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* moz (IPREMOVED.wa.westnet.com.au) has joined #Chat
<moz> Hi everyone
<moz> I am here to let anyone know as her best that Debbee Stevens is no longer with us, I know she used this site and I miss her soo bad it hurts
<Flan> :o
<Flan> are you serious?
<moz> I sure am
<Flan> ...
<Flan> ...
<moz> I dont know what else to say except she took her own life in nsw on 7th of feb
<moz> ru there flan
<Flan> yes
<moz> ru ok
<Flan> i don't know what to think
<moz> i know deb did a bit for susans
<moz> i am still in shock
<Flan> yeah
<moz> obviously no hint on ur end either
<Flan> not in the least
<moz> she had threatened with me but never done it
<moz> but when she did it no word at all
<Flan> :(
<moz> i agree she was a very special person my best friend too
<moz> sec phone
<Christi> omg.. I knew her too..
<moz> ok back
<moz> yep christi it not good news
<Christi> I feel for you both. There was another friend of ours here that I lived with that did the same
<Christi> of course i was blamed for it by an un-named member who use to frequent here but I understand and feel for you both
<moz> i have known deb for 8 yrs i am straight happily married but she was still my best buddy and I knew all she went through
<Tecna> Oh my...
<Christi> yeah I knew for a couple years. I can't say that we spoke often, but she was a very nice lady
<moz> she sure was
<Christi> I think I even have her in my yahoo
<AFK|meghan> wait, the debbee that was an op here?
<Christi> yes iirc
<meghan> oh jesus, does susan know?
<Tecna> moz, is there any way to verify this, like with an obituary from the newspaper, or something?
<moz> i tried to contact susan
<meghan> moz, do you know susan, are you a member?
<AFK|LivingInGrey> O.O
<LivingInGrey> hello meghan
<Christi> Im sure there will be Tecna
<meghan> someone needs to have a cell phone of someone on here and get the news to susan
<moz> no i only know of susan through Debbee
<moz> her father and family put a death notice in the west australian on tuesday 9th of Feb in his sons name
<Christi> wow
<meghan> moz, i am truly, truly sorry for your loss. she came here a lot
<Christi> yes she did
<meghan> if there is anything online that you could link us to, that would be great. i'm sure susan would like to do something
<moz> i was totally annoyed to our darling son it read she has tried all her life to be Debbee and he does this to her in death
* Christi tries to comfort moz as best as she can through the lines
<Christi> moz I was just thinking that..How rude
<Flan> ...
<Flan> that's just wrong
<Christi> it is
<Christi> very
<moz> I agree i am totally annoyed
<moz> can some one please let susan know
<meghan> hold on a sec if you can
<Tecna> Is "Debbee Stevens" the correct spelling?
<moz> yep
<AFK|Susan> Moz do you have a link? by any chance?
* AFK|Susan is now known as Susan
<Tecna> is there another name that would be in public record?
<moz> nope
<Tecna> I'm not finding anything
<moz> she used my computer last time she here a few weeks back but no alas

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[09:04] <Susan> what was the male name?
[09:05] <moz> (NAMEREMOVED)
[09:05] <Susan> yep
[09:05] <moz> am i believed
[09:06] <moz> she was my best friend and i miss her
[09:06] <Susan> Ya could you send me a copy of the obit?
[09:06] <Susan> (ADDRESS REMOVED)
[09:06] <Susan> Avenue not avenue e
[09:06] <moz> so this is an american site no idea
[09:07] <Susan> Any info on the cause?
[09:09] <moz> nope coroner found nothing we need to wait 9 weeks for toxicology results
[09:09] <moz> she was found blue in bed
[09:09] <moz> pills i would say
[09:09] <Susan> kk
[09:10] <moz> i only have obituary by her dad in (NAME REMOVED) name
[09:10] <Susan> Ya if you could email a scan of it or transcribe it I would be grateful
[09:11] <moz> wot ur email address
[09:11] <Susan> Gonna call her friend iddy
[09:11] <Susan> susan@susans.org
[09:11] <moz> she was a great friend
[09:12] <moz> hope this news was not too sad i know she helped you out
[09:12] <Susan> She was a pillar of this community
[09:12] <Susan> Iddy is crying...
[09:13] <moz> I know
[09:13] <moz> mine too
[09:13] <moz> in a different way
[09:13] * Susan hugs Moz
[09:13] <moz> thank you  xxxx
[09:13] <Susan> You are welcome here any time as much as you want
[09:14] <moz> thanks even though i am straight
[09:14] <moz> i would love to make new friends
[09:15] <moz> i will be back if that ok
[09:15] <moz> hugz
[09:15] <moz> xxxx
[09:15] <Susan> sec :)
[09:15] <Susan> sure you are welcome
[09:15] <moz> cool


<Susan> Ok folks looks like Debbee is no longer with us...
<Flan> :(
* Christi gives a moment of silence

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[09:24] <moz> my best friend was different i knew that from the word go
[09:25] <moz> i will scan and send you her fathers obituary tomorrow
[09:26] <moz> how will i ever replace a best mate like that
[09:34] <moz> I must go to bed it is late here in Western Australia keep in touch Hugz xxxx
[09:34] <Susan> kk
[09:34] * Susan hugs back
[09:36] <moz> xx
[09:37] <moz> thank you
[09:37] <moz> for believing in her
[09:39] <Susan> We will talk later get some sleep :)

It makes me so sad to hear this.  We loose too many this way.

My prayers are with those who were close to her.

Sarah L.

*typing though the tears*
I am SO very sorry.
... all I can think to say is to ask that you hug Iddy for me please Susan.

Iddy got off the phone fairly quickly, she was in tears and said she would call me back later when she recovered.

Debbee was one of the founded members of Susan's Place and has been here almost as long as I have. She will certainly be missed.

I am sorry that she felt so much pain that she ended it in this way. She made a great contribution to the site and she will be missed.

Dennis

That's so sad! My deepest condolences to her family!

Z

OMG.  Debbee sounded so 'up' when I saw her here last.  She had turned down assistance, saying she had a roof over her head and food on the table.

She leaves a huge hole, not only in Susan's organization but in Susan's heart and the hearts of all who knew her.

We are saddened, but Debbee, not NAME REMOVED, is dancing with the angels.

Dance well, Debbe.  Dance well.

Robyn with tears in her eyes

Sad news indeed.

RIP Debbee, you will be missed by many.

Rebecca

I don't know what to say and nothing seems appropriate.

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Even with my limited time here, I remember what she said, seen all that she has done, and hear of the ways she contributed. It's a shame that it took this to happen before a person is remembered for what they did.

In time, this may become but a fleeting memory to me, but I'll never forget.
Rest in Peace, Debbee Stevens

I have added a memorial page to the WIKI: http://susans.org/wiki/Debbee_Stevens (http://susans.org/wiki/Debbee_Stevens)
It's not finished yet, I'd like to get a picture if I can, but it's a good start.

What struck me as I read through the posts she made in the last three years is how many of them were written to answer users' technical questions about the site and how to access its features.  Those and her posts about chat bans and such were the most numerous, she was a fierce protector of the site and its mission. 

I am deeply hurt by her passing and will miss her terribly as a colleague administrator and as a friend.   

:'(
Emelye

There simply are no words to convey the sadness I have this day. The only thing I can say is something my husband said this morning when I told him..."Now she can start over and be happy this time".

Debbee came to the US and stayed with me for a year and a half a few years ago and I was blessed enough to get to go to Thailand with her for one of her many trips.  She told me many times that the only time in her life was the time she had spent with our family because we were the only ones that had fully accepted her as she was...to us she was Debbee, plain and simple. I loved her like a sister...I gave her my white teddy bear whose name was Snow...I know that Snow left the US and went to Thailand and Australia several times.

I love you hon and know you will be happy this next time around.

Rest well, Debbee. :icon_hug:

Nichole

I am at a loss for words.  She was a great contributor to this site, and the many members she helped.  It is so sad that lifes pain was such that she sought this type of freedom. She is in a better place now I'm sure.

My heart goes out to those who knew her, called her friend, and her family.

steph

Quote from: Iddy on February 13, 2009, 02:38:14 PM
There simply are no words to convey the sadness I have this day. The only thing I can say is something my husband said this morning when I told him..."Now she can start over and be happy this time".

Debbee came to the US and stayed with me for a year and a half a few years ago and I was blessed enough to get to go to Thailand with her for one of her many trips.  She told me many times that the only time in her life was the time she had spent with our family because we were the only ones that had fully accepted her as she was...to us she was Debbee, plain and simple. I loved her like a sister...I gave her my white teddy bear whose name was Snow...I know that Snow left the US and went to Thailand and Australia several times.

I love you hon and know you will be happy this next time around.

Iddy,

I am so sorry. Words can not convey my sadness.
rest in peace Debbee. We love you.

Welcome back Iddy I wish that you had come back for some other reason than this sad event!

This is such a shock...  Rest in peace, Debbee.

I am so very sorry to hear this. I weep for her and those who loved her.  I pray that she is at peace.

Louise

May God Bless Debbee.
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Cindy

This is very sad news indeed. She phoned me last year when I needed someone to talk to - I only wish I could of helped her in her hour of need.

Rest in peace Debbee - you will be missed here.

Alice

Oh God no!  :'(  I am in a state of shock right now and don't know what to say...I am sorry.....she had just signed on the other day and talked about how things were getting back to normal for her. 

I am deeply saddened to hear this.  My deepest condolences to her family and loved ones.   Rest in peace Debbee.  All my love always!


tink :icon_chick:

I did not know her.  But the passing of a sister saddens us all.

May the Gods accept her into their loving arms and bring her comfort.  And my our love suround and comfort those who she has left behind.

~Bows her head in a moment of silence~  :( :'(

Janet

Virginia is crying too much to type very well. {{{HUGS}}} to all  :icon_blink: :icon_cry2: :icon_cry:

Sorry to hear such sad news. My condolences to all those that knew her.

May she be reborn into her last lifetime.

Hugs,

Rhonda

My deepest sympathies to all who knew Debbee :'(

Very sad indeed.   She will be greatly missed.

I am at a loss for words, 

Rest now sweet Deb,
our thoughts are with you

peace

Dear Susan, Dennis, and others
I realise this may be difficult in a legal way but I  really don't think so.
Is it possible to run a continous theme, advert? that if you fell depressed it can be treated; most times relatively simply. The drugs are safe, none invasive, non-addicative. Ok they don't work all the time but at least they will warn your treating medics that you are facing Hell, and need support. I realise that you don't want to be open to litigation but emphasing that if you feel depressed, sad, weepy, unstable in a relationship, or not content with yourself. There is help.
Suicide is not a cure for anything.

My condolences for your loss, I did not know her. But I miss her

Love

Cindy James

I also did not know Debbee but can feel all of your pain and how much she meant to you all

My hope is she finally found peace and her family are going to be okay in their hours of need.

I hope the rest of you here are going to be okay too.

"hug"

I also did not know Debbee..

...but I appreciate the work and dedication of everyone who has helped create and develop this site that has had such a profound effect on my life :)

My heart and my thoughts go out to Debbee, and everyone feeling the pain of her loss :icon_bunch:

:icon_hug:

Chrissty

still in shock
you will be missed my friend



Brandi

 :'(

As someone else said, it happens 'way too often among our group.

May Debbee rest in peace.

Karen

I sent Emelye a copy of the obit. I asked her to add it to the wiki article.

I am heartsick over this.  Words cannot do it justice.  We must not let it happen again!

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I am shocked and saddened to hear of Debbee's passing.

Rest in peace, Debbee.

I cried so many tears yesterday, I didnt know I had that many. I would stop and think of the many adventures Deb and I had. I thought I would share some of them here. Coming from Australia, she hadnt ever seen snow before she came to visit me. When it got to be Winter, we all loaded up in the car and went for a ride to an elk reserve. There was a ton of snow and she made us stop the car so she could get out and make snow angels. The things we take so for granted....

One of the funnier things that keeps coming to my mind is during our trip to Thailand a few years ago we went for a ride down the floating market...your in a small canue going down these little canals with markets all along the way...there was so much to see...my eyes were everywhere...then I turned to my right where this guy had a cobra out in his hands....to say the least I let out a few choice "f" words and deb about pissed herself laughing. Im terrified of snakes.

That same day we went for a trip to the aligator/elephant place where I got to pet two bengal tigers which I have pictures of. It was a great day.

Debbee and I used to talk a lot about her mood swings. I used to ask her why she even thought about suicide so often...she bluntly said because it all just hurts so much Iddy....she always called me Iddy...I  used to tell her if she ever really did it I would hunt her down and kick her ass...she always laughed and said I would have to catch her first. Well I guess the race is on...Deb I am going to kick your ass...hard.

Yes my tears are still flowing for my friend. They will be for a long time. But I am a practicing Druid and I know Debbee is happy now. My soul knows it. Lets not focus on our loss...lets focus on the good she did for others...I know for a fact there are people out there whose life they owe to Deb...

I want to compile a mini-bio for Debbee's wiki article I think you would be a great assistance on it. Up for the task?

Of course

I am so sorry to hear of this terrible news.

Debbee I hope you are at peace now and the awful pain has subsided.




beth

I feel awful sad having read about this.  I have no words.

Now I knew that was going to happen, now I'm crying to and I only met the lady a couple of times here in the forums.

Cindy

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Debbee Stevens


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The Western Australian's notice of the death of Debbee Stevens. The family used Debbee's male name in the obituary.

I did not know her but she looked like a lovely person.

Good journey Debee.

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Debbee Stevens


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The Western Australian's notice of the death of Debbee Stevens. The family used Debbee's male name in the obituary.

that is so sad they would do that.  :(

I'm sorry for the loss of another sister.  My condolences to all who knew her, family, friends.   Thank you to Emelye for creating the WIKI entry, it helped me to know about this wonderful lady.  Her spirit lives on in the hearts of all who knew her and in this site she contributed much to.

Maya

If anyone does that to me let it be known I will haunt them for eternity.

Cindy

I didn't know her but such a death is still regretful.  I hope she rests in peace.  In a way I wish I had known her because now I won;t get a chance to.

I've only been here a short time, and honestly never knew her.  I see she was much loved here and that she will surely be missed.  God Bless.

Rest In Peace Sister :(

Jay

That is so sad. :'(

I hope everyone concerned is alright, and that, however it happened, it was painless. :icon_sadblinky:

♥ William