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Hey I'm FTM (pre-T.)  I'm 17, and go to a catholic high school so i dont really know if I can justifiably call myself FTM, considering I still have to wear a skirt to school every day and they wont let me wear the guys uniform. Whenever I'm not in school I wear my normal clothes.

I'm pretty much alone in the whole trans thing, I haven't had the guts to tell anyone aside from a few close friends.  i'm really scared to tell my parents about it, because they are very conservative and religious and I think that they will freak out.  I'd been looking for forums like this for a while to get some advice as to how to start this whole process. 

Hi and welcome Killroy,

I had Catholic schooling too, many a canings did I get!!  ;D
It's pretty tough that you can't even wear slacks, that atleast would be more comfortable for you.
It's a good start that you've been able to confide in a few close friends.  Yep, the parent situation might be a little tricky, but I am sure they will come round with a bit of convincing of who you really are and what makes you happy.
Catholics are a funny bunch, they can really surprise you sometimes.  I am sure you will make heaps of friends here and all willing to give you some great advice.

cheers,

buttercup   :)

Thanks. =)
Do you think it would be a good idea to talk to a priest, or do you think thats just asking for trouble?  Jesuit priests seem to be pretty liberal and open minded and like you said have surprised me sometimes.

Quote from: Killroy on February 14, 2008, 06:39:07 PM
Thanks. =)
Do you think it would be a good idea to talk to a priest, or do you think thats just asking for trouble?  Jesuit priests seem to be pretty liberal and open minded and like you said have surprised me sometimes.

Hi Killroy,

Yes the Jesuit priests are pretty open-minded, but I have a feeling they might tell you it is a phase you are going through.  This can be disheartening because they consider everything we think and feel in our teens is just a phase, well, I think they hope that's what it is, lol.  Maybe you could bring it up in a hypothetical way, just to test the waters, but I would still be alittle hesitant.  You need to keep your moral up and its best to open up to someone (therapist or very dear friend) who is going to back you 100% and not judge you.

Eventually you may come across some negativity, but at this stage you need support, understanding and good solid advice so you can make the best choices for yourself.   :)

buttercup  :)

Thanks so much for the advise, Buttercup. ;D  I'm so glad I found someone else who had to deal with the whole catholic school thing.  I'm doing what you said, and being open to my friend Jennifer about it, and I can't even believe how supportive she is being!  She's a pretty devout Catholic too, but she says that she'll be there for me no matter what!  She was even helping me think of what my new name will be.  As for a therapist, I'm still workin on that one... My current therapist (for ADHD ((yes I'm part of THAT generation lol)) ) is Christian herself, and so I think I might want to switch to a different one.  Of course, I'd have to convince my parents of that, because they really like her and wont understand why I want to switch.

Hi Killroy,

   It is tough when you start your plan to come out.  You need and you want the best response possible.  So, it's a scary and also liberating act.

   There are many churches that now support GLBT people.  I'm not trying to convert you, I just think that if you find some online and learn their arguments for supporting us, it might help you in communicating with people in your church.  Also, nobody can try to guilt you because you know you're in the right.

   I myself am an androgyne, or, gender variant.  You'll see more of us around here.  We tend to be a mellow bunch and I'm sure you can learn some things from us too.
   There are some excellent FtM's and MtF's here that can give you advice and support.  I think you came to a good place.  Nobody here will judge you and you can know you're safe.


see you around,


Rebis

Quote from: Killroy on February 14, 2008, 06:09:58 PM
Hey I'm FTM (pre-T.)  I'm 17, and go to a catholic high school so i dont really know if I can justifiably call myself FTM, considering I still have to wear a skirt to school every day and they wont let me wear the guys uniform. Whenever I'm not in school I wear my normal clothes.

I'm pretty much alone in the whole trans thing, I haven't had the guts to tell anyone aside from a few close friends.  i'm really scared to tell my parents about it, because they are very conservative and religious and I think that they will freak out.  I'd been looking for forums like this for a while to get some advice as to how to start this whole process. 

Hello, Killroy, and welcome to Susan's.

I don't know why Catholic school figures into transsexuality as it does. 

When I was five i knew that I liked my sister's togs better than mine.

I was nine years old, standing behind a girl named Marlene in some sort of line in the classroom and I looked at her solid green jumper over a white blouse and white knee socks and black shoes.  I said to myself with all my heart, "I so much wish I was her."  I admired and wished for a cute face and about found myself daydreaming I was her.

I went to eight years in Catholic School in the U.S. and no one was ever caned.  Some were locked in a closet or made to write something 2,000,000 times by the next morning but never caned.

Having said that, appearing for class in a girl's uniform was out of the area of consideration.  It probably is for most, if not, all private schools.  I was not able to be me until I turned 50 years old in 2001.  It was pretty hard to get understanding from anyone except those who would find a rope and tree for those "like me."

Take your time and check-in here for a possible solution to use with your parents.  In the multitude of counselors there is safety -- Book of Proverbs

Be well, stay well, Guy!

Wing Walker

Hello KillRoy and welcome to Susan's!

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Quote from: Wing Walker on February 18, 2008, 09:49:39 PM

Quote from: Killroy on February 14, 2008, 06:09:58 PM
Hey I'm FTM (pre-T.)  I'm 17, and go to a catholic high school so i dont really know if I can justifiably call myself FTM, considering I still have to wear a skirt to school every day and they wont let me wear the guys uniform. Whenever I'm not in school I wear my normal clothes.

I'm pretty much alone in the whole trans thing, I haven't had the guts to tell anyone aside from a few close friends.  i'm really scared to tell my parents about it, because they are very conservative and religious and I think that they will freak out.  I'd been looking for forums like this for a while to get some advice as to how to start this whole process. 

Hello, Killroy, and welcome to Susan's.

I don't know why Catholic school figures into transsexuality as it does. 

When I was five i knew that I liked my sister's togs better than mine.

I was nine years old, standing behind a girl named Marlene in some sort of line in the classroom and I looked at her solid green jumper over a white blouse and white knee socks and black shoes.  I said to myself with all my heart, "I so much wish I was her."  I admired and wished for a cute face and about found myself daydreaming I was her.

I went to eight years in Catholic School in the U.S. and no one was ever caned.  Some were locked in a closet or made to write something 2,000,000 times by the next morning but never caned.

Having said that, appearing for class in a girl's uniform was out of the area of consideration.  It probably is for most, if not, all private schools.  I was not able to be me until I turned 50 years old in 2001.  It was pretty hard to get understanding from anyone except those who would find a rope and tree for those "like me."

Take your time and check-in here for a possible solution to use with your parents.  In the multitude of counselors there is safety -- Book of Proverbs

Be well, stay well, Guy!

Wing Walker

That made me laugh, the closet (yay for the closet!!) :laugh:  I had to stand in the corner a real lot, I was a naughty little tyke I think!  Who me??  :angel:
You're lucky Wing Walker to have never been caned, I got caned on my little hands, legs and bottom.  Meanies!! :o  I musta been naughty  >:D, mostly not paying attention.  I do have a short attention span.... now where was I?  ???



Hi again Killroy,  do you think a pair of slacks in the school colour would be o.k?  You could start a trend, some girly girls probably wouldn't mind to wear some slacks every now again, more comfy. 
Anyway, you sound so together, its wonderful to hear!  :)

buttercup   :)

Well the thing is, there are girls pants but they only time that girls are allowed to wear them is during chemistry class!  But I'm thinking about starting a petition to let girls wear them regularly, because my school is the only one in our area that doesn't even give girls the option to wear pants.

And as for caning...hahahaha.  My school doesn't do that.  I am a regular in detention though (for dresscode violations, which in my case would be having paint on my uniform ((Im an artist)) ) and get to copy verses from the bible into oblivion. 

Thanks to everybody for the warm welcome, this place is really something else. :)

indeed it is  kilroy indeed it is  :) and it sounds like thing,s  are good kilroy keep it up :) oh and btw hello :)