Susan's Place Transgender Resources

What do you want most in life? Literally.

Nero

A form that fits.

A VERY close second would be what I already have.

To be happy.

Melissa

other than ftm surgery being flawless...

to be married to amy (and that the wedding will all fall into place without being too stressed about money) and to be able to have our own children that are completely ours by normal conception.
think i'd be a great dad.

     tino

JUST TO KEEP HEARING THIS MUSIC.

Given the way my life has "trans"pired I think that I'm as happy as I can be but to complete my life would to be accepted by my daughter.

Steph

HI everyone,

The thing I would like the most, would be for the medical community to find a cure or at least a reliable treatment for fibromyalgia, so I could live my life without so much pain and fatigue. Living with chronic pain is very emotionally draining.  Being too tired to do the things I want to do is sometimes very upsetting.

Don't get me wrong, I am not just sitting around whining.  I have returned to college, I take the minimum amount of meds and try not to focus my life around my illness.  I am by no means down for the count.  I just sometimes get bummed out knowing I am going to have to deal with chronic pain for the rest of my life.

Love always,
Elizabeth

What I would like most is for my divorce to go smoothly the rest of the way.  Marco's and my kids to accept us, we get married and start life with our new modern-day blended family.

I know...people have accused me of looking through Rosey-colored glasses before!  Hey, it doesn't hurt to be optimistic.

The only thing that will happen for sure is Marco and I getting married, my divorce is about as ugly as they come, and some of our kids are not taking Marco's transition and "us" too well.  They just need time.

;D
Pam

At the moment, for it to just be done with already.  Tired of being disappointed, tired of having to fight for everything.

To be accepted for who I am.

Chaunte

Ok I thought of something much deeper - bigger boobs and more money.  OK so I'm materialistic - a girls needs stuff.  :)

Steph

Not to be at war with myself.

Alice

Quote from: Alan on June 26, 2006, 08:42:16 PM
Not to be at war with myself.

AMEN to that!

QuoteOk I thought of something much deeper - bigger boobs and more money.  OK so I'm materialistic - a girls needs stuff.

Steph, have you always been this blonde?  >:D

But, yeah, I'd like boobs and money too but not the most - I want most to be comfortable enough in my own skin to let the other happinesses register again.

Then, bigger boobs and more money!

helen

TO HAVE A MEANING TO MY LIFE...
AND TOUCH AS MANY PEOPLE'S LIVES AS POSSIBLE IN A POSITIVE WAY

Chynna

Chynna Doll:

You've touched my life many times on this site in a very positive way.

thank you,

tinkerbell

A toughie. I think my first answer is: to find someone to love, who loves me for me.

Maybe I'm just a romantic, but I feel that while appearrances can be changed and money earned, true love is something special beyond words.

Though, a close second would be finding an inner peace and letting me believe and feel confident in myself.

If I ever achieve these, I think I will be able to handle anything else life may throw me.

~Kaitlyn

Quote from: HelenW on June 26, 2006, 09:32:49 PM
Steph, have you always been this blonde?  >:D

Hey I represent that remark :)

Actually I just got my hair cut and streaked. It's now short straight, brown with blond streaks.  I'm still getting used to it as it is a big change, so no more blond jokes :)

Steph

Quote from: tinkerbell on June 26, 2006, 11:27:58 PM
Chynna Doll:

You've touched my life many times on this site in a very positive way.

thank you,

tinkerbell

I'm begining to think we were seperated at birth!
Or maybe just prior to transitioning! ??? ::) Thanks boo!

Chynna

To always have fun things to do (and someone to do them with) and never be bored. To feel free to just let loose without worrying about do I pass/is my voice high enough and be free of what doesn't belong so as to not feel the need to hide it all the time. Abundance for not only myself but those around me.

As I said happiness.  You are all wishing for things that will make you happy.  In other words, you are wishing for ameans to an end, rather than an end.  I thought about this a long time ago and realized that the goal of life is to be happy.  Money doesn't bring happiness, but you can buy things that will make you happy.

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on June 27, 2006, 02:03:22 PM
Money doesn't bring happiness, but you can buy things that will make you happy.
Melissa

;D ;D ;DBut sure can rent it on an hourly basis!!!!!!!! ;D ;D ;D
                                    :eusa_dance: :eusa_dance:

Exactly.  You can buy things that make you happy.

Melissa

I read this question in here yesterday and have given it a lot of thought before responding...truthfully I almost did not respond, because my thoughts were who would really believe me...

then I decided this afternoon, I need to say what my heart really feels. I come to this community for one reason only and that is to give...and in truth it is through that giving that I receive more than any of you may realize....

What I want today...

is for all of you to have more than what you wrote down in here, because what you have coming to you is truly well beyond your imaginations! The life you have not dared to dream can be...not just because the outside may be altered, but because the inside can be and will be healed. 

Peace,

Taylor

thanks taylor,

you're a good guy, i believe you.

-tino-

Quoteis for all of you to have more than what you wrote down in here, because what you have coming to you is truly well beyond your imaginations! The life you have not dared to dream can be...not just because the outside may be altered, but because the inside can be and will be healed. 
Peace,
Taylor
Posted on: Yesterday at 03:01:01 PMPosted by: Melissa 

I don't believe you! because your not standing on my right with a wedding ring on my finger!!!  ;) ;D
THAT WAS A EXTREMELY HEART FELT GOOD ANSWER WELL SAID....WELL SAID INDEED

CHYNNA

I have read this post a few times & was unsure what to say. I have everyting I need to be happy & fullfilled. I have a great relationship with my daughter, she has grown up with a good sense of right form wrong and has a huge open minded heart. I have the man of my dreams who wants to get married. I have some of my education goals completed and two jobs I enjoy, (helping people). I commnuicate with all living immediate relatives. I have home (rented) a vehicle (beat up but gets me around). I eat pretty well.

Dont get me wrong I am not mrs mary sunshine. I am relatively unhappy wiht my appaearence. I was always ultra thin w curves until about 25. I have sufferd extreme acne for about 15 years. My teeth were spacey & crooked. Thank fuly ther are things I can do about what I dont like. I started a very effective med for my acne 3 weeks ago & it is way better all ready & I saved up $ for braces (working on the false teeth fund).

It would be so great if the people I loved accepted themselves the way they accept me & I accept them.

Okay it is silly but what I would really want if I could have any one thing would be for my dad to have never died when I was 19. He would have watched my daughter grow up, been at my college graduation Tino could have asked his permission to marry me & next April my dad would get to walk me down the isle.
~Amy

Amy, I feel for you with your Dad. I think if I could have one wish, it would be to have my Dad for, say 5 or 10 more years, in good physical shape and mental shape. My Dad passed away 4 years ago and I still miss him constantly. I only wish he'd been around to help my Mum through the hard parts (for her) of my transition.

My Dad was, and I'm not exaggerating one tiny bit, the best man on earth and the best dad a kid could have. Before he died, he told me he was proud of me, but I think I could've been a better son for my father in many ways. He did live to see me married and it appeared to be a happy marriage at the time, so I'm glad he lived for that.

And we had a rockin' cross Canada trip, just him and me. The Grateful Dead on the stereo, wearing ballcaps backwards, smokin cigars and drinkin' beer (after the driving was over). I'll never forget it. It was the year he retired and I started law school. He helped me renovate my new apartment (aka rat-infested slum) when we got to Halifax, and deal with the fact that my then wife was having an affair.

I had awful gender problems as a kid. My Mum kept wanting me to be a girl. I remember 2 months where my Mum went back to England to take care of her family and it was just me and Dad. All summer I got to be a boy. We got up in the morning and went fishing. We built things, we fixed engines. We ate like bachelors (lots of cheese on toast). We shrank things in the wash.  I got to wear what I wanted. When people assumed I was a boy, Dad went along with it and didn't correct them. I love my Mum, but life got hard again when she came back.

Yep, sure wish he was around now and had been around when I started transition.

Dennis

I wish my parents accepted me as their daughter.  :'(

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on June 29, 2006, 07:46:18 AM
I wish my parents accepted me as their daughter.  :'(

Melissa

I wish I had parents!! instead of a woman who just gave birth to me!  :-\ :(

Dennis
I was very touched by your memories and great times withyour dad. My dad was coool like that too. I am the oldest by 8 years & a girl (girlly girl) but he never shoed me out of the wood shop, he taught me to make stuff & let me shoot BB guns, rifles (cross bow if I would 'cock' it myself) we had farm animals so he taught me to ride a horse and gross necessary meal pep with barn yard animals. Anything I was interested in he let me be a part of. I watched him tinker on cars & he would teach me all kinds of stuff, how to not throw/catch like a girl, play pool etc.

I just had my first own place as a real adult for 2 months before he died but it was nice to have him for dinner and relate to him as an adult. I know he is & was proud of me & loves me but his loss was very hard to take b/c he took his own life.

Ouch, Amy, that is really hard; the way your dad died. My heart goes out to you and your family.

/hugs,

Dennis

Three things and in this order.

For my band to make it, not necicarily become rich and faymous but to be able to live off our music despite all the obsticals.

To finaly be rid of all my inner demons, to win the war in my head. to finaly get a full nights rest with out haveing to be comforted or pass out from exaustion.

To once again find true love, and this time keep it.

Thats all I want in life, and I know its asking allot and probably unobtainable but I can hope, I can Dream, and I can strive for my goals:)

Amy,

I am really sorry that you had to experience this loss... I have no question in my mind that your father is still very proud of you!

Peace,

Taylor

PS have a good weekend!

What do I want most in life?
To gracefully walk in this Garden Universe with wisdom and love.
-Emerald

Emerald: beautifuly put wish.
Tayor: Thank you & I bet he is proud of me & my daughter too.
Dennis: thank you for your warm wishes. We have all adjusted pretty well under the circumstances.

nero:

that all of your wishes come true in a good and loving way! 8)

literally   :)   what else?   If you have gone through 1/2 of what i have I admire you already, and I know many of you have gone through twice as much as I have.. You have no idea of my love for you...then again you might be the one group that would know.

Love, no matter what, sheila

Sheila,
That is just the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me. I wish the same for you too.
We need more people like you in this world. What a lovely person you are.
Thanks.

Nero

Quote from: Nero on July 08, 2006, 09:40:49 PM
Sheila,
That is just the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me. I wish the same for you too.
We need more people like you in this world. What a lovely person you are.
Thanks.

Nero

Do I have to get defensive of my man????
Shiela I got claws and know how to use them CHICA! LMAO! :D ;)

Quote from: Chynna on July 10, 2006, 08:09:36 AM
Do I have to get defensive of my man????
Shiela I got claws and know how to use them CHICA! LMAO! :D ;)

Chynna Doll:

You're just my type of girl!!!  (as in "friends", don't get the wrong ideas now.....lol)


tinkerbell :icon_chick:

My mother to love me and except me for the woman that I am.

Two things:

To be genetically female.

To be talented at bassoon.

Both are never going to happen though. :'(

Let's see, what do I want in life... of course, there's being accepted for who I am, finding a girl I love who loves me (without eventual disastrous results), and, above all, to be a successful author. This has always been my goal; all I need is a publisher.

Rafe

Quote from: tinkerbell on July 10, 2006, 06:21:14 PM
Chynna Doll:

You're just my type of girl!!!  (as in "friends", don't get the wrong ideas now.....lol)


tinkerbell :icon_chick:

Tinkerbell,

LOL .......No worries.. I may occassionial date women (just to increase my wardrobe by 2X) LOL
but never family sis!


Chynna

I'm pretty happy with what I have, so I'll be shallow and opt for bags of cash and to be debt-free.

Dennis

Quote from: cindianna_jones on July 11, 2006, 01:44:35 AM
 

Victoria!  You play bassoon!  I like you already!  Hey tell me, how come it is that you can never find a good oboist?  The only good oboists are captured in the TV, I'm sure. I need to figure out a way to break some of them out.
My whole life, in every symphony orchestra I've ever played in, the oboist sucks!

Why do you suppose that is?

Cindi

Well the oboe in my band class is no good... but it's because she doesn't care about it. There are oboists in my school that are good though.

all the  men here basically wrote the things i want so.........

Quote from: Steph on June 26, 2006, 08:37:55 PM
Ok I thought of something much deeper - bigger boobs and more money.  OK so I'm materialistic - a girls needs stuff.  :)

Steph

The girl gets straight down to the heart of the matter, lol Steph. No fairytales and pixie dust there.

to be a parent..


tinkerbell :'(

To be a beauty queen...

and yes, world peace.

NAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWW.  Just kidding  :)

I have what I need.  The woman I love more than life itself stayed with me.  I have a roof over my head, a pretty good job, family and children who still talk to me, and a two year-old granddaughter who loves me and could care less what gender I am.  I've learnt alot about what matters and what doesn't in the past two years.  I still occasionally lose sight of this, but not so often anymore.

Dawn

I want to be able to get out into the real world in a skirt and heels when I feel like shopping or going to a decent restaurant or lounge ... without the world thinking I'm some kind of a deviant. And nice shoes that fit a wide foot ...

Someone to love and someone who loves me...

Thats all

:'(

I still say to be happy.  All of these things are just a means to happiness.

Melissa

Quote from: Nero on June 11, 2006, 03:53:21 PM
What do you want most in life? Literally.

Nero

Literally.  I'd like to see people share their faith by example.  Not by shoving it down someone's throat or killing for it.  If we could eliminate killing for God, there wouldn't be as many conflicts.

Cindi

this my thread and i never responded to it. what i want most in life is for my friend to wake up tomorrow
god please give me that

You know...I've been avoiding this post since I saw it.  Not because it's a bad one but because it's a great one.  I knew that digging that deep was going to bring out more painful memories than I was prepared to deal with.  So....as I see it right now this is my answer:

The only thing I can think of right now is for Nero's friend to wake up like he asked.  I lost my best friend not long ago so yeah....I would just like for Nero to keep his.

to forgive and like those who offend me....big challenge for me.... :(



tinkerbell :icon_chick:

Hi all. I am who I am and in the physical I have gone as far as mones and surgery can do for me and I am happy and grateful for that, so the prayers that I want most answered at this time is to heal four very close lady friends I know whom are inflicted with cancer.

Love

Cin

For Nero to Live.

Melissa

I do not think today is a good day for me to think about a question like that.

Sarah L.

want????????????

I can come up with thousands of...wants.
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are you interested in needs?

Quote from: veronica06 on September 11, 2006, 05:38:02 PM
I can come up with thousands of...wants.

That's why the word "most" was in there. ;)

Melissa

a want...is not...as..important...as a need.

want sounds to me personally like a small child whining.
but someone to say,..I need..is a bit more mature...

but this is my o.c.d. and strict upbringing coming out.

I could say...I want...a cold beer and a hot girlfriend...
but that to me is stupid.

to say I need to be female so I can stop living a lie.......is far different.

sorry if I offended anyone.

please explain what the main point is if I missed it?

thanks

What are you goals, your aspirations? Me, I'm happy with everything. I voted for bags of cash. The rest of my life is working, so I get to pick something frivolous. If you have needs, then vote for them. It's really just for fun.

Dennis

Quote from: Dennis on September 11, 2006, 11:49:44 PM
What are you goals, your aspirations? Me, I'm happy with everything. I voted for bags of cash. The rest of my life is working, so I get to pick something frivolous. If you have needs, then vote for them. It's really just for fun.

Dennis

I'd like to change my vote.  I vote for Dennis!  ;)

Cindi

Right this second I want another cup of coffee.....a croissant would be nice too :P

sorry if I offended anyone.

please explain what the main point is if I missed it?
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I will guess I did not miss anything since no one debated me.

thanks

Right now I wish January were here! ;)

tinkerbell :icon_chick:

Quote from: veronica06 on September 17, 2006, 10:57:52 PM
I will guess I did not miss anything since no one debated me.

The point of this is to say what you want most in life.  Everybody has needs, but they also have wants.  The "want" usually implies a goal and the "need" usually implies a means to get to that goal.  For example, I want SRS, but I need to have the money to get it.

Melissa

For example, I want SRS, but I need to have the money to get it.

Melissa
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oh kay........
I do not...as yet...seek...100% srs..........
"I" will be happy with just penectomy.
money?   as with most things in life, "I" find...most things come in time...........