Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Looking at various peoples stories on this site I get the impression that a lot of people transitioned or wish to transition whilst in what's considered straight relationships. I transitioned whilst in a gay relationship although myself I'm pansexual.

It's got my wondering if there is a 50/50 split of people transitioning from  both straight and gay relationships or if it's a different balance?

Also my bf now considers himself bisexual as a result of my transition and that he's now in a kinda straight relationship.

Would be interesting to hear other experiences of sexuality and transitioning. For me my bf being from both the furry fandom and queer scene meant he already understood trans issues and was fully in support of me. Maybe this differs for others?

Charlotte 😻

If you are going to keep this discussion PG-13, it can stay here. So keep it VERY general in nature. Anything beyond that needs to be discussed in the Sexuality Forum.

Fair Warning.

To be honest I don't mind where this is hosted if there is somewhere more appropriate. I personally was only interested in this very generally.

To me sexuality only really goes as far as attraction and who I commit to in a relationship. In reality it's a strange use of terminology as sexuality is still used to describe attraction in platonic/asexual relationships like mine.

Charlotte 😻

Bi before,bi after. Not sure if its age(68) my libido vanished a few years ago. Not had a lot of luck with relationships, im a magnet for headcases.

Quote from: big kim on Today at 01:53:54 AMBi before,bi after. Not sure if its age(68) my libido vanished a few years ago. Not had a lot of luck with relationships, im a magnet for headcases.

I would have to assume that having no libido makes it extremely difficult to date and start a new romantic relationship. I'm not very clued up on that topic but is there any meditation that you could take?

For me, I believed I was hetero, because that was how I was taught to behave. That created a lot of internal issues that resulted in three failed marriages and numerous other hetero relationships. In therapy, my psychologist helped me find the root of the problem. I am not hetero, I am asexual. He said that it had nothing to do with being transgender, except that trying to behave in a hetero manner was causing dysphoria.

Now I understand and have come to accept myself as asexual, transfeminine.

Quote from: Jillian-TG on Today at 06:28:42 AMI would have to assume that having no libido makes it extremely difficult to date and start a new romantic relationship. I'm not very clued up on that topic but is there any meditation that you could take?

Not bothered, I don't date nor want to. I sometimes think I missed out though. I always worked shifts so it was always difficult for relationships  hobbies further education etc

I was attracted to women before, and that hasn't changed. Interestingly, I became more attracted to women. One thing that I noticed is the attraction is gentler, and softer.

Quote from: big kim on Today at 11:53:23 AMNot bothered, I don't date nor want to. I sometimes think I missed out though. I always worked shifts so it was always difficult for relationships  hobbies further education etc

I'm a shift worker as well. It always irked me when people asked me why I'm not in a relationship. It's hard to have a life when you work off hours.

I was always closer to asexual than to anything else, although I didn't realize that for years.  My attractions (such as they were) were exclusively to women.  That has not changed.  So I would have to say apparently heterosexual before transition and homosexual after, but mostly asexual.

Before transition (MTF):  heterosexual.

I'm bisexual always, and this is important (and monogamous) not Polyamorous!

So yeah I'm never in between! 😂


~ Lilis 🌷