Susan's Place Transgender Resources

What is a pet peeve you have?  (Some behavior that annoys you?)

Do you do anything to cope with it?
Do you confront perhaps the person who is causing it?  Do you provide a negative consequence for the behavior occurring?

Is it really YOUR intolerance or impatience or is the behavior itself the problem?  Sometimes we need to look within to make sure we are reasonable and understanding.

Well I have a lot because I suspect I'm a bit on the spectrum. It's certain types of noise that triggers me most of all.

Though if I had to pick one I would go for men whistling inanely like a canary when shopping. I can barely hold it together in the shops at the best of times but when the whistling starts they get the cold hard "I'm going to end you" stare!

I may be a liitle intolerant perhaps.

I do not like having to endure hearing music that I either do not like or is too loud.
Sometimes I can MUTE if this is online.  At other times the music and its loudness is not under my control, except for leaving the premises.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on March 16, 2026, 02:29:49 PMI do not like having to endure hearing music that I either do not like or is too loud.
Sometimes I can MUTE if this is online.  At other times the music and its loudness is not under my control, except for leaving the premises.

That is one of the reasons I stopped living in an apartment building. Loud music, screaming kids, and barking dogs on the other side of my wall. My psychologist said to just try to relax. Who can relax with all that noise!

Now I live in an age-restricted mobile home park. (Yes, I am Trailer Trash™). No screaming kids, no large breed dogs, and most of my neighbors are quiet old people like me. BUT they still get visitors with loud exhaust, and the stereo is cranked up at 11:00 pm. Plus traffic out on the street that people think is a drag strip, so more loud exhaust and blasting music.

Humans are a very noisy species. That is why I enjoy the forest so much. If a bird is making too much noise, I yell at them to shut up, and it goes away. Not so much with humans.

Before HRT- the existence of other people around me.

After HRT- I'm much more patient so can't think of any.

Quote from: Lori Dee on March 16, 2026, 02:37:32 PMThat is one of the reasons I stopped living in an apartment building. Loud music, screaming kids, and barking dogs on the other side of my wall. My psychologist said to just try to relax. Who can relax with all that noise!

Now I live in an age-restricted mobile home park. (Yes, I am Trailer Trash™). No screaming kids, no large breed dogs, and most of my neighbors are quiet old people like me. BUT they still get visitors with loud exhaust, and the stereo is cranked up at 11:00 pm. Plus traffic out on the street that people think is a drag strip, so more loud exhaust and blasting music.

Humans are a very noisy species. That is why I enjoy the forest so much. If a bird is making too much noise, I yell at them to shut up, and it goes away. Not so much with humans.

Yeah I can't hack neighbour noise. I'm currently surrounded by noisy neighbours from the furniture upholsterers next door to the party family behind me who think it is ok to build a bar in their garden complete with loud external soundsystem, to my next door neighbour who is obsessed with doing unecessary building work on her house and the pharmaceutical factory over the road which operates 24 hours a day. I'm even on the flight path for the airport and 500 yards from the East Coast High Speed Rail line!

But, I have bought a bungalow in a quiet neighbourhood, no families, no teenage parties, no factory, no rail line. Unfortunately I'm 2 miles further down the flightpath so the planes will still bother me but I actually like watching them. I can't wait to move!

Smoking and vaping, especially where its forbidden. Came close to doing a Nobody with someone smoking on the bus!
I have COPD and while its not yet a major problem and I  still have a good quality of life I don't want anything affecting my breathing.

Tobacco smoke fumes are bad. Yuckie.

People finding choke points in public spaces and blocking them. Gah I was leaving Walmart the other day and someone just stood in the center of the open door blocking all access to the door.

Also I hate the North American tipping culture. I want to use bad words here. I went through a Starbuckss drive trough and I was expected to tip. People say if you don't like it then don't shop there well I won't. I'm a coffee snob anyways I don't really drink chain coffee anyways so boycotting Starbucks isn't a problem.
Even though I don't argue with paying servers that provide a service even though I think that the companies should pay their employees and not expect the customer to subsidize their costs above and beyond the price listed. I mean come on when are we going to be expected to tip at self checkouts or even the greeters at Walmart.

I do not like having to interact with people that will not try to understand what might be called the "opposite viewpoint."  It is like they close off all of their senses to trying to understand why those with the "opposite viewpoint" think that way.

Are there issues that no sane person would ever agree to accept as sound?  Of course there are.