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Title: Greetings from across the pond
Post by: bellesparkles on July 23, 2026, 07:00:19 PM
Post by: bellesparkles on July 23, 2026, 07:00:19 PM
Hi everyone!
I'm Belle, cis girl, just turned 40, and live together with my beautiful wife and adorably dumb cat in The Netherlands, Europe.
I've already started a topic elsewhere on the forum (https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=254600.0) and was told I could introduce myself here, so here I am!
My wife (43) and I met a good nine years ago and after about a year of courtship got into a relationship. She was still fully going through life as a man back then. She even still fully thought she was a man back then.. It wasn't until about five or six years ago that she started to see that she might be more than just 'a guy liking high heels'.
Only a few months ago she decided that she was in fact fully a woman, so she's working on socially transitioning now, and had her first doctor's appointment for potentially starting hormone therapy a few weeks ago.
I'm very thankful to be living in The Netherlands, which is still considered to be the front runner in trans-care. Even though we are also feeling the effects of the politics of the world right now... But looking on the bright side, she will likely (still) get the care she needs very quickly and relatively easily. So yay!
As for me, I'm happy as long as she's happy. I wouldn't have minded if she never figured out she's a transwoman (although, you know, there were clues haha) but I'm glad she did because I see how happy it makes her! Finally <3
I'm Belle, cis girl, just turned 40, and live together with my beautiful wife and adorably dumb cat in The Netherlands, Europe.
I've already started a topic elsewhere on the forum (https://www.susans.org/index.php?topic=254600.0) and was told I could introduce myself here, so here I am!
My wife (43) and I met a good nine years ago and after about a year of courtship got into a relationship. She was still fully going through life as a man back then. She even still fully thought she was a man back then.. It wasn't until about five or six years ago that she started to see that she might be more than just 'a guy liking high heels'.
Only a few months ago she decided that she was in fact fully a woman, so she's working on socially transitioning now, and had her first doctor's appointment for potentially starting hormone therapy a few weeks ago.
I'm very thankful to be living in The Netherlands, which is still considered to be the front runner in trans-care. Even though we are also feeling the effects of the politics of the world right now... But looking on the bright side, she will likely (still) get the care she needs very quickly and relatively easily. So yay!
As for me, I'm happy as long as she's happy. I wouldn't have minded if she never figured out she's a transwoman (although, you know, there were clues haha) but I'm glad she did because I see how happy it makes her! Finally <3
Title: Re: Greetings from across the pond
Post by: Lori Dee on July 23, 2026, 07:16:21 PM
Post by: Lori Dee on July 23, 2026, 07:16:21 PM
Hi Belle,
Thank you for that wonderful introduction!
It is so refreshing to read stories from spouses who are accepting and recognize that love matters more than the packaging. There will be ups and downs, but you have the right attitude to get through it all.
Feel free to browse the forums and share your experiences. The Significant Others Forum might be of interest to see what others have been through and how they handled those situations. https://www.susans.org/index.php?board=26.0
We also have a forum called Our Journeys, which is more focused on the journey of transitioning. https://www.susans.org/index.php?board=550.0
Feel free to share these stories with your spouse, as she may benefit too. She is also welcome to register for an account here and participate in the forums if she would like to.
We are very happy to have you here.
Thank you for that wonderful introduction!
It is so refreshing to read stories from spouses who are accepting and recognize that love matters more than the packaging. There will be ups and downs, but you have the right attitude to get through it all.
Feel free to browse the forums and share your experiences. The Significant Others Forum might be of interest to see what others have been through and how they handled those situations. https://www.susans.org/index.php?board=26.0
We also have a forum called Our Journeys, which is more focused on the journey of transitioning. https://www.susans.org/index.php?board=550.0
Feel free to share these stories with your spouse, as she may benefit too. She is also welcome to register for an account here and participate in the forums if she would like to.
We are very happy to have you here.
Title: Re: Greetings from across the pond
Post by: Finally Anna on July 24, 2026, 03:25:53 AM
Post by: Finally Anna on July 24, 2026, 03:25:53 AM
Quote from: bellesparkles on Yesterday at 07:00:19 PMAs for me, I'm happy as long as she's happy. I wouldn't have minded if she never figured out she's a transwoman (although, you know, there were clues haha) but I'm glad she did because I see how happy it makes her! Finally <3This! This is just fantastic and real love in its purest form. 💕
Title: Re: Greetings from across the pond
Post by: Stottie Girl on July 24, 2026, 08:42:02 AM
Post by: Stottie Girl on July 24, 2026, 08:42:02 AM
Hi Belle!
What a lovely introduction! You must love your wife very much, it is amazing you are so supportive, your wife is a lucky lady!
I'm Sarah, 50 just a short ferry ride across the North Sea in Newcastle, England! You are indeeed very lucky to live in the Netherlands it's a wonderful country and the people are so very friendly! Awesome pancakes and stroopwaffles too!
It's lovely to meet you and I look forward to hearing more from you and maybe your wife in due course!
Sarah xx
What a lovely introduction! You must love your wife very much, it is amazing you are so supportive, your wife is a lucky lady!
I'm Sarah, 50 just a short ferry ride across the North Sea in Newcastle, England! You are indeeed very lucky to live in the Netherlands it's a wonderful country and the people are so very friendly! Awesome pancakes and stroopwaffles too!
It's lovely to meet you and I look forward to hearing more from you and maybe your wife in due course!
Sarah xx
Title: Re: Greetings from across the pond
Post by: Charlotte Kitty on July 24, 2026, 02:26:47 PM
Post by: Charlotte Kitty on July 24, 2026, 02:26:47 PM
Heyya Belle, I'm Charlotte and lovely to have you here. X