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Im excited yo announce i finally found heels i feel comfortable walking in and will be going to an outside mall if weather allows (too cold or it rains) I have an outfit picked out (nice blouse and skirt combo with stockings and the new heels) im gonna do my hair nice and shave and possibly add make up. im gonna go walk the mall and maybe grab a bite to eat by myself and see how the world views me as my new self.

wish me luck.

Good luck gal. You'll be fine

@Their Name is Signal
Dear Signal:
This sound exciting for you and is a big step in your life journey.

I am wishing you well and I will be eagerly looking for your update
if you feel comfortable sharing.

HUGS, Danielle [Northern Star Girl]

Quote from: Their Name is Signal on January 23, 2026, 11:20:01 AMIm excited yo announce i finally found heels i feel comfortable walking in and will be going to an outside mall if weather allows (too cold or it rains) I have an outfit picked out (nice blouse and skirt combo with stockings and the new heels) im gonna do my hair nice and shave and possibly add make up. im gonna go walk the mall and maybe grab a bite to eat by myself and see how the world views me as my new self.

wish me luck.

Oh thats great news. Outfit sounds lovely. Wishing you a great day. Enjoy it 🙂

Hope you have a great time.

I am so excited for you! Please share your experience. You're taking a step I often wish I had the courage to take. Who knows? Someday, I might (though I was advised to wear a pink N-95 Covid mask).

Well everyone besides my heels not fitting right in my shoes it was a good day.nobody really cared who i was and I stopped for a bite to eat alone which is new to me feminine or not.

Great to hear. Any more details?

Quote from: Dawn Kellie on January 24, 2026, 05:16:18 PMGreat to hear. Any more details?

What would you like to know? That was about all that happened.nobody bothered me a few double looks but that was it honestly

Did you shop, how did you feel, there are people that care and want to celebrate with you

Sooo glad it went ok! Bet it felt good too 🙂

Most people out there aren't so bothered really!

Quote from: Their Name is Signal on January 24, 2026, 05:29:37 PMWhat would you like to know?

How did it feel? What did you get from the experience? Are you eager to do it again?

Quote from: Pema on January 24, 2026, 05:42:07 PMHow did it feel? What did you get from the experience? Are you eager to do it again?

It felt great besides the heels,I found iut nobody would really care if I was my feminine self and now I know I can try being me closer to home maybe? Still anxious about people i know seeing me.

Quote from: Their Name is Signal on January 24, 2026, 05:03:09 PMWell everyone besides my heels not fitting right in my shoes it was a good day.nobody really cared who i was and I stopped for a bite to eat alone which is new to me feminine or not.

I had the same experience my first time, except it was my toes that did not fit right in my shoes 🙂.  The great part was that "nobody really cared".  I'm glad it went well for you.

Quote from: Their Name is Signal on January 24, 2026, 06:41:31 PMStill anxious about people i know seeing me.

Same here.  They will definitely notice, some will say something, some will not.  Some relationships will surely change. 

I want trying to be pushy. I just wanted to celebrate your wins with you

First time I went out and actually went to stores and got something to eat I wore denim leggings and a long cowl neck top a leather jacket and my biker boots. Went to subway then to Walmart and ran around in there for a long time then hit Target then stopped at the lgtbq center. Got something to eat again. I had a blast. This was right at the end of COVID so wore a mask. That helped with going solo. Walmart has a family bathroom in back which was nice for peeing. Just go about your business and I don't think anybody pays much attention to you.

Quote from: Dawn Kellie on January 25, 2026, 10:10:13 AMI want trying to be pushy. I just wanted to celebrate your wins with you

Don't worry I didnt think you were pushy, in all honesty it wasnt too weird. most people didnt pay mind. a little girl ran straight through me and payed me no mind.

I haven't been out too many times in public but each time I did I realized that most people just don't care. The majority of people are not that observant or aware of those around them. They are in their own world and just getting on with their day. And when people notice - they take a second look and once again go back to their day. Very very few people really care or are bothered.

Wow,that sounds amazing. It does so much for your confidence to go out and about dressed.
I've been out only once but not in a crowded place like you. I am so happy for you 💗.

Ciara.

Quote from: Ciara on February 04, 2026, 01:27:06 PMWow,that sounds amazing. It does so much for your confidence to go out and about dressed.
I've been out only once but not in a crowded place like you. I am so happy for you 💗.

Ciara.

Sometimes a crowded place is actually the easiest because you blend in and get diluted. Being in a quiet place makes you really stand out when someone does come past.

Quote from: Jillian-TG on February 04, 2026, 03:32:49 PMSometimes a crowded place is actually the easiest because you blend in and get diluted. Being in a quiet place makes you really stand out when someone does come past.

That is a good point Jillian. I had never thought about it that way.
Thank you.

Ciara.

My first outing was a rock festival. No one even looked sideways at me

Quote from: Dawn Kellie on February 07, 2026, 08:51:44 AMMy first outing was a rock festival. No one even looked sideways at me

Oh that's brilliant to hear. They are generally friendly so definitely a good place to be your true self.

It was great, especially walking around holding my wife's hand. We got a lot of smiles