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What in your transitioning has been the nicest result for you so far?

What has pleased you the most, what have you liked the most, what has given your reassurance that transitioning has been so far the right decision for you?

Please note that it does not matter how far along you are in your transitioning to share your thoughts on this.  You may wish to inform how far you have come along with your transition journey if you think that will help others understand or better put in context what you share.

Chrissy

For me the best result has been FFS for sure. Without I'd be way off where I want to be. Really though just being able to dress as a woman is the most rewarding thing overall and gives joy daily. I'm 15 months since egg cracking and starting HRT and fully presented from day 1.

Kicking out the evil twins back in 2010.

I remember a couple of months after the surgery, I had fully healed, and I was sitting on the floor. I was playing GTA: Liberty City Stories. I was listening to Radio Del Mundo and grooving while doing a late-night cab run. (Both in real time and in game time.)

After dropping off a fare, I stood up and stretched a bit. Once I sat back down, it hit me: Totally smooth feeling. I had never noticed just how friggin' uncomfortable sitting on the floor was when I had those stupid things. I'm glad I got rid of you jerks.

Post-orchi, my face changed a decent amount. I remember when I updated my ID in the summer of 2010, since I was allowed to update my gender marker. THAT was an insanely awesome surprise. I remember skipping down the sidewalk. LOL People probably thought I was insane.

When I got the new I.D., I put the 2 photos side by side, and it was wild. It looked like I had mild FFS. I was ecstatic.

I have to say, I think that I am pretty damn cute.

Quote from: Laura Squirrel on July 11, 2026, 12:25:18 PMKicking out the evil twins back in 2010.

I remember a couple of months after the surgery, I had fully healed, and I was sitting on the floor. I was playing GTA: Liberty City Stories. I was listening to Radio Del Mundo and grooving while doing a late-night cab run. (Both in real time and in game time.)

After dropping off a fare, I stood up and stretched a bit. Once I sat back down, it hit me: Totally smooth feeling. I had never noticed just how friggin' uncomfortable sitting on the floor was when I had those stupid things. I'm glad I got rid of you jerks.

Post-orchi, my face changed a decent amount. I remember when I updated my ID in the summer of 2010, since I was allowed to update my gender marker. THAT was an insanely awesome surprise. I remember skipping down the sidewalk. LOL People probably thought I was insane.

When I got the new I.D., I put the 2 photos side by side, and it was wild. It looked like I had mild FFS. I was ecstatic.

I have to say, I think that I am pretty damn cute.

You probably are very pretty!  So nice for you.  Thank you for sharing.

Chrissy

Because I was active on this site, a woman stalked me down. Then she married me and brought me to England. And then Spain. And then England again.
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Quote from: Devlyn on July 11, 2026, 12:53:20 PMBecause I was active on this site, a woman stalked me down. Then she married me and brought me to England. And then Spain. And then England again.
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Yes, please continue. 

Therapy was my biggest ally. I had a great medical team who were very supportive in every way, even when I was still questioning. Therapy helped me to see why I was so miserable, why relationships failed time and again (including three marriages), and how my role pretending to be a male was working against me.

Once I realized that this is who I am and accepted that, I relaxed. I no longer felt compelled to behave in a certain way. I began wearing women's clothing because it was more comfortable. Not just mentally, but physically, I felt comfortable. That further helped me relax and be myself.

Currently, in my personal life, I don't think about gender much, if at all. I just be me. If others are obsessed with what they think I am, that is not my concern. They can waste as much of their lives worrying about such things as they like. My life goes on, and I don't plan on slowing down just yet.

I still have things I want to do to make me feel better about my appearance. Electrolysis seems to take forever, but I am not a social animal, so I am content to just hang out with myself and do my thing.

Trigger warning: a person with fairly low self-esteem boasting about physical attributes

People who know me and have seen me would laugh at this, because we all know...

It's my breasts. They're 100x beyond anything I could have imagined. They're a work of art. I thought they'd grow a little - they grew a lot. I thought my nipples/areolae might enlarge a bit - they're large and dark and very feminine. I hoped they might not be droopy and/or pointy - they're round and full. I have been blessed.

Other nice results:
I gained 15-18 pounds in 24 months after years of trying
My behind is much larger and rounder
My thighs are much thicker
My sinewy, thin arms turned into soft, feminine ones
All hair in non-male areas (except my face) has completely disappeared
Hair on my arms and legs has thinned significantly (especially my legs)
My equipment has shrunk a bit while remaining operational. This is something that I find affirming
HRT, FFS and rhinoplasty have made my face softer and more feminine-looking
My skin is extremely soft to the touch and is very sensitive
HRT regrew about 25-30% of my frontal recession and all of my crown loss. Hair replacement surgery restored my hairline. Hairline lowering surgery helped further
Clothes are so much more fun now. I like clothes because I like my body.
I no longer feel the need to assert my maleness. I no longer wish to compete or to perform masculinity, which I found pretty tiring. I'm physically weaker and it doesn't bother me at all
It's acceptable for me to show emotion, empathy and sensitivity

The term "HRT is magic" is often used in trans spaces. This is why.

Anger is no longer a constant companion, and I have much more patience. I also discovered that I can smile.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

Smiles exude friendliness.

Well, like Courtney, boobs spring to mind, I have had shockingly good growth but I think it is the realisation  that I really can make a go of it, that I might be able to live in stealth. That has come from all the encouraging comments from the lovely people at Susans. Thank you, you beautiful people, where would I be without you! I have well and truly cracked my egg now!

For me, comfort. I am much more comfortable in my body. I now smile when I see my body in the mirror when I get in the shower instead of hating how I looked.

Ellen

Quote from: EllenW on July 12, 2026, 09:57:04 AMFor me, comfort. I am much more comfortable in my body. I now smile when I see my body in the mirror when I get in the shower instead of hating how I looked.

Ellen

This is SO true for me. I stare at myself, which never could have happened before.

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on July 11, 2026, 12:11:21 PMWhat in your transitioning has been the nicest result for you so far?

Honesty?  The face changes.  The boobs are nice, don't get me wrong, but seeing a woman's face in the mirror means so much more.

Quote from: Shannonymous on July 12, 2026, 03:28:16 PMHonesty?  The face changes.  The boobs are nice, don't get me wrong, but seeing a woman's face in the mirror means so much more.

I have seen some pleasant changes in my face.  A smile also brightens it up.

I have lots of things I am happy about, for me the overall result. I remember when I was still a serious cross dresser, I looked the part, breast forms, padding etc.. but when it was time to undress it was always sad to see that male body again, it always hit home, you may look cute in a dress, but you are not physically female. When I was dressed I always felt like one of the girls.

Now, I am post-op, I love my female body, i have a full length mirror and I love seeing that naked female body in the mirror.. I love my breasts, my hips, my vagina ... I love seeing the physical body matching my inside.

There has been a lot of nice stuff happen as a result of my transition.  Picking one "nicest" is hard.  There are the facial and body changes.  Five years after I started HRT, my hips suddenly woke up and developed curves.  I have a figure now!

But if I had to pick one nicest thing, it would be the way I am treated.  I am accepted as myself wherever I go.  I am sure quite a few people clock me, but no one makes a big deal of it.  I am accepted as a woman, especially by other women.  I fit in the way I never did when I was pretending to be a guy.

I have a nice story about being accepted by other women.  I was a member of a concert band when I first came out.  I sent a heads-up email to band members, then showed up for practice the next week as Kathy.  Halfway through the practice, there was always a bathroom break.  I was hesitant about going to the women's room with a bunch of colleagues.  No hesitation from them: "Hey Kathy, aren't you coming?"  I went in with them, and learned that having a conversation between stalls is perfectly normal.

The realization that I have "passing privilege."  Not that someone can't tell, but that my walk, talk, mannerisms, and body shape give the general impression of a female.

My size and body shape allow me to wear sample sizes of women's clothing.
Nothing fit as a guy and now I have this amazing variety of clothes that fits perfectly off the rack!

Marion

Quote from: Maid Marion on July 15, 2026, 05:46:32 PMThe realization that I have "passing privilege."  Not that someone can't tell, but that my walk, talk, mannerisms, and body shape give the general impression of a female.

My size and body shape allow me to wear sample sizes of women's clothing.
Nothing fit as a guy and now I have this amazing variety of clothes that fits perfectly off the rack!

Marion

Marion,


That is a wonderful reality for you!


Chrissy

I wish each of you a safe, rewarding, and happy transition over time. 


Chrissy

Honestly, I was so angry before. I knew what I was and took out my anger one everyone around me. My brother and others comment on it sometimes. I haven't said anything to anyone yet. I guess the other thing is that thing down there is no long active.

Quote from: tammy753 on July 28, 2026, 12:19:57 PMHonestly, I was so angry before. I knew what I was and took out my anger on everyone around me. My brother and others comment on it sometimes. I haven't said anything to anyone yet. I guess the other thing is that thing down there is no longer active.

Honestly, I don't think I will ever be able to rid myself of anger. If anything, it has intensified over the years. As I said on a friend's podcast, I wouldn't feel this way if I didn't have to deal with certain bigoted family members (they don't say anything transphobic 99.9% of the time. But they let the mask slip and don't realize how dumb they are for doing it in front of me.) I NEVER forget things like this. Factor in our supremely evil government now officially putting targets on our backs, that has just added more fuel to the fire.

Having said that, I don't hold back anymore AT ALL, not in person. This is the only site where I try to watch what I say. I had a previous account that was banned once I said some stuff to a mod that was over the line, and I will always take responsibility for what I said. So, I am watching my tongue around here. Here's why: I don't have anyone to really vent to without feeling I am just destroying them, and that makes me feel incredibly guilty, and THAT leads to very dark thoughts, and I don't like being in that headspace. So, I decided to come full circle and return here.

I'm sorry if this derailed things a bit. I will return you to your regularly scheduled program. But first, here's Portia Porcupine with this afternoon's weather.

This comment is NOT directed to anyone specifically.

There are many problems in life.  What is made and learned from them can shape a better future.

Those who have emotions, thoughts, and actions which might be called problematic should try to talk with someone who will listen and provide helpful guidance.  A trained, professional counselor who can be objective may be the way to go. 

Anger can be so destructive to relationships and self.  I doubt anyone wants to be angry.

Big hugs to all who are struggling.

For me it was the complete lack of harassment. I am surprised that I apparently pass as I don't personally see it myself.

Don't get me wrong I love my bottom surgery but I don't know if I could have survived the harassment that many trans people go through.

Quote from: Athena on July 28, 2026, 01:37:01 PMFor me it was the complete lack of harassment. I am surprised that I apparently pass as I don't personally see it myself.

Don't get me wrong I love my bottom surgery but I don't know if I could have survived the harassment that many trans people go through.

I am glad you did not experience harassment Athena.


Chrissy