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Title: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 09:37:49 AM
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 09:37:49 AM
Okay, so I can kinda start a conversation without looking like an idiot (most of the time), but beyond that I am clueless. Once we're done talking about whatever situation we are in, I never know how to continue the conversation.
See, I need to make new friends, something I've never, ever been any good at. I'm in the middle of transition, and besides just wanting to start to hang out with other girls, it would be very nice to have some peers I could help me with make-up and clothes and boys and girls and yeah, I want people I can gossip with and go for coffee with and ... just have fun, ya know?
Mina.
See, I need to make new friends, something I've never, ever been any good at. I'm in the middle of transition, and besides just wanting to start to hang out with other girls, it would be very nice to have some peers I could help me with make-up and clothes and boys and girls and yeah, I want people I can gossip with and go for coffee with and ... just have fun, ya know?
Mina.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:41:37 AM
Post by: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:41:37 AM
Find out what they are interested in and talk about that. If nothing else works, let them talk about themselves.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 09:43:27 AM
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 09:43:27 AM
Quote from: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:41:37 AM
Find out what they are interested in and talk about that. If nothing else works, let them talk about themselves.
Yeah, but how do you do that? Do you just straight out ask them "So what are you interested in" kinda thing?
Mina.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: Selene on January 02, 2009, 09:43:33 AM
Post by: Selene on January 02, 2009, 09:43:33 AM
You have the exact opposite problem that I have. I can't ever approach anyone or start a conversation, but once you get me going its hard to stop me.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:46:19 AM
Post by: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:46:19 AM
Yeah, and you can ascertain some things, if your at some sort of music event, you can begin to talk about music. But yeah, I straight up ask them.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 09:52:10 AM
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 09:52:10 AM
Quote from: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:46:19 AM
But yeah, I straight up ask them.
Okay ... be rather rudely forward. Got it. ;D
Thanks Tekla. :)
Mina.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:57:21 AM
Post by: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:57:21 AM
Well I try not to be too rude about it, (I save that quality for other times), so its not like an interrogation, but something more akin to a casual tea. And its nice to have some amusing stories about yourself to toss around too. If you don't have any, make them up. Most people do.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 10:17:29 AM
Post by: mina.magpie on January 02, 2009, 10:17:29 AM
Quote from: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:57:21 AM
If you don't have any, make them up. Most people do.
LOL. I suppose if we're getting ready to go maybe go stealth later anyway ... or become an international superspy ... it's never to early to start practicing. ;D
Mina.
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: Sophie90 on January 02, 2009, 11:18:34 AM
Post by: Sophie90 on January 02, 2009, 11:18:34 AM
I have this problem as well.
I never know what to say to anyone.
What if you already know them, and what they're interested in?
I never know what to say to anyone.
What if you already know them, and what they're interested in?
Title: Re: Calling all Social Butterflies! Help?
Post by: Alyssa M. on January 02, 2009, 11:20:31 AM
Post by: Alyssa M. on January 02, 2009, 11:20:31 AM
Quote from: tekla on January 02, 2009, 09:41:37 AMLet them talk about themselves. If nothing else works, find out what they are interested in and talk about that.
Fixed it for ya'. ;)