Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everyone. I have heard many people say that there is no reason we are created transgender and it just is. I have found that I actually learned more about gender than I probably would have if I was cisgender.

If you are born into a life where your identity was a problem to such an extreme degree; then chances are you are going to study why that is. You are going to learn about gender and how to make the changes you need to yourself and the rest of the world.

I think that if I wasn't transgender I probably never would have even walked that path. My life would probably be something completely different that isn't even about embarking on that path. That scares me to think about to be honest.

I'm just interested in what some of your thoughts are on this? Why do you think we are created transgender? Is there a reason or not?

Let me preface my reply with a disclaimer:
My spiritual beliefs are different from those of most people. I spent a lot of time searching for answers, and now that my questions have been answered, they stand apart from mainstream religions.

In answer to your question, I say yes, and no. I believe that we were created (as a species) to be part of the Divine Plan and that we have a specific role in it. But I do not believe that each individual was specifically designed to fill a purpose. The Creator of Worlds has more important things to do than listen to the whims and whines of people.

The way that the Universe was created was such that the Creator experiences Life through us. We were designed for a variety of looks, behaviors, and biology. That provides a variety of experiences, and when you have groups of people with all their differences, you have an even wider variety. Yet, each of us still retains our own Free Will.

Within all the varieties that constitute an expression of Life, there are people with genetic, environmental, mental, emotional, and geographic differences. All of these matter, and all of us are included. Being transgender is just one facet of our being. How we look, where we grew up, where we live, how we learn or think about things, and how we feel about things are all part of what makes us -- us.

That is all part of the reason we are here. Did someone or something point at us and say, "That one will be trans." No. The question implies that there is someone or something to blame. Blame implies that there is something wrong with us. Neither is true. It is just one of many things that make us who we are.

Is there a reason for it, or some special purpose? Yes. The purpose of Life is to experience Life. All of our varieties allow us to experience Life in different ways. If everyone were exactly the same, there would be no variety, and that would affect our ability to exercise our Free Will. One of the many factors that shape how we experience life is precisely how we choose to experience it.

Being trans exposes us to experiences that others will never experience. But it also opens up opportunities to choose which experiences we want to have.

Think about that for a bit.

Great question, CosmicJoke, and elegant response, Lori.

For a long time, I believed I was dreaming of the woman I wanted to be. Over the past few years, I have come to believe that I dream of the women I once was. Primarily because the settings of the dreams are always in a long ago past, and never in the present, never in the future.

If so, I'm glad I chose (or was compelled) to be born AMAB. Like Lori, CosmicJoke, and virtually everyone else inside SP, I have learned far more about gender than I would have otherwise. Occasionally, it's overwhelming and sometimes I wish the lessons were a bit gentler to learn.

I am not someone who believes in god I'm afraid. There is too much cruelty in the world. If god does exist then I'm not sure I like the guy! I certainly do not beleive in organised religion, If there is a god then he's not going to save only the Christians or only the jews and so on. *

I believe it was a process in the womb that differed from the norm. The genetic messages went to our physical body to asign gender male or female but the brain got the opposite message. I don't feel there is anything mystical going on. However my mother has always told me she was utterly convinced I was going to be a girl and even named me sarah. She believed that until I popped out! I do sometimes wonder, albeit fancifully, if that thought process could affect the fetal mind?

* There is a lot that science cannot answer so I cannot truly say one way or another that there isn't something else at work. I guess that makes me agnostic. The further you look into the cosmos or into quantum theory the less fantastical it becomes. We will all find out one day I suppose!

I know for certain that I wasn't created transgender as I didn't feel this way in the early part of my life.

I had nods to femininity in my ways, things I liked and some of my reactions. But no real desire to be a woman. That all came quite a lot later, growing in my 30s I'd say.

I don't understand some of the mysteries of life however. Some very uncanny things just happen. Like these things are just meant for you. I feel there is a higher power, but maybe not as religion describes it. There is some magical order to life I'm sure.

Charlotte 😻

Lori's disclaimer applies to me, too. I'm not an adherent of any established philosophy. I try to listen to my heart and live my life from that place - which often runs contrary to societal norms.

I think "reason" in this context is very similar to the questions of "meaning" and "purpose" in life. Are those things dictated by some source external to us, or do we choose them ourselves? I can't say I know the answer, and yet I still have to live my life.

So I listen to my heart, because I think either way, that's where the "answer" will come to me - whether from within myself or received via universal consciousness. And here's how my mind interprets and translates what I feel:

My "mission" here on Earth in human form is to discover and express my true nature, to shed conditioned and scripted behaviors and roles and identify who and what I actually am. It's about breaking free from mimetic desire and simply being myself. If by doing that I show someone else that that option exists and they choose to do something similar, then...bonus. I know that I've already opened some people's eyes to what it means to be transgender - people who would otherwise have only had very simplistic, stereotypical views.

To be clear: Gender identity and expression are only part of this liberation. It's really about every aspect of how I see my "self" and my time here on Earth. I have never bought in or fit in in most ways, and now I wholeheartedly embrace and try to manifest my actual values instead of adopting them from a template (or pretending to).

I think your question is a great one, and I wish people would ask themselves similar questions about most of the things they do without even giving it a thought.