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I'm wondering if your siblings are mostly the gender you are transitioning too.
I am a MTF and I have two siblings and both are youonger than me a female.

One of each for me.  At least I don't get the "we're losing our only son" lecture.

Melissa

Lucky. ;D

Nah, I'm not lucky.  Basically my parents are still expecting me to realize I've made a mistake and detransition and don't accept me for who I am.

Melissa

That's is what my wife and children, all 3 are male, are hoping for too.  And they say they love me, but are not really acccepting the real me.
Jillieann

Quote from: Melissa on July 30, 2006, 03:24:44 PM
One of each for me.  At least I don't get the "we're losing our only son" lecture.

Melissa

Ditto for me, though I expect my mother to cry and cry and cry...

Chaunte

Ive got one little brother.... though hes not so little anymore... a good 2 or 3 inches taller than I am and outweighs me by atleast 40lbs......

Didnt get the loosing only son but did get the whole namesake thing and carying on the family line and so on... (was named for my father.... bleh)

I just have the one older brother. Coming out to him last week was very hard.

Alice

Hey everyone,

I have four sisters and three brothers.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Good question, Jillieann! I have 3 brothers, and am FtM... so I know if and when I come out to my parents, they'll be devastated at losing their daughter. But I know it's not my brothers who influenced my masculinity; my 2 older brothers are my dad's kids from a past marriage, and they live overseas; my younger brother is 7 1/2 years younger, and I was already displaying male traits long before he was born. I actually wish I had a sister... then maybe there wouldn't be so much pressure on me to act feminine. As it is, I'm now incredibly jealous of my 16-year-old, 6'4", incredibly masculine little brother.

Rafe

I'm rather lucky I guess.  I got all the obligatory lectures from Mom and Dad but they are now accepting and trying to use the right name and pronouns.  Nothing like SRS to convince people the transition is real and final.  Two brothers were immediately accepting, one was loudly opposed but is now my biggest supporter.  My sister was thrilled from the beginning.  Family get-togethers are still a little weird but getting better.

Dawn

To answer the thread title, yes. All one of her. ;D

(I have a half sister who's much older than myself. I'm not out to her yet but know it's just a matter of time...)

I have two sisters, and a half-brother I dont see much. I get "I gave birth to three daughters, and I'll always have three! I don't have a son!" Sigh...

Quote from: Ethan Michael on August 08, 2006, 12:06:46 AM
I have two sisters, and a half-brother I dont see much. I get "I gave birth to three daughters, and I'll always have three! I don't have a son!" Sigh...

Awww, that's sad, Ethan. So you are out to her? I have two sisters as well.

Nero

One brother, 8 years older than I. He hasn't spoken to me for a decade though (non-TS issues). We never did get along, as we're about as different as different can be, so I don't see him ever accepting me. My first ten years of life were spent trying to avoid being constantly beat up and tortured by him, and he really hasn't changed much since personality-wise.

I so often wished for a sister. I bet things would have been much, much different.

I have one older sister and an older brother.  Both are aware on some level of my dressing but we never have talked about it.

My parents both know and have been accepting.  I never got any lectures and was never made to feel bad about my activites.  When I was younger I got into some trouble for stealing (related to womens clothing) and that was the only time that my parents were disaproving.  Not so much of the dressing but instead the stealing.

I would never talk to my brother about being a CD as he is a "Divout" Catholic and increadibly conservitive.  My sister would be more open but she tends to be rather self absorbed and turns conversations around to her issues especialy when the topic is one that she is not comfortable with.

All in all I have been very luck with my family and I know that they would stand by me through anything even if they did not understand or support me in that.

MTK

Quote from: Nero on August 08, 2006, 12:14:58 AM

Quote from: Ethan Michael on August 08, 2006, 12:06:46 AM
I have two sisters, and a half-brother I dont see much. I get "I gave birth to three daughters, and I'll always have three! I don't have a son!" Sigh...

Awww, that's sad, Ethan. So you are out to her? I have two sisters as well.

Nero

Yeah, I'm out to everyone...or rather, I was outted by the family grapevine after being really out online... At least I didn't have to come out, though  :-\

Sisters are great, especially when the "But it tastes better when you make it" line gets an eye roll, but still works!

Great question Jillieann. I don't see a pattern but so what. I wonder if there has been a study on the effects of siblings on gender indentity development. Probably.  Most every thing gets studied, sometimes with some useful insight.
I have 6 siblings (actually all half siblings). I had no brothers or sisters growing up as dad left mom with me when I was a year old, and didn;t remarry. I didn't meet anyone on mom's side, including her until my mid 20s. The breakdown is: 3 half brothers, all older and all deceased, 1 older half sister and 2 younger half sisters, all alive. I think I see a pattern there and I don't like it. Maybe there really is a need for a change here.

Susan K

I have just the one sibling, a younger sister.

One brother, one sister, and one deceased (birth certificate says Karen, death certificate says Carl, obviously born with problems, never left the hospital) all older.

Both accept my transition.

Sarah L.

There were three boys in the family, no girls.  Mom always wanted a daughter, but was never disappointed in her boys.  We did have to learn to cook and clean, etc.

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Huzzah on the choice of such a thought-provoking topic!

I'm the eldest, then came my two sisters at 4 and 5 years younger than me.  I had a step-sister who lived with us occasionally who was 2 years younger.  And I had two older step-brothers who, thankfully, only visited occasionally.

I've told my sisters that I'm still the eldest sibling, but the third sister!  ;D

Karen

Five siblings, four sisters, one brother.  In the order we were born it was F-Me-F-M-F-F.

Julie

I have an older sister (by 5 years) and a younger brother (by 7)

So I got abused from two sides, LOL!

hugs & grins,
helen

there are times when I so hate to think about my young life.  There were 5 of us, all male, and I happened to be the oldest of the set.  It wasn't to hard in the very early years, there were only I and 3 brothers, the last was born when I was 17.  I never got to really know that one well as I moved to my fathers home to get away from the life my mother led, and her tendancy to make a "Man" of me.  

It was a lot of pressure as I was the oldest and expected to raise my brothers and take all the heat.  Everyone was always in a lot of trouble back then and it was always up to me to make things come out.  I got in enough trouble just being me and trying to stay out of trouble.  I had to go to school, then work at night and weekends and when home, pick up on the younger ones and all to often take on whoever got in the younger ones faces.  It was constant work and fighting, and I had to bring home a check every week and if I lost a fight, my mother came down on me hard.  As a teen, I simply got out and went to my Dads.  

Then my mother and brothers were always coming to see us and it simply rounded back to the old days, but all in all, my dad was good to me and saw I had what I needed.  He never did understand my nature though and wanted me to be male, just not an aggressive one.  As it added up though, I was always thought of as an aggressive malcontent, and I spent my time with motorcycles and drugs.

I'll never forget some of the beatings I took when overmatched, but I managed to win most encounters just because I had been raised that way.  I used to wish I had a sister or two that I could honestly relate to, but I had to be the "hard one" in order to survive.  Things were strange when I was in high school.  Most adults and my close friends thought of me as a young man that was just growing up, but the way I hung out and who with was confusing to them.  Yes, 4 brothers and I always had to be the toughest one and personally I won't swat flies if they don't bother me, but there are those who just always had to try and show me up, or caught me out with friends who weren't all that masculine and figured I needed a good fight to make me see things clearly.  

The next oldest to me was a good friend up until he died earlier this year of a hart attack, the others quit talking to me though when I finally coudn't take it anymore and began Transition.  Haven't spoken to the 3rd brother for 20 years now and the next one down hasn't said a word to me in almost 6 years.  The youngest one seems to be rather unconcerned, but he has his own problems and I haven't spoken to him in about 5 years.  It just seems they gotta be "Men" and I'm an embarrasement to them.

Well, that was all growing up and f things go ok I"ll outlive all of them.  It's just the way it is, but I'm happier these days and I seem to get along alright and have few if any problems with other people so All is alright as it goes.

I know I feel somewhat sorry for any one from a male warrior family, it isn't good for your moods and all.  If any of them had some sense and could condone not being the king of the hill things would have been a lot happier for me, but its been said that you have to see the rough side of life to appreciate the glory of living.  There's a lot I could say here about those days but it brings me down to think about it, I'll just enjoy what I have left.

Terri Gene

I have an older sister and an older brother. I was the baby of the family so to speak. Thats what I am called by my mother. I was closer to my sister in many ways, she was and still is a real outgoing person, someone I could look up too. My brother on the otherhand was a terror, always cutting up and getting into all kinds of trouble. I was  soft hearted and quiet, never in any real trouble well behaved.

Owen

Love being female :angel:

I have two sisters, both younger than me.

I got a bit of the "only son" reaction as well when I came out to my parents (Mum not so much, mainly from Dad), but it didn't last very long. I think that once they saw how much happier I was, they realised that transition was the right thing for me. Dad still doesn't like to talk much about it, but Mum and I discuss everything. I never expected the level of support from her that she gives me. But I'm so grateul for it. :)

I'm an only child, so my mum's lucky I transitioned. This way she gets one of each, just not at the same time.

Dennis

I'm the oldest of three of us. I have a younger brother who is 7 years younger and a sister who is a year and half younger. I know that my family does not have anything to do with this. I raised my brother and took care of my sister somewhat.
Sheila

I just have one sister, she's 14 (soon to be 15) and I'm 19.

I have an older brother and an older sister. We are each 4 years apart, except my brother is 8 years older than me.

My sister always treated me like "poo" when I was growing up (she was bipolar, she takes medicine now, so she is pretty good to me now) so my brother and I always hung out, despite the huge age difference.

I think if anyone in my family is going to accept me, it will be him. Love my brother  ;D

I have one Sister, we have always been close and since starting my transition we have become even Closer

I have two siblings, both of them female.

I have 5 brothers and 6 sisters (would be 6 brothers but one died from sids). I came from an extremly patriarchal warrior dominated background. I was expected (required) to hurt people by both my parents and if I didn't I wore the brunt of their hands. Growing up I had literally hundreds of confrontations because of the place I was raised in. If it wasn't my parents or siblings trying to beat up on me it was someone else.

I don't see any of my family now. Psychologically it's better for me. If any of them were hit by a truck I wouldn't shed a tear.

i have a sister and a brother and i'm the youngest one.

I am the only child.  Very spoiled!

I have a blended family... biologically two older sisters and a younger half-brother (by 12 years).  Then an older step-brother (1.5 years older) and a younger step-sister (1.5 years younger).

Growing up, it was three sisters and one brother, and then at age 12 came the half-brother.  So no, the majority of my siblings have always been female... especially so when i was younger.

#2 - four younger brothers.

It would seem that Mom's first born son was in reality, her first born daughter.

I have four younger sisters.
Now we are five.

You can tell by this poll that siblings seem to have no relationship to being transgender.
But it is fun to share and we learn a little more about each other.
Thanks everyone for your participation.
Jillieann

FtM and have 2 brothers. My mom thought it would be easier to just raise us all the same (male). I have always been a major tom boy !
Myles

I've got a younger brother and younger sister. Basically, since I'm not going to have kids, our family name will die if my brother doesn't have kids. I told my parents for a long time I didn't want kids so I don't think they will give me the 'bloodline' speech, but I think they always held out hope. I'm the oldest, so maybe some of the 'oldest son' talk will come up, we'll see in a few weeks.

I wanna answer too... There's no checkbox, but this is a fun and interesting question.

I am the oldest of 6 kids, 2 girls, 3 boys and a me.

Myself and my eldest brother (20 and 18, respectively) are full siblings, born from my bioparents.

My eldest sister, age approximately 14 or 15 now, is the child of my stepfather and his exwife, so is a stepsister to me.  She has not been seen by us since age 4.

My youngest sister is 11 as of actually, 2 hours ago, and is the child of my bio-mother and my stepfather.

My youngest brothers are identical twins and are 5 years old.  They are the children of my biological father and my stepmother.

I have often wondered if my issues with gender are not caused by the fact that I was meant to be a boy and treated like a boy until the day my eldest brother was old enough to do kid things, at which point I was suddenly expected, at about age 5, to have perfect feminine behaviours and act like a debutante, with perfect manners.

Im FTM and I have 2 sisters

A younger sister, never got the losing son stuff, I already procreated, they are happy now its my turn to be happy, I am happy  being female :)

Quote from: myles on May 27, 2007, 02:58:26 PM
FtM and have 2 brothers. My mom thought it would be easier to just raise us all the same (male). I have always been a major tom boy !
Myles

I don't often see other examples like this of the transition producing a monogendered set of siblings, when you are the only one of your gender and then you quit being that.

I see all these happy stories about "My Mom always wanted a boy/girl, and now she's finally got one!" I have a harder row to hoe when it comes to that. I can hear my parents saying now, "We already have lots of girls, don't deprive us of our only son!" As if it's my responsibility? Anyway, we're all so old now, who even cares about that any more... they already had me playing the role of son for a loooong time, I have given them grandchildren (who in turn have given them a great-grandchild), what more do you want, give me a break. I gave up my whole youth for them and then some. So they better not preach to me any more drivel about "sacrifice" for the family. I'm the one who ought to be telling them about sacrifice. But they don't get it.

Quote from: Melissa on July 30, 2006, 03:24:44 PM
...At least I don't get the "we're losing our only son" lecture.

Melissa

Same here, except with the opposite gender.  ;D
I have 1 sister, 2 half sisters, and 1 brother.

MTF, 2 sisters. I did not see 'MTF, Female' as an option on the poll. (?)

I got four sisters and two brothers.

Two sisters, two brothers.

FTM and I have 2 older brothers

I have one sister, and we are total opposites. She's what I call the ultimate girly-girl...into boys, makeup, bright colors and sparkles.

(I'm 26, btw, we're 13 years apart...so I don't know that I'd really count for the survey's purposes or not...)

oi, always looking for weird correlations. Well 4 sisters, 1 brother. only got to know 2 sisters tho. the others died before their first birthday.

I'm the eldest of 4 kids, 2 younger brothers and a lil sis :)

For survey purposes, I voted "FTM - Females". I live with two sisters, only one of which is a full sister. Then I have a half brother and half sister whom I have only met once.

I've got one sister who seems more male than I am in almost every way. xD  I think it's pretty funny that I'm the one who squeals like a wuss when he sees a spider, but his sister squishes said spider.

I have one sister who is about 4 and a half years older than me and no brothers....

I have one sister three years younger than me.

Three sisters for me.

Only child, it's not bad. Nobody to make fun of me, out me to everyone, and no brothers to envy. FTM.

Quote from: SilverFang on July 15, 2010, 01:54:48 AM
Only child, it's not bad. Nobody to make fun of me, out me to everyone, and no brothers to envy. FTM.

I'm glad I have my sisters, my best friends, but I do envy them so much. But it's not something that gets to me. Hopefully it never does.

Three sisters and a brother all slightly younger, my sisters say they always new that I was more of a girl  :)

One sister, though she's not exactly what you would call "girly". She acts more like a guy than I ever did, lol! She would be one of my best friends, we get through so much and she's very understanding.

Quote from: Giselle Marie on July 15, 2010, 05:47:31 AM
Three sisters and a brother all slightly younger, my sisters say they always new that I was more of a girl  :)

Same with my sisters. My older sister said she never really thought of me as male, no offense and I was like omg I love it! And my oldest sister was like I kinda knew, I mean shopping and singing and the stuff we did wasn't stuff you usually do with your little brother. Haha I love it!

I'm the eldest and I have 3 brothers.

Kind regards
Sarah B

I have an older brother and we're pretty close (he's only a little over a year older than me).

yes

I have 5 sisters and 2 brothers. I am the eldest.

I'm MtF along with intersex and my "biological sister" Corie is bi-gendered, the only other sibling I have is another sister who's full on cis-gendered.

So I have "two sisters" and I was the only "part-male" of the children my mom had. If my mom didn't raise me as an "son" and had testosterone put into me, I would have been full on female since day one.

Just one younger sister who is a definite girly girl

Have one sister, and one brother. Sister is 4 years older than me, brother is 2 years older than me.

MtF, 2 Younger sisters, The Youngest is a girly-girl, the older, is more of a boy than I ever was, though, she is now an adult is more androgynous than male or female, She will probably be the first person I come out to.
-Tali

I have two brothers and two sisters. Which makes me no great loss, apparently. 

This was an interesting poll

I am MTF and had 3 sisters at one time (2 have left us)....

Cynthia

MTF, Female