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Title: What do do with mistaken Attraction?
Post by: Aiden on August 01, 2008, 01:13:20 PM
Post by: Aiden on August 01, 2008, 01:13:20 PM
Ok, so last convention I went to, one of my friends was dressed in Klingon Drag (Drag Queen).
While I have no problem in his attraction with other guys, and his openness to flirt and be with different guys. I also know he wouldn't force himself on anyone unwilling to be in that kind of relationship.
But, there was a situation where as a Klingon Lady he passed fairly well. If you paid attention to detail you could tell, but unfortunately there were a few drunk straight guys who couldn't. They made moves on my friend, and I know one actually kissed him. One didn't remember the next day, the other, the one who kissed him asked me the next day, where she was. I wasn't sure what to say, just said 'I don't know'.
Is there some way I should of handled that better? Should I have told the guy?
Sorry if I use improper pronouns, admit not sure which ones to use for Crossdressers.
While I have no problem in his attraction with other guys, and his openness to flirt and be with different guys. I also know he wouldn't force himself on anyone unwilling to be in that kind of relationship.
But, there was a situation where as a Klingon Lady he passed fairly well. If you paid attention to detail you could tell, but unfortunately there were a few drunk straight guys who couldn't. They made moves on my friend, and I know one actually kissed him. One didn't remember the next day, the other, the one who kissed him asked me the next day, where she was. I wasn't sure what to say, just said 'I don't know'.
Is there some way I should of handled that better? Should I have told the guy?
Sorry if I use improper pronouns, admit not sure which ones to use for Crossdressers.
Title: Re: What do do with mistaken Attraction?
Post by: Elwood on August 01, 2008, 01:15:38 PM
Post by: Elwood on August 01, 2008, 01:15:38 PM
I wouldn't have told him. It's for him to find out. Then he won't kill the messenger. ;D
Title: Re: What do do with mistaken Attraction?
Post by: TamTam on August 01, 2008, 01:26:42 PM
Post by: TamTam on August 01, 2008, 01:26:42 PM
Eh, they kissed him, not the other way around. I would have just left it alone, like you did. :) It's not your place to tap someone on the shoulder after they kissed your friend, and then inform them they just kissed a guy. At the very least, the violent reaction that could come of that would be enough to deter me.
Title: Re: What do do with mistaken Attraction?
Post by: barbie on August 02, 2008, 07:42:24 AM
Post by: barbie on August 02, 2008, 07:42:24 AM
Quote from: Aiden on August 01, 2008, 01:13:20 PM
Is there some way I should of handled that better? Should I have told the guy?
Interesting question. In my opinion, it's his problem, not yours or hers.
I had a similar experience. A drunken guy tried to rape me at a parking lot of shopping mall during christmas holidays. I thought I might be killed once he recognizes my sex. After eventually realizing my biological sex, he just hurried to run away.
At my workplace, some visitors said that they first thought I am a woman. Even a few high ranking officials once commented to my colleagues here like "The young lady is really slim and beautiful" after looking at my back. My colleagues replied like "Don't you know Dr. ___? He was the lady." Even the director commented that he thought I were a woman when he first met me. I replied "I am sorry that I am not a woman!"
Barbie~~
Title: Re: What do do with mistaken Attraction?
Post by: Aiden on August 02, 2008, 08:34:56 AM
Post by: Aiden on August 02, 2008, 08:34:56 AM
LOL, well he wasn't attacked like that. It wasn't unwanted by my friend but he didn't do the initiation. Our drunk Klingon friend apparently was a soldier who just spent a year in Irac and hadn't been around women a lot lol. He was kind of flirting with every woman he could. Don't think he was with me though lol.
Title: Re: What do do with mistaken Attraction?
Post by: Maebh on August 02, 2008, 08:43:46 AM
Post by: Maebh on August 02, 2008, 08:43:46 AM
Quote from: Aiden on August 01, 2008, 01:13:20 PM
Is there some way I should of handled that better? Should I have told the guy?
You did the right thing. I think it should have been up to your friend to disclose or not and then to assume the consequences.
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Sorry if I use improper pronouns, admit not sure which ones to use for Crossdressers.
As a CD/TV myself, I prefer the use of the feminine when referring to me in the "femme mode"
LL&R
Maebh
Title: Re: What do do with mistaken Attraction?
Post by: Aiden on August 02, 2008, 08:57:26 AM
Post by: Aiden on August 02, 2008, 08:57:26 AM
Well can try. Just get a bit confused since sometimes referring to him/her as when they are in drag, and sometimes refereing to him as the person I know most lol. I've only seen him in drag twice. He mostly does it for fun, for show but doesn;t get to do it much because of his duties as a Nurse keeps him busy.