star Girl]
  The Forum Admin

I seem to often cry when I watch emotional, touching scenes in movies and TV shows.
I do not know why.  I just do.  It is like I am experiencing what some of the actors so skillfully represented, and what the writers wanted some of the audience to experience.

Chrissy

@ChrissyRyan
Dear Chrissy:
What you mentioned regarding crying more easily and more often.... 
.... this is something that I have personally experienced and I have read
the same reports from many of our MTFmembers over the years.

I watch a lot or romantic movies and I always keep a box of Kleenex by my side.

  I blame it on Estrogen !

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 07, 2026, 06:23:33 PMI seem to often cry when I watch emotional, touching scenes in movies and TV shows.
I do not know why.  I just do.  It is like I am experiencing what some of the actors so skillfully represented, and what the writers wanted some of the audience to experience.

Chrissy

I have cried before with these shows but it seems to have much increased for sure since these years of estrogen.  Plus I really enjoy romantic movies.  Sometimes my sweetie is laying down on her or my sofa, with her head in my lap and we watch together.  I seem to cry slightly more often than her but she has been watching these kinds of shows far longer than me so perhaps that has something to do with that.  I don't know.  Sometimes she says the endings are predictable but she still likes them as I do.  At a commercial break she looks up at me and her long blonde hair with its waves and her gorgeous blue eyes and pretty smile, this just captivates me.  She is so intelligent too, so much for the blonde jokes they do not apply to her.  She gets me talking a lot more, she has that conversationalist skill. 

Well any way I digressed a bit there, sorry. 

Now I will figure out what movie to watch! 


Chrissy

As you go about work and being with others this week, be sure to pay attention to each one.  Listen attentively, look at them as they talk and as you talk.  Do not look at anything else but them.  This makes for a stronger connection, better communication, and warmth.  Yes, occasionally you might glance at something but the primary focus is on the others.

Perhaps you do this all the time.  There are people that look down or up or at other things. They do not make much eye contact.

I find that when with other women we seem to look at each other more than many men do. Really.

If you find it hard to look up as you talk, put your elbow on the table and prop up your chin as you have your conversation. 

It is important to make connections with people.  It may take some effort but if you do, you will appreciate the time together. 

I think this also shows you care.

I see no downsides.  Maybe in some cultures you do not look at each other.  But in ours, I think it is the way to go.

Is it even possible for a woman to just be friendly with man who is not family?
I suppose if you knew this person for a long time it is easier to just be friendly.
Notice I am not saying to be a friend, just friendly.

Seems like too much chance to fall in a woman-man relationship.  No emotional relationship please!

I guess one just needs to set clear boundaries.  Even if your ages vastly differ. 

I am sensing more unwanted attention.  I will handle it.  I guess this is just another thing a person needs to deal with head on if necessary.


Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 10, 2026, 08:41:23 PMIs it even possible for a woman to just be friendly with man who is not family?
I suppose if you knew this person for a long time it is easier to just be friendly.
Notice I am not saying to be a friend, just friendly.

Seems like too much chance to fall in a woman-man relationship.  No emotional relationship please!

I guess one just needs to set clear boundaries.  Even if your ages vastly differ. 

I am sensing more unwanted attention.  I will handle it.  I guess this is just another thing a person needs to deal with head on if necessary.


Chrissy

Not everything needs to lead to sex. If politely telling him you are not interested doesn't work, it might require a firmer approach. Do you wear a ring?

You might try flashing that and say something like, "Sorry, I'm taken."

If he gets the message, there is no reason you can't be friendly. If he continues to creep, tell him firmly to back off.

It's definitely possible, but not with everyone you meet. Maybe not with most - and that makes it difficult to want to take the risk.

Quote from: Lori Dee on March 10, 2026, 08:49:17 PMNot everything needs to lead to sex. If politely telling him you are not interested doesn't work, it might require a firmer approach. Do you wear a ring?

You might try flashing that and say something like, "Sorry, I'm taken."

If he gets the message, there is no reason you can't be friendly. If he continues to creep, tell him firmly to back off.

I am not even thinking about sex or creep.  I just have some issues of those who may want share things about their relationship that may sound like a complaint of how it is going.  This could lead to some emotional relationships between people of the opposite sex, which by the way, could in specific cases, spark a desire for it to turn sexual by one of those persons.  Not me!

So while I can listen to why someone is having a bad day or is sad but for some unknown reason, people want to share things with me.  Maybe they think I can relate to both the male and female side of their issue!  Who knows!  Regardless, I tread carefully. 

As a guy I may listen to a man I know talk about these things but as a woman, unless I was in a professional therapist type of role and working with a client, I feel uncomfortable after hearing much of this.  Not that I am uncaring. 

I am dealing with this. 


Chrissy

I agree, Chrissy. There is a difference between being a friend and being a therapist. Some relationships forget where the boundary is.

It's the cost of being the caring person you are, but you seem like you are always willing to be there for someone.

That makes you a very special person.

For some reason my breasts are extremely sensitive this morning.  I put a tissue in front of each of my nipples inside my bra because they seem to be very sensitive to touch.  I wonder how long they will feel this way.  It has been a while since this last happened.  I doubt they are growing again.  My latest mammogram showed nothing usual.

I am at work and it has been a nice morning. 

I hope your day is a wonderful one.


Chrissy

Quote from: Emma1017 on March 13, 2026, 08:23:18 AMI agree, Chrissy. There is a difference between being a friend and being a therapist. Some relationships forget where the boundary is.

It's the cost of being the caring person you are, but you seem like you are always willing to be there for someone.

That makes you a very special person.

Emma,

You are so sweet to say your kind words. 


Hugs,

Chrissy

I still get that after all this time, Doc said its the hormones. Welcome to womanhood!!

Glad you've had a nice morning today and better still everything is normal with your mammogram. X

Charlotte 😻

I wore a long wig today.  I have some hair going down the front on both sides, and still a lot in the back.  In the back I put in a big brown hair clip so my collected hair from the clip falls down from it but not a ponytail.  No bow.  My blouse has Peter Pan curved collars and I am also wearing a cardigan.  I am going to meet my Sweetie later this afternoon and I wanted to look really nice for her.  I think the gold necklace and bracelet completes the look for me. I took a nice lavender bath this morning.  I am looking forward to a very nice evening with her.

Chrissy

Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on March 13, 2026, 09:38:10 AMGlad you've had a nice morning today and better still everything is normal with your mammogram. X

Charlotte 😻

Thank you Charlotte.

Chrissy

Quote from: davina61 on March 13, 2026, 09:32:04 AMI still get that after all this time, Doc said its the hormones. Welcome to womanhood!!

Could be for me too. 


Chrissy

Chrissy, that sounds like a lovely outfit. I hope you had a wonderful time!

Quote from: Emma1017 on March 14, 2026, 09:35:04 AMChrissy, that sounds like a lovely outfit. I hope you had a wonderful time!

Emma,

Oh we did!  She did like my outfit and told me that I was very attractive.   

She made us a wonderful meal which I watched her prepare in her kitchen.  It was really good.

We then played Scrabble.  Then we watched a movie but she was in a romantic mood so we will watch the rest of it some other time.  We were kinda preoccupied for quite a while.  Picture a beautiful, energetic cowgirl with beautiful blue eyes and long swaying blonde hair, quite pretty she is!  Then this morning she used her woman's wiles and left me weak kneed, she seems to know how to get what she wants, and I have only thankfulness! 

Then she made us some breakfast. We never did eat the carrot cake from last night but I brought half of it home.

Have a wonderful weekend!

That truly sounds excellent, Chrissy!!!

Quote from: Emma1017 on March 15, 2026, 10:44:24 AMThat truly sounds excellent, Chrissy!!!

It was a nice time together.

I asked her a lot of questions too, including why she likes spending time with me, why she likes me.  Lots of really personal discussion.  I got some clarifications too about some things that concern me about me and her and the future.  Maybe I will discuss some of that here. 

I wish I was a CIS woman like she is.  Lucky her. 

Chrissy

Being transgender comes with so many conflicts, but it also comes with some unique bonuses, too.

I am glad that you are the wonderful person you are!

Quote from: Emma1017 on March 15, 2026, 02:05:14 PMBeing transgender comes with so many conflicts, but it also comes with some unique bonuses, too.

I am glad that you are the wonderful person you are!

Emma,


Your "staircase" photos are so lovely Emma.  You are a pretty woman.


Chrissy

I am wearing green today.  Are you?


Chrissy

I have a green top on tonight.

Quote from: davina61 on March 17, 2026, 11:45:31 AMI have a green top on tonight.

Nice!

My sweetie has a strong preference that I not obtain the GCS down there.
She enjoys what is there.  She also has this way of making me enjoy what she does with it, what she has us do with it.  With continued HRT it seems like there will come a point in time when it will almost never work.  So perhaps until that happens, Non-op looks like it is the better situation. 

I wonder if this is a common stance among us MTFs.

I'm not sure it ever stops working completely on HRT. Having more testosterone helps I think if that's what you're looking for! Certainly nothing wrong with keeping your bits if you're happy with that too. Different for us all.

Mine is going in 11 months...counting the days 😊

I have never enjoyed having it or using it. I would have removed it ages ago if I had the means to. But I can't, so it stays put away. Out of sight, out of mind.

Daily hygiene requires acknowledgment that it is there, but I don't have to like it.

Quote from: Charlotte Kitty on March 18, 2026, 02:55:01 PMI'm not sure it ever stops working completely on HRT. Having more testosterone helps I think if that's what you're looking for! Certainly nothing wrong with keeping your bits if you're happy with that too. Different for us all.

Mine is going in 11 months...counting the days 😊

Well I am not supposed to have a penis as a woman.
This works on my mind.  Nice to have it considering the circumstances but then
if used sexually this is very unlike being a woman. 

We are all different, I just had to get rid of. 

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 18, 2026, 07:58:53 PMWell I am not supposed to have a penis as a woman.
This works on my mind.  Nice to have it considering the circumstances but then
if used sexually this is very unlike being a woman.

Yeah... I mean everyone is different and feels differently. I mean I can't feel anything down there so... I would have taken a hacksaw to it years ago if I wasn't concerned with the shock and blood loss.

I would be lying if I didn't say that... Chrissy have you talked to your SO about this? About how you feel about yourself? It isn't really her choice whether you take steps to be yourself and it makes me a little bit uneasy that she doesn't want you to have that surgery. If someone said that to me... I think I might be somewhat cautious, that's all I'm saying. If someone is attracted to a part of you that you don't want... are they worth keeping it for?

Quote from: Sephirah on March 19, 2026, 05:02:38 PMYeah... I mean everyone is different and feels differently. I mean I can't feel anything down there so... I would have taken a hacksaw to it years ago if I wasn't concerned with the shock and blood loss.

I would be lying if I didn't say that... Chrissy have you talked to your SO about this? About how you feel about yourself? It isn't really her choice whether you take steps to be yourself and it makes me a little bit uneasy that she doesn't want you to have that surgery. If someone said that to me... I think I might be somewhat cautious, that's all I'm saying. If someone is attracted to a part of you that you don't want... are they worth keeping it for?

Yes I have.  We continue to discuss some important issues.  There is a balance to be found.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 19, 2026, 05:32:42 PMYes I have.  We continue to discuss some important issues.  There is a balance to be found.

Okay, that's good. Communication is the most important thing. :)

Quote from: Sephirah on March 19, 2026, 06:05:52 PMOkay, that's good. Communication is the most important thing. :)

We have some things that need to be given a lot more thought. 

Chrissy, I am glad that the two of you are talking.  That says a lot about your relationship.

Hello everyone!

Hugs,


Chrissy

I am sad yet happy.


Sounds impossible.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 20, 2026, 12:31:37 PMI am sad yet happy.


Sounds impossible.

I know how fond you are of your sweetie by how you talk about her. I certainly know that is something you wouldn't want to lose and would be very sad to. But you and your feelings are important too. You're a lovely, kind and sweet woman who deserves to live your best life.

I hope that given time she comes around and fully accepts you. Seems you're having the right conversations now and should probably continue to. Also your desires about GRS that I feel might be something you want, need more exploration.

Wishing you lots of love and hugs through this.

Charlotte 😻

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 20, 2026, 12:31:37 PMI am sad yet happy.


Sounds impossible.

We were misled to believe that these are mutually exclusive emotions. They absolutely aren't. That you are able to feel them both together shows that you are open to experiencing your truth.

Happy Spring, Chrissy!

Always let the happiness be in charge.

I just want to give you a giant hug, Chrissy. You spend so much of your time trying to make other people happy and feel better. You deserve some for yourself, sweetie. Even the warmth of the brightest fire needs stoking. :)

Ambivalence is a weird thing. Being able to experience two opposite emotions at the same time.

You deserve to be happy. And... I think whatever that means to you is what it means. No matter what or how anyone else feels. It's a choice you get to make.

I will say... wherever your life takes you... honey, you will be no less you. When you spoke about not "supposed to" have a penis as a woman. A lot of people aren't supposed to have, be, or do a lot of things... but they do. What matters most is how you feel. Not what you think you should or shouldn't do, or be, okay? If you're in that place, you're in that place. If you're not, then you're not. There is no judgement or anything either way, okay? What matters most is that your life makes you feel like it's worth living. Whatever that takes, and with whoever.

So... focus on that, Chrissy. On being in a place where you're okay. Okay? That matters most.

*extra hugs*

Lauren,


Okay, and thank you.



Chrissy

I have a lot of house chores to do today.  I should mop, do the laundry, shop for mustard and maybe some fresh vegetables, and go through some postal mail.  Then maybe do a bunch of other things I should be doing.  Oh, and watch basketball games.  I had a surprise visitor over but she left about 30 minutes ago so I guess I had better start on these things.

I will try to post but I really do not have much of anything interesting to post like Jess and Lori and others do, such as Lauren.  I better stop mentioning names as someone may not like it that I did not mention their name.  Y'all have some interesting tidbits.  I am glad we do not have to limit just talking about trans topics.  I would be repeating my words a lot probably and bore.

See ya later.


Chrissy

You are always a ray of sunshine, Chrissy. Never doubt your contributions here. Not everything is about hobbies, or shopping, or food. You are what this site represents:
Positive thinking, acceptance, and support.

You dish that out in generous helpings. Never stop. We love you for who you are, not what you post (but that helps us see who you are).

😀💝

Quote from: ChrissyRyanI will try to post but I really do not have much of anything interesting to post like Jess and Lori and others do, such as Lauren.  I better stop mentioning names as someone may not like it that I did not mention their name.  Y'all have some interesting tidbits.  I am glad we do not have to limit just talking about trans topics.  I would be repeating my words a lot probably and bore.

See ya later.

Chrissy

Chrissy, Your posts are full of love and kindness.  They are enjoyed by me and I'm sure countless others. You have also pulled me out of the dark a few times now. I thank you for this and all your contributions.  You keep us running with lots of interesting content.

Charlotte xx

Chrissy, you are like sunshine even when you feel cloudy!  This is your blog, blog away and we are always here for you.

Don't be daft Chrissy. Post away, no matter how mundane you think the subject is you never know where they will lead. Who would have thought a post about mustard or toad in the hole would have generated so much interest and banter!

Keep it up, Chrissy!

Sarah xx

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 21, 2026, 10:41:15 AMI have a lot of house chores to do today.  I should mop, do the laundry, shop for mustard and maybe some fresh vegetables, and go through some postal mail.  Then maybe do a bunch of other things I should be doing.  Oh, and watch basketball games.  I had a surprise visitor over but she left about 30 minutes ago so I guess I had better start on these things.

I will try to post but I really do not have much of anything interesting to post like Jess and Lori and others do, such as Lauren.  I better stop mentioning names as someone may not like it that I did not mention their name.  Y'all have some interesting tidbits.  I am glad we do not have to limit just talking about trans topics.  I would be repeating my words a lot probably and bore.

See ya later.


Chrissy

I did get everything done yesterday except to go through my postal mail.  So chores wise, it was a good day.  The day started out great.   I did not find the English mustard locally but I only looked at the super.

More basketball tournament games are on my schedule today. 


Chrissy

I was almost in tears of happiness this morning.  I was just sitting down and thinking how grateful that I can be me at work and not effectively being pushed out of a job and feeling unwelcome.  I am valued as an employee here.

Sure more often than not I do not have a consistently pretty female voice and that may be so incongruent with looking like an average looking woman (it would be worse if I were beautiful I suppose).  So am I saying I am glad to just look plain?  I guess so!  Wow, I have high beauty standards huh?

I am grateful that I can work and contribute here and I do not have to hide my womanhood in any way to anyone here. 

Chrissy

Quote from: Lori Dee on March 23, 2026, 02:11:29 PM

No way I would follow that advice in that song.  Marry for love, her attractiveness is a plus.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 23, 2026, 02:51:26 PMNo way I would follow that advice in that song.  Marry for love, her attractiveness is a plus.

That is the right answer, Chrissy!

I should clarify... don't worry about being beautiful. Even ugly people can be happy, get married, and live fulfilling lives. Just keep being you. The most beautiful people are those who are authentic and honest. Like you!

  @ChrissyRyan  @Lori Dee
The terms of UGLY and BEAUTIFUL are extremely subjective as described in the following:

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is a phrase meaning that perception of beauty,
attractiveness, or value is entirely subjective and varies from person to person.
Coined by Margaret Wolfe Hungerford in 1878, it suggests that observers, rather than the
object itself, determine beauty based on individual experiences and preferences."

Quote from: Lori Dee on March 23, 2026, 03:49:12 PMI should clarify... don't worry about being beautiful. Even ugly people can be happy, get married, and live fulfilling lives. Just keep being you. The most beautiful people are those who are authentic and honest. Like you!

Quote from: Lori Dee on March 23, 2026, 03:49:12 PMI should clarify... don't worry about being beautiful. Even ugly people can be happy, get married, and live fulfilling lives. Just keep being you. The most beautiful people are those who are authentic and honest. Like you!

Absolutely this. I genuinely am attracted to people who make me laugh, who I can have an intelligent conversation with, who I feel comfortable enough to open up and share everything with. Who have the same interests. Whether someone is beautiful or not isn't a factor, physical attraction is far less important to me. I'm sure I'm not alone in this.

I have a community business roundtable meeting to attend today.
Not my favorite thing to do but sometimes some good comes out of the initiatives.

Have a very nice day!


Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 21, 2026, 10:41:15 AMI will try to post but I really do not have much of anything interesting to post like Jess and Lori and others do, such as Lauren.  I better stop mentioning names as someone may not like it that I did not mention their name.  Y'all have some interesting tidbits.  I am glad we do not have to limit just talking about trans topics.  I would be repeating my words a lot probably and bore.

Just to mention, Chrissy, that I have to literally fight the urge to delete everything I write in every post I make, haha. It is sheer force of will to post anything. Probably why I have so few posts in such a long time. I do not consider anything I say to be remotely valuable or interesting.

But... beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To that end... keep being you, sweetie. Because you're beautiful. <3

Quote from: Sephirah on Today at 02:16:39 PMJust to mention, Chrissy, that I have to literally fight the urge to delete everything I write in every post I make, haha. It is sheer force of will to post anything. Probably why I have so few posts in such a long time. I do not consider anything I say to be remotely valuable or interesting.

But... beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To that end... keep being you, sweetie. Because you're beautiful. <3

You say a lot of things!

Keep them coming along.


Hugs,

Chrissy