Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everyone,

My name is Krista and I'm new here. I've been on a long slow path of transition that began in 2021 at age 59. I was in denial even as I started presenting gradually as female, convinced in my head that I could not be trans. I had never felt anything but male. I've had sexual issues; maybe this was a manifestation of that.

But my body kept sending me different messages. As my nails went from clear polish to pretty colors, I felt happy when I looked at them. Lipstick soothed me. I went from hating shirts that exposed any amount of my chest to feeling right in them.

The more female I felt and presented, the more sexually healthy I became. It's now clear to anyone who meets me that I'm not male, or not as male as their cis-male friends. Though it remains rare when I go out in public fully as Krista. I'm still nervous about transitioning. My wife is trying to adapt - that's the biggest brake on my accelerating need to present as my authentic self.

Thanks for listening ❤️

Hiya Krista! Welcome to the group from the sunny UK!

There are a great many people on here in your situation who can relate, listen and offer advice for you. We're a friendly bunch so feel free to join or start the discussion, we don't bite....hard!

I started in my late 40's but am still not out there in the real world yet. Like you I would think that most strangers would realise that I'm not 100% male (particularly as I have boobs!). Nobody really comments on it in truth.

I can't offer marital advice though as I'm not married (never have been) but most of the others either are or have been so there is a wealth of experience to tap into here.

Anyhoo, just thought I would say hi!

Sarah xx

Hello and welcome here. We're happy to see you.

You will get a more formal welcome as soon as one of the mods comes online. Welcome to Susan's place. 💚

Hey Krista,

I'm Charlotte😻 and I'm pleased to welcome you to Susan's Place!

Thank you for your lovely introduction, and we're glad that you have joined us here for your continuing transition journey. I understand what you say about the times you had a mismatch between your head saying you're a man, yet you progressing as a woman anyway. I get that myself being early in my transition. I am glad you worked through it though and progressed to where you are now.

There are lots of people here with similar experiences so hopefully over time you may become less nervous about your transition after reading others accounts and sharing your own too.

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Hi!


     Welcome Krista!



Chrissy

Hello Krista.

Welcome you've found a wonderful place

Krista!

Welcome aboard sister!... Kudos on finding the courage to move forward towards expression of the soul within! Amazing discoveries await! 🌻

Onward We Go!

Ashley 💕

A pleasure to meet you, Krista!

Hello Krista!

Welcome to Susan's Place. We are happy to have you join us!

Hi, Krista! Welcome to Susan's Place. I hope you'll make yourself at home here and feel comfortable.

Hi Krista

Glad you're here

Alana

Welcome Krista. I also started at 59, and on my 60th birthday started hrt. We are here for you sister. Congratulations on having the courage to except who you.

Hi Krista,
It's lovely to meet you.

Welcome ❤️.

Ciara

Hi Krista,

Welcome.
I'm pretty new here and at 59 am starting on self discovery

Hi Krista

My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

First, you are not alone and you are among people who understand far more than you may realize.  It is never too late and you are never too old to understand yourself more deeply or to take steps, at your own pace, toward peace.

What you described about feelings going quiet for long periods is something many here will recognize.  In my experience, those feelings do not simply disappear.  They may become silent for a time, or sit in the background while life carries on, but often they return with renewed intensity.  Many members here on Susan's have lived through exactly that.

In my own case, for more than ten years before I changed my life around, the feeling, the longing, the wanting to be female grew stronger and stronger.  It did not lessen with time.  It became clearer.

I cannot offer much wisdom about managing marriage or family while going through this, because I changed my life before those situations arose for me.  But many members here have faced exactly those challenges.  Some relationships survived, some did not and people here can speak honestly about both outcomes.  You will find understanding voices.

I also sense you may still be trying to understand who you are and that is perfectly all right.  There is no prize for rushing.  If I may gently suggest it, speaking with a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist who is thoughtful and experienced may help you explore these feelings and understand yourself more clearly.

Most importantly, there is no rush.  Take as much time as you need.  Many people here started later in life, some much later and found their way.  Again, you are never too old.

You can say as much or as little as you want here.  You can ask questions, share fears, vent, or simply read quietly until you feel ready.  We are here to help and there is real sisterhood and support to be found.

Wishing you peace as you take these first steps.  Reaching out as you just did takes courage.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members.

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.

Please keep in mind when posting that this is an ALL AGES PUBLIC Forum and the internet never forgets.  Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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Hi Krista!


I hope you are finding Susan's Web site helpful and interesting.  Please return often!


Chrissy