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This woman I know who is still in the cupboard has a birthday coming up.

I want to surprise her even though she hates surprises.

I could drag her out for a 2nd set of earpiercings but it might be too much for her.

I know she'd love having her nails done but again... out

A pedicure would be fun for her and easily concealed.

Tattoos are a no go, but temporaries could be ok.

Maybe a necklace. She always wears one.

Or a pretty silver ring with a small stone.

Any suggestions welcome

A card that says "Happy 29th birthday!" 🙂

Maybe a gift card to tomboyx if she's in need of gender affirming underwear? Or a gift card to a womens' store?

A two day time away from everything!

For my 60th I treated myself to a pair of Pirelli Night Dragon tyres for my Harley Davidson Sportster and 2 days away in East Anglia before the weather broke. It was brilliant though a bit chilly in late October

I was thinking of buying myself a piece of jewelry so I always have a reminder but I'll put it on hold for now.

I started "the conversation" with my wife last night and it wasn't positive.

Quote from: Petunia on June 22, 2026, 04:59:55 PMI was thinking of buying myself a piece of jewelry so I always have a reminder but I'll put it on hold for now.

I started "the conversation" with my wife last night and it wasn't positive.

I had my ears pierced for my 60th and got a pair of crystal studs.

I am happy that you started the conversation with your wife. Keep in mind that this is a shock to her hearing from you for the first time. She will need time to adjust. You have known this for much longer. Keep being yourself, be honest and open, and listen carefully to her concerns.

Check out the Significant Others Forum here to get an idea of what it looks like from her side. Good luck. Just be patient.

Thanks Lori,
I repierced my ears last year when all my thoughts came back. I have thought about getting a 2nd set of piercings but I need to park that idea.

I just typed out a piece about what happened last night but lost it because I wasn't logged in.

I'll try again when I feel like it.

Yes, I've been reading lot's of the significant others posts.

Amy gives me a lot of hope

I am giving myself a belated birthday treat.

I'm writing this from the nail salon and I'm having a shellac pedicure.

The lady doing it asked if I want my fingers done too.

I'm a bit worried what my wife would say about that.

I know I'll wish I had said yes later

Belated congratulations Petunia. 
For my 60'th, I started HRT. It was the start of my journey and my real birthday. But jewelry is my favorite gift to receive.

The pedicure proceded a visit to my psychologist.

We had a long and thorough discussion which ended with me walking out with an informed consent form to fill out.

When I'm ready my therapist will send a letter to a doctor who has experience in hrt.

It's a case of talking to my wife and then finding out if my health issues make it too risky for me.

My wife looked at our credit card statement and asked if I had my nails done.

I said yes and she grabbed my hands to look.

I said no, just my toes.

Her reply, nice colout.

I should have done my fingers too but I know I'd only be satisfied with extensions.

Anyway, something positive there. 😀

Big news. Well it feels like it for me.

I have an appointment with a gender affirming doctor.

It is 6 weeks away so that's a good cooling off period.

Quote from: Petunia on July 03, 2026, 02:29:43 PMBig news. Well it feels like it for me.

I have an appointment with a gender affirming doctor.

It is 6 weeks away so that's a good cooling off period.

That is big news, Petunia.

I have been following you here, honey, albeit from the shadows. And I want to say thank you, for being you. And... the way you are here... it's a formality. Some people, you just know.

As for the birthday... I also hate surprises. Just ask, haha. Maybe if you have an idea, work it into a stealth ask. I am sorry I am not more help but for any gift... I would rather someone ask me what I want than try to surprise me, because that never ends well.

Quote from: Petunia on July 03, 2026, 02:29:43 PMBig news. Well it feels like it for me.

I have an appointment with a gender affirming doctor.

It is 6 weeks away so that's a good cooling off period.

Congratulations on this big step. So happy to hear this Petunia. Look forward to hearing all about it when the time comes x

Congrats, Petunia!

That first step is always a milestone. Let the journey begin!

Today is the first day I went out in what I consider is really dressed feminine.

Stripped green and white blouse, white jeggings, cream open toed low heel sandles to show off my red toes, foundation and nude lipstick.

I went and had a brow wax and tint and eyelash tint.

I talked to my hairdresser beautician about where I'm going and she was sympathetic and made some good suggestions.

She also gave me an idea of how she would do my hair if I let her.

She complimented my red pedicured toenails,which matched her fingers, and the clothes I was wearing, saying it was nicely age approapriate.

So happy with that

Quote from: Petunia on July 09, 2026, 12:13:02 AMToday is the first day I went out in what I consider is really dressed feminine.

Stripped green and white blouse, white jeggings, cream open toed low heel sandles to show off my red toes, foundation and nude lipstick.

I went and had a brow wax and tint and eyelash tint.

I talked to my hairdresser beautician about where I'm going and she was sympathetic and made some good suggestions.

She also gave me an idea of how she would do my hair if I let her.

She complimented my red pedicured toenails,which matched her fingers, and the clothes I was wearing, saying it was nicely age approapriate.

So happy with that

Awww that sounds amazing Petunia. So glad you got to step up your look and go out much more feminine than before. I'm betting that felt really nice too.

Charlotte 😻

Thanks Charlotte. It did feel good.

Today we went shopping for a coat for my wife.

I was wearing a mens button up shirt, black jeggings and ankle boots.

In 2 different stores we were greeted as "ladies" as the assistants didn't look at me properly. 😀

We were on our way to the car park when we noticed a lady in her 80s who looked lost.

She had parked her car and was having trouble finding it.

She asked me if my earrings in both ears meant I went both ways.

We helped her find her car and the trip really has me smiling.

Petunia, I too have followed your journey with hope and now joy for you, sister! You went from fear of visibility to enjoying visibility. That's a real milestone. If you keep a gender calendar, you have entries to add! 

In my experience, it gets easier and more fun with time. Does your body know what it wants? That's the case for me; in a skirt I feel both thrilled and relaxed. 

There is also this mind blowing moment when you realize people are seeing you as a woman (or in my case a trans woman because I don't pass) and there is no reason not to fully embrace it with all the things you were hesitant to wear. 

Thanks for sharing with us! 

Two days ago I went to a place that does reputable ear piercing. I have been thinking about second piercings in both lobes for a while.

TBH I would have loved this for a 60th present.

Anyway I walked past the place twice before pushing the door.
And the door was locked. Not open until tomorrow!

Instead I went shopping and bought some nice stretch linen slacks and a zip up jacket.

On the way back I found a packet of 4 styles of glue on french nails, a heap of hair ties, pencil sharpeners and a hair brush for under A$20.
The nice check out girl didn't bat an eyelid. I love the young generation.

Today I applied some of the short square nails, put on tinted sunscreen, and more visible lipstick than I normally wear and went for a bike ride.


After getting back and feeling good, showered, tinted sunscreen reapplied, lips redone darker, lashes with a hint of mascara I went looking for a nail salon to redo my pedicure.

Beside the woman next to me who looked at my red toenails and refused to make eye contact with me (red before and after) it was a really great experience.

Oh, I found an op shop on the way back and found a nice pair of girl shorts.

So other than losing a glue on nail, happy day.

Oh as a PS on a good note,
my wife told me she had a pedicure today.
I said so did I. I told her it was great for the leg massage and for the massage chair.
Small steps make me happy as I sit here looking at my red vibrant toenails

Quote from: Petunia on July 30, 2026, 04:22:07 AMTwo days ago I went to a place that does reputable ear piercing. I have been thinking about second piercings in both lobes for a while.

TBH I would have loved this for a 60th present.

Anyway I walked past the place twice before pushing the door.
And the door was locked. Not open until tomorrow!

Instead I went shopping and bought some nice stretch linen slacks and a zip up jacket.

On the way back I found a packet of 4 styles of glue on french nails, a heap of hair ties, pencil sharpeners and a hair brush for under A$20.
The nice check out girl didn't bat an eyelid. I love the young generation.

Today I applied some of the short square nails, put on tinted sunscreen, and more visible lipstick than I normally wear and went for a bike ride.


After getting back and feeling good, showered, tinted sunscreen reapplied, lips redone darker, lashes with a hint of mascara I went looking for a nail salon to redo my pedicure.

Beside the woman next to me who looked at my red toenails and refused to make eye contact with me (red before and after) it was a really great experience.

Oh, I found an op shop on the way back and found a nice pair of girl shorts.

So other than losing a glue on nail, happy day.

Oh as a PS on a good note,
my wife told me she had a pedicure today.
I said so did I. I told her it was great for the leg massage and for the massage chair.
Small steps make me happy as I sit here looking at my red vibrant toenails

I love this story! Not only did you find affirming things to do and buy, nothing stopped you. Not a locked door or a lack of eye contact. I'm trying to be like you!

Quote from: Petunia on July 30, 2026, 04:22:07 AMAnd then one day you stop to find,
10 years have got behind you,
no one told you when to run,
you missed the starting gun

Do you like PF or is it the deeper meaning of the lyrics that you like, or both?

Wow @Petunia , loved your last post and what a day!

Quote from: Petunia on July 30, 2026, 04:22:07 AMThe nice check out girl didn't bat an eyelid. I love the young generation.

New generations may have other areas of improvement, but in this sense they are light years ahead.

Going back to

Quote from: Petunia on June 17, 2026, 03:48:54 AMThis woman I know who is still in the cupboard has a birthday coming up. I want to surprise her even though she hates surprises.

Maybe not the whole day, but how about a femme celebration?. I mean, going for massage, manicure, pedicure, face cleaning.
Used to have an aesthetic clinic some years ago and there are treatments that can work on men and on those that have their doubts but love being treated with care. Used to have men for face (or hand) peeling, followed by mesotherapy. Results are great and make your face glow (and hands look great too). I don't know the prices at your place, but here they are reasonable and certain clinics (like mine) can offer the experience for two or more friends with intimacy.

Could be an option...

Quote from: Finally Anna on July 31, 2026, 03:38:18 AMDo you like PF or is it the deeper meaning of the lyrics that you like, or both?

Like doesn't really cover it.

I saw them in Sydney 1988 concert no.1.
Very expensive at the time. Twice the price of anything I had seen before.

It was so good that I went back 3 days later for concert 4

I have seen a lot of bands and shows but these concerts blow anything else away.

I have also seen Roger Waters 3 times, and they have been good concerts, but not like the Floyd.

I'm big into music lyrics.  Time will be my eulogy.

And you run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking
Racing around to come up behind you again
Sun is the same, in a relative way, but you're older
Shorter of breath and one day closer to death

Every year is getting shorter, never seem to find the time
Plans that either come to naught, or half a page of scribbled lines
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way
The time is gone, the song is over, thought I'd something more to say

Except for the "English way" it kind of describes my life.

Thinking about things but never acting.
Then you look at the hourglass and you finally see it's running out.

Quote from: Anne_lifetrip on July 31, 2026, 04:32:41 AMWow @Petunia , loved your last post and what a day!
New generations may have other areas of improvement, but in this sense they are light years ahead.

Going back to Maybe not the whole day, but how about a femme celebration?. I mean, going for massage, manicure, pedicure, face cleaning.
Used to have an aesthetic clinic some years ago and there are treatments that can work on men and on those that have their doubts but love being treated with care. Used to have men for face (or hand) peeling, followed by mesotherapy. Results are great and make your face glow (and hands look great too). I don't know the prices at your place, but here they are reasonable and certain clinics (like mine) can offer the experience for two or more friends with intimacy.

Could be an option...

My hope is that I can go with my wife and have pedicures together with polish.

I'm trying the glue on nails for a trial. If I can function out of the house with them, I also hope this is something we can do together.

Given I'm "banned" from crossdressing out of the house I don't know what is possible.
But if I'm lucky enough for this to happen, I hope the preparation makes me confident enough

Quote from: KristaFairchild on July 31, 2026, 01:09:37 AMI love this story! Not only did you find affirming things to do and buy, nothing stopped you. Not a locked door or a lack of eye contact. I'm trying to be like you!

WHAT !!!?

Krista you are an inspiration to me. I aspire to be where you are.

I'm ok when I'm in the "zone" but most of the time I'm full of doubts.

Quote from: Petunia on July 31, 2026, 05:35:39 AMGiven I'm "banned" from crossdressing out of the house I don't know what is possible.

@Petunia, if there are aesthetic clinics nearby neither of you need to be femme for the plan.
And, usually, we are very discreet and don't judge at all...that is rule number one when you get into aesthetics.
I still proved treatments on my friends, family and myself and that doesn't change.
Worth a try.

Quote from: Petunia on July 31, 2026, 05:38:53 AMI'm ok when I'm in the "zone" but most of the time I'm full of doubts.

I think this is something that many of us just have to learn to live with. Accepting the doubts and treating them for what they are, namely a product of how society works and the norms that are more or less enforced on us during life. Making them our trusted partner without letting them cause (too much) pain.
Hey, doubts! I know you! I see you! But you are the Wingman, I am the Leader!
💕

Quote from: Anne_lifetrip on July 31, 2026, 05:44:42 AM@Petunia, if there are aesthetic clinics nearby neither of you need to be femme for the plan.
And, usually, we are very discreet and don't judge at all...that is rule number one when you get into aesthetics.
I still proved treatments on my friends, family and myself and that doesn't change.
Worth a try.

So, from what has been happening, wearing leggings, yoga pants, girl jeans and jeggings, women's tees, women's boots, tinted sunscreen, neutral lipstick, hairless body, whatever earrings, shoulder length hair, waxed brows, femme deodorant and perfume and hidden painted toenails are not considered as being crossdressing.

If I'm going in I'm fine with dressing in those parameters.  The issue is my wife doesn't want us to be seen doing it in case someone we know finds out.   

   

Quote from: Petunia on July 31, 2026, 06:04:24 AMSo, from what has been happening, wearing leggings, yoga pants, girl jeans and jeggings, women's tees, women's boots, tinted sunscreen, neutral lipstick, hairless body, whatever earrings, shoulder length hair, waxed brows, femme deodorant and perfume and hidden painted toenails are not considered as being crossdressing.

If I'm going in I'm fine with dressing in those parameters.  The issue is my wife doesn't want us to be seen doing it in case someone we know finds out. 

 

Great thoughts, Petunia. I love your openness and honesty. 

Last year we had a slogan at work that was everywhere. "Make It Happen". We were also encouraged to choose a word for the year. My inspirational superintendent looked at me while I was trying to figure out a word. He looked me in the eyes and said what is your word. Instantly, I said "Emergence". I framed a loan desert flower coming out of the Earth with that word and kept it on my desk all year.

Put back to making it happen. A month would go by and my superintendent was talking to some students. These were kids who had had a rough life and had struggled. One of them heard the phrase "make it happen" and added words that I've never forgotten and neither did he. 

"And Do It Scared." That's what many of us are doing. I'm scared for parts of every day. Lately I'm euphoric for a better part of the day. It's all settling in. 

This made me chuckle, "leggings, yoga pants, girl jeans and jeggings, women's tees, women's boots, tinted sunscreen, neutral lipstick, hairless body, whatever earrings, shoulder length hair, waxed brows, femme deodorant and perfume and hidden painted toenails are not considered as being crossdressing."

Girl. Really? 

I was like that for months, maybe years. I thought I was so subtle! No one noticed, right? They just thought I had style! Maybe I was metrosexual or something? I didn't know that everyone knew I was trans. When did my outfits out myself? I don't know. I advanced in my presentation, slowly, gradually, safely. Longer earrings. Eyeliner. A little extra flourish on a blouse. 

No one at work or in my social circles said a word. Neither did my wife for a long time. 

When I finally put in a dress, breast forms, and a wig, it was like people I knew were saying, "FINALLY!" 

It turns I feel better fully put together than 3/4 put together. 

Quote from: Petunia on July 31, 2026, 06:04:24 AMIf I'm going in I'm fine with dressing in those parameters.  The issue is my wife doesn't want us to be seen doing it in case someone we know finds out.   

That sounds great!
I'm going out on a limb:I guess she will gradually let go of the fears. It's just that she has to become more comfortable with that people around you probably already know and that most people actually are ok with it.

Paradox, paradox: I write this well aware that the fear is also with me, about my own presentation. But logic about things and emotions about things are not always in line.

A funny story. We have been out walking the dog with me in my yoga pants or legging a lot lately. There were eyebrows from my wife at first.

Then one day I wore my old guy track pants and top and she asked me if I was trying to look homeless.

Not a slight against people doing it tough, but these yard clothes are what I had been wearing outside for years.

So the changes in my wardrobe must make me look better.  And I have to say, a lot of our girlfriends have had only positive comments, plus the odd "I would have never recognized you"

I know several of them have clocked me, but they are all to polite to say anything. My wife is scared they will think less of her for having a partner like me.

But, I've been treated as one of the girls for about 30 years.

Quote from: KristaFairchild on July 31, 2026, 10:04:17 AMThis made me chuckle, "leggings, yoga pants, girl jeans and jeggings, women's tees, women's boots, tinted sunscreen, neutral lipstick, hairless body, whatever earrings, shoulder length hair, waxed brows, femme deodorant and perfume and hidden painted toenails are not considered as being crossdressing."

Girl. Really?

Yeah, I get it.
But I don't make the rules.  It's no dresses, no skirts, no blouses, no make up.

At the same time I've heard her say, "you know women can tell what you are wearing?"   

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 05:40:30 AMThen one day I wore my old guy track pants and top and she asked me if I was trying to look homeless.

I still think that this! (it is actually a bit hilarious)

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 05:40:30 AMI know several of them have clocked me, but they are all to polite to say anything.

And this!

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 05:40:30 AMBut, I've been treated as one of the girls for about 30 years.

And this!

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 05:40:30 AMBut I don't make the rules. It's no dresses, no skirts, no blouses, no make up.

Will make this be a bit softer along the edges, with time.
But if it does not, then perhaps it is a thing that you can live with?

I get it Anna. I'm trying to throw one old piece out for everything new I buy.

Anytime I get criticized for wearing something yardy out, I toss it.

I have worked in heavy industry for 40 years dressing most days in dirt and industrial clothing.

I never threw any of my old home clothes out, I just wore them till they fell apart, which was usually decades.

When I first went op-shopping and bought femme styles my wife wasn't happy, but because I was taking care of my appearance it became ok.

My wife keeps wanting to buy me guy stuff. I asked her to return one top and she bought me a man's bracelet for my 60th. It sat at the edge of the dining table for 3 weeks before I had the courage to ask her if I could return it.

It was a nice piece but I wanted something from the other side of the aisle. I know why she did that because I have been wearing an obviously femme (junk jewelry) silver bracelet for 12 months and there is no mistaking it.
Also a femme junk necklace that she wasn't happy with.

I'm hoping over time we will just move on   

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 06:14:19 AMI get it Anna. I'm trying to throw one old piece out for everything new I buy.

Anytime I get criticized for wearing something yardy out, I toss it.

I have worked in heavy industry for 40 years dressing most days in dirt and industrial clothing.

I never threw any of my old home clothes out, I just wore them till they fell apart, which was usually decades.

When I first went op-shopping and bought femme styles my wife wasn't happy, but because I was taking care of my appearance it became ok.

My wife keeps wanting to buy me guy stuff. I asked her to return one top and she bought me a man's bracelet for my 60th. It sat at the edge of the dining table for 3 weeks before I had the courage to ask her if I could return it.

It was a nice piece but I wanted something from the other side of the aisle. I know why she did that because I have been wearing an obviously femme (junk jewelry) silver bracelet for 12 months and there is no mistaking it.
Also a femme junk necklace that she wasn't happy with.

I'm hoping over time we will just move on   

Still breaks my heart reading that you're getting pressure to not present as your true self. Each time I read these kind of accounts about partners not fully onside it makes my heart ache. I can't imagine that pain. But I  do understand its a complex situation  not simply solved. If society at large made less of a big deal then i thibk it would consequently be easier for partners to accept. I dream of utopia, but know it'll never be.

Sending love and hugs 🥰

Thanks Charlotte

If it comes down to it, I can't break up with my wife. We have been through too much together.

We both agree we don't want that.

So we have to find another way. 

I know I am a nicer person as a woman than as a man. I think she is starting to see that.

Sex is a long forgotten memory but we have been cuddling more than we have in years. 

Thanks Charlotte

If it comes down to it, I can't break up with my wife. We have been through too much together.

We both agree we don't want that.

So we have to find another way. 

I know I am a nicer person as a woman than as a man. I think she is starting to see that.

Sex is a long forgotten memory but we have been cuddling more than we have in years. 

To be fair to her she married what she thought was a man, even though she was attracted to the softer, gentler side of me.

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 05:40:30 AMA funny story. We have been out walking the dog with me in my yoga pants or legging a lot lately. There were eyebrows from my wife at first.

Then one day I wore my old guy track pants and top and she asked me if I was trying to look homeless.

Not a slight against people doing it tough, but these yard clothes are what I had been wearing outside for years.

So the changes in my wardrobe must make me look better.  And I have to say, a lot of our girlfriends have had only positive comments, plus the odd "I would have never recognized you"

I know several of them have clocked me, but they are all to polite to say anything. My wife is scared they will think less of her for having a partner like me.

But, I've been treated as one of the girls for about 30 years.   

Yeah, I get it.
But I don't make the rules.  It's no dresses, no skirts, no blouses, no make up.

At the same time I've heard her say, "you know women can tell what you are wearing?" 

You are slowly and steadily changing perceptions and expectations. How exciting!

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 06:38:14 AMIf it comes down to it, I can't break up with my wife. We have been through too much together.
We both agree we don't want that.
So we have to find another way. 
I know I am a nicer person as a woman than as a man. I think she is starting to see that.

Petunia, I understand this perfectly and this is also how I currently view me and my wife.
And, I'm sorry about my clumsy post just above. 😔 ❤️

Anna, I didn't take any offence and  didn't think it was clumsy.

I actually agree with you.  My wife doesn't hate me for being trans or for what I wear, she is just concerned about what society thinks and how they might react.

I might have to start a blog in the near future.

I've been trying to commit to 2 hours exercise a day and cutting back on junk. It's hard with the body pain I have, but that's not going away, so suck it up princess.

It was raining this morning so I decided to drive back to the piercing place.

The result is I'm now double pierced in both ears. Now I can wear a hoop and a shiny stud. I don't have to choose.

The young lady who did them couldn't have been better. They were done with a needle which is much better than stabbing a stud through.

She also made no comment on how I was dressed, no comment on my stick on nails, but I'm sure she knew what I was doing as I have started wearing pink and blue elastic bands alongside my silver bracelet along with a temporary butterfly tattoo on the inside of my wrist.

My wife will be here in 2 days, I will remove my nails, tattoo and probably the elastic bands. She keeps asking me if wearing elastic bands means something. Well, no bt yes.

On the way back I stopped at an opshop and noticed one of the people from there struggling to get a cupboard on to a dolly to take it took a customers car.
I showed her how to do it without having to lift the cupboard.

She came up to me in the shop to thank me while is was in the middle of the women's clothing section. If I lived around here I think I could have found myself a new friend 💙

Anyway, I found a pair of faux suede leather jeggings which I could just about fit. More reason to continue healthy choices.

I went to pay for them and women I helped before was teaching another lady how to process sales and she just said women's pants. 

(I so wish I lived near hear)

After that, I took a leaf out of my internet friend Krista's musings and went to a cosmetics shop to buy a red lipstick, which is loreal 300 Le Rouge Paris, and wow is that red. I don't think I'll be wearing outside like Krista just yet, and I'm going to have to practice straight lines (I did put it on in the for the drive home)

I also bought some maybelline foundation, matte poreless number 115 which seemed to be the closest match.
Happily another shop assistant came up and aske another woman and I if we needed help.

Upon reflection, I should have said yes and let her put the testers on me. Sigh, live and learn.

What I have to remember, in settings like this, women can tell. A man in a cosmetics store, a man in the women's clothing section, a man with long hair, female jewelry all over wearing androgynous clothes.... who am I kidding
🩷💄👠⚧️🏳��⚧️


   

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 09:55:56 PMMy wife doesn't hate me for being trans or for what I wear, she is just concerned about what society thinks and how they might react.

You generated a thought about my wife. She's a longtime LGBTQ supporter but struggled at first because it was her spouse. 

It's possible she now sees that to truly love me means to accept and value me as I am. And F society. 

Quote from: Petunia on August 01, 2026, 09:55:56 PMMy wife doesn't hate me for being trans or for what I wear, she is just concerned about what society thinks and how they might react.

Quote from: KristaFairchild on August 04, 2026, 12:54:24 AMYou generated a thought about my wife. She's a longtime LGBTQ supporter but struggled at first because it was her spouse.
It's possible she now sees that to truly love me means to accept and value me as I am. And F society.

This made me think about my wife and her views.
She is a great believer in personal freedom of expression and she has been involved in lgbtq related things in her profession and is aquainted with people that are L and people that are T. I have personal friends that are L and that are G.
She says that she will stand behind me if I want to dress more femme and has more or less invited me to try the clothes that I think I'll want or that I want to test - meaning at least skirts. So far, this is  unchartered territory because I am only subtly femme in my external presentation.

So far, her only(?) fear is her own attraction to me if I become woman-ish.

I don't hide my femme things  but I try to be a bit dignified about them. That is how I function with a lot of things, not only my femininity and I also owe her to be a bit low-key. No unnecessary fuzz.

@Petunia, I think this is turning into your personal blog, isn't it? Perhaps ask mod to rename and move?

I haven't posted much lately. My wife and I were set to have the talk but she backed out of it.

I kind of wanted to show her some of my posts here but I want to do it in a slow progressive way.  I find it a lot easier to express myself in written form rather than verbalising things as I tend to get overly emotional on important things.

I have been almost totally dressing in female cothes, well it's really just women's jeans, tees but also yoga pants all the time.

We got "hi ladies" by a guy and my wife said , see I told you that you need a haircut.

My wife even though I was a woman while we were out shopping and got separated.

I bought some foundation which I wore out twice with my wife before she found the bottle. I explained I had worn it to hide facial blemishes, and she seemed ok with that.

I have been wearing neutral lipstick daily as well.

As I wrote elsewhere my wife outed me to a very close friend which is quite a big turning point for us. This is the first person she told.

I outed myself to a friend 6 months ago, my beautician who I didn't know before, my therapist and the young woman who repierced my ears. Tjey were all very supportive.

Today I come out to a doctor I haven't met before. She is a gender affirming health provider.

I spent yesterday trolling through my health reports from the last few years in the hopes that it might save so time and/or unecessary tests

Quote from: Petunia on August 17, 2026, 06:05:33 PMMy wife even thought I was a woman while we were out shopping and got separated.

As I wrote elsewhere my wife outed me to a very close friend which is quite a big turning point for us. This is the first person she told.

I outed myself to a friend 6 months ago, my beautician who I didn't know before, my therapist and the young woman who repierced my ears. Tjey were all very supportive.

Today I come out to a doctor I haven't met before. She is a gender affirming health provider.

I quoted selectively but those quotes make me happy for you, they tell me that you two seem to be moving in the right direction.
💕

I went for a blood test this morning and on the form it boldly stated Gender Affirming Care- Initial Consultation.

This made me feel quite nervous handing the form over.
I need not have worried as nobody blinked or questioned it.

The lady taking the blood was very quiet while drawing my blood but if she wasn't comfortable, she didn't show it.  I thanked her for being gentle, gave a urine sample and left.

This afternoon my gender gp sent a standard text asking me to make another routine appointment.

There was one for next Tuesday. I had already booked an appointment for the Monday after that (31st) but it looks like I get to go early.

It also means I am now out to my regular (male) gp as the results were tagged to go to him too.

So I'm out to 5 women, one man, my wife and soon to be all the receptionists at my gp's who I am quite friendly with.

When things change they go fast!

You are on your way, Petunia!

Congrats on the successful first steps.

Yesterday morning I was out walking the dog and I noticed a sign somebody had put up on a powerpole. It was asking for help to find the person who had hit a car, damaged all down the right side, smashe the door mirror and didn't stop.

Today my wife and I walked our dog in a suburb a few away from our place and I noticed a car with extensive damage down the left hand side and there was collision marks that seemed like it matched the first car plus had marks on it's mirror indicating it had hit something but not broken.

I took some photos of the 2nd car and went to the people who own the car damaged and left.

They were totally surprised, thankful and couldn't believe I had gone out of my way.

They are going to contact the police. I hope they find the culprit even if it isn't this one.

I think I've seen the owners of the damaged car out walking our neighbourhood hills before but I do feel good for trying to help them.

Very nicely acted. Righteously, even.
And you made a new friend
💕

I would have loved to go bikini shopping.  A rite of passage for women in our society.

I'm currently sitting in the waiting room of my GA GP.
My blood pressure has just been taken and it is very high.

I'm as nervous as anything.
I'll get the results of my blood test last week and then who knows what to expect?

I can feel that nervousness, mixed with excitement. 💕

So 25/8/2026 I started estradiol gel.

I am surprised how quickly the gel was absorbed. I guess my skin must be really dry. It was less than a minute.

I am only doing one pump per arm to monitor how it goes.

To say my wife is very unhappy would be an understatement.

This morning my wife suggested we walk to our local large shopping centre.

I put my tinted sunscreen on, took a large dose of vitamin D as my levels were found to be 40% of the lowest acceptable range and my wife said "don't forget your estradiol"

That was unexpected!😀

I dressed in yoga pants and a tee shirt and of we went.

We each purchased a hair dye before going clothes shopping, only in the women's section. We bought nothing but she never asked me if I want to look at menswear. That's a first.

We had Vietnamese food for lunch before walking back.

In all it was a fun morning.

Quote from: Petunia on August 26, 2026, 12:06:57 AMThis morning my wife suggested we walk to our local large shopping centre.

...and my wife said "don't forget your estradiol"

That was unexpected!😀

...she never asked me if I want to look at menswear. That's a first.

In all it was a fun morning.

A great morning! Let's hope this is a hint on things becoming more normalised.
💕

Quote from: Petunia on August 20, 2026, 10:36:41 PMI went for a blood test this morning and on the form it boldly stated Gender Affirming Care- Initial Consultation.

This made me feel quite nervous handing the form over.
I need not have worried as nobody blinked or questioned it.

The lady taking the blood was very quiet while drawing my blood but if she wasn't comfortable, she didn't show it.  I thanked her for being gentle, gave a urine sample and left.

This afternoon my gender gp sent a standard text asking me to make another routine appointment.

There was one for next Tuesday. I had already booked an appointment for the Monday after that (31st) but it looks like I get to go early.

It also means I am now out to my regular (male) gp as the results were tagged to go to him too.

So I'm out to 5 women, one man, my wife and soon to be all the receptionists at my gp's who I am quite friendly with.

When things change they go fast!

You're experiencing similar things as I did. 

The big explosion didn't happen. My hairdresser supported me. People either didn't notice or care about the major changes I perceived that made me terrified to leave the house. No one cared about my patch. It was just another day to them.

My wife's initial fears and concerned reduced without me doing much. 

When I went to wig + forms + bold lipstick people NOTICED! 🤣🤣🤣. And they quit called me he. They started calling me Krista. And suddenly I could breathe. 

I forgot to mention, when I saw my regular male gp he just read out my blood results without blinking.

I thought there must have been nothing there about gender affirmation.

When I spoke to my GA female doctor who ordered the tests, she said it clearly stated gender affirmation.

I asked for a copy of the results and it says gender afirmation intial consultation at least 10 times.

Wow, my gp made a fantastic effort in not blinking.
To be fair, I think he has suspected for a while.

It's time I stop hijacking other peoples stories

TBH it's kind of like guy me interrupting someone around the dinner table to give my view.

It's called mansplaining, and I do it all the time.