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so hard to come by, and so fearful of rejection we are.

i have seeming acceptance from someone, and am not only astounded after my years of being treated as though it would be better to have tuberculosis or a std, but feeling a closeness that i am not used to.

so. here's my question.

Do we build walls that don't allow others in because we are so used to rejection?

hi... Tracy . yes we can the thing is do we need to ,,,no ,,,i have been accepted by a lot of people here in n z over the last 11 years . as i was coming out . the first thing i had done was do i accept my self  yes , so then will others accept me for who i am, i was not sure . i told jos . then 5 years later i told  our kids then every one .   i was a women . then from then on i was out as a women  yes s r s ,   so yes i have been accepted for who i am .    why did i get that acceptance . i was honest & told people what i was doing  , i know what you are saying . so yes we can have acceptance , that i know ...noeleena ...

I don't know that I build walls so much anymore.  I just hide behind the ones I already have when things get tough.  It's so easy to fall into the old defensive habits when things get overwhelming.

Val

I never considered acceptance as an issue, boy do I have alot to learn about this community :) I work for a Doctors clinic aswering phones checking in patients that sorta stuff, so for the most part I kept my hair pulled back in a pony tail, no bangs, no makeup just some stud earings in both ears and I have done that for the 1.5 years I have worked there, so I finally deside I'm gona be a woman all the time, I guess it's called fulltime, carefully I cut bangs and curl them, and I wore a little eye liner and mascara, nobody gave me a second look expect one of the nurses asked if I was wearing makeup I told her I was stepping outa my box she said it's about time your to pretty a young lady to be so drab, I never considered any of this, the next week I wore a skirt outfit scared to death but once again nobody said nada I guess I'm accepted :)

Tracy,

Lack of acceptance was my overwhelming fear my whole life.  I thought I would never have it.  Recently, I came out to my family, some old friends, and my boss at work.  I was/am completely astounded by the reaction.  Acceptance has been everyone's reaction.  It's been, if this make you happy and feel fulfilled, then it's OK with us.

I still can't believe how wrong I was all these years.  But now I feel strangely uneasy.  Is it too good to be true?  I have all these doubts about the sincerity of this acceptance.  It may be that my problem with acceptance was never acceptance by others, but acceptance of myself.

Like you, I put up walls to keep others out, to avoid rejection.  Now I want the walls to come down, but they were well built and it hasn't been easy.