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I am REALLY feeling that I am not going to be able to tell my family that I feel my body does not match my inner gender. Further complicating things is that I have never been very feminine acting or looking as I have always tried to hide this from them. I am thinking that I will begin making changes to more accurately represent myself outwardly, and if they notice I will deal with it then... so, I was wondering if anyone out there had broke the news to the family lately or just had any feedback in this area as far as an approach to take.

I just told my Mom two days ago.  Going to tell my Dad next week, though I'm sure that he's already heard it from my Mom.  She took it way better than I expected she would.  I was really nervous about saying anything to either of them, sort of taking your approach of "deal with it when it comes up". 
Not knowing anything about you, it's hard for me to give advice.  I'm older, have my own health insurance, and I'm going to see a therapist.  The last time I was talking to my Mom, we were complaining about health insurance, and how so many things aren't covered.  I casually dropped in that the therapist I'm going to see isn't covered by my insurance (because GID isn't covered).  It was an easy way to segue into the topic.  She asked what I'm seeing a therapist for, and I tell her that I'm going to see a gender therapist.  I know she was shocked, but she took it really well.  I told her that I'd been feeling this way for years, and that I finally decided to talk to someone about it. 
For myself, bringing it up earlier was better.  This way, no one is shocked about any drastic changes.  We'll see how it goes with my Dad next week.

I haven't told anyone in my family. My mom sort of knows about it and doesn't like it. I have been in hiding for years and did my best to hide it from others, but as I am getting older now I can't just hide it any longer. I have been dropping little hints about my feminity much to my mom's dismay. She doesn't understand why I keep my body shaved while I try to grow out my hair. I'm quite nervous about coming out to family with this even though I am old enouph to take control of my life. Don't really know how I can help as I have not really come out. Like you I take it as it comes and deal with it as it comes up. It's not easy.

Linda Ann

Love being female :angel:

Quote from: jc02081 on April 11, 2008, 12:40:39 PM
I am REALLY feeling that I am not going to be able to tell my family that I feel my body does not match my inner gender. Further complicating things is that I have never been very feminine acting or looking as I have always tried to hide this from them. I am thinking that I will begin making changes to more accurately represent myself outwardly, and if they notice I will deal with it then... so, I was wondering if anyone out there had broke the news to the family lately or just had any feedback in this area as far as an approach to take.

I've been lucky with family but then again I've never tried to hide who I am at any stage in my life. It's always been quite obvious to others about the way I am and there hasn't been any really big shift in my image or the way I present myself throughout the last 20 years......

i recently told my soon to be ex wife (not the reason for the split) but have not told anyone else in my family. may never be able to, because of my grandson.

have recently had a strong urge lately, to tell my sister, we have not been close since childhood, mainly because i was a jerk...