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Well today I came out to my family (to mather & father, sister & her husband ) and after I told them what I am,what will happen in the future and what I expect from them the reaction was incredible. The whole family accepted me as a new daughter, even my father  :) he even said that I should told them this before and now would be already a woman.
The sister offered me her dresses to wear and help with make up and other things, anyway they did surprised me complitely. When I was start to talk them I was afraid that I might lost my family forever but now I have support from them and that is wonderful thing, I'm so happy today.
I need to tell about me just one person more, my younger sister & her husband, they don't live in the same country so I need to wait a little, don't like to talk about that on the phone. 

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Happy Michelle  :)

Whoa Michelle! That's WONDERFUL! Congrats... wow, what an amazing reaction from everyone!

Did you ever expect them to take it so well?

How did you tell them? All together at once in person, seperately via phone calls, etc.?

Did they "get it" at first? Or was there lots of explaining about how sexuality is different than identity and so on?

Wow, congrats again, that's really wonderful to hear.

How are YOU feeling now? You must feel like some huge weight was lifted?

Congrats, Michelle.

Now, "Rush Slowly" and give them time to adjust to the changes you will undergo.

Thank you Kate,

No I did not expected that they will taked so well,especially not father he really surprised me the most.
Well everything happen unexpected, I visited my doctor and my therapist for several times now and father and mother want to know why I'm going so much to doctors and today after I get home from my doctor they start asking again what is wrong with me, mother start crying because I refuse to talk about that, father looked really worried about me and so I start crying too and asking them to wait two more hours to get my older sister from work (she live near us) and I will tell them everything. 
After we all get together I start talking about my past, (should I mention that I was nervous as hell?) what I am, why I visiting doctors so often lately, what will happen in the future, simply completely procedure from start to the end with SRS.
After hour or so father said that he don't mind at all if he got three daughters now also nobody is against if I came home with a guy, that was another surprise, they simply connected that if I'm a girl then is logical that I will soon or later came home with a guy maybe later even husband. :)
How I feel right now?
GREAT, I feel like I could reach the stars lol  .. really so happy I wasn't for a long time now  :).

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HI reikirobyn,

Thank you, ... yes don't worry I will not pushed them to much only as much as I need to, at least I can talk with them now about everything and I don't need to hidding my woman things anymore. Also parents already 'teasing'  :) me with my new girl name they will not use it all the time for now only when we are alone in the house.


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Happy Michelle

wow im so happpy for you michelle, i can only hope mine goes the same way when im ready to come out :)

Congratulations Michelle - this is wonderful news!  I have been feeling down and depressed lately and this put a smile on my face.  You are a very fortunate woman to have so much love and acceptance in your life.

Molly

Hi christy-lee,

I know how hard is to coming out with the truth to your own family, that was the hardest thing to do for me so far but there is still some hard thing to do in the future, one of them is certainly coming out on the work place but before that happen it will take at least year or two more.
Anyway my fear was bigger than It was needed and maybe is that in your case too, parents can surprise you with love, acceptance but unfortunately also with unacceptance.

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Thank you Molly,

I'm sorry to hear that you feeling down and depressed lately, I know it's much harder for you because you are married but you make nice progress in this one year, coming out from the closet to your wife, started with laser treatment, partially dressing at home, visiting support group and all that with support of your wife!
So it's not all that grey dear Molly, she just need some more time, she still love you very much and that is very important.
Talk with her about everything just don't push her from you, you have great personality Molly and I know that will you and your wife find the way which will be good for both of you.

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Michelle

Congratulations!!!

I am so envious! 

I am totally scared of ever having to come out to my folks (in truth, I am not really out with myself yet).  They are the only people on the planet that I actually care about.  I would hate to lose them or have them think poorly of me.  Need I also add that I work for them as well, so its a double whammy for me.  As you can imagine, this topic weights heavily on me.  I can only hope and dream of a similar response with my parents if I have to tell them.

Stacey

Michelle,

I am absolutely THRILLED FOR YOU! ! ! ! ! :eusa_clap: :eusa_dance: :icon_woowoo: :eusa_dance: :eusa_clap: :icon_hug: :icon_hug:

I remember how worried you were about telling your family.  You must feel as light as a feather, as giddy as a schoolboy, like Scrooge on his first Christmas!

I wish you all the best in what is to come.

helen

Way to go Michelle :0) I'm so happy for you. I know it took a lot of courage to do what you did. It came out all right and all you had to fear was fear itself. Remember to go slow as your family has to catch up to you. You might get some books on the subject and place them around the house for people to read. Good luck.
Sheila
     

Hi Stacy,

Thank you, yes you need to be very careful before you came out to them, especially in your position because you working for them and you can lose the job, the money which will you bloody needed if you decide to transition.

By me everything happen so quicly and unexpected ( I wasn't ready to tell them yet ) but also surprisingly well for me, now I need to tell '' the news '' only my younger sister but I'm quite an optimist now. I think it will gonna go well, I hope so. :)

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Hi HelenW,

Yes I was very worried about that, because I really care about them and I didn't want to lose them, also I didn't knew that they knew so much about transgedered people.

The most I was worried about father because he is , you know '' the old school '' man, strong and proud on family but all the fear was for nothing, thank God!!

Yes I feel light like a feather now after the huge secret burden was lifted off my shoulders.
Thank you very much!

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Hi Sheila,

Thank you, yes it does take a lot of courage, I was shaking and first few minutes didn't knew how or where to start but than I start talking with tears in my eyes and more have I talked less fear was in me especially when I realized that they understand me and my feelings.


Thank you all!!


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Michelle