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Title: Hello!
Post by: Eilidh99 on May 14, 2026, 11:17:24 AM
Post by: Eilidh99 on May 14, 2026, 11:17:24 AM
Hello, my name is Eilidh. I came out at 37 to my partner and started a medical transition at 39. Just looking to get some feminization tips and offer support during these scary times.
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Eilidh99 on May 14, 2026, 11:28:13 AM
Post by: Eilidh99 on May 14, 2026, 11:28:13 AM
Also, forgive this question. How do I upload a profile photo? Haha.
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Dawn Kellie on May 14, 2026, 12:44:10 PM
Post by: Dawn Kellie on May 14, 2026, 12:44:10 PM
Welcome Eilidh
You will be getting a lot of you questions answered by the amazing welcoming committee.
This place had a lot of great people that can give some amazing advice
You will be getting a lot of you questions answered by the amazing welcoming committee.
This place had a lot of great people that can give some amazing advice
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Lori Dee on May 14, 2026, 01:20:27 PM
Post by: Lori Dee on May 14, 2026, 01:20:27 PM
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I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!
Thank you for that wonderful introduction.
We strive to make this a safe space for you to find information and share your thoughts and comments. No matter who you are, you are always welcome at Susan's Place.
Profile photos and sending and receiving private messages are permitted after you reach 15 posts. There is a lot of information here to help you. Feel free to browse, reply, and add your experiences too. We all learn from each other.
When you click on the HOME button, you will see a page listing all of the various sub-forums by category and topic. Each sub-forum includes a description of what it is about, as well as any guidelines for posting.
Please keep in mind when posting that this is an ALL-AGES PUBLIC Forum and the internet never forgets. Do not post anything that you do not want to be made public.
I will add links below that are important for new and returning members.
Pay special attention to the links in RED.
If you have any questions about the Susan's Place site and the Forums, please feel free to contact me at LoriDee605@outlook.com.
Once again, welcome to Susan's Place!
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Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: KristaFairchild on May 14, 2026, 01:26:20 PM
Post by: KristaFairchild on May 14, 2026, 01:26:20 PM
Quote from: Eilidh99 on May 14, 2026, 11:28:13 AMAlso, forgive this question. How do I upload a profile photo? Haha.In your profile. The tricky part is it has to be a tiny photo (I think it was 200 x 200 pixels?).
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Rochelle on May 14, 2026, 04:51:36 PM
Post by: Rochelle on May 14, 2026, 04:51:36 PM
Hello and welcome to the site. There is alot of information here and the staff and users can always help with questions or point you the appropriate forum section. 💜
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Maid Marion on May 14, 2026, 05:11:05 PM
Post by: Maid Marion on May 14, 2026, 05:11:05 PM
General impression counts for a lot as most people don't have the time and energy do more than that.
How you walk up to them as well as any mannerisms is the first thing they perceive.
Women are more cautious and check everyone out while guys can be more oblivious to their surroundings.
Then the way you dress. If you aren't wearing something like a dress or heels the fit of the clothes often matters. Women are judged on how they dress so they spend more of an effort to find stuff that fits properly. Proper fit is often half a size smaller rather than half a size larger for guys.
Women tend to be colder in offices so they wear layers to stay warm. Just one layer of clothing suggests a male presentation.
Marion
How you walk up to them as well as any mannerisms is the first thing they perceive.
Women are more cautious and check everyone out while guys can be more oblivious to their surroundings.
Then the way you dress. If you aren't wearing something like a dress or heels the fit of the clothes often matters. Women are judged on how they dress so they spend more of an effort to find stuff that fits properly. Proper fit is often half a size smaller rather than half a size larger for guys.
Women tend to be colder in offices so they wear layers to stay warm. Just one layer of clothing suggests a male presentation.
Marion
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Stottie Girl on May 14, 2026, 05:18:14 PM
Post by: Stottie Girl on May 14, 2026, 05:18:14 PM
Quote from: KristaFairchild on May 14, 2026, 01:26:20 PMIn your profile. The tricky part is it has to be a tiny photo (I think it was 200 x 200 pixels?).Krista is right 200 pixels is the limit. It is easy enough to resize a image though. In Mac OS just open the image, select tools and then resize. Change the horizontal size to 200 and the vertical will adjust automatically. There will be a similar process for windows I'm sure.
As Lori says you need to hit 15 posts though so join in the discussion. You will hit it in no time.
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: ChrissyRyan on May 14, 2026, 05:23:37 PM
Post by: ChrissyRyan on May 14, 2026, 05:23:37 PM
Hi!
Welcome Eilidh!
Chrissy
Welcome Eilidh!
Chrissy
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Petunia on May 14, 2026, 08:32:21 PM
Post by: Petunia on May 14, 2026, 08:32:21 PM
Hi Eilidh, nice to meet you
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Susan on May 16, 2026, 12:32:14 PM
Post by: Susan on May 16, 2026, 12:32:14 PM
Hi Eilidh,
Welcome to Susan's Place. I'm Susan, the site founder.
Coming out at 37 and starting medical transition at 39 puts you in good company here — a lot of our members started somewhere in that window, and the I knew but it took me a while to know I knew arc is one of the most common stories on the site. You have most of your life still ahead of you, and there will come a time when who you were before fades away, leaving only who you are. That's not something you have to make happen. It happens on its own, with time, while you're busy living. You're on time for you, which is the only timing that ever really matters.
For feminization specifically, you'll find a lot of accumulated knowledge across a few different boards. Hormone replacement therapy has its own board under Transitioning, with members at every stage sharing what worked, what didn't, what they wish they'd known earlier. Passing has another, and so do Voice Therapy and Surgery, Hair removal, and Facial feminization surgery if those become relevant later. The wiki has some good reference material too. Browse around — most members find the boards that match where they are right now, and the ones that match where they're heading become useful later.
A few practical pieces of advice for the early changes:
The fastest gains in presentation are often the ones that don't require anything medical. Changing how you dress, getting your eyebrows shaped, finding a hair style that works for you, and learning to do your own makeup will move the needle more in the first months than people coming in usually expect. These simple changes quickly compound, and they directly affect how others perceive you. Coming out isn't a one-time event — early in transition, you'll find yourself doing it frequently, with new people, in new situations.
The more your presentation does the work for you, the less often you have to do it yourself.
The other thing that helps is voice work. Of all the things I personally went through, the procedure I felt was most important after GRS was voice surgery, with FFS after that. None of these are mandatory — they depend on your needs, your body, your situation, and what feels right for you — but if you're thinking about long-term planning, those are the ones that mattered most in my own experience. Plenty of members here transition without surgery beyond GRS, plenty go further, and both paths work. The right path is the one that fits the life you're building.
On the scary times piece — you're right that they are, and you're right to name it. The political environment is putting pressure on members across the country and across the world, and a lot of people here are carrying real fear right now along with everything else transition asks of them. What I'd offer is that this community has been here since 1995. That's a lot of fights, and the thing that's kept it alive is members showing up for each other. You'll find that here. People will witness you. People will share what they know. When you're ready to offer support back, there will be people who need exactly what you have to give. That's how this place works.
Glad you found us. Take your time looking around, post when you're ready, and don't worry about doing it perfectly. There's no version of belonging here that you have to earn.
Welcome!
— Susan💜
Welcome to Susan's Place. I'm Susan, the site founder.
Coming out at 37 and starting medical transition at 39 puts you in good company here — a lot of our members started somewhere in that window, and the I knew but it took me a while to know I knew arc is one of the most common stories on the site. You have most of your life still ahead of you, and there will come a time when who you were before fades away, leaving only who you are. That's not something you have to make happen. It happens on its own, with time, while you're busy living. You're on time for you, which is the only timing that ever really matters.
For feminization specifically, you'll find a lot of accumulated knowledge across a few different boards. Hormone replacement therapy has its own board under Transitioning, with members at every stage sharing what worked, what didn't, what they wish they'd known earlier. Passing has another, and so do Voice Therapy and Surgery, Hair removal, and Facial feminization surgery if those become relevant later. The wiki has some good reference material too. Browse around — most members find the boards that match where they are right now, and the ones that match where they're heading become useful later.
A few practical pieces of advice for the early changes:
The fastest gains in presentation are often the ones that don't require anything medical. Changing how you dress, getting your eyebrows shaped, finding a hair style that works for you, and learning to do your own makeup will move the needle more in the first months than people coming in usually expect. These simple changes quickly compound, and they directly affect how others perceive you. Coming out isn't a one-time event — early in transition, you'll find yourself doing it frequently, with new people, in new situations.
The more your presentation does the work for you, the less often you have to do it yourself.
The other thing that helps is voice work. Of all the things I personally went through, the procedure I felt was most important after GRS was voice surgery, with FFS after that. None of these are mandatory — they depend on your needs, your body, your situation, and what feels right for you — but if you're thinking about long-term planning, those are the ones that mattered most in my own experience. Plenty of members here transition without surgery beyond GRS, plenty go further, and both paths work. The right path is the one that fits the life you're building.
On the scary times piece — you're right that they are, and you're right to name it. The political environment is putting pressure on members across the country and across the world, and a lot of people here are carrying real fear right now along with everything else transition asks of them. What I'd offer is that this community has been here since 1995. That's a lot of fights, and the thing that's kept it alive is members showing up for each other. You'll find that here. People will witness you. People will share what they know. When you're ready to offer support back, there will be people who need exactly what you have to give. That's how this place works.
Glad you found us. Take your time looking around, post when you're ready, and don't worry about doing it perfectly. There's no version of belonging here that you have to earn.
Welcome!
— Susan💜
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Northern Star Girl on May 16, 2026, 02:48:49 PM
Post by: Northern Star Girl on May 16, 2026, 02:48:49 PM
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@Eilidh99
Dear Eilidh:
The reply comment that @Susan posted is quite true and as you get more involved on the Forum
you will indeed find that a lot of our members started their medical transition when
they were in there 30's and 40's ... quite a few started even later in their 60's and 70's,
When I was 35 years old I started HRT in March 2015 and I then came out Full-Time in December 2016.
Yes, for sure our transition journeys can be filled with new uncertain feelings and outcomes
and initially can be very scary HOWEVER our members shared experiences can be valuable caches
of information that can be applicable to many readers.
Thank you for registering and becoming a member... WELCOME to Susan's Place and the Forum.
If you have any questions regarding how the Forum works you can feel free to contact me or
any of our STAFF.
HUGS, and Welcome,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Forum Administrator Direct Email: alaskandanielle@yahoo.com
Quote from: Eilidh99 on May 14, 2026, 11:17:24 AMHello, my name is Eilidh. I came out at 37 to my partner and started a medical transition at 39. Just looking to get some feminization tips and offer support during these scary times.
@Eilidh99
Dear Eilidh:
The reply comment that @Susan posted is quite true and as you get more involved on the Forum
you will indeed find that a lot of our members started their medical transition when
they were in there 30's and 40's ... quite a few started even later in their 60's and 70's,
When I was 35 years old I started HRT in March 2015 and I then came out Full-Time in December 2016.
Yes, for sure our transition journeys can be filled with new uncertain feelings and outcomes
and initially can be very scary HOWEVER our members shared experiences can be valuable caches
of information that can be applicable to many readers.
Thank you for registering and becoming a member... WELCOME to Susan's Place and the Forum.
If you have any questions regarding how the Forum works you can feel free to contact me or
any of our STAFF.
HUGS, and Welcome,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
Forum Administrator Direct Email: alaskandanielle@yahoo.com
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Alana Ashleigh on May 16, 2026, 03:04:27 PM
Post by: Alana Ashleigh on May 16, 2026, 03:04:27 PM
Hi, Eilidh.
Glad you're here.
Alana
Glad you're here.
Alana
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Stottie Girl on May 16, 2026, 03:32:50 PM
Post by: Stottie Girl on May 16, 2026, 03:32:50 PM
Whoops! I forgot to say Hello Eilidh! I'm Sarah! Very nice to meet you.
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: tgirlamg on May 16, 2026, 04:00:15 PM
Post by: tgirlamg on May 16, 2026, 04:00:15 PM
Eilidh!
Welcome Aboard Sister! 👋👩
Onward We Go!
Ashley 💕
Welcome Aboard Sister! 👋👩
Onward We Go!
Ashley 💕
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Dances With Trees on May 17, 2026, 10:19:35 AM
Post by: Dances With Trees on May 17, 2026, 10:19:35 AM
A pleasure to meet you, Elidh!
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Ciara on June 03, 2026, 03:54:43 AM
Post by: Ciara on June 03, 2026, 03:54:43 AM
Hi Eilidh,
It's lovely to meet you.
Welcome ❤️.
Ciara
It's lovely to meet you.
Welcome ❤️.
Ciara
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Courtney G on June 03, 2026, 07:34:07 AM
Post by: Courtney G on June 03, 2026, 07:34:07 AM
Welcome to the group, Eilidh. Good to have you here.
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Ciara on June 19, 2026, 06:39:48 AM
Post by: Ciara on June 19, 2026, 06:39:48 AM
Hi Elidh,
It's lovely to meet you.
Welcome ❤️.
Ciara.
It's lovely to meet you.
Welcome ❤️.
Ciara.