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I've been feeling like life is boring, and unexciting. I've found the things that used to entertain me no longer appeal to me. I find myself constantly wondering about different circumstances and situations that I feel I have no control over.  Don't misunderstand me, I'm happy, quite happy to have a body that I can call mine at last but it'd seem as if I didn't have any goals as before.  Is life this mundane after GRS or does it normalise with time?

GRS has nothing to do with it. Life is what you make it.

After fighting tooth and nail for most of my life to escape my inappropriate gender, I felt like I had been shot out of a cannon and just drifted in some ways. Since life was brand new it was both interesting and exciting. Within a couple of years it had just settled into normalcy and it was just a matter of getting on with it. Dull? in some ways, but always appreciated!

I tried to go back to my nomal life. It sort of worked, I have been doing different things and I feel more comfortable with who I am. I was never a goal oriented person and never like competition so I went on with life doing the best I can. Right now, I go to work during the school season and off during the Summer months. I just recently put my application in for Human Rights Commissioner for my city. I hope I get it. I have basically gone away from the trans people, only on the internet do I do anything with the trans world. I have other issues with Human rights in this city. Blanche, you should be really happy that 'nomal' exists and that you are just another female out doing your day to day job. Unless, you want the stardom of the famous.

I am not planning on GRS until next year. I'm currently immersed in the RLE, and after a period of boredom, followed by looking for a job, I decided that I'd like to just go with my heart. My boredom has been replaced with more activity than I know what to do with, all from volunteer opportunities!

I work as a receptionist, answering the phone and greeting visitors. I'm always meeting new people, and I always enjoy the social opportunities. I also work as a saleswoman, which puts me in direct contact with the general public. Again, I enjoy the diversity of people as well as the challenge of the role. There are many volunteer opportunities available that offer challenges and rewards. Many communities offer various cultural events that are either free or for a small donation if money is an issue, as it is with me! What you get out of your life is entirely dependent upon the effort that you make to enjoy it. Whatever I'm doing now will continue after GRS. I may decide to stop one activity and then begin something else. There are certain programs that I'm trying to become part of. There are always things to do! It's one of the benefits of living in a large city.

Next month, I'll apply for a part time job, only one or two days per week, since I need one or two days for appointments, and several days for my volunteer positions. My incentive to volunteer originated with my being unemployed and desiring to have as substantial a RLE as possible. I needed to fill my time with as much diversity and as many different people, experiences, and opportunities  as possible, and what developed was better than I had imagined!!! I put "Volunteer opportunities', and my city, into Google, and started my search. There are also some free job search engines that you can use to look for any kind of job that you'd like, anywhere in the country, Indeed.com is one. There are numerous others.

GID colors every aspects of my life. By cross living during the RLE, I'm finding a degree of energy and excitement that I haven't really known before. It's allowing me to truly enjoy my new activities, and I'm genuinely enjoying the interaction with so many new people! Even now, as pre-op, I'm experiencing life in the correct gender role, and it's giving me an entirely new perspective! Sometimes change is needed in more than one area of life to really appreciate yourself.

I may have no experience reguarding transitioning and still at the begining, but I tend to believe life is only dull if you let it be dull.  There's planty of interesting things out there to do :)

I hope that you mean that you want to LIVE an ordinary life.  Isn't that what some of us aspire to?  To live a life as what we really are, women or men (in the case of FTM's), and free from everything "trans"?

I suppose some people will say that I live a life that is "too normal" (if you will).  I mean.....I work, shop, travel, do the usual things people do;  I have a boyfriend, who incidentally, is FTM, but we are just a woman and a man living a life that finally makes sense without all this "trans" baggage, you know?  IOW the only thing "trans" about our lives is our participation on these forums, nothing more.

Always remember that realizing dreams can in reality prove to be "mundane" experiences, depending on your perception, of course!  :)


tink :icon_chick:

well perhaps it's because we get so focused on grs, it becomes the holy grail.  After GRS, we're left with gee what now.  I sometimes have been very goal orentated, though at the moment I'm enjoying life quite nicely.  Ordinary is not that bad either after a few  years of riding the TS rollercoaster.

Beni

Sounds like you need to get out and explore yourself. I think from your remarks you are doing just fine. Sounds like you are ready for your new world. Get out and be yourself. Do all of the wonderful things you have always deamed of doing. It is a very exciting world!!!!

Deb

"gewöhnlich" ist, was ich immer wollte!  was kann lieber als "gewöhnlich" sein? ;)

Quote from: Blanche on August 28, 2008, 09:04:32 AM
I've been feeling like life is boring, and unexciting. I've found the things that used to entertain me no longer appeal to me. I find myself constantly wondering about different circumstances and situations that I feel I have no control over.  Don't misunderstand me, I'm happy, quite happy to have a body that I can call mine at last but it'd seem as if I didn't have any goals as before.  Is life this mundane after GRS or does it normalise with time?

Well, a lot of my "goals" and obsessions I believe were inspired by the frustration of my GID. Much of my creativity was as well. Now that the GID is pretty much gone, I've lost many of my former interests and diversions.

What I've gained though is an enhanced appreciation for the little things in life. I'm much more present now, delighting in every little moment that makes up my day. I don't feel a need to distract myself anymore, or to get lost in obsessive interests and pondering issues and analyzing everything to death. I was struggling to exist before, whereas now I just love BEing. Give me a beautiful summer day, a comfy park bench, and maybe a pleasant conversation with some random stranger... and life is good ;)

~ Katie Marie ~

My life before I started transition was filled with fun and laughter and no regrets.  Physical transition and surgeries will be done by the end of the year, and then I can resume normal life while T continues to morph my body.  But what I'm looking forward to is just getting back on with life.

Other than being comfortable as ME in my own skin, I don't think life will be all that much different.  On to the rest of my life and the cool things it holds!!  Namely traveling!

Jay

doesn't get 'too" ordinary, but it becomes what I would say "the way I would have thought".

I get up, get ready for work, go to work, I come home or catch up with friends & I love life.

Hi Blanch and all. well Blanch I must say for one you are one gorgeous looking lady. That at least is a #1 one as a self image booster. Well I beleive I did pretty good in the looks department myself for my age, well better then I had even expected anyway. But then I been at this transitioning game for going on to 9 years now, five years since SRS. Been in a relationship with Wing Walker for the past six years. Got married in Ontario four years ago. Well to tell the truth I never stopped long enough, at any time to worry much about the bad stuff, or the many negative things that could befall me. Getting bored or lonely with life was just small peanuts. Two years ago I retired from twenty years working as a social worker then Wing Walker and I decided to do a little traveling around the eastern states. When we got back was when I had a bit of the blues set in, to much idle time on my hands.

This was one of the things that prompted us to move to Vancouver BC, we have been living here for just over one year now. I am back doing part time in social work at a local women's shelter and also doing part time services for a local TS suport group. Outside the group and this board the word TS does not exist. Wing Walker and I love to hike in any of the local parks. I also the organizer for two local meetup groups. I can't see myself get lonely or bored with life unless I was to get to ill to continue my present activities. I do pray that will not be the case for a good many years to come, or get abducted by aliens and live forever, which ever the case may be. ;D

Cindy

I want to be complete.  I want to live a normal female life without the burden of looking down and realising I have something extra natal females don't have.  I don't want to explain to anybody, the law, doctors, why I don't have a vagina. I don't want to be stopped, searched at some foreign airport & get questioned endlessly because my anatomical sex doesn't match my gender on my passport.  I want to be sexually comfortable in my own skin when I make love with my mate.  I want to go to the beach, wear a thong & not worry about whether things show or don't show.  Is that "ordinary"?

hi all ..... hey Leslie.. thats about right . you have it .... well i have been over that road & its been rough i know ..at 61  50 as a male  11 as a women & still growing .. ya ya .   s r s & b a . so whats left for me thats the  ???  . well lots really womens groups .   meeting people . just people who i have never meet in nz & austraila. as it is i have just come back from 4 weeks of just meeting people in this case 160 trans girls   at a ball in sydny.     plus others.    living life loveing life .  our grand kids & just being me as a women  is that plenty .   & doing cabinat making . doing  photography & meeting up with my friends both around the world & here . i think i have it covered.  oh yea   the mundan things like......... yea you know just life.....now what did i just do in the last 10 hours .. ummm well ,,,,,,,,,,,,
  ....  okay .....        ...noeleena...

Life is quite simply what you make of it........

If its enjoying what you have so be it, if its trying new things, making new friends so be it.

For me, my life didn't actually begin until I transitioned. Before it was confusing, depressing and at times alien to me, the way I had to act and the way I was supposed to fit into society.

Now life is different and even if it was boring to live without the pain, depression and jealousy is something that I will never get tired of!

Buffy

I agree, life is simply what you make of it.

I think for so many of us we point toward SRS, live, eat, breath and love the journey there and have nothing to "replace" that after it's over and done. Nothing seems quite so exciting as getting nthere and then an aftershock sets in. We get lost or as Jane said drift because we haven't planned or even much thought about anything except the surgery.

GRS/SRS is not an end; it's simply a place along the way, the destination is a life without the dissonance. Unfortunately, many never realize that until after the surgery and then it's like "duh, there's more." One hopes there is more, but daily life tends not to hold the wonder and the fascination that huge projects, like SRS, hold.

Look for the available wonder, look for life in all its variation and glory after the big event. We get too involved in the goal and it becomes an end. It's like a ride on a high-powered thrill ride at an amusement park: the adrenaline rises and then afterwards nothing seems quite so exciting. I suppose that's why I have always loved the swings, not so exciting but plenty to marvel at as one spins around and life is still interesting and varied when the ride is done.

Nichole

Quote from: Nichole on September 18, 2008, 09:17:03 AM
GRS/SRS is not an end; it's simply a place along the way, the destination is a life without the dissonance. Unfortunately, many never realize that until after the surgery and then it's like "duh, there's more." One hopes there is more, but daily life tends not to hold the wonder and the fascination that huge projects, like SRS, hold.

Even if you DO realize that the "letdown" is coming, I dunno if there's much to do about it other than just deal... and wait for things settle as they will. I read the warnings, I knew the NOW WHAT? was waiting for me, but it didn't change the facts much, lol, ya know?

I find myself still looking for Deep Meaning in trivial things like my first dress and bikini now, lol. I know I'm just fishing for anything now, trying to make a big deal of SOMEthing to maintain the momentum of the 24/7 amazement I felt while transitioning. But it's getting harder and harder to do. No one else cares about me "being transsexual" anymore, so I can't either.

But I have my faith that things will unfold now as they should. SRS didn't make me happy, but I do believe it *allows* it now. I finally have Hope and Possibility, where before everything ended in "... if only."

~ Katie Marie ~

Hi Kate, that's great to hear you speaking with more positive thought on your post opp journey. You will do ok and I do pray that you go out somewhere and meet other ladies, heck I even use to go out to bingo to meet other ladies and I don't even realy care about bingo. But the conversations could get quite interesting. Now as for finding some guys to to hang with, but for a different reason then just having a male buddy if you know what I mean.  ;D

I do pray that all will continue to go well for you.

my experience has been alot like nichole described.  it was such a fireworks experience getting there that when it happened...well...kind of lost for a bit.  once you've climbed the highest mountain you've ever seen it can seem a little disconcerting to not have that challenge anymore.

good thing is....that old dessonance does fade away and you get adjusted to your new reality and that's when that "it's what you make of it" thing kicks in.  from transition to grs was easily the most exciting and wonderful time of my life...kind of like it was all of my life crammed into a few short years.  i'll always remember that fondly, probably like so many people recall their childhood.  but..you grow up...you mature and you move on.  enjoy the peace.

My life was like being dead before transition... just waiting to die.  During transition life was amazing.  It had some tremendous ups and downs which was really different from the flat-line life I had previously.  Now that I have SRS behind me and cannot afford FFS or BAS I am just a weird guy that no one accepts, a weird guy with a vagina that nobody would touch with a ten foot pole.  Life sucks hard but if life before transition was a 1 then life after transition has to at least be a 1.25 and I suppose that is a little better, not much and I don't regret transition but money makes everything better as does education and then there is me.

Posted on: November 02, 2008, 03:38:32 am

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1.25 out of a possible 10

Myself i had to get away from the online and real life trans community. That took me about 3 to 4 yrs and lots of trans activism and then i left the TS world and started living life and the last two yrs i have been involved with the Obama campaign and ran as a delegate and now i live with the amish but the obama campaign is done so i poked my head back in here. I do lurk every so often online just to remember who it was after mine dec 8th 1998 ..

Many of us now do things online and for me i started online to learn about transitioning so its my online beginning which makes it maybe harder for me than another who got online for other reasons they can go back to that stuff just now being finished.

PS: Be safe though we don't need any more statistics.. Myself i happen to love me and so i love others like me which has left me in a kinda no dating rut for the past 10 yrs but hey i am free of STDs and haven't suffered a broken heart and my horse Buddy loves me :)

hugs Danielle

Posted on: November 12, 2008, 11:21:49 am

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Quote from: postoplesbian on November 12, 2008, 05:32:09 PM
Myself i had to get away from the online and real life trans community.

Oh, that's coming faster than the speed of light for some people.  I can feel it, I can really feel it! and I quite agree with you! Welcome to Susan's BTW! :)

tink :icon_chick:

My life's been ordinary even before GRS :laugh: but for me the ultimate achievement is to figure out my unique and individual purpose in life, to pursue it, and to make significant progress towards reaching it.

What I have noticed is that after SRS, some of us don't post that much (you know who you are ;)  ;D) but rather enjoy the view from afar so to speak.  Heck I don't even know how on earth I have over 10,000 posts!   :P

tink :icon_chick:

Personally i'm looking forward to life becoming very ordinary it is what you make of it after all. But the roller coaster can be a bit tiresome at times and i think most of us would welcome some normalcy when little has previously existed.

For me me everyday is like a new adventure and a new discovery looking at the world through different eyes. Well it's been four years since SRS and still for me it's like exploring a new world. Meeting new people, living in the female role 24/7 darn typo's, at work and my social life. If that's ordinary well I am certainly not going to complain

Again I have mostly come back here in the hopes of sharing my experiences and possibly help someones accomplish their transition somewhat easier.

Cindy   

I'm with Tekla; 'Normal' scares me.

QuoteWhat I have noticed is that after SRS, some of us don't post that much (you know who you are   ) but rather enjoy the view from afar so to speak.  Heck I don't even know how on earth I have over 10,000 posts!   

tink

Aaaaaaaaaaah shut up Tink :) Ha ha.

I think that my life is now finally normal, not too normal, just normal enough  :-\

I think my life is typical of most women out there.  I date, far too much, looking for mister right in all the wrong places LOL, the trials and tribulations of work, my debts, my health, my weight, my looks, my cloths, my friends, my family.  Yep my life is pretty normal, it sometimes sucks, and it sometimes it doesn't; but then it's the only life that I have and normal or not I intend to live it.

Steph

Quote from: Leslie on September 14, 2008, 05:30:31 AM
I want to be complete.  I want to live a normal female life without the burden of looking down and realising I have something extra natal females don't have.  I don't want to explain to anybody, the law, doctors, why I don't have a vagina. I don't want to be stopped, searched at some foreign airport & get questioned endlessly because my anatomical sex doesn't match my gender on my passport.  I want to be sexually comfortable in my own skin when I make love with my mate.  I want to go to the beach, wear a thong & not worry about whether things show or don't show.  Is that "ordinary"?

Those were my feelings when I was pre-operational & struggling with my body.  Life goes on after GRS though & like other peeps have said you make the best of it however you can.  Being an ordinary woman, looking at myself in the mirror and seeing a whole woman in body & spirit brings happy tears to my eyes.  I know what you mean. You'll get there too. :)

Life became very "ordinary" after SRS/transition and "ordinary" in the 1970's and my mid-20's was a heck of a lot of fun. It was the time of "Peace, Love & Rock & Roll" and young-womanhood wasn't "ordinary" as my mother would have defined it  ;D

But, after 'casting a mountain into the sea' it wasn't long before there were other windmills to tilt at. One thing my past taught me was stubbornness and how to fight so discrimination took a hell of a beating whenever I came up against it. LOL!

After 3 decades, I don't choose to fight much anymore - leave that to the younger girls. I am content to TRY to be ordinary though my friends tell me I don't do a very good job of it  ;D

"Hee, hee, hee, what's ordinary?
Well I passed as a girl during the flower children days but as much as I wanted to be a girl and even had a boyfriend for the short time I lived in a commune in good old New York city the dream would not be realised for some more years to come. Didn't know nothin about transssexuality and that it was possible to transition to the preferred sex. Those were truly the good years though VW micro-buses all painted over with flowers ribbons and hearts that I painted myself on my boy friends VW micro-bus while he was out working.   ;D

Cindy

Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2009, 05:05:21 PM
What I have noticed is that after SRS, some of us don't post that much (you know who you are ;)  ;D) but rather enjoy the view from afar so to speak.  Heck I don't even know how on earth I have over 10,000 posts!   :P

tink :icon_chick:

You're like me tink... too many opinions and not enough fingers to type ;)

Personally, and yeah, im actually quite suprised this has been said so many times.... my life started when i transitioned, it was limbo before... i have goals and aims that i never dreamed of...

As for post srs... well, srs is the 'end' of transition. Its like getting out of jail id imagine... your life till then has been regimented, you've had things to do, a date of 'release' after that you get lost a little... well some do.. Its just natural. What you have to think now. is 'who am i?' because you cant know that during transition. You wont know who you are till you die... all you can do is find things, go out, try things, work your way to who you are and live a full productive life.
Btw, am i the only one seeing you talk about srs in the past tense, when your ticker clock puts it in the future?

Quote from: Blanche on August 28, 2008, 09:04:32 AM
I've been feeling like life is boring, and unexciting. I've found the things that used to entertain me no longer appeal to me. I find myself constantly wondering about different circumstances and situations that I feel I have no control over.  Don't misunderstand me, I'm happy, quite happy to have a body that I can call mine at last but it'd seem as if I didn't have any goals as before.  Is life this mundane after GRS or does it normalise with time?

There is such a thing as ennui and it has nothing to do with surgical status. You may want to see it in those terms, write down what you feel and how to deal with it. Baudelaire did, and he came up with Les Fleurs du Mal.

Quote from: Starbuck on January 07, 2009, 06:53:59 AM

Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2009, 05:05:21 PM
What I have noticed is that after SRS, some of us don't post that much (you know who you are ;)  ;D) but rather enjoy the view from afar so to speak.  Heck I don't even know how on earth I have over 10,000 posts!   :P

tink :icon_chick:

You're like me tink... too many opinions and not enough fingers to type ;)

Personally, and yeah, im actually quite suprised this has been said so many times.... my life started when i transitioned, it was limbo before... i have goals and aims that i never dreamed of...

As for post srs... well, srs is the 'end' of transition. Its like getting out of jail id imagine... your life till then has been regimented, you've had things to do, a date of 'release' after that you get lost a little... well some do.. Its just natural. What you have to think now. is 'who am i?' because you cant know that during transition. You wont know who you are till you die... all you can do is find things, go out, try things, work your way to who you are and live a full productive life.
Btw, am i the only one seeing you talk about srs in the past tense, when your ticker clock puts it in the future?

What ticker sweetie?  Are you talking to me or Blanche, Rachael?  Blanche's ticker IS in the past, and as far as my own SRS is concerned, tomorrow (January the 8th) will be two years since I have had it. :)

Quote from: Starbuck on January 07, 2009, 06:53:59 AM
srs is the 'end' of transition. Its like getting out of jail id imagine...

For me it was not only the end of transition but the culmination of so many years of pain.  Jail?  I think what you mean is coffin. 

tink :icon_chick:

More like being stuck in a dungeon unable to see the daylight. As for myself after surgery it was like being released from the confines of that dungeon after having been incarcerated within it's bowels for 58 years.

I have never felt depressed nor sad and lonely for long since then. It is like being reborn and living life over again, in the correct body.

QuoteThose were my feelings when I was pre-operational & struggling with my body.  Life goes on after GRS though & like other peeps have said you make the best of it however you can.  Being an ordinary woman, looking at myself in the mirror and seeing a whole woman in body & spirit brings happy tears to my eyes.  I know what you mean. You'll get there too. :)

Cindy

I'm reading all of your posts with great interest.  Exactly six months from today, I'm scheduled for GRS with Dr. Marci Bowers.   

The funny thing is that I was trying to make this time in my life "normal."  That is to say, I wanted to make as few changes as possible and to just ride out the last year before my surgery.  But I got a new job, a creative project I never could've imagined has found me, and I'm about to take a class that might be a first step toward another degree I might pursue.

So, I've come to the conclusion that I have no idea of what "normal" is, and probably never will.  I hope that doesn't change after the surgery.

In case you're interested, I'm chronicling the year leading up to my surgery on a blog I began six months ago.  If you want to see it, look here:  http://transwomantimes.blogspot.com/ (http://transwomantimes.blogspot.com/)

Well hon SRS is probably the most liberating experiences you can have in one life time. For me the surgery was no more then just a few days of, not really anything that can be described as pain, I was walking about the next day after the surgery.

I only just experienced mostly some discomfort in trying to find as comfortable way to sit for the first four days. But after the fourth day at the recovery house they removed the packing and the catheter, I was ready to dance a jig. I hated those donut cushions. I used them for about two weeks and chucked it in the corner and sat on a regular cushion.

All the sensations, feelings and everything down there was active after four weeks, including orgasms.

I did feel a bit of the gloomies for a time until my beloved moved in with me. I was retired for the last couple years but boredom got the best of me so I have gone back to work part time as a support worker at a women's shelter. I also keep myself busy as facilitator for two meetup groups in the area. I am also involved with the TS support group here in down town Vancouver.

Haven't had much time to be bored or lonely. As for a normal life? Well if you count what keeps me occupied as I described above as normal, as well as sharing my life with my beloved, then I am enjoying my normal life. I have done well working as a social worker for over twenty years, working with mostly women was an asset for me.

So no, I can't say I have had the post-op blues, I keep to busy for that, and anyway, I love and respect the caring little lady I have become, to much to suffer any kind of blues about myself.

Cindy 

Doh! so it was! i never realised those things went forwards. Then again, ive never ever looked at or needed one :P
Must be truely awesome finally being right. There are so many of us who dream of finally having that chance like you ladies. And when you finally get it, people complain that thier life has suddenly become boring... nothing to do...  This tails past the end of transition. Up till that point, being 'trans' has been some people's life... finally being a normal person is so unforfilling when thier entire life has been made up of gender...
Considering how much you spent, you could atleast find a hobby no? and perhaps provide a better example to those of us who feel hopless and desperate daily... waiting, wanting, and with no sigh of ever getting what we need.
Blanche: You have a second chance. This is your second chance at life, the correct life... Dont squander it wondering why you are so bored, get out, do things, meet people, live... Make all those years of suffering worth it...

Good grief Starbuck hon, Have I ever been anything but upbeat on this board? I have never done anything on this board except to be upbeat and do what I can to be supportive.

Like I said I never felt the blues nor was ever depressed for any length of time through my transitioning years, 9 years. I was more depressed and sick during the prior years leading to transitioning then I was during those 5 years prior to surgery and the 4 years after.

But even the years prior to transition I did what I could to remain positive thinking. Always the optimistic, I had to be optimistic because that's what kept me going. Hanging on to hope no mater what the odds may have shown against my hopes.

I just did what ever I had to do to remain happy and optimistic, like having SRS, getting married and moving 3/4 of the way across the continent of Canada. Ain't notin holdin me anywhere, never was, I go where I think I can be useful and happy.

Cindy

hi... Just an up date in a few days itll have been 2 years since i had my ops  19 of may 07   how.s my life been over that time ...   just neat oh yes the up.s & downs so .... thats life .. other wise its just being able to live as a woman that has & is happing .meeting many people doing & going out with & having that friendship i never could have had before ...  mundane   what does that word mean.  when i can live life .. & be accepted ......  yes it.s.... NEAT.....
     ...noeleena...

Hi...  Knowing other women ..  yes very much so ... may be for some its daunting & why some dont really mix with women ...& being accepted by them ...For me i spend most of my time with women & more at home with them ...we dont have a trans community where we are so its . be in the real world of people . so i just get on with those people ..thanks ......
  ...noeleena...

I have to agree with Blanche, it does feel that way now.

Oh, life never does get bored after SRS or GRS or whatever you wanna name it.
Post-op women still have plenty of issues to deal with such as:

*The occasional discrimination & harassment
*Being under the gun all the time to keep it stealth (the stealthy ones)
*Seeking acceptance and love from their partner (especially if its a male partner)
*Sometimes going through body dysmorphia and considering more cosmetic enhancements
*Thinking about reproductive options
*And dilate lots to keep that son a of a b*tch open

>:-)

My life did not go "ordinary" after GRS.  I really feel driven.  I have my own IT consulting company and I am finishing my college degree.  I am engaged to be married to a wonderful man and life is just great for me.  I get up and run 5 to 7 miles every day and can hardly wait for each day to start.  I am 4 1/2 years post op.

Hi there,

Life is definitely not boring, I wish I had more hours in the day, lol. I have my friends, church, work, running, hobbies, holidays, and well, parents, lol. Life is certainly not boring rather the opposite, its exciting, at times frustrating, fun, a struggle, amazing and much, much more.

I think life is what you make it, pre or post op.

Stardust

I have three friends who pre-op worked as showgirls to save for their SRS and then became housewife, medical student and lawyer and they all miss their days in the spotlight.

Quote from: lilacwoman on September 28, 2010, 12:51:13 PM
I have three friends who pre-op worked as showgirls to save for their SRS and then became housewife, medical student and lawyer and they all miss their days in the spotlight.

Life can get ordinary, but don't let it get boring, Im now in a new chapter, transition is well behind me, Im now nearly 6weeks married, my Fiancé is now my Husband, Im now a housewife, learning new cooking skills etc. The business in my job has slowed down, next week Im handing in 6weeks notice, January 2011 onwards I'II be a full time housewife, Im a much happier person as a woman, being a full time housewife for my Husband is a new challenge for me as a woman, hopefully not too ordinary and certainly not boring, try cleaning up after a man.
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I think that there is an emotional dip after surgery.  Transition takes a lot of energy and can be exciting as you tackle all of the problems and learn your new position in the world.  But for me that soon passed as I discovered the core-deep pleasure of being in a body that suited me.  (Well, it's a little heavier than I like, but that isn't what I meant. ::))

My life has really settled down post-op.  Without the dysphoria I have much more time and energy.  I'm able to focus better.  I have the time and energy to keep my house cleaner and neater, the way I like it.  Like my house, my mind is more orderly, too.  I am relaxed and out in the world more.  I've started new activities and kept the ones I liked.  It's like I'm actually alive for the first time in my life.  If that's ordinary, then I'll take it gladly. :D

- Kate