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Title: Adapt to friends' life (and name) changes
Post by: Hazumu on April 04, 2008, 10:18:19 PM
Post by: Hazumu on April 04, 2008, 10:18:19 PM
By CAROLYN HAX
SYNDICATED COLUMNIST
Seattle Post Intelligencer (http://seattlepi.nwsource.com/hax/357770_hax405.html)
"I have a reflexive objection to your reflexive objection. Changing a name or even sex isn't an attempt to "erase/redefine our shared past." It is an attempt -- usually undertaken after much discomfort and reflection -- by someone to change his or her own present and future.
You call these people by their names X times a week. They've lived with identities they dislike for 24/7/365. Your discomfort, real as it may be, just isn't on the radar.
You'll live, you'll adjust, and if you do both graciously, these friends will take note."
SYNDICATED COLUMNIST
Seattle Post Intelligencer (http://seattlepi.nwsource.com/hax/357770_hax405.html)
"I have a reflexive objection to your reflexive objection. Changing a name or even sex isn't an attempt to "erase/redefine our shared past." It is an attempt -- usually undertaken after much discomfort and reflection -- by someone to change his or her own present and future.
You call these people by their names X times a week. They've lived with identities they dislike for 24/7/365. Your discomfort, real as it may be, just isn't on the radar.
You'll live, you'll adjust, and if you do both graciously, these friends will take note."