Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Yochanan on August 05, 2008, 06:56:23 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Finally.
Post by: Yochanan on August 05, 2008, 06:56:23 PM
Post by: Yochanan on August 05, 2008, 06:56:23 PM
After my therapy today, when we got home, I finally came out to my mom. Basically she said she didn't care and that she suspected anyway. And that was... it, really. She asked me a couple questions and told me it was a long, slow process. I made sure she understands that I know the risks/consequences involved in transitioning. There's not much else to say. I'm hoping now I'll be able to get her to call me John, but I haven't mentioned it yet. This was a lot less epic than I'd imagined.
Now she went and turned the TV to "Boys Don't Cry". *rolls eyes* She likes to tease me.
Now she went and turned the TV to "Boys Don't Cry". *rolls eyes* She likes to tease me.
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: sarahb on August 05, 2008, 07:04:35 PM
Post by: sarahb on August 05, 2008, 07:04:35 PM
Wow...well, good for you. It's great that you have such an understanding (and humorous ;)) mother. Good luck on your journey.
By the way...has she already done some research on TS issues? Her telling you it's going to be a long, slow process seems like she has not only suspected, but also done a bit of research on the matter.
By the way...has she already done some research on TS issues? Her telling you it's going to be a long, slow process seems like she has not only suspected, but also done a bit of research on the matter.
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: Nero on August 05, 2008, 07:04:40 PM
Post by: Nero on August 05, 2008, 07:04:40 PM
Congrats on coming out to her. Glad it went well.
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: sneakersjay on August 05, 2008, 07:05:24 PM
Post by: sneakersjay on August 05, 2008, 07:05:24 PM
Congrats, bro.
Coming out to my family was also a non-event. We'll see how that holds when T's effects become more obvious. ;D
Jay
Coming out to my family was also a non-event. We'll see how that holds when T's effects become more obvious. ;D
Jay
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: Yochanan on August 05, 2008, 07:06:08 PM
Post by: Yochanan on August 05, 2008, 07:06:08 PM
Thanks. =]
Sarah: My mom is post-transition herself. She is actually my biological dad.
Sarah: My mom is post-transition herself. She is actually my biological dad.
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: sarahb on August 05, 2008, 07:09:26 PM
Post by: sarahb on August 05, 2008, 07:09:26 PM
Quote from: Yochanan on August 05, 2008, 07:06:08 PM
Thanks. =]
Sarah: My mom is post-transition herself. She is actually my biological dad.
Oh wow...what a unique situation. That's really cool.
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: Janet_Girl on August 05, 2008, 09:05:05 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on August 05, 2008, 09:05:05 PM
Quote from: Yochanan on August 05, 2008, 07:06:08 PMNow that is very interesting, no wonder that she did not seem surprised. You are now a similar journey that she was on.
Thanks. =]
Sarah: My mom is post-transition herself. She is actually my biological dad.
BEST OF LUCK ;D ;)
Love,
Janet
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: PolarBear on August 06, 2008, 05:22:46 AM
Post by: PolarBear on August 06, 2008, 05:22:46 AM
Good to hear it went well. It sounds like she won't have too much problems calling you John when you are ready for it.
My coming out to my girlfriend yesterday was about as "epic" as your coming out to your mom was, lol. Sometimes we make a bigger deal out of it than our surroundings, hmm?
My coming out to my girlfriend yesterday was about as "epic" as your coming out to your mom was, lol. Sometimes we make a bigger deal out of it than our surroundings, hmm?
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: Yochanan on August 06, 2008, 08:59:12 AM
Post by: Yochanan on August 06, 2008, 08:59:12 AM
Last night she asked "So, do you want me to start calling you 'Johnny' now?" I told her it's been my name since eighth grade. Not sure yet if she'll actually use it.
She actually seems rather happy and/or excited. She keeps starting sentences with "If you get a sex change..." She just assured me that my (other) mom has an open mind and won't disown me, but I dunno about that.
She actually seems rather happy and/or excited. She keeps starting sentences with "If you get a sex change..." She just assured me that my (other) mom has an open mind and won't disown me, but I dunno about that.
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: Hal on August 08, 2008, 11:40:12 AM
Post by: Hal on August 08, 2008, 11:40:12 AM
Sarah: My mom is post-transition herself. She is actually my biological dad.
Wow, that is cool!
Wow, that is cool!
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: Yochanan on August 08, 2008, 03:00:07 PM
Post by: Yochanan on August 08, 2008, 03:00:07 PM
Having a transmother is cool sometimes (like it's cool because she gets me and has no problem with my transsexuality) but it's also... weird sometimes, and she can be annoying about it. It's weird because at times I can't see my "dad" at all, but others, I can see nothing BUT my "dad". Also, sometimes she thinks having changed her sex males her some kind of special (we have philosophical discussions a lot, and she posed to me the theory that she is a god--one of her "proofs" is "I changed my sex, and that's something gods do". I know she's not really serious, but it pisses me off, lol).
In general, though, she's a better mom than my bio-mother.
In general, though, she's a better mom than my bio-mother.
Title: Re: Finally.
Post by: Chaunte on August 09, 2008, 07:35:43 AM
Post by: Chaunte on August 09, 2008, 07:35:43 AM
Mothers are some of the most wonderful people on the planet. Mine was not surprised and calls me by my new name - my correct name.
Chaunte