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Well, sure there is. Being required to walk under the massive sign that screams out exactly what is wrong with you [the WOMEN's fitting rooms], and discovering your chest has grown, leaving you that much further from having an average male body than you had previously thought....

I was ready to cry before being all "boys don't cry". Which is so obviously a lie, because all my male friends cried when they saw The Notebook.

Plus my mum was there [haven't come out to her yet] and going on about "why don't you want some thing pretty and lacy and" so the torture was prolonged and intensified yet further... I had been planning to just come out then and there, and thus explain why I don't want "some thing pretty", but I didn't want to make things awkward on my sister, who would have had to deal with any awkwardness even though it was nothing to do with her.....  :-\

Oh well. One day I'll have the money for surgery to fix this unholy mistake, and I'll be laughing like a maniac as I cut up bras and burn the pieces. Perhaps I'll do that outside, though... smoke alarms tend to dob on pyromaniacs  :D

Ah,yes.  I remember those days.  I flat out refused to wear one long past the time when I should have.  :laugh:  Thank goodness for sports bras.  I could never bring myself to wear anything else. *shudder*

That brings back memories. BAD memories. Sad thing is, I always felt bad for my mom, because she just wanted a daughter to buy frilly things for... and I couldn't be that daughter. I still feel guilty about that. She has two sons now, and I wish for all the world she had had a daughter who she could take bra shopping and whatnot. Tangent, sorry. Anyway, no, there is nothing more embarrassing... except perhaps buying pads or tampons.

SD

my mom couldnt ever figure out (untill i came out i mean) why i was so embarrassed to pick out bras. :P

why dont you just tell your mom youd rather wear a sports bra?  at least you dont have to try them on really, plus they help hold things down instead of perk them up.

sports bras are all I can bare when I absolutely have to wear one, usually it's my binder. Hate the stupid things

only ever wore a sports bra thankfully.. My mom sorta got it that I was like this from the start.. and as soon as I discovered binders I was 100% done with those damn things too...

the thought of it all makes me cringe though and I'm sure I would have been quite scarred by the experience. 

You should have a bra burning party after surgery... just the thought of it may make you feel better

ah, i feel for you dude. 

I would absolutely never buy a bra in the company of another person. I try to go to the shops when they're not busy too, just in case someone I know, or anyone else, sees me.
I've never even bought a bra in my hometown. I couldn't. Just in case. *shudder*

Quote from: Sebastien on January 04, 2009, 03:40:01 AMAnyway, no, there is nothing more embarrassing... except perhaps buying pads or tampons.

SD

and THAT my friend, is one of the reasons i use cloth.

Quote from: iFindMeHere on January 04, 2009, 10:36:51 PM

Quote from: Sebastien on January 04, 2009, 03:40:01 AMAnyway, no, there is nothing more embarrassing... except perhaps buying pads or tampons.

SD

and THAT my friend, is one of the reasons i use cloth.

i rob my sisters, never been able to bring myself to buy them

Well I give you one, being a guy, getting pantsed and thrown into the girls bathroom or dressing room.

Quote from: tekla on January 04, 2009, 11:20:01 PM
Well I give you one, being a guy, getting pantsed and thrown into the girls bathroom or dressing room.

oh geez... I hope that hasn't happened to you  :(

You learn to submit, or to fight back.  I always suggest the second.

When I have to wear a bra I wear a sports one.. wearing a binder all the time hurts my back like a
bish! So I tend to just wear a sports bra at work.. as I am not out there at the moment.

It is degrading hence why I have been wearing the same bras for years! Refuse to buy anymore.
I shall also be burning them once I have my surgery!

Oh man, don't get me started. I HATE bras, but I have to wear them cause I'm not out at school, and I don't really feel comfortable wearing a binder around my parents. So I always wear sports bras. But I have pretty large boobs (I can swear they're getting bigger), so you can almost always see them. I have to slouch to cover them up.

I think I'll have to join you in that bra burning party!  >:-) Although that's a long way away for me. It's not like you can really donate them or anything, and you usually just throw them away, so why not make it fun?!  >:-)

Quote from: Roxas on January 05, 2009, 01:06:11 PM
Oh man, don't get me started. ... I have to slouch to cover them up.

Ah, yes, the old slouch...

Quoteanything as degrading as an FTM required to go bra shopping?

Maybe having someone yell 'f---ing ->-bleeped-<-' while pointing at you in a busy train station.
That would be roughly on par.

QuoteAh, yes, the old slouch...

how about the good ol' three layers in the heat of summer?

Quote from: J.T. on January 05, 2009, 07:28:58 PM

QuoteAh, yes, the old slouch...

how about the good ol' three layers in the heat of summer?

yeah... someone won't be missing that THIS summer will they? *high fives JT*

I actually just explained the whole ever since sports bras became big in the midwest and even slightly before then I always told my mom I wanted one that would make my boobs stop moving and support my back.

I actually had to get new ones when I was with a friend and he looked at me and said, "man it's weird to see you shop for anything feminine"  :D I can't wear  my binders (yes I have to wear 2, a triple breasted with a double breasted one over it) when on my monthly, too painful.

I've only been wearing sports bras for a few years now, and sports bras only at home for about six months now. I'm glad I bought them back when I thought I was an androgyne and still tolerated going in that dept as long as it was a get-in-get-out affair.

Anyways, that really does suck. :-\ Try going to a sporting good store for sports bras, so at least the displays are completely toned down, absolutely no lacy bras, all business. No hot model posters ;D either but hey, how much can you ask for?

You think bra shopping is bad?  Wait until you have a beard and you're sitting in a gynecologist's office.

Quote from: Mister on January 07, 2009, 02:29:23 PM
You think bra shopping is bad?  Wait until you have a beard and you're sitting in a gynecologist's office.

That actually sounds like fun.  But I suppose some do not find horrified and disgusted looks from other patrons amusing.
Adrian

i've only worn sports bras, but now only binders....i feel for ya though!

Quote from: Mr. Fox on January 07, 2009, 02:38:01 PM

Quote from: Mister on January 07, 2009, 02:29:23 PM
You think bra shopping is bad?  Wait until you have a beard and you're sitting in a gynecologist's office.

That actually sounds like fun.  But I suppose some do not find horrified and disgusted looks from other patrons amusing.
Adrian

Fun?  Oh, yes.  totally.  dudes sitting with their very pregnant wives wondering "What the F*** is this MAN doing here?"  Then you get called in and they realize you weren't waiting on your very own pregnant wife or girlfriend headed in for a  PAP.  It's awesome.  Just wait.  you'll want to die on the spot. 

That whole scene sounds rather funny to me.  But it might be different in real life, so I'll wait until I am looking manly at the gynecologist's before declaring a definite opinion.  Come to think of it, I would probably be disappointed when they started thinking I was a woman, so I partially recant my earlier statements.
Adrian

My mom bought me two sports bras for Christmas. Tight ones too and they make the chest area smaller. She knows I want to bind so I guess that's why she bought them. It saved me having to go shopping for them lol. I don't like doing bra shopping either...but I just get in and get out

The gynecologist thing sounds pretty awkward..doesn't sound fun

Quote from: reno on January 04, 2009, 03:13:44 AM
Well, sure there is. Being required to walk under the massive sign that screams out exactly what is wrong with you [the WOMEN's fitting rooms], and discovering your chest has grown, leaving you that much further from having an average male body than you had previously thought....

I was ready to cry before being all "boys don't cry". Which is so obviously a lie, because all my male friends cried when they saw The Notebook.

Plus my mum was there [haven't come out to her yet] and going on about "why don't you want some thing pretty and lacy and" so the torture was prolonged and intensified yet further... I had been planning to just come out then and there, and thus explain why I don't want "some thing pretty", but I didn't want to make things awkward on my sister, who would have had to deal with any awkwardness even though it was nothing to do with her.....  :-\

Oh well. One day I'll have the money for surgery to fix this unholy mistake, and I'll be laughing like a maniac as I cut up bras and burn the pieces. Perhaps I'll do that outside, though... smoke alarms tend to dob on pyromaniacs  :D

*faceroll*

That sucks Reno, hope you can fix that mistake soon :)