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I noticed something about myself today. In times of anger, I feel like I lean more towards the masculine. In times of depression, I lean more towards the femminine.

Let's same I'm rather "girly" right now.

Have any others even felt this way, or similar?

I never really thought I did any shifting around in terms of gender all that much until now.

Right there with you on this.

I have noticed something similar.  When I'm angry, though, I have to shut down because it is literally painful.

I find if I am feeling 'extreme' I feel more feminine.

If I am depressed I often times feel feminine... however I think that might be a throwback from always hearing that "boys don't cry" and that girls are the emotional ones.

But if I am really hyper is when I feel most girly actually. That's when you are likely to see me prancing around the room, flipping my hair, and doing pirouettes. Either that or just bouncing up and down.

I feel most like a guy when I'm being a geek (talking about star wars, comic books, etc) even though all of the girls I know are geeks too.

hmm...I don't get angry too often, but I think I have a very "dad" like anger.  I have "the look."  I also took a very dad-like role with my little brother (BIG age difference...my dad wasn't around and my mom and grandparents were pushovers, so I was the disciplinarian).

I agree about feeling more feminine when when I feel extreme.  Anytime I feel really emotional, I feel more feminine.  It's pretty interesting to think about.  But I also control my emotions the way boys are taught...never cry and all that.  It's a weird mix for me.

if i were going to genderwise it, I'd say when I am moody, independent, want to stride out on my own in the cold and do things then I am masculine, when I want to joke and laugh with my friends, feel part of a community and feel warm and lazy then I am more feminine. The game is to balance the two so I don't feel claustrophobic in my ladytype thing or alone in my manny thing

Quote from: Jaimey on March 17, 2008, 07:44:56 PM
I agree about feeling more feminine when when I feel extreme.  Anytime I feel really emotional, I feel more feminine.  It's pretty interesting to think about.  But I also control my emotions the way boys are taught...never cry and all that.  It's a weird mix for me.

Me too.

Me three.

Although I think it's a bit deeper than just 'boys are taught'; it's also a survival tactics against being laughed at. Just act like you don't care, and people may believe it. If you're lucky, even you may believe it.

  Nfr

It is definitely more of an instinct/defense mechanism for me.

In certain situation it is just better to put up that front even if it is subconscious. I feel it is similar to the humor thing, just a way of protecting ourselves.

*Nero nods in respect and decides to answer from a binary view*

When I'm cooing over animals, comforting a friend, singing in the shower, gushing over something beautiful etc, I am feminine.
Most other times I'm masculine.

Quote from: Nero on March 18, 2008, 03:03:19 PM
*Nero nods in respect and decides to answer from a binary view*

When I'm cooing over animals, comforting a friend, singing in the shower, gushing over something beautiful etc, I am feminine.
Most other times I'm masculine.

Damn, I'm slow on the uptake.

I hadn't even thought about the binary nature of this whole thing till I read your comment. So my next question is, am I inadvertently validating/perpuating the binary construct of gender with my initial question?

yes.

but its OK.  I might be more in male mode pulling up a 110 foot chain, more female when I take out a laser level and check the skirts on the risers.  But, both need to be done.

Quote from: Shades O'Grey on March 18, 2008, 03:06:41 PM

Quote from: Nero on March 18, 2008, 03:03:19 PM
*Nero nods in respect and decides to answer from a binary view*

When I'm cooing over animals, comforting a friend, singing in the shower, gushing over something beautiful etc, I am feminine.
Most other times I'm masculine.

Damn, I'm slow on the uptake.

I hadn't even thought about the binary nature of this whole thing till I read your comment. So my next question is, am I inadvertently validating/perpuating the binary construct of gender with my initial question?

No. Non-binaries will undoubtedly have more dramatic emotional gulfs between masculine and feminine. I'm just a guy with some markedly femmy traits. Whether due to being raised female or if I'd have had them anyhow, I'll never know.

I think most are yin and yang, if they let themselves become who they are.