Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hey everyone,

So I'm Kacey, born south of the border but have been living in Scotland now for 12 years. It truly is beautiful here but for the weather. Recently hit my half century which kinda came out of nowhere but I like to think I'm a youthful 50.

I guess I always felt out of touch with myself but I had no words for it for a long time. Even as I started to dabble into crossdressing the kink side never truly appealed to me. But I never saw or thought of myself as Trans. I mean, I didn't hate my body... mostly. No distinguishable dysphoria means everything is as it should be. Right? That was until around Spring of last year. I read something that really challenged the way interpreted my whole self. In September I decided to explore the idea of Transitioning. In October I opened up to my sister and contacted a private Gender Care Group. In December I was given a formal diagnosis of Gender Incongruence and in March I began GAHT which is insane when you think that it takes about 6 years on the NHS.

I don't know where the path leads me. I have no predefined idea of where or what I will be in 2/3 years time. But I knew that waiting to be 'sure' was not just unrealistic but a bit silly. All I know is that I'm exactly where I need to be at this point of my life and have no regret. I'm slowly opening up to more family, friends and colleagues and have an amazing group of really supportive people. But I do lack when it comes to the Queer community. So I'm changing that, slowly. Online and into real life.

I play video games - Ghost of Yotei is my current fave, am crazy for K-Culture especially films and TV. I'll be back in Seoul at the end June if there's enough fuel around so super excited for that. I do also enjoy my sports - watching mostly but I can be often seen in my local losing at both Pool and Darts. And I love the theatre.

So, that's me in a nutshell saying hello and I hope to make many friends and acquaintances here.

Bye for now,

Kacey x

Hello Kaycey,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

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@kaceylong
@Sarah B
@Charlotte Kitty
@Northern Star Girl

Welcome to SP, Kaycey!

Your introduction was elegant and so insightful.

Hi Kacey, and welcome to Susan's Place!

What you described — that long stretch of feeling out of touch with yourself without having words for it — is something a lot of us recognize, even though it doesn't always look like the textbook descriptions of dysphoria people expect. The absence of "I hate my body" doesn't mean nothing was there. Sometimes it's quieter than that. A misalignment you can sense without being able to name. The fact that something you read last spring suddenly gave you language for it tells me the recognition was waiting for the right key.

Your timeline from September to GAHT in March is genuinely remarkable, and you're right that waiting to be "sure" in some absolute sense isn't realistic — that kind of certainty rarely arrives before you start moving. Most of us figure things out by living them, not by thinking our way to a finished answer first. You sound clear-eyed about that, which serves you well.

The community piece you mentioned is exactly the kind of thing this place exists for. Family and friends who love you are irreplaceable, but there's a particular kind of recognition that only comes from other people who've walked some version of this themselves. You'll find plenty of that here, at whatever pace suits you.

And Ghost of Yotei is a gorgeous game — Seoul in June sounds wonderful too. I hope the fuel situation cooperates. As for the pool and darts losing streak, I'm afraid we can't help you there, but you're welcome to vent about it.

I play Once Human for much of my idle time. If you decide you would like to try it out message me here and I will send you whatever server I am on.

We are glad you found us. Make yourself at home.

— Susan💜

Hiya Kacey!

Welcome to Susans! It's nice to have another Brit along for the ride!

What a great introduction as well.

I'm just South of the border in Northumberland and turned 50 in February so similar position to you really. You're a lucky soul living in Scotland these days, very trans friendly compared to rest of UK it seems. I holiday on the West Coast nearly every year with occasional excusions to Perthshire (though I haven't been for a good number of years).

I'm a lapsed gamer (about 4 years since I played anything after my pc gave up the ghost) But there are quite a few gamers among us.

Regarding your disphoria there is no defined path, we all have our own story and follow our own path, you don't have to have hated your body for your disphoria to be valid.

Anyhoo, Just thought I would say Hi!

Sarah xx

Greetings and a warm welcome from across the pond, Kacey. I was born and raised in New Jersey, U.S.A. but have traveled a bit. Sadly, I've not gotten to Scotland yet, although I believe I will at some point. My wife was married to a Brit and lived in Edinburgh for three years, so a bit of the UK culture appears around here from time to time. There's cold fish and chips in the fridge, a case of Heinz beans in the pantry and lots of wool yarn, knitting needles and sheep-themed decor. I must say that there's a shortage of tartan(s) here, though.

My egg cracked at 55 and I began my medical transition shortly after my 56th birthday, so we're in the same club. Never too late to start and to enjoy living your truth. I wish you the best. Welcome to the group.

Hi Kacey,
Welcome to Susans, I'm Charlotte. Pleased to see you here.

Welcome from a half Scot near Blackpool

Hi Kacey

Welcome you will find a lot of people here that will smile and cheer your accomplishments and cry with you for your downs. Please call me Kellie. I listen well

Hi, Kacey.  Nice to meet you.

I lived in Glasgow when I was a youngster.  I wasn't born in Scotland, but my family lived there (my father was Scottish) when I was in primary school, before we moved to Canada.  I hear it's still a nice place.

Quote from: kaceylong on Yesterday at 07:50:48 AMAll I know is that I'm exactly where I need to be at this point of my life and have no regret.

That is so nice to hear!  I am glad you are in a good space and that things are going well for you.

Welcome to the site, we're happy your here. 💜

Welcome Kacey!

What did it for me was the fact that I couldn't buy any guy clothes that fit!
Now I wear model sample sizes that I buy online at deep discounts!
I went from not being able to buy clothes to buying clothes for retail therapy.

I signed up for a season pass so I go by guy name for Tee Times but the paid staff greets me as female based on how I look, despite wearing cold weather layers and pants. In another week or two the weather should warm up enough for me to start wearing skorts on the golf course!

Marion

Hi!


Welcome Kacey!



Chrissy

Welcome. I keep reminding myself that it's never too late to be yourself.

I think that when we turn 50 we get a huge reality check. We realize how fast time is flying by and that we don't have too many "youthful" or energetic years left. We get the sense that it's "now or never" if you've been thinking of transitioning. It's no surprise that a lot of transgender people come out fully in public in their 50s.

I know my mindset has changed a lot since I hit my 50s.

All the best for your journey!

Hi Kacey,

I very much relate to a good portion of your introduction. I definitely felt the same way. There was something missing, and I couldn't figure out what it was.

Glad you're here.

Alana

Hello Kacey,

You will find plenty of friends here and you'll find your story is like so many others.