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I am tired of worrying about what i eat thinking im fat ive put on some weight trying to lose it i guess thats saying two things there
im 5 5 currently around 105 i want to lose it all i think im so fat then ok the next im so sick of this really

Dude you're not fat o.O I'm only an inch taller than you and I'm 120.

Don't do anything too rash, I mean... do you have problem areas you think? I know all my fat settles in around my stomach, but I'm hitting the gym to get rid of it.

i dont know my hips r huge i think but my perception is really skewed so i dont know

Well, I don't know you in person so I wouldn't know but....

A lot of people see things that aren't really there when it comes to their own bodies. Everyone gets down about their bodies now and then. I doubt there's anything you could do about hips, so I wouldn't worry about it :)

Inflate your confidence and the hips disappear! No one will even notice

I agree with Trapthavok,

work on your self confidence. Maybe just exercise more. Find a couple of activities you're good at, or that you know you can be good at once you learn them.



Rebis

If sound as if you have the symptoms of anorexia nervosa, emoboi; the distorted "sight" that makes you always see yourself as fat. I'd recommend professional help at a place like The Renfrew Center (http://www.renfrewcenter.com/?wt.srch=1&gclid=CLOO4bek_JQCFQNaFQodO26fqQ) or a place closer, perhaps, to your own home.

They abound; as does the problem of eating disorders in girls. women and more often than ever now, in boys and men. Since eating disorders do lead to other conditions as well that are also life-threatening: diabetes, heart/vascular problems, gastro-intestinal difficulties, etc they are not to be taken lightly.

If you are truly tired of being that way, seek help. You don't have to deal with this alone, ever.

All the best,

Nichole

well i do have anorexia
been below 100lbs before and i want that back but i dont want to be sick

Boy, ask anyone who's been around here and they will tell you about my weight issues that I'm finally starting to overcome.

In Oct. 2007, I was at 137 pound and 5'3".  Not fat, but def. not skinny.  I went on Weight Watchers and got down to about 125.  Then, Weight Watchers quit working. Once you get down to the last 10 pounds or so it gets really hard to lose weight.  So, I went on this crash diet to 1000  calories or less a day, which is NOT good for you.  I got down to about 117 with that, then my mom finally brought me to reality.  She pointed out how unhappy, lifeless, and grumpy I was and finally, I started eating a little bit more and killing myself with exercise. Not good results.

I learned to work out, lift weights and run, and keep my protein and fiber intake high.  Through this diet, I had a lot of energy, was getting muscle (which burns fat) and looked good. This also brought up my confidence.  Now, I don't get incredibly depressed after I eat something with high calories.  I figure "Hey, life is short and I can always work this off easily." 

Now, my doctor told me that at 5'4", 105 isn't a healthy weight for me (That's what I originally wanted to get to).  He said at the least be around 112.  I thought that was way too big, but then I realized that muscle weighs more than fat.  I'm currently at 120 and think I look great, but more importantly, I feel great.  I'm getting very toned and I don't starve myself.  Plus, when you starve yourself, your body eats more muscle mass than fat. 

Bottom line, you aren't fat.  And if you think you are (trust me, I hated when people told me I wasn't when I felt I was), don't focus on losing weight.  Focus on gaining muscle.  It will really shape you up.  Just eat lots of protein and fiber.  Gaining muscle will make you feel great and give you a more masculine appearance.  :)

As someone who struggles with weight gain and who has dropped to 94lbs whilst being 5'6" at the time, I would suggest that you give the idea of being that thin up.

I dropped to 94lbs because I got really depressed and felt I didn't deserve food. It wasn't for looks, but when I looked in the mirror I could see nothing wrong with it, but to everyone else I looked sick. And I was sick a lot as well... and I couldn't notice myself looking thin or sickly, but even other students could tell I was getting super thin.

I took a picture then and when I broke out of the depression and started to gain weight again and am currently sitting at 110-114lbs. I look back on that picture and wonder how I could have thought nothing was wrong.

Its a perception thing, dude.

Guys eat. They don't worry about being model thin.

thats so steriotypical not everyone is like that  >:(

I'm just saying it's not normal.

I also see it this way.

If you are super skinny, that shows every feminine curve, wide hip bones etc.

True. There's nothing more feminine than a tiny waist.

I have horribly wide hips.  Even if I had no fat on em, they are just structured really widely.  I noticed that the more I lost weight, the more they showed.

yep, in some way, while my legs and arms kinda look small compared to torso, I find a slight bit of belly have helps hide the breasts lol.  Though am hoping to still loose some.  I'm 5"4' heavy boned and actually fairly muscular under the bit of belly and large chest lol.  I find I can lift a lot of things most women can't.  Though still hope to get down to 140 or 150 at least.

And don't worry.  Your fine, actually maybe bit to thin :P  Don't starve yourself.  Besides, I think it's healthy to have at least a little layer of padding.  Fat is not just blubber it's a storage of energy and food for the body.

Fat is not just blubber it's a storage of energy and food for the body.

Yeah.  You don't live on the west coast do you?  Fat is fat and its bad for you.  Too thin is also very bad for you.  One should eat a lot and work out even more.

Quote from: Nero on August 07, 2008, 01:23:01 PM
Guys eat. They don't worry about being model thin.

Actually some guys do. I know a lot of gay guys who think this way, and I know some straight guys probably see it too. Anorexia isn't as popular with the guys as it is with the girls, but there ARE guys who are affected.

No, I live in PA, and while I know excess fat is not good for you I also know that you can't be completely fatless and healthy.   Even big hulking muscle builders have some little bit in there greasing the weels and keeping the body running you might say. 

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I'm fat too. I'm 5'6" and weigh 159 pounds. It sucks! I exercise daily, and I don't eat junk food very often, and I don't eat too much either. But I can't get any thinner. I don't look really fat, but I wear loose shirts and they hang off my boobs making me look even fatter. But I guess my major problem is that I have 'the curve' on my stomach. I repeat: it sucks! I don't know what the deal is.

LOL I'm 5"4' at 200 (exactly last checked. lost 7 pounds in last month)

But I'm fairly large framed and I take into account that some weight is also in my chest.  I consider 140-150 comfortable weight even if not perfect.  Though I admit...  Interesting though that it was after puberty that started gaining weight

My boobs are big, (somewhere between a B and a C, probably leaning towards C) so they probably account for a few pounds. I'm pretty tall for my age, and I have pretty wide shoulders. I got big thighs, though. Again, the weight never goes away. I wish I could get rid of that curve, but my bones actually come out there, so if you tried to slide your hand straight down the side of my stomach, you wouldn't get past there cause the bone will not yield.

Quote from: The_Unforgiven on August 08, 2008, 01:23:44 AM
My boobs are big, (somewhere between a B and a C, probably leaning towards C) so they probably account for a few pounds. I'm pretty tall for my age, and I have pretty wide shoulders. I got big thighs, though. Again, the weight never goes away. I wish I could get rid of that curve, but my bones actually come out there, so if you tried to slide your hand straight down the side of my stomach, you wouldn't get past there cause the bone will not yield.

Same, only to me between B and C is small :P

I know a lot of gay guys who think this way

Yeah, that's true.  They wear real, real tight pants sometimes too.  But a that, its only the twinks, not the bears.  And I've never heard a straight guy order a salad at at steak bar saying, "I'm watching my weight, I'm a bit over."

They say, "Damn, I'll need an extra half an hour in the gym" and then they will do it.

I'm 5'5, and have a stocky/athletic build. Everyone things I'm smaller than I am. 105 is definitely not fat.

Quote from: tekla on August 08, 2008, 01:39:43 AM
I know a lot of gay guys who think this way

Yeah, that's true.  They wear real, real tight pants sometimes too.  But a that, its only the twinks, not the bears.  And I've never heard a straight guy order a salad at at steak bar saying, "I'm watching my weight, I'm a bit over."

They say, "Damn, I'll need an extra half an hour in the gym" and then they will do it.

Actually my last boss was like that. He was always talking about hitting the gym and watching his weight, and he was vegetarian. Straight guy, I promise you.

I was def. like that for a while....well I still am but yes, I'm gay. However, I know a lot of straight guys who were concerned about their weight, but not to a point of wanting to be stick thin.

blargh... ive been gaining weight too.  i blame the american culture.  fattening me up... gawsh.... but for shiz, i do need to eat healthier and get more excersize.