Site News and Information => Introductions => Topic started by: Claire Rose on March 03, 2026, 12:10:31 PM Return to Full Version

Title: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Claire Rose on March 03, 2026, 12:10:31 PM
Hello,

I look forward to being back on and, hopefully, sticking around for a while this time.  This is the 3rd time I have joined.  Previously, I went by Kara.  I've been struggling with this for a long time now, and apparently, the idea of it going away has not been working out so great.  So I am here to make some friends, learn a bit about myself and not run away like a chicken again. lol.  no promises. 

So, Hello again (:

Clarie
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Dawn Kellie on March 03, 2026, 12:12:41 PM
Welcome back
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: ChrissyRyan on March 03, 2026, 12:40:42 PM
Claire,


Welcome back!


Chrissy
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: BlueJaye on March 03, 2026, 01:00:15 PM
Welcome back. And I can say from firsthand experience that it never goes away.
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Lori Dee on March 03, 2026, 01:04:54 PM
Hello Claire Rose,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome back to Susan's Place!

Thank you for that wonderful reintroduction.

Regarding your previous accounts, the Forum Policy is only one account per member. You have some options:

We can help you reset your password so you can access your previous account. We can move your previous posts to this account, so this becomes your one account. Or you can just keep this account and start fresh.

What we need you to do is send an email to our Forum Administrator, Danielle (Northern Star Girl) at AlaskanDanielle@yahoo.com, and tell her how you would like to proceed. She will need certain information from you to locate your accounts and to verify they are yours. Do not post any of that here. Just in the email to Danielle.

She has an accounting business and is hip-deep in taxes this time of year, so be patient. She will get to you quickly.

As you may be aware, this is an ALL-AGES  PUBLIC  Forum and the internet never forgets. Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.

I will add links below that are important for new and returning members.
Pay special attention to the links in RED.

If you have any questions about the Susan's Place site and the Forums, please feel free to contact me at LoriDee605@outlook.com.

Once again, welcome to Susan's Place!

~ Lori Dee
Forum Staff



Things that you should read

  • New Members... Please Read this First (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,250343.msg2295001.html#msg2295001)
  • Site Terms of Service & Rules to Live By (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
  • Site Policies and stuff to remember (https://www.susans.org/index.php/board,492.0.html)
  • Membership Agreement (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,216851.0.html)
  • Cautionary Note (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,82221.0.html)
  • How to Contact Forum Staff Members (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,246913.0.html)
  • Standard Terms & Definitions (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
  • News posting & quoting guidelines (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,174951.0.html)
  • Photos, avatars, & signature images (https://www.susans.org//index.php/topic,59974.msg383866.html#msg383866)



@Claire Rose
@Sarah B
@Charlotte Ringwood
@Northern Star Girl
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Stottie Girl on March 03, 2026, 02:13:34 PM
Welcome back Claire.

I'm afraid if there's one thing we all have in common it's the realisation that this is for keeps, you can hide it, pretend it's not there, ignore it but it will always be a part of you. Personally, I think that's a great thing and I for one am glad I am this way even though life can be tougher! I wouldn't change a thing!
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Charlotte Kitty on March 03, 2026, 02:21:33 PM
Hey Claire,

I'm Charlotte😻 and welcome you back to Susan's Place too!

I certainly appreciate, that in this journey there can be a lot of back and forth about who you really are, who you want to be and even getting to know yourself. It would be lovely if you are able to find yourself a bit more on this occasion, and share your journey with us here.

We are all super friendly, with many very different experiences as i expect you may be aware. Happy to assist with anything that may concern you or just enjoy your updates.

Kind regards,
Charlotte😻
(Forum Staff)
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Pema on March 03, 2026, 02:33:25 PM
Hi, Claire. It's good to meet you. You're always welcome here.
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Rochelle on March 03, 2026, 04:37:02 PM
Hello, welcome here.
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Alana Ashleigh on March 03, 2026, 04:38:46 PM
Hi Claire,

Glad you're back

Alana
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Nicole47474 on March 03, 2026, 04:44:22 PM
Welcome back to the sisterhood.
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Sarah B on March 04, 2026, 12:04:36 AM
Hi Claire

Welcome back.  It takes courage to come back and say openly that you have been struggling with this for quite a long time.  From what you wrote it sounds like something you have been wrestling with for years.  The fact that you have joined the forum before, stepped away, hoped the feelings might disappear and now find yourself returning again suggests it may still be an unresolved question for you.

That kind of back and forth can be exhausting and confusing for anyone trying to understand themselves and those feelings often grow stronger over time as many other members here on Susan's can attest to that.

It might also help to speak with a qualified therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist who has experience with gender identity issues.  Having a professional to talk things through, can provide a safe space to explore what you are feeling and help you gain some clarity about who you are and what direction will bring you the most peace.

You mentioned wanting to make some friends and learn a bit more about yourself.  This community is a good place for that, as many people here have gone through similar periods of questioning and self discovery.

In the meantime you are very welcome here.  Take things at your own pace and allow yourself the time to figure things out.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
Global Moderator
@Clarie Rose
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Susan on March 04, 2026, 01:20:24 AM
Hi Clarie, and welcome back!

Third time's the charm, right? Honestly, the fact that you keep coming back says a lot — this part of you isn't going anywhere, and on some level you already know that. There's nothing wrong with needing to step away and come back when you're ready. Plenty of people here have done the same thing.

No pressure, no expectations — just take it one day at a time. We're glad you're here, and we'll be here whenever you need us.

Warm regards,
— Susan💜
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Claire Rose on March 05, 2026, 02:39:46 PM
You all are so sweet.  Thank you for the warm welcome!

I think at this point, I've realized that it's not going away.  I was a kid when I first came on here, lol.  I'm mid-40s now - soooo, yeah, maybe it's not going away. Anyway, I am glad to be back. Not sure what it means, but I don't think I'm planning on running from it this time. (but who knows, lol.  I'm a chicken. I really did think I could make this go away. Apparently, I am wrong a lot.  But I do know this time the same pray, hope and run won't work in the long term.  Anyway, glad to be back.  Thanks for the warm welcome!  (Also, Lori - I have no other accounts and couldn't even remember my old user name and perged hard and removed everything quite a few years ago). 

I do have my first meeting with a therapist in a few weeks.  Super nervous.  But glad to start working through a few things.  Wish I did it long ago, but also glad I didn't (like that makes any sense).  lol.  Thanks for the welcome!!
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Lori Dee on March 05, 2026, 03:00:08 PM
Thanks for the update.

The first meeting with a therapist is great news. It can be terrifying at first, but once you get to know each other, it is very nice to have someone you can chat with about very personal subjects. Having someone who "gets it" is a great resource.

Stop back by and let us know how it is going, if you are comfortable sharing.

Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Petunia on March 06, 2026, 08:21:09 PM
Welcome back Claire.

I too have come to the realisation that this never goes away.

Congratulations on having the courage to see a therapist.
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Ciara on March 12, 2026, 10:31:29 AM
Hi Claire,
It's lovely to meet you.
I'm sure we have all been through those multiple purges. I don't know how many times I have dumped all my female things only to regret it soon after. It never goes away and at this stage of my life (I'm 67) I hope it never does. I now love who I am. Most men don't know what it is like to be a woman and that makes me feel blessed.

Welcome back ❤️.

Ciara.
Title: Re: Hello.. again, lol
Post by: Stottie Girl on March 12, 2026, 12:57:12 PM
Quote from: Ciara on March 12, 2026, 10:31:29 AMHi Claire,
It's lovely to meet you.
I'm sure we have all been through those multiple purges. I don't know how many times I have dumped all my female things only to regret it soon after. It never goes away and at this stage of my life (I'm 67) I hope it never does. I now love who I am. Most men don't know what it is like to be a woman and that makes me feel blessed.

Welcome back ❤️.

Ciara.

3 times for me. Each time forced by parents after getting found out, I swore to them that it was just a phase each time but as soon as I moved out of home I've never had a purge.

I too think while it may be hard we are also truly blessed to experience life on both sides of the divide.
Neither CIS men nor women get to experience this. I know which side I want to end up on, that's for sure. I'm in a happy place now.