Community Conversation => Transitioning => Real-Life Experience => Topic started by: isterriis on September 19, 2008, 02:57:42 PM Return to Full Version
Title: How do you ask?
Post by: isterriis on September 19, 2008, 02:57:42 PM
Post by: isterriis on September 19, 2008, 02:57:42 PM
How do you ask someone if they are transitioning? or bring up the subject to a complete stranger?
OK there is a lady that comes in on a regular basis who I am pretty sure used to be male but how would you bring it up? I mean what if she's not, how embarrassing :o
OK there is a lady that comes in on a regular basis who I am pretty sure used to be male but how would you bring it up? I mean what if she's not, how embarrassing :o
Title: Re: How do you ask?
Post by: lizard on September 19, 2008, 04:32:49 PM
Post by: lizard on September 19, 2008, 04:32:49 PM
ummm dont?
it really can only end two ways:
A) they are not TS, so you insult someone by insinuating that they used to be a man or some such thing or
B) they are TS and you insult them by saying "hey i just clocked you"
if... you REALLY need to know.. you may be able to get them to volunteer the information, by talking about it yourself or something and see if they are liek "oh yea im a TS too" or something... but.. eh i'd just leave it alone.
it really can only end two ways:
A) they are not TS, so you insult someone by insinuating that they used to be a man or some such thing or
B) they are TS and you insult them by saying "hey i just clocked you"
if... you REALLY need to know.. you may be able to get them to volunteer the information, by talking about it yourself or something and see if they are liek "oh yea im a TS too" or something... but.. eh i'd just leave it alone.
Title: Re: How do you ask?
Post by: Sarah Louise on September 19, 2008, 04:38:51 PM
Post by: Sarah Louise on September 19, 2008, 04:38:51 PM
I agree with Lizard 100%.
Sarah L.
Sarah L.
Title: Re: How do you ask?
Post by: vanna on September 19, 2008, 05:48:16 PM
Post by: vanna on September 19, 2008, 05:48:16 PM
Heck yeah
totally agree, no-one wants to be outed.
totally agree, no-one wants to be outed.
Title: Re: How do you ask?
Post by: Robin_p on September 19, 2008, 10:34:49 PM
Post by: Robin_p on September 19, 2008, 10:34:49 PM
You Don't ask!!!
Title: Re: How do you ask?
Post by: isterriis on October 20, 2008, 03:41:41 PM
Post by: isterriis on October 20, 2008, 03:41:41 PM
Alrighty then......
Posted on: September 22, 2008, 11:26:37 am
OK I didn't ask, but I did invite her to a chat at a new chat room called Susans :) I gave her my email, she said she has heard of Susans and would email me when a good time to chat :)
Posted on: September 22, 2008, 11:26:37 am
OK I didn't ask, but I did invite her to a chat at a new chat room called Susans :) I gave her my email, she said she has heard of Susans and would email me when a good time to chat :)