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Title: Hello
Post by: tmarz on May 19, 2008, 01:17:28 AM
Post by: tmarz on May 19, 2008, 01:17:28 AM
I've actually been to this website before - several years ago. I am post-op (10 years already; I can't believe it). I had SRS with Dr. Meltzer, back when he was in Oregon. I can't find any of my old posts - they must have been purged.
Well, I'm here because I need advice. For most of the past several years I've dated, but I've been pretty private about who/what I am. I'm passable enough that I get by in life pretty well, but I've kind of limited myself when it comes to dating. I've had a few relationships - one that was pretty meaningful, but it ended a couple of years ago. I haven't actually dated since - and partly because of the experience. I didn't tell him - and I felt more than a little dishonest. Others who I've dated, either knew already or when they did find out kind of fixated on the issue - and it was too uncomfortable.
Okay so like I said I haven't really dated much over the past few years - and honestly I've kind of let myself go after taking myself out of the dating scene. I've gained more than a few pounds and while I wouldn't say I've been depressed - it's been a depressing couple of years. Especially in retrospect. I hope that makes sense. :)
So over the past few months I've decided that I'm going to find a way to meet more people - but in a way that either they already know, or I know they won't do something horrible to me if/when they do find out. I just started a new job and have access to a great gym - so I've started working out and am treating myself better. I have no idea how to go about meeting people - in a way I can be honest with them, and also in a way where they aren't looking for something disgusting. I went to Craig's List and what I saw having to do with TG people was disgusting. I went to a couple of other sites, but they all seem to be about the same. I'm just not like that.
I'm not in any way trying to solicit anything on this website - please understand, I'm looking for advice about a problem that really must be shared by so many people like me.
Anyway, I think it's a difficult situation - but one I know must have solutions. I'm just at a loss.
Oh - one more thing. This is kind of amusing I suppose. One of my latest hobbies is poker. I LOVE poker, and at least I think I'm actually pretty good at it. :) So one of the casinos around where I live in Wa has a great poker room - and one of the dealers is TS. It's been interesting - today I played there, and one of the other players who seems to know her (the TS dealer) mentioned that she (the dealer) had just returned from Thailand - and she had undergone surgery. I have no idea whether the player knew I was TS or not - I doubt it - but I thought it was really cool to see a kindred spirit in the poker room. :)
Anyway, it is now officially an hour and fifteen minutes past my bedtime. I hope this was a good introduction. It's really neat to look through the website and see how much it's changed since I last visited. :)
Well, I'm here because I need advice. For most of the past several years I've dated, but I've been pretty private about who/what I am. I'm passable enough that I get by in life pretty well, but I've kind of limited myself when it comes to dating. I've had a few relationships - one that was pretty meaningful, but it ended a couple of years ago. I haven't actually dated since - and partly because of the experience. I didn't tell him - and I felt more than a little dishonest. Others who I've dated, either knew already or when they did find out kind of fixated on the issue - and it was too uncomfortable.
Okay so like I said I haven't really dated much over the past few years - and honestly I've kind of let myself go after taking myself out of the dating scene. I've gained more than a few pounds and while I wouldn't say I've been depressed - it's been a depressing couple of years. Especially in retrospect. I hope that makes sense. :)
So over the past few months I've decided that I'm going to find a way to meet more people - but in a way that either they already know, or I know they won't do something horrible to me if/when they do find out. I just started a new job and have access to a great gym - so I've started working out and am treating myself better. I have no idea how to go about meeting people - in a way I can be honest with them, and also in a way where they aren't looking for something disgusting. I went to Craig's List and what I saw having to do with TG people was disgusting. I went to a couple of other sites, but they all seem to be about the same. I'm just not like that.
I'm not in any way trying to solicit anything on this website - please understand, I'm looking for advice about a problem that really must be shared by so many people like me.
Anyway, I think it's a difficult situation - but one I know must have solutions. I'm just at a loss.
Oh - one more thing. This is kind of amusing I suppose. One of my latest hobbies is poker. I LOVE poker, and at least I think I'm actually pretty good at it. :) So one of the casinos around where I live in Wa has a great poker room - and one of the dealers is TS. It's been interesting - today I played there, and one of the other players who seems to know her (the TS dealer) mentioned that she (the dealer) had just returned from Thailand - and she had undergone surgery. I have no idea whether the player knew I was TS or not - I doubt it - but I thought it was really cool to see a kindred spirit in the poker room. :)
Anyway, it is now officially an hour and fifteen minutes past my bedtime. I hope this was a good introduction. It's really neat to look through the website and see how much it's changed since I last visited. :)
Title: Re: Hello
Post by: RebeccaFog on May 19, 2008, 01:12:42 PM
Post by: RebeccaFog on May 19, 2008, 01:12:42 PM
Hi,
Welcome back. I'm sure You'll receive some ideas concerning finding someone. I'd help, but I don't know anything about dating. Although, I guess if you take up some hobbies or something where you have to socialize with others, you might be able to meet someone or get some ideas.
Rebis
Welcome back. I'm sure You'll receive some ideas concerning finding someone. I'd help, but I don't know anything about dating. Although, I guess if you take up some hobbies or something where you have to socialize with others, you might be able to meet someone or get some ideas.
Rebis