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ok... so as an actual topic... i'm wondering...
how many of you have changed your name after you already changed it because it was a name of the wrong gender?  i'm wondering because i've stuck with my first new choice just like i would've if i'd have been born with it, but one of my friends who's kinda at the same point as me transitioning can't decide on hers and keeps on changing it.  which is annoying because i don't know what to call her!

Well, I'm still deciding on names but I'm not very far along yet so I'm not sure I count (=

I mean, I'm fond of Kelly, Mare, Kimberly, Nicole... (which incidentally is probably my current picks in order, and I probably can't get away with the first one.)

Hi

I"ve only changed my name once and I"m satisfied with it.
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LeslieGirl

I chose my name ages ago.  Stephanie Phyllis...  I chose names that would match my old signature so that I wouldn't have to worry about ever slipping up when I sign something.  I usually sign things with "S.P. Craxford"  so it fits and I'm happy with my new name.  I guess I have to be as I've submitted my request to formally change my name.

Chat later...

I thought about this a lot.  If i had just "femmed" my male name i would be Tiffany Alana, but i thought that sucked, and i am going to wear my new choice the rest of my life, so i picked Eleanor (as in Roosevelt) and Ashley (similar to my old middle name and an old family name of Ashmore).  :P

I am on my first chosen name and will be staying with it. I really don't know how it came about, i didn't chose between names, it just hit me one day and i thought: "My name is beth."

Quote from: beth on May 24, 2005, 01:08:49 AM"My name is beth."

*smile* Yes Beth, it is indeed.

My First chosen name was Vicky. I plan on staying with it, for the reason I picked it was out of respect, and admiration of a girl that helped me through my teenage years. Lynn my first chosen middle name was chosen to honor my wife and my sister, who have the same middle names, and I just stuck with my last name of Williams.

When I was about 8-years-old my friend Sandra and I exchanged names for the day just goofing around on the playground. Friends laughed but I enjoyed it more than I let on. It was a bit tough going home, back to reallity and my real name.

Decades later when on the internet I needed to pick a femme name it was a no-brainer because it was the name I had wanted to keep as a child. The same when I had it changed legally three years ago.


Sandi (http://vista.powerblog.com)

Kelly is like that for me.
During middle school there were no less than 3 other guys all with the same first name as I. On a limited base we started using some other part of our names than the first to identify ourselves.  I suppose it goes without saying that I've always considered Kelly to be the best part of my birth name.

I chose my name years ago, as I liked the name and it was also the name of a girl i knew years ago that was very much of a lady.

I feel comfortable with the name, and only add 01 as there are other ladies with the name  Denise

Denise01

I love how you all came up with your names but i think sandi and i have something in common with our names. a girlfriend and i did the same thing when we were 7 and her name was danielle i thought it was so pretty even then i had to remember that name. well now i am danielle christine. the christine is just a feminized version of my given first name.

I like the way Michelle sounds and it is so versatile.   I have even seen it spelled Michael under a list of most common girl's names.   I like the Michelle spelling better,  but would not have to change anything but pronunciation if I kept the Michael spelling.    Then i would quit using my middle name.     Lately my comfort zone has gotten very small.

Call me unimaginative, but when I thought about a new name, I just couldn't make any decisions.  Then it occured to me that my own name was perfectly fine as is with no changes in pronounciation or spelling as while the Y usually denotes male and I denotes female, Ive seen many females with the Y rather then the I, but somehow I just didn't like that Y dangling there at the end of it, So I simply traded the Y for I and nobody noticed the difference in what to call me.  I had the spelling change made on all my records, DL,SSA and accounts and am happy with it.  It is something that is mine and always has been.


Actually, as I used to say around a lot, "Call me anything you wish, but keep smiling when ya do"

You're so lucky Terri. I wish I had a gender-neutral birth name so I didn't have to get used to being called something else.

I simply took the male version of my female name and added a middle name that is often used for the guys in my family. Took me a bit of agonizing though. Problem was that any other names I liked - Lewis, John, Daniel - were already in use by living members of my family.

The guy I always dreamed of being had a different name, but that was my fantasy life and this is reality and is someone I have to be for the rest of my life. I know that the guy I am becoming and will be will have a lot of the components of the woman people thought I was, so it made sense to me to keep a part of her too. And I did want to show some respect to my parents for their choice of name. If I had a choice and had a more gender neutral name (why couldn't they have called me Robin?), I'd have kept the name I was born with.

Maybe I'm unimaginative and just rationalizing :)

Dennis

Yes, it can be a problem Dennis, a name is something you get used to, even if you don't like it.  It is nice to just leave things as they are for the most part when you can do that.

i like the name Michelle (well my given name is Miguel, or Michael in english), but i would really like to have a portuguese name as my entire family is portuguese (the translations for michelle that i heard of were all horrible). I like Joana too (as in Joanne D'arc.. thats how you write it in english right?).

Quote from: beth on May 24, 2005, 01:08:49 AM... it just hit me one day and i thought:...

This is what has happened to me; Mother and I had been going though many, many baby names. We found many that were not bad and so on.

When I went to see my nice endocrinologist for my first visit a name had been dancing about my head, in the background. As time has gone on that name has gradually become implacable. Which is a slight snag in that a relation also bears this first name, and as it happens the same middle name that I was thinking of as well; So that tosses a wrench in the works. It might be interesting to see what we come up with final, but I at least know two pieces of my name.

Or, in short:

Kimberly, I am.

hello Kimberly!     



                                     congratulations      :icon_bunch: 





love beth

Thank you (=
*smile* Just need to get the body to match the name now! :P

Jessica.  When I was really little, I guess about 5 or 6, I would go to bed early, close my eyes and lay awake and imagine being what I should have been all along.  I would fight sleep just so I could stay and think about how things should have been.  I imagined being a daughter, school, playing, just about everything.  Through all of that time my name was Jessica.  It still is when I close my eyes and dream.

Jessica, you sound exactly like me. I went so far as to take the Sears catalog and circle all the outfits I wanted my clothes to turn into. I always hoped that I would awake and everything would be the way it was supposed to be and everything else was just a bad dream. Never happened of course.  I was like that until I was about 12 and the Psyco babilist "therapists" drilled it out of me., along with his advice to my family to enroll me in all kinds of male dominant sports. That will fix him. Yeh, like I needed to be fixed. Sheeesh!

Anyway I digress. Lisa was the name I always thought of and when I first began my journey into womanhood that was the name I choose. Somehow as an adult I realised I was not as enamoured with the name as I thought. Hearing it for awhile I realised this is not the name I want to go through the rest of my life with.

So I began casting about for a new name. As a child I was big into Greek Mythology and the name Cassandra popped up. She was a priestest for the Oracle who was cursed to see the future but that no one would heed her prophecies. Kind of like no one would heed the fact that, I'M A GIRL!

Also, my Grandmother whom I loved dearly and who secretly would make my face up and do my nails when no one was around, always called me Laddie. Cassie has the same ring to it and when I here it is natural and I respond immediately as if it had always been my name. It is both familiar and filled with love. So I am Cassandra(Cassie).

I first decided on Alison looking through a website of baby names. Then as time progressed, the more TG messageboards I went to, the more I saw other girls with the name Alison, so I added a second L. Fortunatly Allison is not as popular and therefore not as easily confused. After some thought for a middle name, I thought Michelle had a nice sound to it since Allison has double-Ls in the beginning, and Michelle has double-Ls at the end. Still deciding on a last name. I was going to keep my birth last name but talks with my parents are going very sour so why keep a last name of a family that won't accept me?

I swapped round with names to a bit... First I liked Trisha, then Sonia and now Naomi... I hope I can stick with this name!

Hi, everyone.  My first attempt at naming myself brought forth the name Tiffany.  For some time, I could not decide what to use as a middle name, so I let it be.

In '96, I began to spell my name with an I at the end, like Terri-Gene.  Also like Terri-Gene, I decided to have a hyphenated first name, specifically Tiffani-Angelique, as a remembrance of my very diverse ancestry (I am 1/8 First Nations, 1/16 Creole and either 1/16 or 1/32 black [I'm not sure which one is correct]); once in a while, I can even be angelic as the name suggests, though I am generally very stubborn (due to my having been born under the sign of the bull, Taurus).

As a further reminder of my Creole ancestry, I chose the surname Pontchartrain.  For those of you who do not understand French, the name breaks down to "bridge, chart or map, train", so the real meaning of the name is a map of a trestle (train bridge).

It seemed appropriate to bridge (groan!) my life with this surname, as I was trying to cross from one side of life's experiences to the other.

Finally, about a year ago, I decided that Rosalynde should be my middle name.

So here is my full name: Tiffani-Angelique Rosalynde Pontchartrain.

Due to the necessity of having to undergo SRS to fully change our ID up here, I have not tried to obtain a legal name change at this time.  That one letter, M,  can make life very difficult for us indeed.  *Sigh*

Tiffani

I started out with Sierrenna. This name was ok, but I could never identify with that name too much, so it sounded unnatural. I just made it up. I think I will always remember that name though, as something unique.

My current GF asked what I called myself. She heard other TGs calling themselves female names. I didnt want to use that name anymore but something unrealistic. I told her I dont like the name I choose anymore and didnt have a name. I tried calling my mom and finding out what the female name she was going to call me if I had been a girl (If its a boy....If its a girl....). She never told me.

She said she heard some based off my real first name feminized. Kendra, Kenna, Kenya, Kenda . Actually all 4 of these are good to me, since based on the same name.

Well everyone in my family (who still doesn't know about the real me) calls me something along the lines of "D" because it's the first letter of my given name.  Originally I thought of it being "Dee" but I didn't like that.  I toyed around with names that I used to like - Samantha, Cynthia, Chrystal, Candice, (think I have something for C names).  I would have chosen Chrystal but while in Michigan I knew a Crystal who was not a nice person at all, so it kind of ruined that name for me.  I thought something feminized from my old name - Dierdre, Darlene was a nice one, but one day I remembered being in high school art class where we had to use our name or pick a name and stylize it to match our personalities.  I remember one of the names I drew was Stephanie.  It just sounds very classy to me.  So it stuck.

I haven't decided on a middle name yet, but was thinking something like Annabelle, also a classy name.

I picked Ben, firstly because it's quite similar to my original name, so wouldn't be too hard to get used to. Also, it was the name of my first proper boyfriend, and although he hates his name (he likes to be called by a girl's name, was weird going out with a man who's way more woman than I am), I really like it. He left a big impact on my life, and so his name can.

Middle name I'm not sure about as yet, I'm thinking Timothy because that's what my parents would have called me if I was a boy, also it's the name of one of my best friends in the world and I said to him once that I'd name one of my kids after him - now I doubt I'll have kids, so naming myself after him is the next best thing. My last name I'm keeping because although they don't know who I am yet, I'm very close to my family and I know they'll accept me.

my parents are still calling me "James", "he" and "him" (along with my brothers and sister, who follow their lead) and i must admit it's starting to get to me.  everybody else without exception calls me lana.  it's also the only thing i know of that my mum and dad are sensitive about people even mentioning.

ah well, ne mind - random thought.