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I will be coming out to my Mom sometime in September. I will come out to her after I have had a chance to go to the GLBT support group we have here at Tech and talk about a couple of things. I will be doing it over the phone unfortunately, but I won't be home except for around holidays (Thanksgiving and Christmas). I need her to know before she comes up to Tech for my graduation as there are people here who know me only by my male name.

My dad has said my mom has been saying things about me binding and my haircut so we think she may have it somewhat figured-out since she already knows I'm pansexual. I have also told her about and reminder her I look like a guy so until people find out my name they generally don't realize which gender I am. I will be talking to my dad to set a time to tell her so he can be home when I do tell her as he does know and can be there for face to face support and someone to talk to.

It's weird because I get weird looks from women in the bathroom and get directed to the men's dressing rooms but I also get the occasional weird looks from guys as well. I fortunately do have places on campus with gender neutral bathrooms and have started doing a whichever one is closer is the one I'll use if there is no gender neutral option.

Sounds like you have things well planned.  Glad to hear your dad is so supportive.  Good luck with telling your mom.

If your dad knows and is supportive, is he willing to tell her?

He is willing; I'd rather she hears it from me, however if she asks him I told him he could tell her.

When I get weird looks from guys in the bathroom, it's usually because they think I'm a gay boy. For some reason people think that all men with feminine features are gay.  :-\

Good luck with telling your mom.

Stephen: May it go well.

Its awesome that your Dad is supportive and understanding, I'm sure your Mum will come around too

Good Luck and let us know how you go

You sound like you have everything under control bro. If you can get both your parents on the line at the same time when you come out that would definitely be for the best. Especially if your dad can help out.

It's great that you have your dad there for you, not a lot of us can say that :) Having him there will soften the blow for mom. Just tell them you have something really important to tlak about the way I did. Parents seem to take that tone seriously and try to schedule the talk for whenever you want/make themselves available when you're ready.

Keep us posted like everyone said.

G'luck, but you knew I was wishing you that already, hey? I should wander over to group at some point; can ya give me a call when they start having meetings?  I'm clueless on dates & times.

And your dad is still awesome.  8)

I came out to her yesterday. She told me she knew I would be getting a breast reduction down to at least an A-cup some day (so she isn't as dense as she appeared to be). She also started to figure it out when I cut my hair and didn't care when people thought I was a guy. She also said the only thing that has ever been woman about me is my ability to look at someone with the right look and get them to do what I want them to do.  :)

After this she simply asked my name and to tell her when to start calling me by the name and to forgive her as it will take her a while to switch (which is fine with me). Then we started to discuss the rest of the family and coming out to them.

Overall it went extremely well. The last person I have to come out to now is my Grandma Darlene which won't be a problem at all.  :)

That's awesome man, your mom rocks!!! You're so lucky :) I'm glad thing went well for you.

Unfortunately for me, I did go through the phase where I tried to conform to "being a girl" which...only made me more depressed.....but my mom probably saw it as me "coming out of tomboy phase" and now that I've done a complete 180 in her eyes, it will probably take much longer for her to accept me for who I am.

The good thing is she's doing her research so some part of her is coping :)

AWESOME Stephen.

Its good that you have your dad who is supportive Stephen and by the sounds of it your mum probably would have an inckling about your transition! I hope it all goes well dude. Keep us updated!