Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi, I'm 60 years old, nonbinary transfem, and my egg cracked last year.

*record scratch* <Narrator>You might be wondering how we got here.</Narrator>

I never thought I could be trans because when I was young that word had a very limited definition. It was the "born in the wrong body" narrative. You also had to have really severe gender dysphoria, and hate your genitals. If that wasn't your narrative, word-for-word, then you weren't trans, by definition. You were a crossdresser, or ... other things I can't refer to on what's supposed to be an all ages message board.

I don't really remember a lot of my childhood but I remember my dad got REALLY hung up on making sure I didn't act in any way that could be called feminine. Couldn't even wear a pink shirt, even the classic "business shirt" that comes in pink. (and blue, and white, and mint green, and a bunch of other colors.)

I spent a lifetime thinking "Why do women get all the cool clothes?" but never connected that to being trans. Not really vibing with the label "boy" or "man"; just "I guess I'm OK with it" and dutifully checking the "M" box on official forms and such. "Hanging out with the guys" felt like putting on an act and I always preferred women as friends. I didn't really hate my genitals but tended to neglect my body and to think that in general the meatsack I was in was pretty darn annoying. Why are bodies, and why is mine so damn hairy.

I started hanging around ->-bleeped-<-, and found some of the trans and nonbinary meme communities.  "Yeah that's a vibe."  "Relatable."  And so on. So I did more reading, especially some more up-to-date stuff on who is "trans".

And then I found out that a lot of the things I was feeling had been various subtle forms of dysphoria. I found out that dysphoria doesn't necessarily equate to hating your genitals. I also found out that gender *euphoria* is a much better indicator of being trans than dysphoria, and that you didn't have to have dysphoria to be trans.

So. I guess I'm trans, then. Nice to meet you all.

Hi Emily,

Welcome!

 I socialize quite easily when presenting female but it has always been awkward when presenting male.

Marion

And nice meeting you!
Your story rings a lot of bells and I think you will find this place very welcoming, and there's a lot of really nice and insightful people hanging out here.

🙂

Emily!

Welcome aboard little sister!... lots of us here came to this path past the half century mark!

 Don't worry too much about seeking a label fits you... "trans" is a very umbrella term that may mean something a bit different to everyone that hears it!... Focus more on exploring how you need to order your life and express yourself to make your life the experience you need it to be... one that serves the needs of the soul within and builds true connection to others... to life... to the world and... to yourself... Your answers are out there and worth all your good efforts to find! 

May your path be blessed!

Onward!

Ashley 💕

Hello and welcome. We're very happy you joined here and so nice to meet you. 💚

    @Emily LeGoth
Dear Emily:
I am very happy to see that you have registered as a member of our Susan's Place Forum
                    Giving you a Warm Welcome.

I see that our Forum Staff member @Lori Dee gave you her Official Welcome Message 
Click LINK--> https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=254369.msg2344724#msg2344724
that includes the Forum Rules that give you important information so that you can safely
navigate around the Forum and the various Topics and Postings that may be of interest
to you.

What you described in your earlier years about gender dysphoria and being transgender is
something that most of our members can identify with. 
You will find a lot of information here that may be helpful to you.

I encourage you to read and reply to the various Forum postings and threads with your
comments and thoughts.  As you exchange conversations with other members here you will
most likely make some new like-minded friends.

Again, Welcome to Susan's Place and the Forum. Feel free to contact me or any
of the Forum Staff if you have any questions about the Forum.

Warm Regards,
Danielle [Northern Star Girl]
  The Forum Administrator  Direct Email: alaskandanielle@yahoo.com

Hi, Emily!

Thank you for that wonderful introduction.

As others have said, our stories are always similar. It is how we approach it from our own perspective and unique situation.

We are happy to have you with us!

Welcome!

Welcome Emily!


Chrissy

Are memes allowed? because this was one of the memes I found that I really vibed with and that very much cracked my egg.  That first panel was LITERALLY me, for DECADES.

(https://i.imgur.com/eOnwvVt.jpeg)

Edit: shrank the image down some

Quote from: Emily LeGoth on Yesterday at 10:36:12 PMAre memes allowed?

Hi Emily.

I think a lot of us can relate to that meme!

Here are the rules on photos and image posting:

https://www.susans.org//index.php/topic,59974.msg383866.html#msg383866

Hi there Emily. Welcome to Susans from Northern England.

So nice to meet you, I'm Sarah, 50 transwoman. I'm probably one of those who fit the original definition you laid out but as you've discovered, gender dysphoria is much more of a spectrum than a clear definition.

All are welcome here.

Sarah xx

Haha Emily that meme is spot on. Welcome, so cool you're here 🙋

Welcome Emily. Many here started later in life with rather strict parents. Self included. Welcome to the group.