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What physical traits used to make you self conscious or uncomfortable do you have that assets now?

For me it was my build. I'm only 5'5 but I'm made well for a girl. I used to feel really out of place when all I wanted to do was fit in because most the other girls had way smaller frames than me. I have huge shapeless tree stumps for legs and I could never wear all the cute junior fashions the other girls wore.
I was too big for the shirts and the jeans never fit right cause I didn't have a good waist hip ratio going. I used to loosen the tape measurement around my hips and lie to myself that the waist/hip difference was inches more than it was.
I also hated the fact that when I was in perfect shape (I did a lot of cardio and weight training as a kid), I weighed 150-155 at 5'5 and would start to get lectures from my PCP about 'my weight problem' until I removed my shirt and showed him I wasn't fat.

So, added to the fact most girls shunned me, I also felt like a big hulking brute next to them. And for some reason, while guys liked my face and tits, it always seemed the ones I liked wanted the little delicate girls, not a girl as big as they were.


But now I don't mind these things anymore. I like my body more now that I've accepted being trans.

Anyone else?

Quite simply ....Breasts

For as long as I can remember I have lived my life in
loose shirts or crossed my arms.

Still do...some of the time...

Stupid really, makes me feel a real tit at times!... ;D

Chrissty

Hmmm...let's see. I guess I'd say I have the opposite as you. I always felt small and weak compared to the other guys. I always felt like I couldn't gain the big muscles and ripped abs that others had, even though I worked out hard for a time. Also, I don't know if it's the area I lived in, but I always felt short...petite in a way (I actually thought that exact thing once). Everyone around me grew into giants and I, although I'm still tall for a girl, am only 5' 8", which is relatively short for a guy (at least in my area).

I never really wanted to get ripped or anything, but the fact that I couldn't even when I was trying to hide behind a "male" facade made me even more self conscious. Now though, I'm glad I never was able to build big muscles and a ripped body. It always turned into more of a feminine toned body, which I'm happy about now. Funny how things work out.

How dark my leg/armpit hair is in relation to my light brown head-hair and pale skin. If only my arm hair were a little darker. It's funny, I'm wishing for more/darker now, and I actually shaved my arms once. That felt sooo weird. Oh, and my happy trail. Love that. XD

I hated being hairy but now it is to my advantage. Also, my feet are average sized for a female, but compared to the rest of me, they're rather big, which I like. I've always loped (it's inherited--my mom, brother, and older sister who I'm meeting for the first time in two weeks all have the same walk--I'm not sure if my mom's parents have/had it, though), and my other mom would yell at me for "imitating" my brother's stride. I didn't have to change my walk much when I started presenting male, so that's good.

My smallish frame. I was always taller than most everyone I knew, but my frame (arms, chest, etc.) is small for a "male." I barely ate anything through my mid-twenties, so the combination left me looking frighteningly thin when I was younger.

~Kate~

Quote from: Kate on August 07, 2008, 08:22:44 PM
My smallish frame. I was always taller than most everyone I knew, but my frame (arms, chest, etc.) is small for a "male." I barely ate anything through my mid-twenties, so the combination left me looking frighteningly thin when I was younger.

~Kate~

Just like Anne. Tall, thin and bookish. And dreamy.  :)

Hum ???, for me there are a number of things I used to curse :icon_anger: but now count as blessings :angel:. First would have to be being small; I have always been extremely small, didn't even break 100 pounds until I was 19 and my weight still hovers around the 120 - 125 area. I used to curse my small hands and feet; never having made it out of the boys shoe department, but I wear a woman's 7 1/2 so no complaints now! Although I have always cursed my small wrists regardless; I loss more bracelets because they simply fall off my wrist...before I couldn't find a watch to save my life ???...oh wait  :eusa_doh:...never mind...still can't :D ...even woman's watches tend to be too large...oh well...

Now, I am 5'8" which isn't all that tall for a male, but I find myself a bit on the tall side for a woman. Not complaining really because it could be worse!

I used to curse being known as the 'pretty' boy in the family, but heck...I look just like my oldest sister and she was a fashion model...so I guess I can't complain :D

Don't think ever cursed my malish physical traits.  Just annoyed at the difficulty had in finding shoes the correct size that actually liked lol... (before went to men's department)

Mostly just cursed my female traits ended up with,

My bee-stung lips. Now women pay to get them.

And I suppose, the fact that I have always looked younger than I am. That stinks when you're 21 and look 15, but now? I love it.  ;)

Quote from: Stealthgrrl on August 07, 2008, 10:38:45 PM
My bee-stung lips. Now women pay to get them.

And I suppose, the fact that I have always looked younger than I am. That stinks when you're 21 and look 15, but now? I love it.  ;)

Yep. That's why everyone loves Angelina Jolie. Bee stung lips on a girl. WOW

I was always the smallest guy in the group even most girls were larger than me growing up. When everyone else around me started growing body hair at the start of puberty I had none at all. It really didn't start to grow at all till my twenties and i didn't get very much just forearms and legs. When i was 16 I hit 5.5 and 115Lbs and stopped growing and well now in my late 30s I am still 5.5 and 115 and totally love it. I didn't really hate these traits as much as just wanted to fit in but that never really happened. I blamed my size and stuff for this but now realize it was my GID and the fact that I didn't like myself or know who I wanted to be that kept me distant from others more than anything else. Now I just hate the fact that I didn't deal with my feelings when i was much younger.

K

My build and face terrified me. I was taking hormones early in life however I was scared cause I knew I wasn't strong enough to defend myself against a serious threat against me. I knew enough about self defense to deal with maybe three people realistically, anymore and I was going to have problems. My main issue were the students at my school and so the only thing I could was wear very baggy clothes, slouch, and wear wife beaters and other kinds of shirts.

However my face and my voice were two parts that made me nervous, my voice didn't break and my face was always feminine and that never changed. All I could really do was keep my hair fairly short and not really let people see my face.

I always had a pretty non-delicate build for a female; I wasn't overweight until I hit puberty, but still the clothes in the 'little girls' section didn't fit me--too tight in the shoulders, plus I preferred baggy clothes.  And the girls' shoes didn't fit me terribly well, either--way too narrow, especially as I got older.  Suited me just fine, 'cuz I had an excuse for shopping in the boys' department.  Throughout elementary/middle school, I just looked like I was on a slightly different size plane from the girls.  Y'know how young girls tend to look pretty thin and delicate?  Put them next to an average boy the same age and, even if the girl is taller than the boy, the girl generally just looks thinner especially throughout the shoulders, legs, and arms.  Yeah, I was more on the size plane of the boys.  Can't really say I hated it, though; I liked it, just wasn't a fan of people giving me a hard time because of it. 

Of course, by the end of middle school everybody seemed to have grown taller than me (I'm still only 5'4" :P) and the boys finally hit puberty, so my stocky little build couldn't even compare to theirs any more.  Also didn't help that around puberty I gained a good 20 lbs, all to 'tha hips.  I still don't qualify as delicate or lithe--most people I've met consider 135-140lbs huge for someone of my height and say I should weigh 110-115 ideally (then again, when they guess my weight they say I'm 120, go figure).  But I consider the not-delicate thing good so long as my cardiovascular system is healthy, which it seems to be--consistently low-end-of-normal blood pressure, low cholesterol & triglycerides.  And I can lift weights on-par with some dudes, granted they look to be newcomers to the gym while I've been at it for 3-4 years  :-\.

Quote from: Eryk on August 08, 2008, 01:26:05 PM
I always had a pretty non-delicate build for a female; I wasn't overweight until I hit puberty, but still the clothes in the 'little girls' section didn't fit me--too tight in the shoulders, plus I preferred baggy clothes.  And the girls' shoes didn't fit me terribly well, either--way too narrow, especially as I got older.  Suited me just fine, 'cuz I had an excuse for shopping in the boys' department.  Throughout elementary/middle school, I just looked like I was on a slightly different size plane from the girls.  Y'know how young girls tend to look pretty thin and delicate?  Put them next to an average boy the same age and, even if the girl is taller than the boy, the girl generally just looks thinner especially throughout the shoulders, legs, and arms.  Yeah, I was more on the size plane of the boys.  Can't really say I hated it, though; I liked it, just wasn't a fan of people giving me a hard time because of it. 

Of course, by the end of middle school everybody seemed to have grown taller than me (I'm still only 5'4" :P) and the boys finally hit puberty, so my stocky little build couldn't even compare to theirs any more.  Also didn't help that around puberty I gained a good 20 lbs, all to 'tha hips.  I still don't qualify as delicate or lithe--most people I've met consider 135-140lbs huge for someone of my height and say I should weigh 110-115 ideally (then again, when they guess my weight they say I'm 120, go figure).  But I consider the not-delicate thing good so long as my cardiovascular system is healthy, which it seems to be--consistently low-end-of-normal blood pressure, low cholesterol & triglycerides.  And I can lift weights on-par with some dudes, granted they look to be newcomers to the gym while I've been at it for 3-4 years  :-\.

Same here body build wise :)  Except I kinda bloomed to much in hips and chest, and don't realy look male enough lol

I was always stockier than most girls and in earlier years guys as well.  Ironically I was bullied by the smaller boys because was different and because at the time I was trying best not to hurt anyone lol.  (expecially since didn't want be in trouble at school)

Being 5'9 when my brothers are 6'2 and 6'3.  I used to wear lifts to keep up.  ;D At least around my brothers now I can feel like a shorty.

Being asian hairless on the body, arms, and legs.  I always wore long pants because everyone was always teasing me about "shaving" my arms and legs.  It's strange, I grew up wishing I was white and not half asian. 

I guess maybe my hands and wrists. They were always relatively slender as a kid. Compared to my brothers', whose were more like pieces of earth moving equipment. I'm rather thankful now that my wrists are 'delicate' and my fingers are... well they've been called 'pianist's fingers'. :)

Hi c4lypso, welcome to Susan's you are a very attractive looking girl in your avatar.

Well this topic sure  has maid it's circuit a few times. Well I am 5'3" tall and I was 110 to 115 lbs until recently my weight came up to 125 to 130lbs.  and wear size 8 clothes and size 8 shoes.

Yep, you could say that I wasn't to enthused about my size growing up. There were lots of times I would wish I was bigger so I could turn the tables on my antagonists, bullies. I was always the runt of the class during my public school years.

I didn't get along with the other kids and I did my best to put a distance between them and me. I had a couple of the girls that I liked hanging out with after school and one actually became my best buddy, she was a reject too.  I will only add that my growing up years weren't the happiest of times and outside of my buddy Helen, other then that I was pretty well a loner.  I had only very few friends up til just the past twenty years.

I actually love being with people and working with people now.

Cindy

my sideburns.  lol i actually have them like halfay down my face and would get pissed and shave them offwit my dads electric razor all of the time.  now im only using his razor to straighten them and shave the rest of my face!  lol

Definitely my smallness / physical weakness.  I'm glad I didn't try to bulk up.

Lia

Having slightly dark hair above my lip that resembles a 3o'clock mustache.

I have been reading and reading this thread and I never really thought that I had any traits as a kid that I hated but love now.  But my BBF Peg said the other day that I am cute when I smile and wrinkle my nose.  I remember my cousin Myra, God rest her soul, use to tease me to no end about looking like a rabbit when I did it.  I quit doing it for years and now that I am transitioning it is back. ;D
** she smiles and wrinkles her nose and then laughs at herself **

Mistress Janet

Quote from: Janet Lynn on August 11, 2008, 10:37:22 PM
I have been reading and reading this thread and I never really thought that I had any traits as a kid that I hated but love now.  But my BBF Peg said the other day that I am cute when I smile and wrinkle my nose.  I remember my cousin Myra, God rest her soul, use to tease me to no end about looking like a rabbit when I did it.  I quit doing it for years and now that I am transitioning it is back. ;D
** she smiles and wrinkles her nose and then laughs at herself **

Mistress Janet

That is definitely a cute, girly trait.  :)

My nice round feminine ass used to embarrass me in childhood, but once I came out I felt so grateful for it! I have always passed as a woman from behind. Eventually my face and everything got caught up. My ass is my second best feature, after my eyes.

Hmmm....

You know, this is a really odd question for me to answer..... cause nothing stands out?

You know... I just don't see anything pop up.

You'd think that I could think of a sack full of reasons but nothing comes to mind.

I know that there has to be at least one big thing but I just can't remember.

;)

Cindi

Quote from: Cindi Jones on August 12, 2008, 11:06:51 PM
Hmmm....

You know, this is a really odd question for me to answer..... cause nothing stands out?

You know... I just don't see anything pop up.

You'd think that I could think of a sack full of reasons but nothing comes to mind.

I know that there has to be at least one big thing but I just can't remember.

;)

Cindi

Cindy, I'm rolling.  :laugh:

;)

I think that for me, a better thread would be "Physical Traits You Had As a Child That You Wish You Still Had." 

I can think of a bunch. ;D

I hated my height -- at 5'6.5 it was difficult to establish a powerful social position among boys
I had a weird pinched waist -- it wasn't too bad, but I thought I wanted that thick "butterfly traps" look the buff guys had.
I didn't like having such a baby face -- the boys would always tease me.

They're all things I'm glad I have now, though :)

hmmm, off the top of my head, my height. 5'5" isn't too much fun, especially in high school. i have small feet, having tiny shoes was something i never liked, i used to buy a few sizes bigger to hide the true size, lol. these things are things i'm satisfied with, for the most part, now :) meghan

Quote from: SarahR on August 07, 2008, 06:00:26 PM
Hmmm...let's see. I guess I'd say I have the opposite as you. I always felt small and weak compared to the other guys. I always felt like I couldn't gain the big muscles and ripped abs that others had, even though I worked out hard for a time.

I was like you in lacking muscle power, despite my tall height. People used to say that I looked like a volleyball player, but I did not have such power or skill.

Second, my skinny legs. I seldom wore short pants, even in the summer, to hide them, as friends and adults made fun of my legs. Now I am rather exhibitionist in exposing my legs even in the winter.

Third, my thin waist and narrow shoulder. My classmates used to hold my waist in the back to compare it with women's. I am now rather paranoidal in keeping my waist slim. My shoulders now look wider because it is contrasting to my narrow waist.

One interesting point was that I once had rather protruded tits in my puberty, but they became rather flat in 2 years. Seeing my tits, my classmates and some adults commented like "Indeed, you are a woman.". Now I am suspicious of balance in my sex hormones, although I do not take hormone. But I do not plan to check it in doctor's office. Now I love my feminine physical features.

Barbie~~

My lips. These lips caused me years of hell in school, but now it's ok to have them full and sensual ;)