Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: findingreason on August 16, 2008, 01:54:41 AM Return to Full Version
Title: So far, so good
Post by: findingreason on August 16, 2008, 01:54:41 AM
Post by: findingreason on August 16, 2008, 01:54:41 AM
So, I feel like I need to share my progress, though it is just the tip of the iceberg. I have come out to about half a dozen SOs, and so far I haven't been disowned, or crushed yet. My mother found out by complete accident. Basically, she was the first anticipated problem in my path, and I was right.
I wanted to pass on some of what I hope is helpful to others just coming out. I learned observation is the key to coming out. I am carefully getting open conversations with SOs I am considering coming out to. I almost always enter discrimination, and we talk a little bit, then carefully find out what they think of gay people, as a starter, to find out how sensitive they are. And, I realized this to, follow your instincts, they will take you in the right direction.
I wanted to pass on some of what I hope is helpful to others just coming out. I learned observation is the key to coming out. I am carefully getting open conversations with SOs I am considering coming out to. I almost always enter discrimination, and we talk a little bit, then carefully find out what they think of gay people, as a starter, to find out how sensitive they are. And, I realized this to, follow your instincts, they will take you in the right direction.
Title: Re: So far, so good
Post by: Aiden on August 16, 2008, 02:17:01 AM
Post by: Aiden on August 16, 2008, 02:17:01 AM
Yeh, though have found some people seem more accpeting of transgender than gay.. which I think is weird, but something keep in mind
Title: Re: So far, so good
Post by: deviousxen on August 16, 2008, 03:04:04 AM
Post by: deviousxen on August 16, 2008, 03:04:04 AM
Thats good. Good luck on the rest of this quest....
Title: Re: So far, so good
Post by: NicholeW. on August 16, 2008, 08:37:21 AM
Post by: NicholeW. on August 16, 2008, 08:37:21 AM
Quote from: Aiden on August 16, 2008, 02:17:01 AM
Yeh, though have found some people seem more accpeting of transgender than gay.. which I think is weird, but something keep in mind
Perhaps, as long as you aren't in bed with them if they are guys. :) Then they will often enough think you've made them gay if you were MTF.
Instinct/Intutition isn't a bad way of going at all. Generally all they are is observation that is often unconsciously done. The brain takes in a heck of a lot more than we are aware of. And our instinct is generally just processed knowledge that's been stored beneath our conscious thinking.
Nichole
Title: Re: So far, so good
Post by: sneakersjay on August 20, 2008, 02:18:45 AM
Post by: sneakersjay on August 20, 2008, 02:18:45 AM
I just came out to my best friend IRL and she's also very supportive and understanding and is open to learning more. So far it's been a non-issue. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Jay
Jay