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Title: Fluid Gender
Post by: Natasha on October 21, 2008, 06:03:03 PM
Post by: Natasha on October 21, 2008, 06:03:03 PM
Fluid Gender
http://transcendgender.com/2008/10/21/fluid-gender/ (http://transcendgender.com/2008/10/21/fluid-gender/)
10/21/2008
I recently read a blog posted by an online friend which included another post-op trans woman's regrets of transitioning and having GRS. She had described how her feelings to transition and being a woman were more sexually motivated, and that after surgery she could not have that satisfaction. She mentioned that she misunderstood the drop-off of sexual desire due to hormones as a sign that she was doing the right thing.
My first reaction and thought was how it was a good example of why the real life test or real life experience is important. I assume the person lived as the gender she wanted to be before having the surgery, based on the comment of her "following the rules". If she had, then I wondered if she truly did the necessary soul searching — the second-guessing and what-ifs playing in her mind over and over. When it comes down to it, the physical aspects of transition are not as important as the emotional aspects. Being emotionally ready for the changes is very critical to anyone's successful transition.
http://transcendgender.com/2008/10/21/fluid-gender/ (http://transcendgender.com/2008/10/21/fluid-gender/)
10/21/2008
I recently read a blog posted by an online friend which included another post-op trans woman's regrets of transitioning and having GRS. She had described how her feelings to transition and being a woman were more sexually motivated, and that after surgery she could not have that satisfaction. She mentioned that she misunderstood the drop-off of sexual desire due to hormones as a sign that she was doing the right thing.
My first reaction and thought was how it was a good example of why the real life test or real life experience is important. I assume the person lived as the gender she wanted to be before having the surgery, based on the comment of her "following the rules". If she had, then I wondered if she truly did the necessary soul searching — the second-guessing and what-ifs playing in her mind over and over. When it comes down to it, the physical aspects of transition are not as important as the emotional aspects. Being emotionally ready for the changes is very critical to anyone's successful transition.