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Title: I wish...
Post by: spouse on March 08, 2006, 09:37:57 PM
Post by: spouse on March 08, 2006, 09:37:57 PM
I wish my TS husband could have a period... cramps, bloating, irritability, tampons, pads, the mess... all that good stuff. I think it would be great if one day he just started bleeding all over the place. (Ha! I'd like to see a "male" tampon!) After all, isn't that the rite of passage into womanhood? Does any transsexual want to have everything that goes with being a woman, i.e. a menstrual cycle? It's certainly the least glamorous facet of being female.
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Melissa on March 08, 2006, 10:06:12 PM
Post by: Melissa on March 08, 2006, 10:06:12 PM
I think most transsexuals want the whole package. Both the good and the bad. You might ask why and my best answer would have to be, "because it's part of the whole experience and another level to relate to other women on, that us transsexuals will never be able to do."
Melissa
Melissa
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Kimberly on March 09, 2006, 12:02:34 AM
Post by: Kimberly on March 09, 2006, 12:02:34 AM
Since you asked...
If it were an option, yes everything.
(I will expound upon that if wanted.)
If it were an option, yes everything.
(I will expound upon that if wanted.)
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: beth on March 09, 2006, 02:12:53 AM
Post by: beth on March 09, 2006, 02:12:53 AM
I would love to have all those symptoms.
beth
beth
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Alison on March 09, 2006, 05:07:30 AM
Post by: Alison on March 09, 2006, 05:07:30 AM
i admit i have had those feelings... being jealous that Jaycie gets to have all the other benifits of being a 'woman' without menstruation, dealing with birth control etc etc....
But in truth, she'd give anything to have it....
on the flipside of the coin, "real guys" can question TSmen they never have to worry about being kicked 'down there' etc...
But in truth, she'd give anything to have it....
on the flipside of the coin, "real guys" can question TSmen they never have to worry about being kicked 'down there' etc...
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Gill on March 09, 2006, 07:43:02 AM
Post by: Gill on March 09, 2006, 07:43:02 AM
Ah yes - there is nothing like that feeling of a uterus contracting :D
It contracts when your kids are having a rough time, when you have to leave them at day care, when you know you have to let them go and experience on their own. It's that guility feeling we women get , also sometimes known as women's intuition, but in reality us GF know it is just our uterus contracting.
Then there are the times when it sneaks up on you unprepared - :o
I for one would love to share all that with Steph....... >:D
It is unfortunate though that these parts are not interchangeable so all of these wonderful experiences can be experienced by all.......
Good - fun topic
It contracts when your kids are having a rough time, when you have to leave them at day care, when you know you have to let them go and experience on their own. It's that guility feeling we women get , also sometimes known as women's intuition, but in reality us GF know it is just our uterus contracting.
Then there are the times when it sneaks up on you unprepared - :o
I for one would love to share all that with Steph....... >:D
It is unfortunate though that these parts are not interchangeable so all of these wonderful experiences can be experienced by all.......
Good - fun topic
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Dennis on March 09, 2006, 08:49:15 AM
Post by: Dennis on March 09, 2006, 08:49:15 AM
Quoteon the flipside of the coin, "real guys" can question TSmen they never have to worry about being kicked 'down there' etc...
er...no thanks. There are some bio guy experiences I don't need to try. ;)
Dennis
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Valerie on March 09, 2006, 09:56:55 AM
Post by: Valerie on March 09, 2006, 09:56:55 AM
Makes me better appreciate all those things that are part of being a woman that I have often complained about....
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: LynnER on July 24, 2006, 04:27:44 AM
Post by: LynnER on July 24, 2006, 04:27:44 AM
Allready get cramps kinda like tink, and the irriatibility.... and Id gladly take the rest of the package no questions asked.
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Karin on July 24, 2006, 01:56:28 PM
Post by: Karin on July 24, 2006, 01:56:28 PM
Quote from: spouse on March 08, 2006, 09:37:57 PM
I wish my TS husband could have a period... cramps, bloating, irritability, tampons, pads, the mess... all that good stuff. I think it would be great if one day he just started bleeding all over the place. (Ha! I'd like to see a "male" tampon!) After all, isn't that the rite of passage into womanhood? Does any transsexual want to have everything that goes with being a woman, i.e. a menstrual cycle? It's certainly the least glamorous facet of being female.
Er... No I don't.
I was offered progesterone as part of my HRT to mimic a natal woman's cycle. My repsonse to the doctor was "Why would I want to do that? I'm b*tchy enough as it is. Ask anyone who knows me." She almost fell out of her chair laughing. No progesterone.
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Bob on August 09, 2006, 03:19:45 AM
Post by: Bob on August 09, 2006, 03:19:45 AM
Hummmm !
I realise a TS would want the entire package... but I look at it diferently..... LIKE WHY for gods sake ? I have been married over 30+ years to the best wife i could ever hope to find, and in that time i have learned "its NO PICKNIC !" Look at it like this , being a TS you will get all the benifits and none of the bad points of being Female ! I think that is great!
that is unless you clasify having childern as a benifit <grin> Hay I was there when my wife gave birth and I swore I'ed never put her through that again ! its no bed of roses to be in labor for 13hrs and give birth to a 13pound 8 oz Kid.
...... thats why i realy don't think giveing birth is a benifit... its kind'a hard on a person !
but every month the bleading, the feeling of "Bleah ! ...just shoot me "
thats a real fun experience to AVOID in my book ! i mean its worse than a super haing over without the benifits of being bommed on your ear !
.... if it were ME being TS i'ed say Nope... "you can keep all of those benifits thank you ! "
I was born with a Hernia and I know what its like to have a "tummy ache" as my wife puts it ...just moveing arround hurts...and to suffer from that for a week at a time is something our doctors should do something about ... i don't care if it is Natural ! <HEHEHEHE>
my 2 coppers !
Bob.......
I realise a TS would want the entire package... but I look at it diferently..... LIKE WHY for gods sake ? I have been married over 30+ years to the best wife i could ever hope to find, and in that time i have learned "its NO PICKNIC !" Look at it like this , being a TS you will get all the benifits and none of the bad points of being Female ! I think that is great!
that is unless you clasify having childern as a benifit <grin> Hay I was there when my wife gave birth and I swore I'ed never put her through that again ! its no bed of roses to be in labor for 13hrs and give birth to a 13pound 8 oz Kid.
...... thats why i realy don't think giveing birth is a benifit... its kind'a hard on a person !
but every month the bleading, the feeling of "Bleah ! ...just shoot me "
thats a real fun experience to AVOID in my book ! i mean its worse than a super haing over without the benifits of being bommed on your ear !
.... if it were ME being TS i'ed say Nope... "you can keep all of those benifits thank you ! "
I was born with a Hernia and I know what its like to have a "tummy ache" as my wife puts it ...just moveing arround hurts...and to suffer from that for a week at a time is something our doctors should do something about ... i don't care if it is Natural ! <HEHEHEHE>
my 2 coppers !
Bob.......
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Kimberly on August 09, 2006, 07:20:13 AM
Post by: Kimberly on August 09, 2006, 07:20:13 AM
All of the benefits?
I get to look forward to normal questions which I cannot answer without being reminded that I am different, and that I cannot answer truthfully without outing myself. Lets not go into the joys of being reminded that I cannot even CHOOSE to give birth to a child.
Meh. Sore subject.
An by the way, it is not a fun topic at all.
I get to look forward to normal questions which I cannot answer without being reminded that I am different, and that I cannot answer truthfully without outing myself. Lets not go into the joys of being reminded that I cannot even CHOOSE to give birth to a child.
Meh. Sore subject.
An by the way, it is not a fun topic at all.
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Sarah Louise on August 09, 2006, 08:27:27 AM
Post by: Sarah Louise on August 09, 2006, 08:27:27 AM
What can I say Spouse, but that I would gladly accept having a period. I would also gladly accept the possibility of bearing children, breast feeding children, etc.
In other words all parts of being a woman.
Sarah L.
In other words all parts of being a woman.
Sarah L.
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Melissa on August 09, 2006, 11:47:46 AM
Post by: Melissa on August 09, 2006, 11:47:46 AM
Quote from: Kimberly on August 09, 2006, 07:20:13 AMKimberly, do what I do and say you can't have kids because you're infertile. You won't be lying and women will understand.
All of the benefits?
I get to look forward to normal questions which I cannot answer without being reminded that I am different, and that I cannot answer truthfully without outing myself. Lets not go into the joys of being reminded that I cannot even CHOOSE to give birth to a child.
Meh. Sore subject.
An by the way, it is not a fun topic at all.
Mine gets more complicated because:
A. I do have kids
B. I can't have kids anymore
C. I've never given birth
How do you explain that one without lying or outting yourself?
I could just say I've been "fixed" and can't have kids anymore, but I still would have to lie about the kids I currently have. How do you answer questions like "How long were you in labor?" I really don't have an honest answer to that question. By not having kids, you can at least avoid those questions.
Melissa
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Peggiann on August 09, 2006, 04:49:14 PM
Post by: Peggiann on August 09, 2006, 04:49:14 PM
Mellisa, were you in the labor room or with your wife when your children were born. If so one coulds say how long the labor was with out outing ones self. When one is connected and loved and love the women having the child I have heard many stories of the spouse having simpathy pains.
Smiles,
Peggiann
Smiles,
Peggiann
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Melissa on August 10, 2006, 06:02:11 PM
Post by: Melissa on August 10, 2006, 06:02:11 PM
Yes, I was there. Both children had relatively quick births. I don't remember the exact labor times, but I could guesstimate. So I guess if somebody asked, "How long we're you in labor?", I could answer "The labor lasted XX hours" and technically, I wouldn't be lying because of the choice of wording. Thanks.
Melissa
Melissa
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: Jillieann Rose on August 10, 2006, 09:26:21 PM
Post by: Jillieann Rose on August 10, 2006, 09:26:21 PM
Just found thie topic.
No I don't want period... cramps, bloating, irritability, tampons, pads, the mess... all that good stuff. And I don't think any woman in her right mind would want them if they had a chose either.
No I don't want period... cramps, bloating, irritability, tampons, pads, the mess... all that good stuff. And I don't think any woman in her right mind would want them if they had a chose either.
QuoteAfter all, isn't that the rite of passage into womanhood?[/quot]
If that is true and the only way I can be a woman than I'll take it all.
But I believe that their is so much more to being a woman than here menstrual cycle.
In fact some of the most beautiful kind and loving women I know are past that phase in their life.
Just my thoughts.
:)
Jillieann
Title: Re: I wish...
Post by: 2GregoriTrue on August 11, 2006, 08:00:03 PM
Post by: 2GregoriTrue on August 11, 2006, 08:00:03 PM
I would suppose if those ladies had to deal with menses, they would complain just like we do... which only makes them women. I have, personally, not met a woman who doesn't gripe each month when that particular body function arives... apparently including you, Spouse ;) Genetically born women do not want it. Why would anyone else? I do not think having a period makes a woman. If that's true, do we stop being women after menopause?
However, I see the pain my Love goes through needing to be seen as a man, and I am quite sure if all it took was some discomfort (though I'm not saying some women dont have more than discomfort) he'd jump at the chance. The pain of denial of identity is much more destructive and damaging than something such as having a period or all the things that go along with it.
I suppose this question was intended more for humor sake, or joviality and I'm sorry to be so serious. I am not in a laughing mood tonight--not about this. Tonight it just hurts...
Inga
However, I see the pain my Love goes through needing to be seen as a man, and I am quite sure if all it took was some discomfort (though I'm not saying some women dont have more than discomfort) he'd jump at the chance. The pain of denial of identity is much more destructive and damaging than something such as having a period or all the things that go along with it.
I suppose this question was intended more for humor sake, or joviality and I'm sorry to be so serious. I am not in a laughing mood tonight--not about this. Tonight it just hurts...
Inga