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Title: New here with first question
Post by: Lee on August 12, 2008, 10:30:02 AM
Hi,

New here, have been reading the board past couple days and am impressed by everyone's insight, wisdom, and knowledge.

I was diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder as a teen in the early 1990's, but without any support at all.

Looking to find a GID therapist, most importantly to deal with personal shame/hatred issues due to my gender identity (FTM).

How do I find a good therapist, and one that has experience in gender issues?
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Nero on August 12, 2008, 10:33:13 AM
Welcome Lee! I'm Nero.
<offers hand>

If you give me your state, I can try to look up therapists in your area for you.
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: trapthavok on August 12, 2008, 02:35:58 PM
Hey bro!

I'm guessing you were diagnosed but were either unable to do anything about it, or did not do anything else about it by now (like RLE for example). Correct me if I'm wrong.

It must suck to have known all along and not had a shoulder to lean on. We'll be here for you whenever you need, just say the word :) We're all here to help each other out. Hope to see you around the forums more.

Nate
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Lee on August 12, 2008, 03:55:11 PM
Thank you Nero and Nate for your responses.

I live in northern CA.

As for my diagnosis as a teen, there was no help/treatment/whatever offered by the diagnosing psychiatrist. It was just another diagnostic label that specific doctor listed as something I had wrong with me.

Basically the explanation by him was that I needed to start learning to be a "girl", instead of the abnormal thing he thought I was. It didn't matter that I didn't feel or see myself as female.

He was an ->-bleeped-<-
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Nero on August 12, 2008, 04:17:08 PM
Here's a link for a list of US Gender Therapists. Scroll down for CA.

http://www.lauras-playground.com/gender_therapists.htm (http://www.lauras-playground.com/gender_therapists.htm)
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: icontact on August 12, 2008, 04:34:20 PM
I looked through the list yesterday and for the most part, unless you live in SanFran or LA, there aren't any gender therapists on there in your area. There are a few scattered ones in places like Berkeley or San Mateo, but most of the ones on the list are in SF/LA.

:-/

If anybody knows any gender therapists in San Jose/Santa Clara, please let me know.

Gluck to you though, Lee.
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: tekla on August 12, 2008, 04:36:25 PM
Try here.

http://www.tg2tg.org/resources/us/california.htm (http://www.tg2tg.org/resources/us/california.htm)

Though I hear nothing but good things about Anne Vitale, but she is in Marin.
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Mister on August 12, 2008, 06:31:24 PM
The FTM's from San Jose that I know commute up to SF for therapy.
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: tekla on August 12, 2008, 06:34:25 PM
Easy ride up on CalTrain, pretty too.
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Arch on August 12, 2008, 08:21:22 PM
Quote from: Lee on August 12, 2008, 03:55:11 PM
Basically the explanation by him was that I needed to start learning to be a "girl", instead of the abnormal thing he thought I was. It didn't matter that I didn't feel or see myself as female.

He was an ->-bleeped-<-
Pardon me while I have a small fit.

$^*_**^T^%Y){}|+?!!!

Jeez, what a jerk.

P.S. Welcome to the forum.

Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: tinkerbell on August 12, 2008, 08:34:14 PM
And just as a reminder, we also have our own resources here at Susan's!

https://www.susans.org/Medical/Therapists_and_Counselors/USA/ (https://www.susans.org/Medical/Therapists_and_Counselors/USA/)

https://www.susans.org/Medical/Psychiatry/USA/ (https://www.susans.org/Medical/Psychiatry/USA/)

tink :icon_chick:
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Mister on August 12, 2008, 10:39:02 PM
Quote from: tekla on August 12, 2008, 06:34:25 PM
Easy ride up on CalTrain, pretty too.

CalTrain Baby Bullet, sitting up top is how I roll.
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: tekla on August 12, 2008, 10:54:16 PM
sitting up top is how I roll.

If you spring for a ticket they let you ride inside.
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: cindianna_jones on August 12, 2008, 11:23:10 PM
Quote from: Lee on August 12, 2008, 03:55:11 PM

Basically the explanation by him was that I needed to start learning to be a "girl", instead of the abnormal thing he thought I was. It didn't matter that I didn't feel or see myself as female.

He was an ->-bleeped-<-


What you need to do is get a handle on this and deal with it.  Your assessment of your old shrink is understated.  He was also a thief, a killer of hope, and must have taken great pleasure in making you so unhappy.

Welcome to the forum hon.  There are many of us that live here in Northern CA.

Cindi
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Mister on August 13, 2008, 12:57:38 AM
Quote from: tekla on August 12, 2008, 10:54:16 PM
sitting up top is how I roll.

If you spring for a ticket they let you ride inside.

That's what I meant, ma'am.  The top row of seats. 
Title: Re: New here with first question
Post by: Jay on August 13, 2008, 08:18:50 AM
Welcome to Susans Lee! ;D