Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everybody,

  I like the way you show support for each other.
  I was born female minded but male bodied. MTF.
  It's June now and I finally came out to myself feb of 2006 that I identify as female. I'm 43. My girlfriend doesn't mind as long as I don't start crossdressing or start growing breasts. These rules are a drag for me, but I'm not ready to do that yet anyway. I'm hoping as I travel along in my self discovery, that she will travel along with me.
  I am getting to know myself better right now. In the future, I'm hoping to get a better grasp of where I want to go with this and how.

  Anyway, I'm glad I discovered this forum. I'm sure I'll learn something from each of you and I hope that someone can learn something from me.


Rebecca Fog

 

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****Hi, I've been around since june 2006. I just want to make a note that I no longer call myself Rebecca. I call myself Rebis.  I've determined that I am an androgyne and not a TS.  :)

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Hi Rebecca:
Welcome to Susan's forums.  All the guys and girls here are pretty nice; this site contains very valuable information for people on all the stages of transition.  I am sure you're going to have a blast! :D

tinkerbell

hello rebecca and welcome to susans !!!

hi rebecca,

welcome to susans. amazing support and advice here that i've found. i'm sure if you let people get you know you a little bit and ask questions you will get an invaluable amount of advise and insight from this site and all of the ladies and gents that make it happen.

-Tino-

Hi Rebecca,
I just wanted to welcome you too Susan's too.
I'm also in the process of finding out who I am and what I need to do about it.
At first I though I was a Cross Dresser but now I thik that I'm a Transsexual.
I have a wife who doesn't want to see me dressed as a woman the person that I am.
Anyway good to meet you Rebecca.
:)
Jillieann

Welcome to Susan's, Rebecca!

I'm glad you found us and hope that you use this site often to help you in your discovery of who you really are.  The links, library and Wiki are terrific so don't just hang around here.  Also, the Chat room is fun if you want some immediate one on one.  The site rules are simple and even easier to follow.

I'll be looking forward to seeing more posts from you, please don't be afraid to contribute, and I'm again happy to say,

WELCOME!!  :D
helen

Hi

Thank you for being so welcoming everyone.


Becky

Hi Rebecca.
Welcome and nice to meet you.

Nero

Hello Rebecca, welcome to Susan's.

I'm sure that you are going to enjoy your stay here.  There is a lot of information for you to explore in the Wiki, and in the Links section, and you will be able to make new friends and meet the embers in the Chat area.  To get advice, seek help, provide assistance and your own advice the the Forums is the place to be.  Be sure to take advantage of us as that's what we are here for.

Please read the rules, and be sure to participate where you can as that's what makes Susan's such a great place to be.

Chat later.

Steph

Welcome Rebecca.  If you are truly MTF, then you will at the very least start living as a woman fulltime and if your GID is more severe, you will start altering your body with hormones/surgery.  If your girlfriend can't deal with that, then she just may not be right for you.  Also, people do tend to change somewhat over time.

Melissa

Welcome, Becky.

Being gender-variant isn't a picnic.  At some point, hard choices must be made.  You'll hear about some of those choices and their results - both good and hurtful - as you wander the beautiful grounds of Susan's Place. 

If and when you reach that point, it will be time to find a gender-experienced counselor to help you determine who you are. 

Robyn

Hello Rebecca,

Welcome to Susans.  I am also 43.  I do hope your girlfriend is understanding of your needs and does not try to set up too many limitations on you.  When you are faced with these severe limitations from an unaccepting partner, the relationship rarely ever works out I am sorry to say.  This has been my experience.  I hope for your sake she has an open mind, is very understanding of your needs and will grow to be more accepting in the future.  I will be looking forward to reading more posts from you.  Again Welcome!   :angel:

Hugs,

Shannon

Hi Shannon,

   I can't believe how incredible this site is. I feel really comfortable here. Not only do I feel safe, but the range of ideas and feelings in the posts reflect ideals and opinions I never thought I'd be able to share.

   I was talking to my girlfriend earlier today and she explained to me that she is becoming comfortable with the discovery of my femininity. She said it will just take time for her to accept or reject the stages I may go through. I know she doesn't judge me. It's not her nature. She is older than I am and has never really been exposed to such concepts as gender issues. I know she is working on her new understanding of who I am. I'm sure we will always be close in one way or another whatever the future holds.
   The issue, I guess, is how fast will I grow/change, and, can she keep up with me?

   I hope I don't sound delusional here. It's just that we are expecting to go through some difficult times together, but today it feels good.



Becky

Hi Rebecca,  Welcom to susans. I am also discovering my female self have been for close to 30 years now. I always though myself more female than male although I did go through a large part of my life as male doing maleness things but now that I am older I think I have matured quite a bit. I am 47. I do not have to many female clothes yet just panties and bra's. I have a pair of womens jeans and they do look good on me. 
The wonderful ladies and gents here are very caring and understanding. They and this site have helped me greatly. There is a lot of information to be had so dig in and do ask questions. We are her for you.



Look forward to seeing more posts.

Owen

love being female

Hi Rebecca,
Glad to have you at the message boards. We welcome everyone from all stages and walks of life. We share things back, always remember a therapist is more the final word with advice on any major life decision.

I have had a past one that said that also, about breasts and crossdressing. We arent together now though, for other reasons mainly.

I have developed further and deeper than that period and am not sure if I couldnt have guessed how far I would go compared to what I really want in my heart. I think I would have said more limits that what I would really follow back then.

Its all going to come down to what do you want, and what does she like/want/accept. Hard to really tell.

Quote from: RebeccaFog on June 24, 2006, 08:37:59 PM

   The issue, I guess, is how fast will I grow/change, and, can she keep up with me?

Having known/supported several couples in transition, let me repeat the famous Ingersoll Gender Center mantra:  RUSH SLOWLY

One key to transitioning in a relationship you want to last is to always give your SO time to adjst and to assimilate your latest change. 

Once you're on hormones, you're going through puberty again and want everythiing right now.  Meanwhile her (his) head is spinning and might be too off balance to take the pierced ears, the court ordered name change, the surgery date ... whatever.  She is going through the five stages of grieving; so give her a chance to stay with you.

Robyn

Hi Rebecca and welcome. I hope we all can help you and your SO with the insight and experience a lot of people here have. I am 3 months 'out' to me and my wife though I think I felt it for a far lot longer. As others are saying, proceed stage by stage slowly for what is nature to you takes a lot of adjusting for your SO. Best of luck to you two. :)

RebeccaFog:
  " I was born female minded but male bodied. MTF."  I like that.
I date human beings not girls or boys. Is easier for me to have a long lasting relationship with women.  Women have one quality in general, a broad brush stroke I know, is that they put a lot of rules on their mates...rules that they do not follow...am 51 and dated my share plus
You are here in this forum not by accident, there are no coincidences, my belief.
You are in the right place, thoughand among friends. Stay
Love, Sheila

Thank you, Sheila,

  I appreciate your sentiments.


Becky

Posted on: June 29, 2006, 08:09:46 PM

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Hi,

Today, july 13 2007, Rebecca has become Rebis.

Pleased to make your acquaintance, Rebis! :laugh:
<shakes hand>

Hello Rebecca welcome to Susans!

hello Rebis, cool name, a bit like the detective in Ian Rankin novels.

Quote from: Pica Pica on July 13, 2007, 02:54:03 PM
hello Rebis, cool name, a bit like the detective in Ian Rankin novels.

Get back to your theory work, you!   >:(

I did a bit...my life is too dull to be able to think too much

Quote from: Pica Pica on July 13, 2007, 03:00:44 PM
I did a bit...my life is too dull to be able to think too much

so's mine.

I'd kind of like to get away from it all and get my energies back. I think I'm slipping into an ebb (no. Not that guy from Green acres).

Oh well, the world will change next month.

Hi Rebis, I'm in a similar position to you regarding SO and the advice to me has been the same - go slow, don't rush your partner.  Welcome to Susans, this is a great place to be to get good, friendly advice and support. I'm hooked!
Best wishes, Louise

hi rebis

welcome to susans place

thank you for sharing with us 

this is such a great place for advice and surport

best wishes
amanda

I know a girl who is named Rebecca who also happens to be a moderator here.

She is one of the sweetest and kindest women whom I have ever had the pleasure to encounter.  ;)

And she helped me considerably through some very difficult times, of late...

Quote from: Rhonda on July 14, 2007, 09:47:24 AM
I know a girl who is named Rebecca who also happens to be a moderator here.

She is one of the sweetest and kindest women whom I have ever had the pleasure to encounter.  ;)

And she helped me considerably through some very difficult times, of late...

Maybe one day I'll meet her, take her in my arms, and we'll both fly away.  Do you have her phone number?   ;D

Quote from: Rebis on July 14, 2007, 10:55:00 AM

Quote from: Rhonda on July 14, 2007, 09:47:24 AM
I know a girl who is named Rebecca who also happens to be a moderator here.

She is one of the sweetest and kindest women whom I have ever had the pleasure to encounter.  ;)

And she helped me considerably through some very difficult times, of late...

Maybe one day I'll meet her, take her in my arms, and we'll both fly away.  Do you have her phone number?   ;D

[smiling]

I do not, but I would consider such a high honor, if she had given the same to me.

Hi Rebis,
Welcome to Susan's , this is an awesome place, so supportive, helpful. I am 43 also and fairly new here. I am just discovering that I am a female in a male body. I don't have a girlfriend to worry about, but I do have a 14yr old son who I am not sure he could take his dad telling him that he is a female. The one thing that I am starting to learn is be true to yourself. I sincerely hope your girlfriend will come along this juorney with you. It is so nice to have someone close to you to support you through the many descisions we make along this path. I agree also that you should find a therapist to help you sort all of this out. I have a wonderful one and I don't know what I would do with out her. Please take care and I lokk forward to seeing more posts from you and possibly see you in the chat room.
Hugs,
Alena :)

Hello Everybody!

   I changed my name from Rebecca to Rebis because I have determined I'm an androgyne.
   I'm not certain I identify as either gender even though I believe that what feelings I have are female.

   I have been on Susan's since June of 2006. I am locking this topic because by editing it, I brought it up in the list and I feel like I'm deceiving the nice people who continue to welcome me to the site.


Remember,  I love everybody!  Don't you ever forget that. :) :) :)