Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: cyanide on January 13, 2009, 02:08:28 PM Return to Full Version
Title: out... well..partly
Post by: cyanide on January 13, 2009, 02:08:28 PM
Post by: cyanide on January 13, 2009, 02:08:28 PM
haven't started HRT or anything (gawd, i wish i did... 4 years ago!)
as part of my 'process' of getting HRT, my shrink suggested me to come up to my parents. so i did later that night. it was very difficult. my parents had some ideas (with my collections of dolls and thigns that perhaps - in their eyes - female or gay men would like)
at first they thought i was gay, but i waved that off. though, strictly speaking, i am trans-lesbian (ie, i like genetic females).
it was very ackward moment and at one time, they urge me to get a girl, play sports, read car magazines, they even suggested if i can request male hormones for HRT so i can be more manly.
suffice to say, i did it. and they've been on my back ever since. asking about my friend's background as if every single trans people are train-wrecks.
anyways, i just thought i'd want to share a little... not asking for any congradulatory... make my milestone here :)
thx for listening
as part of my 'process' of getting HRT, my shrink suggested me to come up to my parents. so i did later that night. it was very difficult. my parents had some ideas (with my collections of dolls and thigns that perhaps - in their eyes - female or gay men would like)
at first they thought i was gay, but i waved that off. though, strictly speaking, i am trans-lesbian (ie, i like genetic females).
it was very ackward moment and at one time, they urge me to get a girl, play sports, read car magazines, they even suggested if i can request male hormones for HRT so i can be more manly.
suffice to say, i did it. and they've been on my back ever since. asking about my friend's background as if every single trans people are train-wrecks.
anyways, i just thought i'd want to share a little... not asking for any congradulatory... make my milestone here :)
thx for listening
Title: Re: out... well..partly
Post by: Ms.Behavin on January 13, 2009, 10:24:27 PM
Post by: Ms.Behavin on January 13, 2009, 10:24:27 PM
it's a step and give your parents time to get their hands around the TS issue. MtF TS do tend to appear gay to some, but well it's not at all the same. The T injections have been tried on others in the past and long story short, it's not effective.
Hang in there.
Beni
Hang in there.
Beni
Title: Re: out... well..partly
Post by: PolarBear on January 18, 2009, 12:28:56 PM
Post by: PolarBear on January 18, 2009, 12:28:56 PM
Congrats on coming out to your parents!
It's a really hard thing to do, and it is hard to say the right things so they will properly understand what it is you mean.
Give them time, it probably took you years to accept yourself, so it isn't strange if it takes them a while as well.
Whether or not they will accept it, fact is that you came out to them and stayed true to yourself!
Cheers,
Vincent
It's a really hard thing to do, and it is hard to say the right things so they will properly understand what it is you mean.
Give them time, it probably took you years to accept yourself, so it isn't strange if it takes them a while as well.
Whether or not they will accept it, fact is that you came out to them and stayed true to yourself!
Cheers,
Vincent