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It drives me crazy!

There is this relative of mine...

And everytime something goes right for me or I do well or something he has to knock it, come up with reasons why it doesn't count.

Took a college course a while back and on the entrance exam, I scored in the top 1% of all who'd ever taken it.

But he had to come up with reasons why it didn't count. 'yeah, well, that was...'

I was sick whilst taking the course, missed most of the work and yet scored so high and went above and beyond the final assignment that I was top of all others in the course and on the dean's list - all that for no effort and no work.

And he had to come up with why it didn't count.

And there are various other things - I made good money but 'it didn't count'.

Now I have succeeded at something new but because 'it's just on the net, it's not real'. It doesn't count.

JESUS CHRIST!

I know a lot of people who if they put out a record that did not sell, would be happy to blame everyone other than themselves.  However, had it sold gold and reached number one, they would be called "sell outs."  I don't get it either

nero hun i got relatives like that too.  shame they act like that ::) the only reason  i came up with is it

seams to be a guy thing for some reason to a point,  anyways i just got to the point that if they wanted it

act like that let them .but iam not paying them any mind for it . as i made the choice to be happy in the

things that i have done to reach my goals. and to be happy with the fact of knowing that i reached my

goals even if family or others wanted to kick and say it did not count .so maybe try looking at it like this .

it does count for something and iam proud i did myself . and that i have fianly reached a goal that i have

worked hard at . anyways nero iam proud of you so hug,s and :) from me to you nero :)

Some people want everyone else to be as miserable as they are.

Sarah L.

Everything you do counts, Nero!  Do you need his approval, is he someone you look up to?
My brother never, ever gives a toss about me succeeding at anything, which I rarely do anyway, but yes, I would love to have his approval.  I would love to 'count' to him, but I never will!!  :'(

And since when is the net not real?   It is the best thing that has ever happen to me, I am not as scared anymore, I have found a community where I just love everyone to death.  I just find it hurtful when people make you feel like sh*t cause you don't measure up or they give advice which they aren't living, in that way it can be destructive.  The heirachy thing just p*sses me off!!  I hate being excluded!!  Sorry, that's a sore point with me.

Please be strong and proud as I know you are.  You are truthful and honest to a fault, and I love it!  Not many are, and they can lead you down the merry path of deceit and lies, they hurt people, just like your relative and my brother are knowingly or unknowingly doing.

Buttercup   :)

I know whacha mean :(    I also hate it when you say "I did this! yay!" and some else says "I did a BIGGER and BETTER THAT!  double yay!"  ><

Not sure what you succeeded on on the net, but congrats!! :) *hug* And I agree, it's very real... there are people and feelings on the other side of the screens.

Misery loves company.

Congrats Nero whatever it is.

The net is just as real as anything else, if anyone doubts it; Google's money spends just as well as anyone's.

Some people don't like it when someone they know does better then them, if you want I can get some baseball bats and we can get him LOL
Maybe he is not happy with himself, or the things he has done with his life so he has to down play your achievements to make himself feel better, as sd said misery loves company.

~Rachel~

b/c they're jealous of what u got.

Quote from: Chris on February 20, 2008, 01:28:45 AM
b/c they're jealous of what u got.

Yep, that sounds about right :-D

~Rachel~

Next time tell him that, if he has nothing good to say, he shouldn't say anything at all. Explain that this is a good way to preserve his personal health and wellbeing...  :angel:

Seriously though, don't let it get you down. Unfortunately there are many people out there like that - they feel the need to diminish the accomplishments of others in order to validate their own lack of accomplishment. Maybe I'm over-generalising, but that has been my experience. Congrats on whatever it was you found success in hon! Enjoy the warm, fuzzy glow of it!

Its human nature to be jealous.

To covert what other people have or we perceive they have.

We all at times feel hard  done by and angry that other people we know, have achieved success we wish we had, done something we wish we had done, have something we wish we had.

I was extremely jealous of any woman, that was one of the worst things for me, they had the very thing I coverted.... the Life I wanted.

Buffy

Congratulations Nero, both on the exam thing (I know it was a while ago, but congratulations are never belated) and whatever the new thing is.

I think some people try and make themselves feel better by putting others down. They don't know that self-esteem comes from within, not your position relative to other people.

Dennis

SOme people are happiest only when they are miserable.  Since that is their perspective, they want to make sure that everyone else is happy be being miserable.

I know that this is not logical, but I used to work with someone at Eastman Kodak who was just like that.  Give him a silver lining, he will find the dark cloud.

Chaunte

Quote from: Chaunte on February 20, 2008, 06:39:05 PM

SOme people are happiest only when they are miserable.  Since that is their perspective, they want to make sure that everyone else is happy be being miserable.

I know that this is not logical, but I used to work with someone at Eastman Kodak who was just like that.  Give him a silver lining, he will find the dark cloud.

Chaunte

It's all about comfort zones. Most people prefer secure and familiar to happy.

Quote from: Nero on February 19, 2008, 05:50:53 PM
Took a college course a while back and on the entrance exam, I scored in the top 1% of all who'd ever taken it.

regardless of what your little relative said, color me impressed!

good job, you.

-ellie

    Don't pay attention to nay sayers.  You have some seriously good talents and skills, so you should really only be concerned with your own opinion.   If someone else praises you, then that's a nice feeling.  If they don't acknowledge your accomplishments, then ignore that person's opinion.

   
Rebis

Quote from: ell on February 21, 2008, 09:45:50 AM

Quote from: Nero on February 19, 2008, 05:50:53 PM
Took a college course a while back and on the entrance exam, I scored in the top 1% of all who'd ever taken it.

regardless of what your little relative said, color me impressed!

good job, you.

-ellie

Thanks hon, but it was really no biggie. Since I was only taking some courses in the language department just for the hell of it, I was only required to take the English exam. Had I taken the math exam, I doubt I'd even passed it. My brain's just not wired for that ->-bleeped-<-, not to mention my formal education basically ended at 5th grade.
But thanks sweetie and thank you all for cheering me up.

Nero, I'm afraid your friend "JESUS CHRIST" is just going to have to get used to you being successful.  There's nothing wrong with that!

;)

Cindi

whoa.   I just had an idea.

What if Nero's cousin thinks of him as a woman?   Some males have a cruel knack for trying to shut down females if they are happy or seem to be successful.   It could be sexism.

This guy may not be a mere jerk, but a SUPERjerk.


just some thoughts that have no basis in reality.

Quote from: Rebis on February 21, 2008, 07:25:06 PM
This guy may not be a mere jerk, but a SUPERjerk.

you'd get more laughs if you said jerkwater

I hate oneupmanship..... it really bugs me....  probably cuz my fabricated male persona was good at it to boot.... *Bleh*  trying to be one of the guys means learning to do things you despize... really wish I hadnt but cant change the past... only prevent it from happening again in the future  ;D

Quote from: ell on February 21, 2008, 11:27:48 PM

Quote from: Rebis on February 21, 2008, 07:25:06 PM
This guy may not be a mere jerk, but a SUPERjerk.

you'd get more laughs if you said jerkwater

I'll jerk your water!

Quote from: Rebis on February 22, 2008, 01:27:34 PM

Quote from: ell on February 21, 2008, 11:27:48 PM

Quote from: Rebis on February 21, 2008, 07:25:06 PM
This guy may not be a mere jerk, but a SUPERjerk.

you'd get more laughs if you said jerkwater

I'll jerk your water!

now, will this be done scientifically in a lab, or au naturale?

the latter.

Quote from: Rebis on February 22, 2008, 07:41:23 PM
the latter.

oh my.

because they consider that they deserve the same success and achievements, yet they do not consider that they need to work on it.  i also think that it is natural to be envious.   people will always be envious of your transition, job, grs status, car, bank accounts, happiness, house, dog, clothes, looks etc capiche? ;)

Quote from: Natasha on February 23, 2008, 09:01:55 PM
because they consider that they deserve the same success and achievements, yet they do not consider that they need to work on it.  i also think that it is natural to be envious.   people will always be envious of your transition, job, grs status, car, bank accounts, happiness, house, dog, clothes, looks etc capiche? ;)

I can agree there.

~Rachel~

Quote from: Natasha on February 23, 2008, 09:01:55 PM
people will always be envious of your transition, job, grs status, car, bank accounts, happiness, house, dog, clothes, looks,... ;)

...your boyfriend as well... ::)  ;)

tink :icon_chick:

There are two things you can do when he does such things.

The first is to say that his opinion doesn't count.

The second is to laugh at him, taking to heart the following part of your signature:

"Women most fear a man's violence.
Men most fear a woman's laughter."

Quote from: Tink on February 25, 2008, 08:45:41 PM

Quote from: Natasha on February 23, 2008, 09:01:55 PM
people will always be envious of your transition, job, grs status, car, bank accounts, happiness, house, dog, clothes, looks,... ;)

...your boyfriend as well... ::)  ;)

tink :icon_chick:

mmm...hmmm ;) ha ha ha ha