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Title: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: deniz on March 16, 2008, 07:13:31 AM
Post by: deniz on March 16, 2008, 07:13:31 AM
well, some of you know my story already.with my stealth relationship.i had left from that relationship to protect my self as most of you had told me.after 1 month of him calling me back and me finaly going back, he told me that HE(this time) wanted to break up with me.
he need a normal girl so he can have a normal relationship.did he realise i was trans?did he not.i do not care.i am still alive.
howver,he made my transition meaning sth.that life is doing good.that this go better
now.without his love,without him i have no identity.i am lost.and although a break up is always a bad situation,me being trans makes me fell it is sth more.it is me losing the meaning of life.i hope i can find another one.maybe it was the only one
can one live his/her whole life based on memories:(i am hurt.so hurt.i feel pain.my parents bought me a car, in order to feel better.yes great.but they would not even think helping with transition.they are just afraid i hung my self.
you are the luckiest boy in the world.you have parents who love you so much they told me.how can i tell them that without the love of my boyfriend i have not identity.no life.no luck.
thanks for listening.
he need a normal girl so he can have a normal relationship.did he realise i was trans?did he not.i do not care.i am still alive.
howver,he made my transition meaning sth.that life is doing good.that this go better
now.without his love,without him i have no identity.i am lost.and although a break up is always a bad situation,me being trans makes me fell it is sth more.it is me losing the meaning of life.i hope i can find another one.maybe it was the only one
can one live his/her whole life based on memories:(i am hurt.so hurt.i feel pain.my parents bought me a car, in order to feel better.yes great.but they would not even think helping with transition.they are just afraid i hung my self.
you are the luckiest boy in the world.you have parents who love you so much they told me.how can i tell them that without the love of my boyfriend i have not identity.no life.no luck.
thanks for listening.
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: lady amarant on March 16, 2008, 09:07:01 AM
Post by: lady amarant on March 16, 2008, 09:07:01 AM
You can survive this hon. Wounds like these take time to heal. Sometimes a very long time, but they also make you stronger. Cherish the good memories and let go of the sad ones.
I know it's a pat answer, but we all love and lose dear-heart. Don't let the sadness drag you down with it.
I know it's a pat answer, but we all love and lose dear-heart. Don't let the sadness drag you down with it.
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Robin_p on March 19, 2008, 06:38:47 PM
Post by: Robin_p on March 19, 2008, 06:38:47 PM
Yes, You can...
It took me a while to get over my marriage. To really get over it and move on. I'm happy now and i can look back on it without the hurt or the anger. Still cant stand the x. But able to get along.
To "feel" is one of the great experiences of being Human........
go cry and a gallon of choclate ice cream with nuts works for me.
It took me a while to get over my marriage. To really get over it and move on. I'm happy now and i can look back on it without the hurt or the anger. Still cant stand the x. But able to get along.
To "feel" is one of the great experiences of being Human........
go cry and a gallon of choclate ice cream with nuts works for me.
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: cindianna_jones on March 19, 2008, 07:10:25 PM
Post by: cindianna_jones on March 19, 2008, 07:10:25 PM
Yes you can survive it. The key is to hold self image in a way where a partner complements your life instead of propping it up. One is fulfilling, the other is abusive.
You will find someone else. In the mean time, learn to love yourself doll. Good luck to you.
Chin up!
Cindi
You will find someone else. In the mean time, learn to love yourself doll. Good luck to you.
Chin up!
Cindi
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Kimberly on March 19, 2008, 07:27:32 PM
Post by: Kimberly on March 19, 2008, 07:27:32 PM
If I can survive what I have been through (and I can and have) then yes you can.
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up?
Post by: Berliegh on March 24, 2008, 06:09:26 AM
Post by: Berliegh on March 24, 2008, 06:09:26 AM
yes...
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Buddhas Camera on March 24, 2008, 07:31:31 AM
Post by: Buddhas Camera on March 24, 2008, 07:31:31 AM
yes you can survive this.
I survived.
Joseph
I survived.
Joseph
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: christene on March 24, 2008, 09:46:05 AM
Post by: christene on March 24, 2008, 09:46:05 AM
It's never easy. You've already shown yourself the difficult things you can accomplish...just keep positive, it will get better
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Wing Walker on March 25, 2008, 04:14:49 AM
Post by: Wing Walker on March 25, 2008, 04:14:49 AM
You can and will survive this break-up. Give it time and believe in yourself as a worthy, witty, wonderful woman first, and a companion and partner later. Time heals all wounds...and time wounds all heels.
Keep your smile on!
Wing Walker
Three marriages and one "first love" later
Keep your smile on!
Wing Walker
Three marriages and one "first love" later
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: cindybc on March 25, 2008, 04:53:37 AM
Post by: cindybc on March 25, 2008, 04:53:37 AM
Hi Deniz hon
I survived living on the street, abusive relationships, including rape, alcohol, then found sobriety. I fought to survive, went back to school and got my papers to work as a social work which I worked at for twenty years. Just when I was about to hang up the phone on the idea of ever having someone else to share my life with I met Wing Walker on this very site 6 years ago. We have been married for the last four years and we have been living together for the past 4 years. I will pray that you be shown where you need to go next. Hon you may email me if you so feel a desire to do so.
Cindy
I survived living on the street, abusive relationships, including rape, alcohol, then found sobriety. I fought to survive, went back to school and got my papers to work as a social work which I worked at for twenty years. Just when I was about to hang up the phone on the idea of ever having someone else to share my life with I met Wing Walker on this very site 6 years ago. We have been married for the last four years and we have been living together for the past 4 years. I will pray that you be shown where you need to go next. Hon you may email me if you so feel a desire to do so.
Cindy
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: mattlabayan on April 05, 2008, 12:02:28 PM
Post by: mattlabayan on April 05, 2008, 12:02:28 PM
You will survive. Im an FTM that is going through a break up. She is young, and obviously wants to go and explore, whether its with bio guys or what ever. The greatest thing that I can give to her is my friendship for anything that she needs. I let her know that I will always be there in her life, cause she is my best friend. 3 years from now, or thirty years from now, if she ever needs a good man. Here I am. Some people think Im nuts for it, but for a true friend, there is nothing I would not do.
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Rachael on March 03, 2009, 05:15:06 PM
Post by: Rachael on March 03, 2009, 05:15:06 PM
I'm curious as to why a transsexual COULDNT survive a breakup?
did someone take away our coping ability?
did someone take away our coping ability?
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: tinkerbell on March 03, 2009, 07:04:46 PM
Post by: tinkerbell on March 03, 2009, 07:04:46 PM
Quote from: Rachael on March 03, 2009, 05:15:06 PM
I'm curious as to why a transsexual COULDNT survive a breakup?
did someone take away our coping ability?
I presume that some people consider "TS" to be a different species, another kind of people or something... ::) ;)
tink :icon_chick:
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Rachael on March 03, 2009, 07:11:19 PM
Post by: Rachael on March 03, 2009, 07:11:19 PM
Oh....
I didnt get that memo... Did you Tink? We had best get back in our asigned slot.
I didnt get that memo... Did you Tink? We had best get back in our asigned slot.
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Kirin on March 05, 2009, 07:43:58 PM
Post by: Kirin on March 05, 2009, 07:43:58 PM
It can certainly be hard to go through a breakup when you need support the most. But remember that however you may feel now...YOU are the most important thing in your life...not this guy. :) And you are certainly strong enough to survive alone.
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Ms.Behavin on March 05, 2009, 09:24:10 PM
Post by: Ms.Behavin on March 05, 2009, 09:24:10 PM
It can be a very hard and trying time to have loved someone, to be madly in love with someone and to not have them around anymore. It's been 2-1/2 years since the person that was my true love left and there are still times it hurts. Yet I've found another who loves me for who I am and life goes on.
Take care
Beni
Take care
Beni
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Icephoenyx on March 09, 2009, 09:32:42 PM
Post by: Icephoenyx on March 09, 2009, 09:32:42 PM
I think it may be harder for transpeople because we *potentially* have a smaller dating pool, and it's easy to feel that we may never find someone again....however, most significant others aren't worth crying over, life does go on and hopefully you can get out there and try again soon, because you deserve it.
Chrissi
Chrissi
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: pong on March 09, 2009, 10:49:59 PM
Post by: pong on March 09, 2009, 10:49:59 PM
Absolutely! Everyone can survive a break up. It doesn't matter if your a TS or not. Yes, it will hurt in the beginning and feels like you won't survive but you will and after that someone will come along who you will love unconditionally and vice-versa. Everytime I get hurt and start getting depressed, I just remind myself what my mom told me before - that God created our brain above our heart so we'll use our brain first and then our heart. Emotions can really blind you so you have to be careful.
Anyway, hope everything works our for you. Goodluck!
Anyway, hope everything works our for you. Goodluck!
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Osiris on March 10, 2009, 12:43:13 AM
Post by: Osiris on March 10, 2009, 12:43:13 AM
Quote from: Icephoenyx on March 09, 2009, 09:32:42 PMHey, smaller dating pool, less people to weed through to get to the right person.
I think it may be harder for transpeople because we *potentially* have a smaller dating pool
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Rachael on March 10, 2009, 12:46:26 AM
Post by: Rachael on March 10, 2009, 12:46:26 AM
How does finding another partner effect how you cope with breakup?
Title: Re: can a ts, survive a break up:(
Post by: Mister on March 10, 2009, 01:11:21 AM
Post by: Mister on March 10, 2009, 01:11:21 AM
Quote from: Rachael on March 10, 2009, 12:46:26 AM
How does finding another partner effect how you cope with breakup?
It