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For most of the day I was at my brothers condo helping him pack up and donate stuff to goodwill.
When I got there, I started dropping hints that I want to tell him something.
He is the only family member I have not came out to. Except my dad sperm donor looser 50's era throwback, no support here you aren't getting it from me because I'm a cheap tightwad, so called parent.
Before we did all that, (the donating) we went to get something to eat and come back.

When we came back, I pretty much told him: I know you've been honest about your sexuality, (he's gay and open) and I have to give you credit being honest about yourself, but there is something I have to wipe my hands clean of. (note: think of the box art to the game Fahrenheit, or the character Gorrister from the game I Have no Mouth and I Must Scream)

I'm trans.

At that time I was thinking all sorts of stupid sh*t, I was thinking he would say something hurtful, officially demoting me permanently to status of "black sheep" as if this thoughts would be something like...

QuoteHere, I'll put you on... '~Hellooooo~' That's you! That's how dumb you sound! You've been wrong about every single thing you've ever done, including this thing. You're not smart. You're not a scientist. You're not a doctor. You're not even a full-time employee. Where did your life go so wrong?"

And you know what?
He was OK about it.

His next question was if I liked girls and I said yes, he then asked if I were lesbian and I also said yah too.
I thought he just confused gender identity and sexual orientation so I then did a quick review of the differences, but he was like that's OK you don't have to tell me.

The last question was if I had told mum about all of this and I told him flat out yah, but I haven't told her explicitly that I'm lez because she just hit on stage 3 of the grief process, and I didn't know if she was ready for that yet.

Not much happened after that, it was as if nothing even happened really. As everything I said meant nothing because he accepted me.

Sorry for the long post but I feel just stupid for even thinking I would be rejected by my own brother for being who I am, and now that my hands are clean, I think I can start looking a little more forward in life, knowing my closet is that one bit cleaner of the clutter which has plagued me for the last year and a half.

Thanks for reading this,
Rena

That is AWESOME!  I'm so glad you were able to get that off your chest.

Right on, Girl.  At least you have him in your corner, and maybe Mom will come around.

Janet

Quote from: Nephie on September 08, 2008, 08:54:06 PM
That is AWESOME!  I'm so glad you were able to get that off your chest.

Thanks!
Although I wish I could you offer some assistance, (The GID has returned) I have the bad feeling that "help" I would offer would be viewed as being sarcastic. (and in a not very funny way)

Quote from: Janet Lynn on September 08, 2008, 09:57:41 PM
Right on, Girl.  At least you have him in your corner, and maybe Mom will come around.

Janet

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Maybe the next time we go shopping for food, I can drop hints by gazing longingly at the seafood display. :icon_chuckel:
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Although seriously, I thinks she is having a lot of issues right now herself.
I don't want to add another straw that breaks the camels back.
When she is ready, I think I'll know it.  :angel:

That is so brilliant! Way to go! Im happy for you! w00t!

That is so awesome of your brother. (Never underestimate gay guys. I don't want to exaggerate their merits, but they're the best thing since sliced bread!)

Congrats!

Neat, so few people I talk to know about I Have No Mouth...

Lia